| Game Players Over 50
Posted: 10/2/2006 3:55:59 PM | So you have a great first "date"....drinks, dinner....the conversation is good, the chemistry is great....he asks you for a date for the weekend and tells you he'll call you tomorrow to talk about the plans....you never ever hear from him again.
What the heckers is that? When does the game playing end? What are your thoughts and experiences on this type of behaviour? Oh yes, he was very good at it....I did not even see it coming. | |
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| Game Players Over 50
Posted: 10/2/2006 4:16:48 PM | | i thought men grew out of that in their early 30's ? im guessing i could be wrong.. Then again, maybe he just didnt like you. ? | |
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| Game Players Over 50
Posted: 10/2/2006 4:24:04 PM | | The essential nature of people never changes babe. It was his problem. Move on. Honestly. | |
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| Game Players Over 50
Posted: 10/2/2006 4:27:35 PM | hey red,
i know what you mean..dont feel bad its happened to me a few times..you think the older the guy he would know better..you would think someone younger would do that..but its the older ones that do it..i always say how can u judge someone when you dont even know who they are....i think thats why older woman try an find younger guys an not there own age..ive been threw it an i seem to find that dating a younger guy works for me..some guys say alot to ya when they meet ya only to get ya in the sack...if not ..goodby to you an even if they do its the same thing see ya....i guess there is no perfect guy out there..just got to take chances..hang in there..when one door closes another will open...an i believe that | |
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| Game Players Over 50
Posted: 10/2/2006 4:34:22 PM | some of the players... are just getting GOOD at the games now... why
should they quit? and now with the internet and all the practice......
they can just keep going and going and going... right up into
the nursing home... where by then... they will be able to type using their eyes
and not their hands...
be a bonus for the pervs who are also wanting to try some viagra before they
die. | |
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| Game Players Over 50
Posted: 10/2/2006 5:09:34 PM | rainbowfishh has it right!
Being older brings experience. The more practice you have at something, the better you get at it. For too many people (women too, not just men) that means more experience at being smooth and convincing in the games they play. More years of practice to make their technique fool proof.
That says a lot for not jumping into bed with someone too soon, doesn't it? If they are only after sex, they won't be willing to play the game long enough to accomplish their goal. It weeds out a lot of the game players, but not all.
Some of them just consider it more of a challenge and will wait as long as it takes for you to think you've actually gone through the beginning stages of establishing a relationship. You decided you've waited long enough, the guy has hung around long enough for you to think he's really interested in you for more than just sex.
You don't put on the breaks some evening, you don't say "no". And guess what? You got it... they're gone! Now these people are the ones that are REALLY good at playing the game! Of course you don't find out until later that you weren't the only one that was being played in that very same time frame!
Fortunately... not many are really that smooth or are willing to wait to get the reward that says "I WIN, I WIN". That only accounts for about 5% of the game players and they truly deserve an academy award!
Not getting that instant gratification gets rid of 95% of them before you feel like you've been used... unless you are someone that mistakes "lust" for more than that and go for it right away thinking that's going to be the beginning of a meaningful relationship, instead of resulting in a 1 night stand! Then you are going to feel used regardless! I feel truly sorry for the people that fall for this kind of person. And what's even sadder... the same ones fall for it over and over again!
To answer your question-- "What the heckers is that?"
That was you escaping the second type that I mentioned here. He didn't get that "instant gratification", you didn't jump into bed with him at the end of that really great 1st date... and he wasn't willing to wait. He just jumped to the next one on the list because he might score there without having to play out the game and wait for a few dates, or weeks or whatever amount of time would make you feel comfortable enough to not say "NO"! | |
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| Game Players Over 50
Posted: 10/2/2006 6:07:35 PM | Quite honestly...its happened to me in the past...and quite honestly...it was because i forgot.
Mind you, I did call back eventually and had to appologize and swallow my pride a little lol. With that being said, in your particular situation, it could be because he's in a relationship and got caught, or that (sadly) he thinks something better has come along......isnt that just lovely? lol.
However, "let he/she who is without sin cast the first stone".... | |
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| It happens to me all the time
Posted: 10/2/2006 7:01:25 PM | | 40-60 old ladies: I will be e mailing them for a while or talking with them on the phone and the next day , they will send me a dear John e mail. Doesn't matter what age, lots of game players and fakes and flakes and that is too damm bad. | |
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| Game Players Over 50
Posted: 10/3/2006 3:50:43 PM | Thank you all for your replies. It certainly seems to be out there, the game playing that is. A g/f of mine said he liked me so much he got scared and ran away. LOLOLOLOL. We all know better though.
So.....non-game playing men.....where the heckers are YOU? Life's too short for games.
Redstreak | |
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| Game Players Over 50
Posted: 10/3/2006 3:53:29 PM | I agree Jackie, and thanks for such a thorough reply from you.
Expensive for the guys to do that...........I mean, he dropped $100.00 for dinner and drinks with me........didn't have to, it was all his idea.
Just another thought. | |
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| Game Players Over 50
Posted: 10/3/2006 3:59:05 PM | I don't know why they do it ~ but it's pathetic at any age. And for some reason ~ this thread just really irks me. I guess I was under the assumption that at some point we grow up and realize it's not right to play with someone else's emotions. My God ~ 50 years old and still trying to play pimp-daddy ??? ***shaking head***
~ OP ~ Just be glad you found out before you invested more time, energy and emotion into such a creep. I am sorry that happened to you ~ he's a jerk.  | |
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| Game Players Over 50
Posted: 11/30/2006 3:00:25 PM | I hear ya. My BS meter is on high alert and can spot a player in 30 seconds.
I was talking to this guy on here for a week or so... tells me he hasn't been with anyone for about 5 years since is marriage broke up.. took time to "heal" before trying the dating scene again. looking for long term... a one woman man......
showed his pic to a couple of friends.... yup he told them the same story.. found his wife in bed with best friend yada yada yada.... taking care of his elderly ill father.. bla bla bla ..... real pity party going on here...
I also found out that a friend of a friend was actually dating him a few months ago while he was chatting up other women and tell them he hadn't dated in 4 years... WTF. he's in an intimate relationship with one woman and meeting or doing who knows how many others. hope she went straight to the clinic for a std test.
and all the while his ad states that he doesn't want to meet cheaters or liars or bulls***ers. he keeps changing his handle and even has had 2 or more ads on at the same time... MAJOR PLAYER...... how do you get to be over 50 and still be so dumb..... and handsome and rich he wasn't..... no life, no friends, overweight and living in his father's basement.
I guess he hasn't figured out that women talk and tell each other about players... we don't get mad ... we get even....
a prime candidate for www dot dontdatehimgirl dot com | |
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