| He said that we would go out on Sunday & he never called
Posted: 10/1/2006 10:05:59 AM | A guy at work asked me to go see the fall leaves on Sunday. I didn't hear from him. The problem: what do I do when I see him at work. I don't see him very often, but what do I do when we meet in the hall?
Do I just say "hi" and keep walking? Do I ask him what happened? Also, what if he asks me out again?
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| He said that we would go out on Sunday & he never called
Posted: 10/1/2006 10:22:15 AM | Never go out with someone from work ;)
I would say, "well you forgot to call me ! but its cool.. We prolly should not go out when we work together" ;). That way if he did blow you off then he wont know it bugged you like it did. | |
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| He said that we would go out on Sunday & he never called
Posted: 10/1/2006 10:23:50 AM | I agree with Shangrilah....He would have to have a heck of a story... but that, (if it's the truth) usually only happens in the movies.
What a turkey! That sounds like an awsome date!!!
BTW, I married my boss and we had 14 yrs together and three kids so sometimes it's not a bad way to meet people. As a rule, though, we were the exception. Wait , it happened for a couple friends of mine too! They are still married. ;) | |
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| He said that we would go out on Sunday & he never called
Posted: 10/1/2006 10:32:01 AM | | Just say hello like normal and maybe mention something like "I hate we didn't get to get together on Sunday" (if you really do). You never know, something really could have happened that made him calling you impossible. | |
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| He said that we would go out on Sunday & he never called
Posted: 10/1/2006 10:38:29 AM | | I agree with angelab. Don't make it a hostile moment. He most likely had no intent of ditching you and this was an honest mistake. You could say, with a smile, "hey, you forgot about me. Do you know what that does to a girl's reputation?" joke with him and walk off. Keep this friendly and positive. | |
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| He said that we would go out on Sunday & he never called
Posted: 10/1/2006 10:40:33 AM | I would act like it was any other ordinary day and that the whole thing never happened.
That way it shows you were not bothered by it at all and if he decides to explain, well than you will know. | |
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| He said that we would go out on Sunday & he never called
Posted: 10/1/2006 10:47:30 AM | Okay,
You have 3 options like the others mentioned:
One, if you want him to think it didn't bug you,
just smile and say "hello", keep moving along like it
is just a new day.
Two, If you really do want to know why he did not call, ask him,
just say, "So, what happened about us going to look at the leaves,
last Sunday?, I never heard from you." Then make it a point to
NEVER go out with him again, but do remain cordial.
Three, Never date coworkers. | |
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| He said that we would go out on Sunday & he never called
Posted: 10/1/2006 11:02:44 AM | Don't make anything of it at all. If you value your job, it's not worth the extra pressure in your work place.
Just my view, but having dated a co-worker at one time, I'd never do it again.....
-David. | |
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| He said that we would go out on Sunday & he never called
Posted: 10/1/2006 11:07:38 AM | It is true, true, true not to date someone from work.
Interestingly, I thought it would be more of a "friend" thing. I wouldn't even want to kiss him.
So, here we go, can people of different sexes truly be friends?
I don't know about experience level, because I have hardly ever dated. Now, I can see the problem, but judging from the letters here, it has worked for some people. Just because we are older, doesn't mean we are wiser. Is it any different from dating someone in high school?
I still see the same potential problems. | |
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| He said that we would go out on Sunday & he never called
Posted: 10/1/2006 11:10:30 AM | | Well, this is interesting because we actually only work in the same building. We don't work for the same company. It's a huge building and I met him in a coffee line, so I only see him if we actually happen to take a break at the same time. | |
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| He said that we would go out on Sunday & he never called
Posted: 10/1/2006 4:05:47 PM | Sometimes, if a person doesn't give an actual firm commitment to something, like setting a definite time and place to meet, then they don't feel like they're obligated to follow through should they change their mind or make alternate plans.
It's not really fair, but it's possilble that in this guy's head your Sunday date was nothing more than a maybe.
I would be cool about it, and say hi to him and not mention it. If he doesn't bring it up at all, then it's a good possibility he's not that interested.
If I was really into somebody, and I made plans to see her (even if the plans were quite casually stated), I would be very excited about calling her to set up the date. And if for some reason I didn't call, I'd certainly go out of my way to apologize and set up alternate plans the next time I saw her.
If he does ask you out again (and you're still interested), insist on getting a firm commitment. Set a time and a place. That way you won't be waiting for a phone call to confirm it. The only phone call you'll have to worry about is one where he cancels. And if he does that, then you can write him off for good. | |
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| He said that we would go out on Sunday & he never called
Posted: 10/1/2006 4:12:41 PM | if you see him...smile and say hello but keep walking...
if he asks you out again.....say..no thank you and leave it at that..
If he bugs you about it and wants a reason...tell him he doesnt deserve one, just like he felt you didnt deserve a phone call when he had to bail on you | |
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Joined: 11/13/2005
Msg: 21 | |
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| He said that we would go out on Sunday & he never called
Posted: 10/1/2006 4:24:58 PM |
If he bugs you about it and wants a reason...tell him he doesnt deserve one, just like he felt you didnt deserve a phone call when he had to bail on you.
Actually, that is a great comeback.
I'm changing my answer to that as well! | |
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Ahhh!
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Joined: 3/11/2006
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| He said that we would go out on Sunday & he never called
Posted: 10/1/2006 5:04:01 PM |
I would act like it was any other ordinary day and that the whole thing never happened.
dating a co-worker makes things a little sticky, so don't be confrontational at the workplace. Maybe after work you could approach him about it if you feel comfortable. This way, no one will know your business and you can avoid office gossip. | |
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