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| Why Some People Will Remain Single
Posted: 10/4/2006 10:45:58 AM | Well, I've been on this site now for about 2 1/2 months & I will soon be deleting my profile. I will, however, give a few pointers for those that 'wonder' why they can't get a decent women (this can apply to women also), even if they are decent guys & for all of the others in-between:
1) Learn to spell.....it's a mighty BIG TURN-OFF when a lot of men on this site can't even spell simple words. Use a dictionary if necessary - that's what I used in school & afterwards when I did not know how to spell certain words.
2) Say 'something' in your profile. It's a turn-off when men say they 'don't know what to say' or they hardly put anything (sometimes 'nothing') in their profile. At the very LEAST, put what you like to do (hobbies, sports), what kind of woman you desire, etc. It's really not that difficult.
3) If you don't know what kind of woman is 'right' for you - good luck, because you NEED to know this to avoid the 'bad' ones out there or the ones that are just not right for you. Why waste your time and everyone else's? KNOW what you need and want. I do....that's why I'm more selective than a lot of people....but look at how many are NOT in good relationships!
4) If you are NOT good-looking, then don't expect to get a good-looking woman. Yes, looks do matter & I've noticed that the ones that say looks don't matter are USUALLY those who are NOT good-looking. They are also the ones who complain, get perturbed, disgusted, angry, etc. when us good-looking women WANT a good-looking guy. It's human nature to want better IF YOU CAN GET BETTER. If I wasn't good-looking, then I wouldn't expect to get a good-looking guy. So don't get on your high horse just because some women, like me, put a higher priority on looks. There certainly are other requirements in order to me to choose a steady partner, but I HAVE to be attracted to him first & foremost.
5) For those of you who are overweight (more than 10 lbs of your ideal weight) then I suggest you cut down on your calories & EXERCISE. Otherwise, do NOT expect to get much luck on this site (or others). Not too many people want someone overweight. However, overweight people can expect to get others like themselves. A lot of men want a good-looking, slim women - well, we want the same thing in a man!!!! (At least the majority of us do).
So those are my tips. I don't particularly like this site. I've only met (in person) a few guys and I did speak to a few others. One guy 'pretended' to want a relationship but after 'writing' a few times, I KNEW he just wanted sex. Just be honest folks.....there's nothing wrong in just wanting sex or whatever....as long as you're totally honest about everything. I personally lose a lot of respect when someone lies. If you have enough self-esteem, then you shouldn't have to lie. Also, some men on this site THINK they're so HOT in the looks department, but they're not. I read a book recently that said men usually exaggerate their looks & woman do the opposite. Interesting, isn't it? I've met a couple of good guys on this site (one was especially good, kind, etc.) but he was overweight & I just was NOT AT ALL attracted to him in a physical/sexual way. I was sad about that....but I can't control what I'm attracted to (or not).
So that's it folks for me....good luck to the rest of you. I hope some people on this site are meeting & dating & perhaps even hooking up permanently. It's sad that so many of us are single. I wish, for all of us, that it just wasn't so difficult to meet someone compatible, in the most important areas at least. | |
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| Why Some People Will Remain Single
Posted: 10/4/2006 11:28:05 AM | hi cute,
I agree with your opinions mostly,however it's just not that simple! I consider myself a good looking guy,I'm honest,reliable,funny,educated and responsible.However I'm also 43yrs old/w no kids.Sometimes women think there is something wrong w/that alone.Just circumstance and no more.I also shave my head-the alternative is much worse and it looks good/some women hate it,some love it!I've got some tattoos,some love it /hate it.I guess my point is everybody likes something different.Me personally I am only attracted to petite women as I am quite fit and have a nice body for my age(no I don't look 25)but I wouldn't be embarassed to take my shirt off at the beach...........I feel like a good catch and still deal w/plenty of rejection! It's part of the process and when I do find THE one I will not under estimate the value of what has happened and never take it for granted simply because although the process can be fun,it can also be frustrating,time consuming and difficult!that's what makes that special person SPECIAL!
