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Posted: 9/30/2006 8:13:31 AM | I just read yet another thread where someone said something along the lines of "Women aren't really looking for a GOOD man, they're looking for Mr. Perfect." It occurred to me that the very person who wrote this has probably had a good woman interested in them at some point, but rejected her because he just wasn't attracted.
So my question is this: What traits in another person gives you butterflies? Makes you want to be around them above or despite all other qualities that person may have?
I think good looks is too easy an answer. I've met many extremely attractive men who have sparked no interest in me, and more than a few unattractive men who I've found irresistable. Likewise, I've seen dozens of couples where the more attractive person was devoted to the less attractive one almost to the point of addiction. So what's going on there?
Speaking for myself, it's this: If I see that the person has an intense interest or passion in an activity or area of interest. I used to think that I specifically loved musicians, but my most recent crush had a passion for the aerospace and automotive industry. I guess I want to know what he finds so interesting...
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| Chemistry/Magnetism
Posted: 10/11/2006 11:31:59 AM | There is one thing that wakes the butterflies within me and is sure to spark up chemistry: His written word. His penmanship; his ability to master and manipulate language. The use of playful, superfluous, but precise language (along with good quality content) makes him completely irresistible to me.
And if he is able to softly whisper such words when the lights are out, watch me melt in to the liquid state of Mercury. | |
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| Chemistry/Magnetism
Posted: 10/11/2006 1:27:20 PM | | Chemistry to me does not begin with physical attraction but the ability a person has to get within my mind, this can be done through persistance, creativity, humour, sensitivity, and mostly intelligence. To me this can be the best kind of chemistry that there is really. | |
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| Chemistry/Magnetism
Posted: 10/11/2006 2:29:02 PM | There's no one particular thing that creates chemistry/attraction. I mean, everyone is so different that what attracts one person to you may not attract another.
There's no doubt that being good looking helps a lot. But above all having a great personality with a healthy amount of confidence, humbleness and self-respect is entirely important. | |
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| Chemistry/Magnetism
Posted: 10/11/2006 7:04:25 PM | Honestly, I think intelligence and a sense of humor are the most attractive things about anyone. Think about it when you're with your friends you want to be able to talk about anything from politics to why the moron in the cafeteria is eating that gross green stuff again (lol), so why wouldn't you want to look for that in all your relationships. Just an opinion | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 9:24:08 PM | I love a tall, goodlooking man, but really, for me it's his VOICE that makes me melt.
A resonant deep liquid velvet voice combined with the intelligence to carry an interesting yet sexy conversation could almost make me forget he had an extra eyeball in the middle of his forehead..
...almost! | |
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| Chemistry/Magnetism
Posted: 10/12/2006 6:05:34 AM | | Sun dried hair and skin, eyes lit up ready for the next adventure. Open mindedness, creativeness, and a man of his word. | |
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| Chemistry/Magnetism
Posted: 10/12/2006 6:51:38 AM | | Never really know until you get under the sheets, see what she looks like with no clothing. Until then its just an illusion. | |
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| Chemistry/Magnetism
Posted: 10/20/2006 3:41:13 PM | Well, what pulled me to him was his passion for what he was doing for living and it was his hobby at the same time. Something I always dreamt about but was afraid at the same time. And suddenly, there he was. The way he carried himself, confidence springing from his pace, manners, talk ... hmmm ... I just wanted to know more ... funny enough, I got the answers in French  ... to start with. | |
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Posted: 10/20/2006 3:52:57 PM | I was drawn to my man by reading his posts here on the forums. What I saw was a brilliant mind, amazing wit and a heart of compassion. It was irrestistable, and in getting to know him one on one, and then meeting him, he is all that and more. He's in so many ways the most awesome man I've ever known.  | |
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| Chemistry/Magnetism
Posted: 10/20/2006 7:23:54 PM | I can certainly appreciate the attitude of looking for someone perfect (for me) and holding out for it. Some people actually say that, verbatim, in their profile, without going into any further detail  Not much basis to strike up a conversation. | |
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| Chemistry/Magnetism
Posted: 10/21/2006 2:10:49 AM | | their intelligence initially attracts my attention, then their goodness/heart really sends me - if i find those, then their looks will probably stun me into submission. it takes the inside to make the outside beautiful (for me), and then i am just so fascinated by them and can't get enough fast enough.......... but sometimes, it just peters out... sigh | |
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| Chemistry/Magnetism
Posted: 10/21/2006 9:30:06 AM | | Well lets just say that if theres chemistry in a relationship the guy has worked on those chemicals in his lab! | |
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| Chemistry/Magnetism
Posted: 10/21/2006 9:52:08 AM | | Chemistry is a physical thing. It is the energy you feel with that person. | |
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