| Why is alcohol such an important factor in dateing ?
Posted: 9/29/2006 7:50:14 PM | Answer me this people --- why does one have to drink to be considered social ? i can be social with a kebab in my hand more so then a beer
The ammount of times I have been called anti social because i dont drink or do bars etc never ceases to amaze me -- whats the fascination with alcohol? -- oh yeah it loosens inhibitions and then you can see that a drunk persons words are a sober persons thoughts
Still its funny going to a fancy restaraunt and ordering a chocolate milkshake with dinner rather then some arty farty wine that has a hint of moccasins and dental fixture adhesive fluid in it to give unique charachter etc etc
And why look at non drinkers in a way and say "you dont drink ? - why whats wrong with you ?"
Some of us dont drink by choice - i see no benefit from it at all -- it does nothing for me , yet people assume its a medical condition that stops me from partaking of alcohol or getting drunk
Alcohol --- dutch courage is the term i believe | |
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| Why is alcohol such an important factor in dateing ?
Posted: 9/29/2006 8:11:08 PM | I hear you Roo...I'm the same...I will drink but it's very rare. I prefer to stay in complete control of myself--and my life.
I think it's because people have decided that drinking should be the normal thing to do...If you don't drink then you're not normal--you're not conforming. Society doesn't like noncomformists. | |
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| Why is alcohol such an important factor in dateing ?
Posted: 9/29/2006 8:24:22 PM | From my observations and experience - if one does not drink or get drunk etc etc you are viewed as being boreing -- damn I would rather save my $$ and travel around the world then blow a few 100 $$ on a weekend out in bars etc in my city
I think the anecdotes i could add to my memories from my global travels would be far more interesting then possibly explaining for example
how some people say " best night of my life I got so dunk that I woke up in the gutter covered in my own vomit with my pants around my knees and a feather boa sticking out of my a*** handcuffed to a transvestite " ( i didnt but you hear bullshit stories like that often )
yet soo many people think that these sort of antics and experiences as hypertheticised ( is that a word ?) above are the ones that are the best and impress others the most ?
I personally prefer to tell a story about the time i was in africa on safari and was woken in my tent at 6 am by an impala licking my face ( it was the safari camp pet ) opening my eyes and being so startled i actually broke the bed I was sleeping on and the impala in its mad rush to get out of my tent managed to bring it down around me and run out to the bush with my boxers hanging of its head
But I guess thats me - I dont drink, i only do boreing stuff like track leopards/lions elephants etc through the bush in Zimbabwe with only a camera | |
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| Why is alcohol such an important factor in dateing ?
Posted: 9/29/2006 8:34:06 PM | I drink water most of the time........
even when out and social. Have no problem with it ( what people think... like who cares?)
and most people I know and am around are not drinkers either.
if I was to meet someone who was drinking and he had
more than a couple or was drinking too much... I would guess
that he was wanting to be/ get stupid and get away from the situation.
I just have no taste for alcohol and drink seldom/ rare occasions.
I have a bottle of wine in my fridge from 2002
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| Why is alcohol such an important factor in dateing ?
Posted: 9/29/2006 8:37:25 PM | hahaha on the wine
I have a bottle of red wine given to me 20 years ago just sitting in the kitchen -- I have no idea why i kept it --
Rainbow your comments on the drinking water in social situations is a valid one - its a good idea
Though the following opionion of mine belongs more in the introvert thread then here
i just cant get into crowds of people who are intoxicated or on their way to it --- seems in those situations everyone is talking at once to everyone else --- but no one is doing any listening
being sober amongst innebriated people is no fun --- especially the designated driver jokes | |
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| Why is alcohol such an important factor in dateing ?
Posted: 9/29/2006 8:40:02 PM | cuz they look cool.
I have a old bottle on my kitchen counter too...
that someone gave me... many years ago.
Just like the way it looks... but drink it?
HA.. no way
its for decoration only.
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| Why is alcohol such an important factor in dateing ?
Posted: 9/29/2006 8:45:08 PM |  Alcohol is a wonderful thing to enhance Dating,had you not heard that the primary difference between a FOX and a DOGGY is normally about 3 drinks... and if you not quite up too par, most women like wine, so more wine makes everything go down that much better...
 Lest ye never forget of the witching houre and get the hell out before the sun rises or you may find your self bless with a Coyote Ugly woman,that you would rather chew your arm off rather then desturb her slumber... 
I no longer drink,but what I have recounted for you are just a few of the many blessings that Alcohol can bring into your dating life...(-;  | |
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| Why is alcohol such an important factor in dateing ?
Posted: 9/29/2006 8:49:35 PM | I got most of my drinking out of my system in my early years, no longer need or want the effect or the hangover. Since curtailing my alcohol consumption, my observation is that some people get uncomfortable with me not drinking because they are worried about their own reliance on booze. It's not just in dating either, going out with the guys playing golf, business lunches, etc. There seems to be a need among regular drinkers to have others around them drinking as well, I'm guessing to "normalize" their heavy consumption. Well, I've been there so I just hope they get past this stage in their life without causing too much grief.  Party On!! | |
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| Why is alcohol such an important factor in dateing ?
Posted: 9/29/2006 9:35:27 PM | | Not until reciently did I come to the realization that I don't like to drink ... It makes me feel like crap for days and I usually say or do something stupid. I want to do things and be able to remember every detail... I want to experince life on lifes terms as it comes no matter how it comes. | |
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| Why is alcohol such an important factor in dateing ?