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| Why Some People Will Remain Single
Posted: 10/4/2006 11:30:34 AM | Hi Barbie
Hi Ken!
Do you wanna go for a ride?
Sure Ken!
Jump In...
I'm a barbie girl, in the barbie world
Life in plastic, it's fantastic!
you can brush my hair, undress me everywhere
Imagination, life is your creation
Come on Barbie, let's go party!
I'm a barbie girl, in the barbie world
Life in plastic, it's fantastic!
you can brush my hair, undress me everywhere
Imagination, life is your creation
I'm a blond bimbo girl, in the fantasy world
Dress me up, make it tight, I'm your dolly
You're my doll, rock'n'roll, feel the glamour in pink,
kiss me here, touch me there, hanky panky...
You can touch, you can play, if you say: "I'm always yours"
(uu-oooh-u)
I'm a barbie girl, in the barbie world
Life in plastic, it's fantastic!
you can brush my hair, undress me everywhere
Imagination, life is your creation
Come on Barbie, let's go party!
(Ah-ah-ah-yeah)
Come on Barbie, let's go party!
(uu-oooh-u)
Come on Barbie, let's go party!
(Ah-ah-ah-yeah)
Come on Barbie, let's go party!
(uu-oooh-u)
Make me walk, make me talk, do whatever you please
I can act like a star, I can beg on my knees
Come jump in, bimbo friend, let us do it again,
hit the town, fool around, let's go party
You can touch, you can play, if you say: "I'm always yours"
You can touch, you can play, if you say: "I'm always yours"
Come on Barbie, let's go party!
(Ah-ah-ah-yeah)
Come on Barbie, let's go party!
(uu-oooh-u)
Come on Barbie, let's go party!
(Ah-ah-ah-yeah)
Come on Barbie, let's go party!
(uu-oooh-u)
I'm a barbie girl, in the barbie world
Life in plastic, it's fantastic!
you can brush my hair, undress me everywhere
Imagination, life is your creation
I'm a barbie girl, in the barbie world
Life in plastic, it's fantastic!
you can brush my hair, undress me everywhere
Imagination, life is your creation
Come on Barbie, let's go party!
(Ah-ah-ah-yeah)
Come on Barbie, let's go party!
(uu-oooh-u)
Come on Barbie, let's go party!
(Ah-ah-ah-yeah)
Come on Barbie, let's go party!
(uu-oooh-u)
Oh, I'm having so much fun!
Well Barbie, we're just getting started
Oh, I love you Ken! | |
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Joined: 6/16/2006
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| Why Some People Will Remain Single
Posted: 10/4/2006 11:41:32 AM | LMAO tantera! That was awesome. Sad thing is though, that's gonna be stuck in my head for the rest of the day.
OP, I just have one thing to say:
A woMAN, many woMEN.
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| Why Some People Will Remain Single
Posted: 10/4/2006 12:18:38 PM | Thanks for pointing the error - I type too fast without thinking sometimes. I never said I was perfect, though.
I agree with everything you guys have said so far in response to my testimonial.....it is all so complicated & we all have different tastes, etc. What my main beef is that SOME people are too unrealistic. For instance, I know a guy who is just average-looking, yet he is waiting for a good-looking woman & he'll be waiting a loooonnnngggg time. He has been single for many years. It does happen sometimes, where one of the couple is good-looking & one isn't but what I was saying is that if people want to attract more than just a couple of people, then lose weight, look more appealing, etc. When I gain weight (which I have - but not a lot) I will exercise until I lose it....I've done this several times now. It's all about looking your best, especially if you want to attract people to you. Now that comment from the overweight woman was uncalled for - and it's always from the overweight people who get nasty. Now the other gentleman said he's bald - but I know for a fact MOST women do not like bald men, so he cannot expect to attract as many females because of this. One has to be aware of these things.
