| How old is too old to be living with mommy and daddy??
Posted: 9/28/2006 8:01:50 AM | | Under what cicumstances do you think it is ok to be an adult and still living with mommy and daddy? Personally if they are ill and need help instead of nursing homes.... But I think mommies and daddies should have some time to themselves they did their part and now it is time to do their own. | |
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| How old is too old to be living with mommy and daddy??
Posted: 9/28/2006 8:15:27 AM | Well.....I live with my parents now...moved out at 18....but...have moved back 3 times haha. They have plenty of time to themselves....how exactly is an adult child really in the way?? Personally...my parents enjoy having us home...even when I lived away I talked to my Mom everyday pretty much. Depends on the situation I suppose. I have student loan debt to pay off and if they can help me do that by saving me rent money they are more than happy to. It's common nowadays for kids to move back home after university. We carry huge debt loads.
As for "they did their part" I would think as a parent you are aware that being a parent is a life long responsibility. not an 18 year one.
Things change....people are single longer, in school longer...we're not married and working at the age of 20 anymore (well maybe you were, but on average).
Anyway, just my 2 cents froma "mooching child" Would be good to hear from parents | |
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| How old is too old to be living with mommy and daddy??
Posted: 9/28/2006 8:15:34 AM | For me, its to each their own. My best friend, or at least one of my closest friends has lived with his mother and father, for many years. His father just passed away recently. But he still lives with his mother, hes got a good job, could move out if he wanted. But for some reason he stays at home.
On a side note, ive never seen anyone care for their mother as much as this man does.....hats off to him | |
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| How old is too old to be living with mommy and daddy??
Posted: 9/28/2006 8:30:02 AM | I totally agree with Dimples. And I think it really depends on the situation.
I had to move into the apartment in my mom's basement for 4 months not long ago due to a financially crushing moment in my life. Let me tell you, living at home for the first time since I was 18 was not easy! However, it was a welcome change for her, because she was not well at the time (and still isn't), and my step-father was working away, so had I not moved in she would have needed to hire someone to come in each day to help her. It worked out very well for both of us at the time.
During that breif period of living at home I paid rent and utilities, bought my own groceries, and contributed to the upkeep of the house and yard. It was a win/win. | |
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| How old is too old to be living with mommy and daddy??
Posted: 9/28/2006 8:32:43 AM | What if your looking to buy a house with a full finished basement and to help pay the mortgage you let you parents move in and own the top part of the house.. I think it is ok then as well to "live" with your parents.
Tim
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| How old is too old to be living with mommy and daddy??
Posted: 9/28/2006 9:44:32 AM | Well, since I moved out before I could legally vote I'd say it's never too early to start living on your own. With the cost of university and living in some areas I can't blame people for staying home until they're finished with their education and managed to find a decent job after that. I guess it's okay until either your parents want you out or you start bringing potential "life partners" home. If we can't go to your place instead of mine once in a while. . . well, that's kind of awkward.
People tend to stay at home FAR too long these days, if you're 40 and still living with your parents you ought to consider moving out. The exception, of course, is if someone in the family requires a lot of care from day to day. If you're staying home and taking care of a family member then that's a noble thing to be doing and I applaud you. If you're staying there for free food and cable... you're lamer than I am, MOVE OUT! | |
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| How old is too old to be living with mommy and daddy??
Posted: 9/28/2006 10:48:09 AM | Dad died a couple of months ago. I told Mom that when she gets to a point where she needs the help I would move back home. She turns 75 in a few days and is still in good health, so it will be a while yet.
It is because my parents were/are aging that I decided to move back to Nova Scotia.
Regards,
Mac | |
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| How old is too old to be living with mommy and daddy??
Posted: 9/28/2006 11:04:25 AM | | I know being a parent is a life long ride but I feel a person needs to know when it is ok to stand on their own feet too.. Like I said there are circumstances that bring kids to live with their parents... In all of those situations it is different from what I was thinking.. I guess I should have said why... Hmmm To make a long story short my cousin moves in and out of her parents home... She saves up money doesnt pay for a thing while there... moves out party's her ass off and when the money is gone she comes crying back again... I tis taking a huge toll on my aunt and i feel bad... She is 32 years old has an education jumps from job to job if they dont give her time off to party... Very immature thank god she has no children or grandma would be supporting them too... | |
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| How old is too old to be living with mommy and daddy??
Posted: 9/28/2006 11:09:16 AM | Yes, Paulette. That, I would agree, is pretty unacceptable!
