| For Men Unhappy with they're sex life
Posted: 10/4/2006 8:16:59 PM | I must say the quality & quantity of my sex life really gets me depressed..... I want to know what other guys out there feel about they're sex life.
Are you happy with it
Did you have sex with women you were happy with?
an also
Do you feel men have more limited options rather than women?
Do you feel you have your pick of the litter or the bottom of the barrel kinda thing? | |
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| For Men Unhappy with they're sex life
Posted: 10/4/2006 8:20:44 PM | Well, as a woman I can safely answer one of your questions:
Do you feel men have more limited options rather than women?
Most definitely. The absolute vast majority of women can find a willing sexual partner (whom they don't pay for) at any given moment. | |
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| For Men Unhappy with they're sex life
Posted: 10/4/2006 9:26:57 PM |
I must say the quality & quantity of my sex life really gets me depressed..... I want to know what other guys out there feel about they're sex life.
Are you happy with it?
Duh ... think it through most of the men on here are not satisfied with their sex life -- or they wouldn't be on here. [bold] I think it is safe to say the people (men and women) on this site are looking to improve their sex life! [/bold]
Did you have sex with women you were happy with?
Of course ... but it was a while back ...
Do you feel men have more limited options rather than women?
I think that the options for women are different then the options for men.
Do you feel you have your pick of the litter or the bottom of the barrel kinda thing?
I don't think I understand the question ... I can ask any woman I want out (within reason) so I have the pick in that sense. What she will say ... that is another question. | |
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| For Men Unhappy with they're sex life
Posted: 10/4/2006 9:28:03 PM | I simply didn't "click" with my ex; sexually.
I was miserable. She had no passion or sense of adventure.
I've been lucky. In many ways I've had great sexual experiiences. I've been VERY happy with some very special girls. There are only two that REALLY left the impact on me.
Men have every option open to them. Open your mouth and say smart things. Girls will appreciate it as a nice change.
There is no "bottom" of the barrel. If you're in bed with a woman; she should always be considered the only woman in the world. You have to. It's right. It doesn't mean you're committing to her for life but at least you're committing to her for every second that your with her. Makes sense. two adults, doing adult things, treating each other like adults. It can be fun. | |
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| For Men Unhappy with they're sex life
Posted: 10/4/2006 11:24:11 PM | | meh noones happy with their sex lives these days...but we roll on..roll off...get it done...and say good morning to the new day who will i meet today...anyway. | |
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| For Men Unhappy with they're sex life
Posted: 10/4/2006 11:30:55 PM | I'm not happy because my last encounter was almost traumatizing and I could of received a major STD. So far the first three tests have been clean, but I've made my mission to avoid sex for the full six months of testing to be sure. I would never risk effecting someone else's life like that.
But once I go for that final test, and come back clear ( High hopes since the first three were 90%, 95%, then 97% accurate and all three came back negative ), then I'll be back in action.  But until then, I've been making a few friends. | |
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| For Men Unhappy with they're sex life
Posted: 10/5/2006 1:13:08 AM | | I'm here just for friends and the forums. I am already in a few committed relationships. I wish there were more threads about coupon bargains and how to eat puffy. | |
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| For Men Unhappy with they're sex life
Posted: 10/5/2006 1:46:24 AM | to answer those women above, women stand around and wait for things, men need the skills, and most men suffer cuz they don't have the skills to pick and choose which women they can have.
And Paddy maybe if you wanted to improve your sex life, don't be so eager to show the women your lucky charms, let them work for it | |
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| For Men Unhappy with they're sex life
Posted: 10/5/2006 6:28:18 AM | Im asking men ladies
Buddy it does not matter who your asking directly because if you read the forum rules anyone is aloud to answer any thread... So instead of being a jerk about it and saying i am asking the men take advice from both sides.  | |
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| For Men Unhappy with they're sex life
Posted: 10/5/2006 7:07:56 AM | OK yeah I'm woman, but here is my response since all forums are to be open for both sexes.
It is my opinion that if anyone - man or woman - is unhappy with their sex life they are going about it all wrong. They are either choosing the wrong people who really don't have a desire for them and there is no natural chemistry - or they are going for people they are not truly compatible with. The choices made are important to the development of the relationship and the direction it takes - you don't settle for just anyone, you go for the person who you truly feel a connection with. You cannot force or wish a relationship to develop into a sexual partnership, it has to be there from the onset. The sexual tension and desire, the chemistry has to be a part of the initial meeting. | |
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| For Men Unhappy with they're sex life
Posted: 10/5/2006 7:28:47 AM | Are you unhappy with the QUALITY or the QUANTITY?
Does it still matter to you that you can brag about "baggin' a babe" to the crew at work, or are you intersted in a committed experience with one woman?
As far as opportunity, women have control of what men want, so I would agree that women have more opportunity. A woman can find sex in any bar, in any city, in any state (or provice) any night of any week.
Now, that being said, know that I mean that if she is just looking for someone with male plumbing and lowers her standards to just be with any slug that happens past, that is true.
However, the quality of lady that most quality men want to be with do not fall into that category.
The women who post here that are frustrated by the lack of quality men have a valid point. Guys who just want a sperm receptacle are not what most of the women her are looking for. Particluarly when people get older, and the "measuring in the shower" years are over, the perspective of what you want changes. It happens at a different point for everybody. It sounds like it hasn't happened for you yet, and I wish you well as you look for quantity. | |
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| For Men Unhappy with they're sex life
Posted: 10/5/2006 8:30:50 AM | | When things click you get quality and quantity. Thats what i have found. Both partners cant seem to get enough of a good thing. | |
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| For Men Unhappy with they're sex life
Posted: 10/5/2006 8:55:02 AM | I was a little stunned at this comment: to answer those women above, women stand around and wait for things, men need the skills, and most men suffer cuz they don't have the skills to pick and choose which women they can have.