Also, I forgot to say earlier, I'm disgusted with the guys who want 'intimate encounters' & they are married or in a steady relationship. Where are people's morals these days!! Shame on you! If you need variety then date - don't go steady, live with someone or get married! It's not fair to your partner nor morally right! And if your relationship is that bad...then get out of it but don't cheat on your partner!!! I'm totally disgusted with these types of guys! | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 12:23:45 PM | Ugly guys can get good looking girls. It just takes money. Lots and lots of money. Oh yeah - and personality. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 12:31:43 PM | Hi Cute...I agree with some of what you wrote. I am a bit offended by the overweight statement. I am overweight....I have never dated an overweight man....I have dated body builders...models etc...So being overweight does not necessarily mean that you will attract the same.
I am also good looking and am not shallow.....yes..looks are important, but after maturing you do realize that a personality and the way someone treats you is much more attractive and important than how someone looks.
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| Why Some People Will Remain Single
Posted: 10/4/2006 12:38:32 PM | | Hi cuteandfriendly ~Lots of good points you made there,I also would be off of here if it wasnt for the forums . | |
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| Why Some People Will Remain Single
Posted: 10/4/2006 1:00:42 PM | I agree with you cuteandfriendly.................men are such losers................that is why most of them will remain single. I am by choice and because the choices out there are pathetic! Men email you on POF and then they neglect (right?) to tell you oh that they are meeting other people and they keep you hanging on so that you think they will meet you and then they suddenly tell you that they "met" someone, but still want you to be friends with them................I know it is just to keep their options open.........oh so if it doesn't work out with the other one they might have you to fall back on..........what is with that?? What losers. I am so fed up with men lying and hiding things. They are gutless worms..........they can't even tell you that they met someone else "before" they talked to you...............why can't they be honest?? Oh I know - never mind.................THEY ARE MEN!!!
I had my say - I am happy now...................I hope all the men who screw women over.........all end up hurt!!! | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 1:21:26 PM | | Darn right!!!..............Men are all losers and that is it!!! I am a very nice attractive woman and just because you are 50 they think you are old and washed up. They are such fools!! They just want a younger woman for a status symbol...............until they get dumped and figure out they only wanted them for their money or something else..........oh well...........they are so stupid................A woman who is a bit older does not have those hangups younger women do, no biological clock ticking and older women are way hor**er too....................I am hot and in great shape and more fun than I have ever been and financially secure................so what the heck is wrong with all those men out there?? Being from MARS is not an excuse!!! Thanks for letting me vent! | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 1:30:16 PM | | Thanks you are sweet..............I am not old and I look about 10 years younger. I am sure you look good too..........why are people so mean and think we are washed up at 50.............they are so mean!! I am tired of it......how about you? We need to get rid of that stigma attached to that!! Come on people - rally around and let's do it okay!!! | |
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| Why Some People Will Remain Single
Posted: 10/4/2006 2:03:52 PM | How about putting a picture up starlette.
Also one should not put all men in the same basket, because we are not all the same as not all women are not all the same. Alot of what your saying men do some women also do. | |
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| Why Some People Will Remain Single
Posted: 10/4/2006 2:11:57 PM | perfection can be such an ugly thing,runs to get the dictionary to check my spellings roll:
Just a thought,but we are all individuals and all like different things,and there will be alot of people that will not find you attractive in any way,but hey thats life.
People like big,small,blonde,brunette,defferent personality traits.
Heres another thought some people suffer dyslexia,so because of some petty dislike and sitting in judgement over people,you may have overlooked a someone that was perfect for you
Look within oneself for ones imperfections before sitting in judgement on others
now im off to listen to barbire girl | |
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Joined: 6/16/2006
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| Why Some People Will Remain Single
Posted: 10/4/2006 2:20:07 PM | Hey cute...
I am somewhat confused (what, me confused?...lol) by your thread. You speak about how looks are so important and yet in your profile, you clearly talk about how important it is to get to know someone on a deeper level. I guess the confusion comes from how you could possibly get to the personality if all you're looking at is the exterior?
