| Are we revealing too much?
Posted: 10/4/2006 7:02:36 PM | I was reading threads and posts and I started wondering: Are we revealing too much to our potential dates while posting here ? I mean Do I really want a guy to know what is my favorite position, how long have I gone without sex, or if I "swallow or not" etc. before I even meet him?
Just a thought........ what do you guys think.. Does those posts help to get a date or just the opposite? | |
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| Are we revealing too much?
Posted: 10/4/2006 7:11:11 PM | | I guess some people don't care. I do so I don't post about things like that. It's nobody's business than mine. | |
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| Are we revealing too much?
Posted: 10/4/2006 7:15:35 PM | I have just viewed your profile. Is that your experience here on POF?
As a woman-2-woman suggestion, be more specific in your profile, even if you are just winging some of it! You are hon, leaving way too much room for the wishing part of the masculine mind! Giving yourself away to imagination of "anything&everything" that poopes up into that unexplored & untrained mind. Remember that there are many here to fullfill some known, but mostly unknown dream (or fantazy), leaving yourself at the doorstep of "What-ever!" | |
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| Are we revealing too much?
Posted: 10/4/2006 7:21:16 PM | Nah! I believe these posts help people get dates.
Think about it. How else can you get repeated exposure to people on Plenty of Fish and share your own thought without posting comments on the forums. In a way, the comments we leave reveals certain shades of our inner-selves.
Plus, all guys like to know what a lady's favorite postions are and if they swallow.  | |
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| Are we revealing too much?
Posted: 10/4/2006 7:21:53 PM | Anything posted on the internet is here for life. It might get buried somewhere, but someone might find it. The Search Engines are very efficient and are becoming more complex, yet easier to use.
I don't put anything on MY COMPUTER that would embarass me at work, with my family, kids and potential spouses.
I stay aware that some postings can be misinterpreted, and I prepare myself for that possibility.
Revealing too much information IS NOT A WISE MOVE.
Con artists and businesses thrive on information.
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| Are we revealing too much?
Posted: 10/4/2006 8:17:53 PM | If you care and have a tendency to regret afterwards, watch yourself a couple of times. When you are fully convinced that you are not at all comfortable posting things about your private life. Stop visting threads like that. Or the most sensible thing would be to post only on things that don't reveal about your private life.If you don't care what others think, then post away all you want wherever you want.
Goodluck. | |
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| Are we revealing too much?
Posted: 10/4/2006 8:20:37 PM | Being liberal about your likes in a discussion forum is just an expression of an open mind. Being promiscuous in the act itself is a whole different game all together.
A guy knowing more about you probably isn't a bad thing but be careful of weird stalker types as they're totally around. | |
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| Are we revealing too much?
Posted: 10/4/2006 8:32:49 PM |
what is my favorite position, how long have I gone without sex, or if I "swallow or not" etc. I suspect that women who make such posts, may find that they end up attracting too much attention from unwanted, types of men.
If a woman's not wanting to recieve an email, that reads "I'm a married man who will be in your city on business....", "we're a couple, looking for a young women",or "here's a picture of my.....",
then I hope she realises that, when posting "my favorite position is", or "I swallow", she's probably getting those type of guys attention. | |
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| Are we revealing too much?
Posted: 10/4/2006 8:46:36 PM | somwhere....I'm very curious as to see how many will NOT get your point here....  | |
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| Are we revealing too much?
Posted: 10/4/2006 8:48:58 PM | I don't reveal personal information about myself on that level in these forums....will I contribute because I feel I have some life experience or an opinion...YES......if I need something addressed of a personal nature I have a very fabulous network of close friends I will go to ....who actually know me and that will give me their heartfelt honest advice. | |
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| Are we revealing too much?
Posted: 10/4/2006 8:55:55 PM | I think you need to choose very carefully which threads you would be comfortable posting in.
I mean Do I really want a guy to know what is my favorite position, how long have I gone without sex, or if I "swallow or not" etc. before I even meet him?
I wouldn't want to answer those kinds of questions knowing that its in a public forum for anyone to see. I value my privacy immensely, and I think some things are better left in private...JMO. | |
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| Are we revealing too much?
Posted: 10/4/2006 8:56:19 PM | OP...............I don't think it's anybody's business what your favorite sexual position is, nor do I think is a good idea to post that on your profile. I also think, posting such personal information, is not really going to get you more dates. These things should be left to be discuss in private, when you think... you have found that special person.
I would also like o add, that I have read your profile........., and all I can make out of it, is that you are 27 Years Old, and you like Baseball........."Go Yankees" !!!!! It does not look like you have a problem getting dates, I mean with "NOTHING" on your profie, you do appear on "20 Favorites List". !!!!!!..........Good Luck ! | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 9:04:32 PM | This is an interesting question, and one that I think EVERYONE (self included) ought to think about.
I have caught myself getting drawn into discussions on the forums that are very interesting, only to realize that "Hey............people are reading this." Well, Dur.
So I try to keep my posts now in areas that aren't quite so compromising. And yes, I think it's wise to hold some things close and only reveal them to people who you are specifically developing relationships with, at the appropriate time.