What happens when the parents say "no, you're going to have to make it on your own this time"? I know that would be a hard thing for a parent to say... but sheesh. There comes a point when something's gotta give, hey? | |
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| How old is too old to be living with mommy and daddy??
Posted: 9/28/2006 11:18:38 AM |
I know being a parent is a life long ride
I read this and it got me thinking about it in a different perspective. You know, what if the shoe were reversed?
Since I run my own little business from home, there wouldn't be anything that would make me happier then to have my daughter decide she would one day live with 'ol Dad, and slowly take over the business.
Of course, kids are different; and no two the same. But besides being my kid and the fact that I love her, I've always liked her as a person.
Regards,
Mac | |
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| How old is too old to be living with mommy and daddy??
Posted: 9/28/2006 11:46:05 AM | No one can take advantage of someone else without their permission.
I personally lived with my parents until they died, never lived on my own. Even right now (until tomorrow) I live with my brother. The next month I'm going to live with other relatives. (Their suggestion.)
There are positive and negative impacts of still living with the parents. For one, you try being 27 years old and trying to explain why you have no references from any landlords. What ended up happening is we ended up getting a place that is really expensive for this area--$750 plus lights. (3 bedroom.) But with no prior references, we were kinda stuck. | |
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| How old is too old to be living with mommy and daddy??
Posted: 9/28/2006 2:37:48 PM | Well turns out the last 3 guys I dated had moved back home with parents. 2 for financial reasons the 3rd to take care of an ailing father.
It can be kind of hard dating someone who lives at home. To visit them you have to visit their family too. Its sort of like you are dating a package deal rather than just them. Yes, they can always come to your house but still feels kind of weird at times.
I moved out young. I've gone back a few times for a month until I could get back on my feet but was out again as fast as I came in. | |
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| How old is too old to be living with mommy and daddy??
Posted: 9/28/2006 3:26:37 PM | | I think it also depends on the culture. When I lived in Ontario I met several Italian and Phillipino Canadians that lived with their parents, and were around 30 years old. Different cultures view it in different ways. I think that the WASP culture has tended to view adult children at home as a bad thing. Just my opinion. Here in the maritimes it is sometimes necessary for people to live at home as an adult. For example a farm labourer that may only earn 25000 a year before taxes. Even in the Valley that is not alot of money. | |
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| How old is too old to be living with mommy and daddy??
Posted: 9/28/2006 3:45:07 PM | I think it all depends on the situation. Other cultures do it a lot and it's not really looked down upon. In our culture people seem to think it means that you're some kind of loser but I don't think that's the case. If the family is close and everyone pitches in, I think that's actually something to be proud of. The only time I would be against it is if someone was living at home with no intention of ever doing anything and draining their parents finances.
mac: I thinks it's great that you have such a good relationship with your daughter as a father and a friend. Sounds like a bond to be envied. Running your business with her sounds like something you could look forward to as well. | |
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| How old is too old to be living with mommy and daddy??
Posted: 9/28/2006 4:31:17 PM | I have to say my attitude towards this is starting to change.
I just didn't run into it much in my 20s for some reason. Most of the guys I knew all had their own places. It does seem to be a growing trend though. I think our own society might be changing a bit in regard to this.
That, or I just never noticed it b4. | |
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| How old is too old to be living with mommy and daddy??
Posted: 9/28/2006 5:16:20 PM | I agree there's different circumstances...some do live at home because they are lazy or unmotivated. My dad always said you need to have a job or be going to school to live in his house....one exception was when i was laid off. But I live home, I work, I pay for my car, my insurance, my student loans and all my own expenses. Just don't pay rent. It's pretty sad too, considering I have a decent job...that pays pretty well. It's just that I carry a heavy debt from school, I'm investing for a home of my own and life is just friggin expensive. Granted...if my job was in Halifax I would get my own place there...but my job is in Truro...and I refuse to live there....so I commute...spend lots on gas...but happier here than I would be there.
Very tough to move back after being on your own though....parents seem to care where ya go...go figure ha! | |
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| How old is too old to be living with mommy and daddy??
Posted: 12/15/2007 2:22:56 AM | We are truly a judgemental and intolerant bunch arent we.
I was the opposite. I was 17 with the chance of my first job. Over 100 miles away.
So of course I took the job, and moved outof home.
But when I started work I couldn't belive the number of young girls who simply din't believe that I wasn't still living with my parents. And got quite cranky about it.
They had this mindset that the only people who left hoem before age 20 dis so after the mother of all blazing rows with their parents and never spoke to them again. | |
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