My next thing is this...I am an overweight woman (working on losing it for myself) but I have always felt incredibly sexy and never once did I feel my weight was a hindrance in attracting the opposite sex. Quite the opposite as a matter of fact and I have always attributed this to my personality (my love of life and positive outlook). Just because I am overweight however don't assume the only men that I will ever get are overweight men. I do have preferences in looks and generally they have been for athletic/slim, short and yes, holy crap, bald men. (All my exes have been on the athletic side and are now bald.)
My point is this: I think you are generalizing way too much here. Just because you have certain preferences, you really shouldn't assume that others (or the majority) have the same preferences. There are many women out there that prefer a larger man, a bald man (me, me), a short man, and so on. So unless you have gone out and put research behind your theory, you really can't say who prefers what.
Just my thoughts...
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Posted: 10/4/2006 2:28:15 PM | Oh I do like what you had to post scamp7  I am a thin female and happen to find men that carry extra weight very attractive. My ex had dyslexia and that certainly had nothing to do with why we decided to go different ways in the end. He happens to be a very intelligent man in spite of not being able to spell. Sometimes it does more good to look at your self instead of others. Just a thought.  | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 2:49:14 PM | Hi there! I have to say I agree with your thoughts and opinions. The guys are so shallow and boring. What are they on here for if they can't put two sentences together? Right? Especially I hate it when they say there "Good Looking" please just save it...send a photo and I'll be the judge if your good looking or not. Anyway girlfriend, you seem frustrated as am I. I'm told I'm beautiful all the time, I want an attractive man too, if that's shallow well so be it! I know what I want.....whats a woman to do? I wish you luck and if you hold out I'm sure you'll find your Prince Charming!
If not find yourself a cute lil' stud muffin tee hee and just let loose and have some fun, why not, whatever makes you feel good!
See Ya
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| Why Some People Will Remain Single
Posted: 10/4/2006 2:53:02 PM | | In the past I'v settled for less then what I want in a relationship. I KNOW what I want n I'm not going to settle for less anymore. If this means I'm going to remain single then so be it! | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 2:55:06 PM | | Somehow this makes you wonder what it is that really makes the world go around doesn't it? I can't believe the immaturity and insecurity I see in this thread...Shallow also comes to mind... WildFire65 | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 2:57:38 PM | Hi ladies,
I agree with you Joey and Molokai..............don't settle. I damn well am not going to. I have had it with shallow lying men. I agree too that hey a little stud muffin can go a long way to keeping you happy until you find the right one...........LOL. LOL. yea stud muffins!!! | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 3:19:20 PM | Some of us want to stay single, just because you want
to date or talk to guys on this site doesnt mean you
ever want to get married or move in with a guy. I am
perfectly happy being single. | |
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| Why Some People Will Remain Single
Posted: 10/4/2006 3:51:53 PM | Hi OP,
I agree with most of what you have to say, however I think you are a bit off with points # 4 & 5. Beauty afterall is in the eye of the beholder. Don't assume that people who you would not consider to be good looking can't "get better". While looks may matter to some degree, they don't make someone a "better" person.
As for your comments about being overweight, again don't assume that most people want someone slim. Not everyone finds "slim" attractive. I am 30+lbs overweight and my inbox here is never empty. 90% of the men who I have dated had an average to muscular build.
Good Luck to you.
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Posted: 10/4/2006 4:32:39 PM | Scamp7  your spelling is fine,..You are sooo right in every thing u have said, i have wondered if anyone one here will find who they are looking for??, people are way to judgemental,. U go one 1 or 2 dates & think well u are not the "one" how does one know for sure? like u say, U may have very well walked away from the one that is perfect for u , Ohh sorry i didnt say it the same as u, lol ,people are not looking deep enough taking the time to get to know each other,..Words to live by "Look within oneself for ones imperfections befor sitting in judgements on others, Yaaa thanks i have that song stuck in my head  | |
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