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| Re: What does it take to make one work?
Posted: 4/26/2004 11:53:05 AM | | To make one work you need honesty, loyalty and a strong communication level to express how you really feel. You both have to be willing to work through the tough times together and encourage eachother in unstable times. You have to know that a relationship is a work in progress and should never be taken for granted, it's not always wine and candle lit dinners. Two people who really love eachother will look like they have it all even in their darkest moments. It's a mutual bond that needs compassion, sympathy and understanding. You create trust from that bond and for your love for eachother, and it has to be upheld at all times or everything will fall apart. | |
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| Re: What does it take to make one work?
Posted: 4/26/2004 1:43:12 PM | opps deleted the troll comments and killed a few other posts as well.. This forum needs some more work :)
So what is the difference when you start a relationship online vs meeting at a coffee shop grocery store etc ? | |
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Ender
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Joined: 2/1/2004
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| Re: What does it take to make one work?
Posted: 4/26/2004 2:41:44 PM | | hmm more comfortable meeting online ofr some reason.. thers more anticipation i guess...more guessing than at a coffe shop. me persoanly dont think that can happen. Not to me at least....im usually pretty shy untili know someone. | |
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Joined: 2/28/2004
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| Re: What does it take to make one work?
Posted: 4/26/2004 3:02:36 PM | | In person is easier for me......the whole reality is in your face, not on a comp screen. I'm always wondering if the person is like what they say they are or look the way a pic portraits them. You'll never know until your face to face if there is a genuine spark! | |
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| Re: What does it take to make one work?
Posted: 4/26/2004 4:00:32 PM | | ive met more ppl in here in such a short time than in reallife I cant believe it. I get more attention in here thani ever do in the outside of a comp. Oh i can get it on at the club.. and meet ppl but its not that easy. All they want is a romp and thats it...i need someone genuine. | |
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| Re: What does it take to make one work?
Posted: 4/26/2004 9:42:28 PM | It is amazing how fast you can meet and talk to someone on the internet compared to real life. I think people feel more comfortable being able to ignore or prevent someone from contacting you on the internet. In real life it may not be so easy. The only thing that bothers me about the online thing is people contacting you from 2000+ miles away. I mean to make friends I suppose it is very good but to meet someone you want to start a relationship it seems like you should be closer geographically. Of course, there are exceptions to every rule. My boss met his wife on the internet. He is from the USA and she is from Austrailia.
OOOpppps. Forgot this post is about what it takes to make a relationship work. Three words. Simple to say, maybe not so simple to do.
LOVE
TRUST
RESPECT
Learn it.
Live it.
Love it.
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alura2
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Joined: 3/18/2004
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wlee33
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Joined: 4/27/2004
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| Re: What does it take to make one work?
Posted: 4/28/2004 12:06:41 AM | | Sincere, honest, communication, not afraid to talk about whats on your mind, and totally no mind games. and loves to be around that special person. | |
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| Re: What does it take to make one work?
Posted: 4/28/2004 1:40:35 PM | The only thing that makes a relationship work is when 2 healthy thinking and feeling people remain as the individuals they are. Women (mostly) like to change men the minute they meet instead of allowing him to be just who he is.
Maintaining honesty, respect and communication is something that should definately be there.
Sometimes women over communicate, men hate that and I agree with that.
Great sex is an absolutlute must in a healthy relationship. Men love sex and he wants to be kept happy just as much as a woman (that if she is not some prude that only knows one position and doesen't like sex).
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| Re: What does it take to make one work?
Posted: 4/29/2004 9:37:20 AM | | What you give is what you are supposed to get ,right...but not always. so there is a compromise...You have to sacrifice what you really want to give the other person what they want.This is where that communication thing comes into play, you had better have a backbone and not a 'wishbone',Cuz it's true that some women like to mold us into their ideal mate..well we're not a piece of clay wanting to be shaped into something that we're not. There are so many little factor that come into play, durning a succesful relationship, i still think becoming friends before lovers is still #1 rule.. | |
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alura2
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Joined: 3/18/2004
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alura2
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Joined: 3/18/2004
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Joined: 4/11/2004
Msg: 19 | |
| Re: What does it take to make one work?
Posted: 4/30/2004 11:04:52 PM | mutual respect, friendship, trust, open communication, share common interest, being open minded about faith, believing in your relationship and not going in blind - know what you are up against as well as know what you are getting - the full package deal - not saying bad things when I say up against, I mean those things you and he/her are not willing to compromise.
when you find that person that not only turns you inside out and makes you feel so good about being next to them, then you know you have something to work with, it also takes alot of work to make a GOOD lasting relationship work. | |
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Joined: 4/11/2004
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| Re: What does it take to make one work?
Posted: 4/30/2004 11:08:56 PM | I think the difference is that you actually get something tangable, right away when you meet in person, compared to online, something will always be missing until you meet in person *my opinion*, dont shuck me for it pweaaaaaaaaaase
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| Re: What does it take to make one work?
Posted: 5/1/2004 5:22:24 PM | I think what needs to make one work is a mutal understanding of each other. It's not all about getting to know the person physically, I feel its more getting to know the person mentally. For if you have a strong bond mentally everything else is not hard to achieve.
Give each other time to develope that bond that would build a strong foundation. A strong foundation would equal a strong relationship. Listen to each other, develope that trust and fight any urges you may have to do something wrong. We are all human and many make mistakes, but think about the cause and effect.
Cause and effect can have many consequences, use your mind before you act upon something. | |
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| Re: What does it take to make one work?
Posted: 5/1/2004 8:11:32 PM | | I had alot of faith in that communication crap. It is all a lie. I now think handcuffs and a sturdy sound proof room would be sufficient. Well, mabey? | |
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Joined: 2/15/2004
Msg: 24 | |
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| Re: What does it take to make one work?
Posted: 5/8/2004 8:44:44 PM | You gotta know yourself, I think. Gotta be straight about who ya' are and what you think.
Then it's all a matter of stayin' true to yourself and showin' your special someone how hard your drive is to share life- and everything in it, with them.
Just give everything you can, take what's offered and stay true.
The tough part is bein' wise enough to know when it's broke beyond repair.
For me, it can be toughest to know just what course of action to take, and when, without sellin' myself short.
Seems like nobody's dropped a line on this thread for a while.
I think it's a good question to ponder. | |
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