| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 3:43:52 PM | Ok, ladies… say you go on a/a couple of date with a guy and when you finally get some privacy things get a little spicy. You initiate sex in your own way and the guy pushes you away and refused to play.
What would be your reaction to a guy politely saying no? | |
|
| |
| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 4:08:09 PM | I am talking about a hypothetical situation... No particular setting but as a woman
you put yourself out there and offer and the guy says no... The only setting is
that this is a first time trial thing.
And yes I have said no before... This is a legitimate question and I am to
wonder what would you think of a guy who says no?
Of course there's free speach and all but please stick to the question and
imagine yourself in the situation... what would be you're reaction and what
would you think of the guy? | |
|
| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 4:14:34 PM | Guys don't say no, they don't know how, and mean it. | |
|
| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 4:21:45 PM | Who said guy's don't say no ?
I have said no to a few people in the past as they were either not wanting to get the same thing out of it as I was, or they would see it as a sign of commitment which I wasn't ready to make . . . | |
|
| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 4:28:38 PM | | IF something like that happened my reaction would be taht I owuld be a little hurt and want to know why and if he was honest about reasons then i'd understand. | |
|
| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 4:30:55 PM | I would be a hypocrite if I reacted any differently than I want them to act if I said no.
I'd say OK... go back to whatever was last allowed to do...
I wouldn't do what a lot of guys do.... no begging from this girl! ;) | |
|
| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 4:38:34 PM | Well in the first place I think I would have to be pretty sure that I was reading all the signs right before I initiated something and maybe thats why most of the women here are floored by your scenario because alot of men will throw it out there regardless if the signs are there or not.
I think I would be a little taken aback but wouldnt walk away in a huff and not call him back, I hear that happens alot when the guy gets told no!!! | |
|
| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 4:44:53 PM | | Ok... so hypothetical situation... if I made a pass at a gentleman and was rebuffed, I think I would be leery of initiating anything again... and certainly I wouldn't initiate anything with that gentleman again... | |
|
| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 4:47:37 PM | If there's no love there on my part, then I would say no.
I can't make love to someone I don't love. Easy as that.
Naturally, I'd explain why I wasn't ready. Politely.
Cause, I'd hope to get another chance when there was love there. ;) | |
|
| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 4:49:21 PM | Guys say no???? Where? When? I didn't know that could happen.
I guess I would wait until he said he was ready...I guess. | |
|
| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 4:53:28 PM | Ok well I am a 27-year-old man who is almost a virgin. Women tend to fear hurting a virgin and I like the idea of only telling her about it when I start feeling comfortable. However there are some things that I have experienced and I am ready to do at the beginning of a relationship. The perfect order of things for me to go through would be to start by kissing and cuddling and gradually get more sexual as we go along. I enjoy maturity in a woman and most mature women have had sex before and are fairly comfortable with the whole thing so that puts me in an awkward position.
What if I don’t feel comfortable about telling her yet but we are already spending some time together and as we are kissing and petting each other she puts a move on me and I ask her to slow down because I am not ready. I now have to let her know that I am a virgin because that would be my reason to not want a go to fast… Would you feel cheated? Would you have preferred the guy to tell you from the start or would you be ready to accept it and start doing things at his pace? What if all of that happened on the first night? Would you consider the guy to be a tease?
I say almost virgin becasue I have had sexual experiences and am not looking
to send out the purity idea.
I could of gotten laid enough times before and passed because I want to feel comfortable first. A woman in that situation can ask for respect but a guy is looked at
as if he where an alien or something... Society has been telling me that I should try and
get laid as much as I can and I have gone for that at a certain point in my life. It's not
for me... I want to feel a connection first and it's been a real problem because if you tell
a woman that you are a virgin... she either fears hurting you or she feels that she would
be doing you a great favor by getting you laid...
The whole thing as made me take a step back because sex is such a big thing in today's society and all... I wouldn't settle for less than comfort and to all you sex maniacs out there... why is it so acceptable for you to have one night stand and not acceptable for me to require comfort first? | |
|
| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 4:55:00 PM | If he was 27 and still a virgin I would ask why and wonder if he was gay or had a fear of intimacy.
BTW: What is an "almost virgin" is that like being "almost pregnant" you either is or you aint | |
|
| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 4:58:45 PM | I don't understand the question.
A guy who says no to sex?
I still don't get the question. | |
|
| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 5:24:31 PM | The question is really simple... What if you let a new known guy know that you
want sex and he refuses... What is you're reaction?
I have benn laying in a bed getting my nipples nibbled on and not do nothing, I
had basically let the girl do whatever she wanted all night and she didn't get
mad but it got awkward since I didn't really like her appearance and hadn't been opened
about my situation... I figured that we could try for a relationship and I could
tell her later but it didn't happen and I got looked at as a dumbass.
We had gone out to the clubs and the nipple nibbler was on me all night before getting
to bed.
Me and a stripper at a party where the only ones up, enjoying a exctasy trip and
she asked me to make out and knowing that it would probably go further I told
her I was a virgin and then she said she was happy I told her because she would
of hurt me...