Posted: 9/29/2006 9:59:55 PM | It can certainly be awkward being a nondrinker amongst those who drink : )
By and large I really have little interest in drinking myself. But that said, I don't think I have any problem with it -- either with regards to myself or others. On a rare occasion I might have a drink or two for fun (I think the last time was about 18 months ago ;) but mostly it's not something I've a real interest in.
Perhaps some day I'll change my mind and drink more often (and 'more' is relative i suppose here for me :) or maybe I never will again.
I don't see either a plus or a negative either way. As long as such is kept reasonable I'm certainly not going to wake up in a puddle of vomit as those above mention ;)
The decision of whether to drink or not drink isn't really worth strong opinions I think. Being irresponsible with regards to drinking certainly could be -- but that's more an issue with the individual. A person can be irresponsible with just about anything if they allow it. | |
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| Why is alcohol such an important factor in dateing ?
Posted: 9/29/2006 10:05:47 PM | | I had on my profile that I do not drink. The majority of women whom I chatted with asked me if I was a reformed alcoholic. So I changed my profile to drink socially. I still have a bottle of Rye Whiskey I won at a Christmas party back when I was 18 years old. | |
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| Why is alcohol such an important factor in dateing ?
Posted: 9/29/2006 10:28:02 PM | You don't have to drink to be social. You just have to accept that others doo.
Here are three ways to blend in, so to speak. First order a soft drink. Club soda is nothing but carbonated water. However, it could be a mixed drink, so have one of those.
If anyone get pushy about the drinking, simply say. "I'm on the wagon" rather than "I don't drink" There are enough recovering alcoholics in the world that this is socially acceptable.
However, bars aren't just about drinking. They are about mingling.
Finally, the third trick. "I'm the designated driver."
I drink. I don't have a problem with people who do or don't drink. However, when I'm in certain venues, I abstain completely.
Ketch | |
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| Why is alcohol such an important factor in dateing ?
Posted: 9/29/2006 11:30:22 PM | | I drink and work in the industry. I have friends that drink and don't drink. I've never chastised nor called anyone "boring" for their preference not to drink. Oddly enough, seems the non drinkers like to preach more than the drinkers. | |
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| Why is alcohol such an important factor in dateing ?
Posted: 9/29/2006 11:36:35 PM | and ye shall all rot and fester in a vat of sour wine for eternity forced to drink from that vat and to urinate in that vat - for that vat shall be thine prison for the pennance
hows that for preaching ? | |
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| Why is alcohol such an important factor in dateing ?
Posted: 9/30/2006 12:41:45 AM | well bro I am from the other end of the spectrum. I really do enjoy the taste of alcoholic beverages but don't enjoy being drunk if that makes sense. The reasons to drink in a social setting are very simple indeed.... 1 it loosens inhibitions as you stated but remember it also amplifies personalities so a55holes really should learn to avoid the stuff, and second for the scially awkward it gives them "something to do" be it with their hands or an excuse to move from one circle to another.
You clearly don't fit into these categories, and are just as comfortable with a "kebab" good for you and who really gives a rat's a55 what someone that actually "needs" alcohol to interact with others thinks?
You don't need a medical condition or a battle with alcoholism to not enjoy drinking it is a choice, YOUR choice, any that would beliitle your for that choice or try to coerce you aren't really worth much consideration. | |
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| Why is alcohol such an important factor in dateing ?
Posted: 9/30/2006 6:20:05 AM |
I drink and work in the industry. I have friends that drink and don't drink. I've never chastised nor called anyone "boring" for their preference not to drink. Oddly enough, seems the non drinkers like to preach more than the drinkers.
Yup, me too. The boyfriend of one of my best friends has never had a drink in his life. Has no desire to ever have a drink, and I can't think of a single one of us who has ever made an issue of it, or referred to him as the Des. Driver.
The only issue I've ever had with most non-drinkers is that they tend to be anti-drinkers... and if I wanted to get preached at about my behavior, I'd be at church, not on a date. | |
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| Why is alcohol such an important factor in dateing ?
Posted: 9/30/2006 6:36:53 AM | Alcohol is NOT...well..it shouldnt be an important factor in dating..
You can do lots of things on a date that dont involve drinking alcohol at all.. Give me a good comfortable pair of hiking boots, a back pack full of cheese, fruit and crackers, and a bottle of dasani any day....
but there is absoulutly nothing wrong with having a glass of wine with dinner..Especially if you enjoy it and it compliments your meal.
I am one of those people who has an appreciation for a wonderful bottle of wine, Especially if you are able to share it with someone special. ..It certainly doesnt mean I am a lush | |
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| Why is alcohol such an important factor in dateing ?
Posted: 9/30/2006 6:43:31 AM | when I was meeting guys
I had a profile that I checked DO NOT DRINK
and many of them approached me asking
if I had a DUI/ DWI or a recovering alcoholic.
Crazy huh?
I said... no// I just have no desire to drink... be drunk.
westcoast... the lamb sounds yummy...
even though I've never tried any. | |
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| Why is alcohol such an important factor in dateing ?
Posted: 9/30/2006 6:46:27 AM | | some very intersting statements on this foum....A nice glass of wine with sum 1 special is not a problem at all,but to many peps go crazy making a***s of them selfs,it can course a lot of grieve around the wrld....tell me sumthing y is alcohol is so easily brought? | |
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