| | What did you learn from your ex??Page 1 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | Ok, we all must agree that there are certain things that we would or wouldn't do in our next relationship, because of what we "learned" from our last.
For me....it would be that as hard as I may try...you can't change the person.
That being able to express myself freely is okay, no matter how pissy it sounds at the time. And lastly...that my feelings are just as important as theirs, so I can't always be concerned about not "hurting" the others feelings. | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 9/27/2006 3:12:47 AM | I have decided that I never again want to be with a man ...
*who would rather drink than communicate any issues with me.
*who is incapable of making the gradual changes that are supposed to occur naturally with every relationship.
I may come up with more later. | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 9/27/2006 5:20:56 AM | Awesome post!!..to me...relationships fail for two reasons...the she side and the he side...or whatever should tickle your fancy in your relatioship lol.
I believe that seeing ones own mistakes in a relationship is the only way to move on and have a sucessfull relationship. For if you can't see what you have done or should have, how do you expect the next one to be any different.
I have learned many things, mostly about myself.
I am way to tolerant and patient.
I am indeed a clingon type I like my space from time to time but prefer it to be the two of us.
I over think everything ( but I'm a girl thats what we do lol)
The list goes on and on. To me the point is realizeing it is usually as much ones own fault as it is the other person....right down to believeing in some one that hasn't showed they are worth believeing in...that is a mistake within oneself...not the other persons fault for not filling up to your expectations. | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 9/27/2006 5:53:09 AM | I learned different things from both of my long term relationships...
From the husband I was married to for 8 years, I learned that its ok to make mistakes, your human and not perfect, and that you can admit those mistakes and be forgiven.
From the boyfriend I lived with after my husband I learned how very important it is to maintain your independence. How people that accuse you of wrongdoing or put you down have something they are hiding themselves. I also learned that the more reaction you give to someone trying to manipulate you, the more successful they will be. Although it was not a good relationship, I wouldn't change it from happening....it has made me a stronger person and given me the knowledge that I can overcome anything.  | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 9/27/2006 6:41:22 AM | Just because their hot doesn't mean their nice
Some girls don't like guys who give them alot of attention
If you can't learn to say no they'll walk all over you | |
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Posted: 9/27/2006 6:46:28 AM | I've learned A LOT....but one of the biggest things I've learned is ALWAYS listen to my gut......the one time I didn't...I kicked myself in the a$$ because my gut feeling (no matter how "off the wall" it seemed) was right.
I'll never make that mistake again ;) | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 9/27/2006 7:28:08 AM | don't chalk up the headaches and nausea to bad coffee
a bar of soap in a wool sock,does leave bruises(ouch)
plan an escape route
"yes"means"no" , "no" means "yes"
don't leave rat poison ,just lay'n around
don't change the channel
don't start a sentence with the word "****"
sisters -in -law aren't for sharing
mothers - in -law aren't for sharing either
psychotics have a subculture | |
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Posted: 9/27/2006 8:19:51 AM | Goota agree with Ex on the gut instinct,,,
I call it womens intuition,,,and it has always been right,,,
although I have ignored it a few times too,,,unfortunatley! | |
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Posted: 9/27/2006 9:35:32 AM | That is so true about womens intuition, always listen to it cause it is always right.
But the one thing i've learned from my ex is: to take my time and not to fall in love to fast and not to get attached to fast | |
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Posted: 9/27/2006 9:43:05 AM | I've learned a lot from my past relationships and I actually have a list (written out) of what I want and don't want. Now if I could only get myself to listen to that list I'll be fine! LOL
I don't know what I learned from my ex specifically besides things I don't want in the next relationship, I know how to spot the signs of a selfish person and I think that is huge. There are way too many people who are selfish and don't even know it, or realize it.
Just remember everyone...relationships are about compromise...we don't always get what we want, and definitely not when we want it. lol
I agree with Ex and her Womens Intuition or gut feelings. If you feel that he's cheating...then yeah he probably is! LOL ohh sorry that was a past experience creeping up on me! LOL | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 9/27/2006 4:21:25 PM | | I learned alot of patience (a big thanks to him for that) and that I can't be someone I'm not, no matter how much they want me to be. | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 9/28/2006 5:17:55 AM | | When your man is so concerned about you seeing his cel phone that he takes it to the bathrrom with him when he has a shower AND you are not allowed near him when he is on the computer checking email or on msn....theres probably a reason....TRUST YOUR GUT! | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 12:04:18 PM | She gave me the best gift of all!!! Life without her!! FREEDOM BABY FREEDOM! hahaahh *i should send her a postcard from the tropics this christmas* with "wish you were here... "scratched off and say" below it, Hope the firewood is working, these margaritas are for me!
hahahah | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 9/28/2006 5:20:44 PM | | That you have to find someone who loves the you, that you love. That way they won't attempt to change those things that you love about yourself. | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 9/28/2006 6:37:39 PM | | I've learned that men that can be trrusted are few and far between! But mostly I have learned that I don't need a man to be complete. I can be (and am) just as happy being alone. Only I can make me happy! | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 7:15:43 PM | That sometimes good people make the wrong decisions with the best of intentions. That even when you think there couldn't be a better match for you, timing can mean the difference. That you need to listen to that little voice that says, no something isn't right here. That if you can forgive and move on maybe you don't have to lose a friend after all.
That it takes time. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2006 8:43:03 AM | OMG!! Loopy i thought i was the only one that had a "list"....I made this list after moving to Moncton and ending my relationship here and striking out in a strange city alone with my son.
I have had some "encounters" (get your minds outta the bedroom there, they were innocent I tell you! ) since then but never have I committed to anyone since.. Is there such a man that will fill that list? Who knows...I didn't think the list was too hard to live by but sheesh maybe it is... I honestly think its the "must know and like to dance" that is holding me up... 
But all kidding aside.. I have found that I have learned to not give my trust to quickly or easily... I dont think that is a positive or a negative just a state of being...
I have learned that although I would love to have a man in my life fulltime, I still require that "me" time... and that I also may want a relationship but i dont "need" one.... That was a biggie for me who has been in a relationship my whole 40 years up until Moncton...I was needy, but we all grow up and learn eh?
I have learned to laugh at myself and feel its OK if others tease me.. its not always bad teasing and not always meant in a hurtful way... If i cant laugh at myself then I feel that I would not be the person i have grown to be today... and I for once in my life... LIKE ME!!!
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 9/29/2006 2:06:56 PM | Learned from my marriage that I really "GOT WHAT I DESERVED" a life where I can be me!! I learned that it's okay for me to be able to cook, it's okay that i drive like a maniac, it's okay that I leave dirty dishes in the sink over night. I learned what happiness was and it meant being alone  | |
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