Now I am thinking that I probably should of enjoyed what I could of with that stripper
because she was really hot and all but then if it would of gone to far I would of
had to ask her to stop... Would it of made a tease out of me? | |
|
| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 5:35:31 PM | | I have had a guy say not yet...I loved it...sometimes I think we move too fast. | |
|
| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 5:48:00 PM | | My reaction would be to be mortified that I'd pushed anything faster than he wanted; to step back to the point he was comfortable and communicate better so that I know we're on the same page next time. I doubt it would happen because I can't imagine being involved with someone with whom communication was so poor as to mislead me to such a degree. But my answer is irrelevant to you because of the fact that sex, for me, would only be happening in a well-established relationship. | |
|
| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 6:27:22 PM | | I'd respect what he wanted, but I'd be embarassed beyond belief and too humiliated to ever initiate anything again. | |
|
| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 6:58:47 PM | How many times have I heard "guys don't say know, it's not possible lollzzzz"
God, I wonder sometimes how you people operate a keyboard without opposable thumbs. Some sexual advances are not wanted. It is rarer for a man to shoot a woman down because it is so unbelieveably rare for a woman to approach a man, but it does happen. | |
|
| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 7:19:32 PM | Exactly the same way I would expect a man understanding no means NO | |
|
| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 7:30:22 PM | I always appreciate it when a woman lets me know that I have a chance but it
frightens me at the same time... How many times have I backed away from a
potential good time because I was afraid of not being ready to do all that
she would want me to do?
Women are accustomed to control the situation in such a way that they can get
to say no but when a man doesn't respond to sexual advances he has noticed he
must be gay or something. lol
Women ask for sex all the time but they usually use body language and signs instead
of saying it out loud.
There are however quite a few ladies out there who are looking for a good time...
Especially if it's a club pick up... I don't mind being honest and all but I am honestly
just as horny as the next guy... I am not waiting for marriage but a one night stand
doesn't interest me either... Can a woman enjoy a night of cuddling if she is told that
the guy just isn't ready. | |
|
jerrod
|
Joined: 4/12/2006
Msg: 22 | |
| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 8:58:35 PM | | I am a 23 year old virgin, sence I was inlove for over10 years. I have only been on 2 dates with one girl, & I knew her for a little while & she wanted to be intiment with me & said she just wanted me to put it in her for a few minutes - The implication being it wouldnt really be sex so I'go along with it. - I wanted to have a partner but she never could get how I wanted to be loved, so I wouldnt have sex with her sence it wouldnt have been something that would have mead me feel loved & thats mostly the point in being with some one, for me. - - If a guy said that he was waiting tile he got marride to make love to a woman, I think that that has happend before. Maybe I'll be intiment befor I'm marride but I would prefer waiting ti'll then before having sex, I don't want love to be worthless, & I think a woman with a good heart would want that! - - Thank you & would any woman out their agree with that being a good reason for saying no? If I ever find someone on here, I'd want it tobe someone like that, so I thought I'd includ this sence I would like a woman with a heart to be like this & not me presser sence then it just wouldnt work. - P.S. I don't want to be dissrespectfull & get things off trof the ?, so anser it in clined with the ?, or just send a reaplie to me, but please No woman who are bothered with, men needing love as much as sex, last time I had a woman send me some offensive stuff, theirs no need to be sick, I just want some one loving & speachile, thats it. | |
|
| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 9:13:32 PM | | are you kidding? never met a guy who said no. does such exist? i would respect him if he really exists...as i would hope to be respected if i said "no". | |
|
| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 9:27:01 PM | | Maybe he was thinking you was comming over too easy, I personally would preffer to take it slow at first but if she is pushing it on me I would be thinking what is wrong here because something is definately wrong women dont give it up that easily | |
|
| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 9:51:59 PM | Ok, well let me explain the situation with Nipple Nibbler…
I am partying with my female roommate and 2 of her female friends and when I go change to go out to the clubs this girl comes to see me in my room and starts kissing me. We go out and kiss a couple of times in the clubs, we get back home and it is decided that she will sleep with me while one friend sleeps on the couch and the roommate sleeps in her room.
I was still an adept of society’s beliefs at the time (3-4 years ago) and still thought that the only reason I was a virgin was because I didn’t get lucky yet. The simple truth is that I need time to feel comfortable and simple sex isn’t what I am looking for.
To me physical attraction isn’t necessary for a relationship to work and I understand the concept of working on lust. The fact that she was willing to sleep with me was kind of an ego boost. I figured that if we where to give it a try, her and I could have had a meaningful relationship someday…
... I was laying in bed, shaking like a leaf as she was sucking on my nipples and I was thinking that she didn’t attract me enough for me to give her a munching in the moment so I felt kind of guilty about asking for a blow. I wasn’t lusting for her but I knew from previous experiences that lust can grow on you. I didn’t really want to have intercourse…
... We ended up falling asleep and have a great conversation in the morning where I tell her that I felt kind of guilty not to have done anything for her on the night before. I was told that the night had a very beneficial effect on her but I probably should have told her that I didn’t want any sex at night and perhaps let her know that I was a virgin in the morning.
Some other night she called me as she was pissed drunk and was ready to come collect on that “I wish I could of done more for you” thing and I was too shy to admit being a virgin to a stranger so a little confusion and all dreams where gone. | |
|
Home
login 
