| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/8/2006 7:26:39 AM | Im in a situation right now I had seen the new girl at work thought she very attractive but that I would not get to talk to her especially in my work gear. Then my manager put us together just to advise on setting up her computer - nothing then. On Friday I was at work for Jeans cash, day did not have my glasses on for change, she asked me to help her I tried made conversation and we have similar interests.
I didn’t want to hold her up from getting work done so I asked if she would like me to bring the computer down she said she was in no hurry, this was fine by me. : She
must have seen my gawping face as I sat next to her but she just seemed to smile.
She is French and the most stunning woman I have ever met now I can't stop thinking about her. Saw her at the sink and she turned and glanced smiled then away and back again and I'm sure at me as there was no one else.
A friend told me later that she had a heated debate with another French teacher and was quite red faced i.e embarrassed.
Later she walked upstairs and brought me some birthday cake but did not say a word just gave me the cake and walked away with a smile. Every time I enter the room she smiles, tried to give my number but was an awkward moment she said thank you but I took it back as I though the approach lame and to be honest a little embarassed as work mates were there. I am gonna try again I with a thank you card and some cakes of my own, but could I be reading the signs all wrong the cake could just be a thank you but she would have said something?? I mean women know what they are doing right?
Girls thoughts please, I don’t want to screw this up and make myself anymore of an idiot. | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/8/2006 7:36:42 AM | | She brought you cake. When a French woman brings a man cake it means she wants to bear his children. | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/8/2006 8:03:38 AM | | well joe could mean many things...but if she gave you a cake....shes interested. i dont bake for just anyone...hehe | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/8/2006 9:07:50 AM | | She does sound interested. A relationship with someone at work can get tricky (both because the relationship could go south and cause drama in the workplace AND because others like to stick their noses into your lives), so proceed with caution and I suggest keeping any relationship to yourselves. However, there's definately no harm in going on a date or two and finding if you have compatibility factors. | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/8/2006 9:18:04 AM | joe this is really simple...
if you never ask you'll never know..
its impossible to guarantee that her "gazes" and signs mean anything.
you are sure you like her...ask her out under any conditions...if she likes ya it wont matter.
there is only one guarantee is this scenario...if you never ask...youll regret it.
And even if she rejects you..well you'll be in no worse position and in some small way it will make it easier to ask the next "beauty" out..lol
god luck mate!
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/8/2006 9:34:17 AM | | Exactly what subotai said... if you don't ask, you'll never know! :) Sink or swim, you gotta give it a shot! | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/8/2006 9:40:27 AM | I disagree.
The woman is new and is trying to fit in. Yes, maybe she is flirty, BUT she is a co-worker, and intially this can be a great time, to flirt and fcku her.
However, it gets old real quick, because at work, there are so many levels of politics, that this will blow up in your face.
Do you value your job?
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/8/2006 10:02:44 AM | repeat after me, "ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS"
if the girl shows some interest to you with her actions, repeat the actions. don't say things just do it.
Don't go out of your way, just sort of appear at the most opportune moment to do things that show
you are different from the other guys in the place.
Just be yourself. | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/8/2006 1:27:20 PM | | Thanks guys - I got to do this - can't stop thinking of her. The last girl I dated I thought she was a ten, this girl knocks her out of the ball park - a perfect 20. I'm risking sounding shallow so I will add that I have never used or abused any woman I have been out with. Although sex with her has, of course crossed my mind I am at a time where I would like a steady relationship with someone level headed, intelligent and nice unlike the last gf who did my head in. lol and I do want to have my cake and eat it too. | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/8/2006 1:44:26 PM | | I would like to here from more women on this subject as well, would you give someone you barely knew some food - I mean women know that food is the way to a mans heart. So by giving the cake and saying nothing she must know I would think she likes likes me, am I right?? | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/8/2006 1:52:03 PM | Do yourself a favor, French or not......... Do not, I repeat DO NOT fish off the company pier!! Or you should ask yourself this question, is she really worth the possibility of losing your job???
As for the cake???? I happen to cook for a lot of my dates whether I like them or not, I love to cook and usually I will take food ramdomly to my family and friends.
She probably does like you, but I wouldn't want to risk my job because of it. What if she is just looking for some poor schmuck to help her start a sexual harrassment law suit, how are the laws in England in regards to that? Food for thought my friend (pun intended). A lot of women do that for the quick buck you know.
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/8/2006 2:01:07 PM |
She brought you cake. When a French woman brings a man cake it means she wants to bear his children.
Noooooo thats if she brings you crepes.. | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/8/2006 2:02:20 PM | | lol - its ok guys first I only covering a maternity leave with no garrantee I will have a job at the end of the month, she is only here for the year. I work in I.T. she is a teaching assistant so we wouldn't see each other that much at work as she works different areas, and hell - the juice is definitely worth the squeeze. | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/8/2006 2:06:47 PM | I can only give you my opinion, as I see it and what I would be thinking, since I am from the south , might be a little different, we smile at most people , and also bring food to ever occasion, it seems and of course always smile when serving, the only polite thing to do Hopefully I am wrong for your sake, but you did ask for an opinion.
Now if she baked the cake especially for you maybe I could be wrong, could be she is trying out her baking skills, lol. | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/8/2006 2:09:16 PM | | Who cares about the stupid cake, it's the smiles, how many smiles do you need before you get it????. lol | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/8/2006 2:25:12 PM | | Must admit I thought all the smiling could be because she is French and also I though that she is way out of my league. | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/8/2006 2:30:49 PM | | You don't say whether this girl bought her birthday cake in for everyone at work or just you... | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/8/2006 11:01:42 PM | | Thats a fair point, actually I don't know if it was her birthday cake, I know that other work collegues did not get a piece and that she walked upstairs to give it to me handed it too me and just walked on. She could have been in a hurry but why would she even bother? My thoughts were immediately, she likes me :) | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/8/2006 11:15:54 PM | | You're analyzing too much. Just ask her out, for an innocent coffee or some lunch. Make it easy for both of you, but if you do lunch, be creative with it. Women - especially french women - dig it when you go the extra mile. | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/9/2006 1:32:33 AM | Wasn't it Marie Antoinette that said 'let them eat cake?'.........
Maybe she's telling you you can have your cake.....and EAT IT too!!! ooo la oui....
Viva La France!!!!! | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/9/2006 5:03:28 AM | Good God Man------you're going to over-analyze this poor girl's possible attraction to you so much that she'll be back home before you make up your mind!! LOL
For Chrissakes just fricking TALK to HER a bit more and stop guessing, assuming, hoping, wishing, over-thinking and everything else BUT moving forward with her. Grab yourself, stir up some courage and make a bit more effort towards her. All she can say is no and then what? Your world won't collapse AND once she's back in France no one will remember anyway!
As must as I hate this phrase "Go for it" it seems very appropriate!!! | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/9/2006 6:10:37 AM | | Well I'm French and I tell you it's the smiles, I doubt she'd be smiling at someone who's not in her league. Someone suggested you take her to a nice restaurant, smart man, but it's not about money it's about good food. Food is a sensual experience, oui? Think of it as a conquest between France and Britain it's in the genes lol. | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/9/2006 7:14:02 AM | As a few others have pointed out, you've just gotta grab the bull by the horns and ask this girl out.
Good Luck! | |
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