This seemed a little off the rocks to me, it insinuates that women stand on the corner waiting for sex, while men are idiots to sex...I just don't get it!
How come I can't get this thing to QUOTE? | |
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| For Men Unhappy with they're sex life
Posted: 10/5/2006 4:43:22 PM | Churpy I agree, the Forums are missing a few things like the quote feature and the ability to subscribe, I also can't find a moderator...but I digress.
Leanne, I take polite exception to your statement:
"They are either choosing the wrong people who really don't have a desire for them and there is no natural chemistry - or they are going for people they are not truly compatible with. The choices made are important to the development of the relationship and the direction it takes - you don't settle for just anyone, you go for the person who you truly feel a connection with. You cannot force or wish a relationship to develop into a sexual partnership, it has to be there from the onset. The sexual tension and desire, the chemistry has to be a part of the initial meeting."
In my experience, you can screen, ask questions, play detective all you want. If you get lied to, there is nothing you can do. Also, life changes things. In my last marriage, we had a great sex life until a hysterectomy was required. It wasn't the removal of ovaries that made things bad, it was her listening to her *^)(&*%(&*% mother about not taking HRT that caused the problem. My dear sweet wife was thrust into instant menopause at age 33 and turned into a raging ****. When we separated the first time, I said "I beg of you, PLEASE, go see the Doctor and get some hormone therapy!" She did and admitted that it made a huge difference on how she felt, what she thought of others, etc. Long and short, things change, despite your best efforts and anyone's promises. What you do then is try to make adjustments that work for both people. | |
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| For Men Unhappy with they're sex life
Posted: 10/5/2006 5:15:17 PM | | I've always found my sex life mirrored the health of my relationship: it was good when we were happy, it sucked (no pun) when we weren't communicating. The first few months are always a honeymoon, and then it always declines. But try going to some exotic All-In-One type of destiantion where the only thing you have to do is lay on the beach and lay your woman...it works wonders! | |
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| For Men Unhappy with they're sex life
Posted: 10/5/2006 5:32:04 PM | Heyyyyyyyyy... some are happy with the quality and quantity....lol.. I don't have any at all for almost two years... and yep... kind of happy about it.... but......... if i did want some.. im sure i can have a couple of volunteers...
Damn... maybe that is what i need..lol
Why I am saying that is that NOT ALL MEN COME ON HERE FOR SEX.... sex is easy to get.
Ro | |
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| For Men Unhappy with they're sex life
Posted: 10/6/2006 3:32:52 AM | OP: You can't just 'ask' men, you have to ask ALL of us, cause it's the rules, so play fair.
Now to answer your thread (from a woman's point if view), your average man would screw anything that wears a frock, it's just their make up. This means they will screw undesirables, fugglies, fat, skinny, young, old, drunks, and nympho's, as long as they wear a SKIRT! So that leaves us with the women. Because we have 'alternative' methods to keep us happy, it gives us the upper hand to choose who we want to screw. Simple!  | |
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| For Men Unhappy with they're sex life
Posted: 10/6/2006 3:37:52 AM |
So that leaves us with the women. Because we have 'alternative' methods to keep us happy, it gives us the upper hand to choose who we want to screw.
please dont tell anyone this but I jerk off so much my finger prints are completely gone. I actually carry a picture of my hand in my wallet. | |
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| For Men Unhappy with they're sex life
Posted: 10/6/2006 6:51:59 AM |
Betcha it's not as much fun!
I beg to differ. Sometimes, it's more fun.
I turn to ol' Rosey as soon as I start to find myself unsatisfied with sex. It could be momentary or it could be the end of the relationship, but in this case, it's always more fun. Otherwise, I wouldn't be doing it.
Think about it. Rosey never tells you no. You can fantasize about anything or anyone you want and they never protest in your mind (unless you want them to). Plus, just like being with a good woman, there's so many different techniques to use. And best of all, it's all about you. No pressure to satisfy another. Not once, not twice.....not however many times it takes to satisfy her.
As for the question at hand (no pun inteneded), I'm never unsatisfied with my sex life for long. Like I said, I think everyone has moments of sexual frustration, but if it's something that has lasted awhile, it's time to move on. If I've communicated my frustration and it doesn't get better, I can't imagine living with that for the rest of my life.
That's the beauty of having gone through one long term, serious relationship. Once you've lived through the hell of the break up, you know you'll never do some of those things again or even settle for less than what you know you deserve.
As for having the pick of the litter, again, I think we all have days where we feel atop of the world and other days where we feel like bottom feeders. The key is to recognize when you're feeling like a bottom feeder and don't allow yourself to get sucked in. I've been through times where I would have soaked up attention from just about anyone. I'm also fairly picky, so I've learned that doing that is only going to hurt someone in the long run.
The bottom line is, know yourself and be honest with yourself at all times. | |
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| For Men Unhappy with they're sex life
Posted: 10/6/2006 6:57:55 AM |
Now to answer your thread (from a woman's point if view), your average man would screw anything that wears a frock, it's just their make up. This means they will screw undesirables, fugglies, fat, skinny, young, old, drunks, and nympho's, as long as they wear a SKIRT!
This is so far removed from reality that I wonder exactly what fantasy world you come from. Cs Lewis, Tolkein or Lovecraft? | |
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