I would be careful about letting it ALL hang out. | |
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| Are we revealing too much?
Posted: 10/4/2006 9:05:03 PM |
I mean Do I really want a guy to know what is my favorite position, how long have I gone without sex, or if I "swallow or not" etc. before I even meet him?
If one doesn't want a stranger to read their words, they shouldn't write/post their words. Anyone with access to this site can read what we post...anyone at all! If we don't want the masses to read our words, we shouldn't participate.
I don't know if posting necessarily helps one get a date. In my experience here, none of the locals that contacted me posted in the forums, or even knew the forums exist. I'd try to explain to them what the forums were, how to access them...pointless! They were absolutely clueless! Interestingly, the only one that did know about the forums never particpated either, other than to start a thread with my name in the subline, in an attempt to get my attention because the mail he kept trying to send me wouldn't go through....we never did figure that out, lol. That fella is now my boyfriend. Make of it what you will. :) | |
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| Are we revealing too much?
Posted: 10/4/2006 11:13:09 PM | I make everything up as I go...except this is true stuff ...I really like the up right position and Finnish gypsys! | |
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| Are we revealing too much?
Posted: 10/4/2006 11:23:36 PM | People are to be experienced, not read. If you are reading about people, as we do on POF, then you are getting the wrong idea about these people you read about. It has nothing to do with revealing too much--because there is no such thing as revealing too much; either someone accepts you and loves you for who you are or they don't.
Experience people. Face-to-face. Anything else is a disservice. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 11:24:11 PM | Indi-
???????? Upright position? Part of the Amish Kama Sutra? Finnish Gypsies sound hot. I think they have those down at the bakery. | |
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| Are we revealing too much?
Posted: 10/4/2006 11:26:47 PM | Forget about revealing too much in the forums.
Have you seen some of the pictures people throw out there.
I have'nt seen so many Bouncing Bettys since I swiped the stack of Playboy's my brother had hidden under his bed. | |
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| Are we revealing too much?
Posted: 10/5/2006 2:03:11 AM | If you wouldn't stand in the middle of a crowded mall with a mega phone, telling every single soul there about certain aspects of your life, then don't do it online either.
Then again, us forum junkies want to hear it all!!!!! | |
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| Are we revealing too much?
Posted: 10/5/2006 2:22:58 AM | Depends on how you carry yourself when you meet him? If he likes that kind of thing and knows what is around the corner.....who knows? Some guys like that kind of information..
But I would not reveal anything like that online..it can backfire.. | |
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| Are we revealing too much?
Posted: 10/5/2006 2:53:38 AM | Depends who's reading the profile and/or what mood they're in.
People like knowing I have a small weiner. | |
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| Are we revealing too much?
Posted: 10/5/2006 3:02:00 AM |
(OP) I was reading threads and posts and I started wondering: Are we revealing too much to our potential dates while posting here ? I mean Do I really want a guy to know what is my favorite position, how long have I gone without sex, or if I "swallow or not" etc. before I even meet him?
I never understood the importance placed on swallowing. I mean, once I'm finished with it what difference does it make what the other person does with it?
On a more serious note I don't feel the forums portray an accurate picture of someone. Sometimes things are said in jest. In others, the effort to antagonize as the person is in a bad mood. In many cases one will say the politically correct thing hoping a member of the opposite sex will think they're "cute" and contact them.
It's much like barroom talk. Also, due to time/space limitations a proper explanation may not be offered.
Does those posts help to get a date or just the opposite?
I'd say, "Help". It is a reason to contact the individual whether in agreement or not. A chance to communicate.
For example, you mention someone knowing your favorite position. Let's say you mention you like being on top. Does that mean lying on top? Sitting on top? On top but only when involved orally? So, as you can see, it can be a means of opening communication. | |
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| Are we revealing too much?
Posted: 10/5/2006 3:25:18 AM | | The forums definitely have a way of garnering attention... Maybe keep in mind when you're posting that potential dates see your last five posts on your profile, and ask yourself before you post something whether your response is something you want to be defined by or not. The more graphic and private things you may want to save for a future date rather than a precourser to one... | |
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| Are we revealing too much?
Posted: 10/5/2006 3:28:57 AM | I've often wondered this very thing myself---and still don't know how it affects anothers view or opinion of me. From posting a few things on the Forums I've had members contact me with compliments, rants, bashing or other comments about something which is nice. I don't mind one bit exchanging ideas or thoughts no matter how different they might be.
I do know that the topics discussed here aren't really a problem for me but I would be very hesitant to contact or be involved with someone who lacks descretion in the kinds of things I see posted here. Seeking help or opinions about an important issue would also trouble me especially if something like POF Forums was their first thought on where to begin a discussion. I believe I see this very thing far too often here----posting what should be a private matter. I don't see how valuable 100 different opinions or rants can be to a person---but that's just me.
Then there are peoples posts that really show how good a person they might be in real life. A few very intelligent, thoughtful, caring people who have NOT let past disappointments color their outlook or dispostion seem to be the most interesting people here. | |
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