| Can only afford $800 on an engagement ring - is that enough to spend in this day and age
Posted: 10/8/2006 6:19:22 PM | I was just reading another thread that was about a guy wanting to buy an engagement ring for his gf, but said he could only afford $800.00 for it. Now do you think that in this day and age that, that is enough to spend on a ring that is going to be on the woman of your dreams firnger for hopefully the rest of her life? I personally believe that a man that wants to marry someone will make an effort to buy a ring that is worth more than that, a ring should be an investment not a pay check... Am I right, I mean I want a man who is going to make a sacrifice for me, any guy can go out and spend one or two checks on a ring......... I don't want to sound bad here but guys spend more than that on there cars, bikes... etc, which break down and need fizing n stuff so isn't she worth more?
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Posted: 10/8/2006 6:30:09 PM | True: I married my wife without a ring 
Both of us have our money tied up on investments we can't afford to pull
out of as it will be costly. When she landed in Vancouver and the proposal
accepted we both went immediately to get our license and with a
cell phone call to "Laura"; marriage commissionaire, we met in 45 minutes in Stanley Park
where we exchanged vows with two tourists as our witnesses. 
My wife, since Sept 8, and I are completely happy although I have a surprise
waiting for her in July/07. A wedding band and an engagement ring. We
will re-state our vows in a resort complete with 50 friends (a very nice surprise
she does not know is coming).
A girl who was willing to marry me without all the hoopla and expenses is a girl
that DESERVES the best. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 6:30:35 PM | Hmm, well I'm not a guy but here is my tidbit
If and when I decide to marry the man of my dreams... hell he could put a twist tie on my finger, I find marriage to be overrated now. People going on TV trying to marry a man who is involved with 25 other women eliminating them down each week. These Bridezilla shows where the woman totally forgets the reason why she is getting married in the first place.
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Posted: 10/8/2006 6:38:01 PM | | Ooh, your asking for it alright. Hows $1600 bucks? is that good, no? How about we up the ante & shell out $2467.98? is that good? No? ok then lets say $4556.78, the car, the bike, my left nut, the house & all the Halloween candy too?......sacrifice enough?......Didn't think so.......Well hows this for an idea, I just love you undauntingly, truthfully & faithfully the rest of your life?.....its all I got sweetheart. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 6:41:04 PM | I read somewhere that the ring should equal 6 months pay.
Now my take on this is you should buy what you can afford.
There are young people who are going out spending alot of money on a wedding, buying his and her new cars, and a over priced house. they are in over their head from day one.
I say keep it simple and live within your means. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 6:41:12 PM |  You know there's another way. Getting her the PERFECT diamond.
It is manufactured and is more perfect than what nature can create.
How do they detect it's manufactured? It's TOOOOO perfect.
Save your money and have one created. She'll be convinced it's
worth $20k when you've only paid $3k for it....it's not the
price that matters but the quality, right? Right! So my wife deserves
quality.
Read this! $5 per CARAT!!! And it's FLAWLESS!!
http://extremetechnology.blogspot.com/2006/02/yes-theyre-real.html | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 6:43:26 PM |
I just love you undauntingly, truthfully & faithfully the rest of your life?.....its all I got sweetheart. Spoken like a truely rich man, very very nice Real!  | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 6:46:07 PM | Wow...no I don't agree. At all.
If the man I loved proposed to me with a plastic 25cent vending machine ring...it would mean just as much...There is no need to put a price on it.
I think that to many people these days are very materialistic...bigger=better...Eh...to each their own I suppose.
But people are different. The man I marry will know that it really does not matter to me. I mean come on...they are offering you their everything.
I am sure that the man you marry will know what type of ring you would like...and will shop accordingly.
Every woman is different.
But to be honest...with the man I loved it would not be an issue...Hopefully when the moment happens for you, the ring will be the last thing on your mind. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 6:46:13 PM | | The woman who measures the value of a ring by its cost doesn't deserve one. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 6:47:22 PM | Wow.....and men ask why SOME women are golddiggers.
I think, it's a very sad thing you are a woman. I wish people did not measure love with the amount of money. What the hell is happening to this world?! What the hell does a ring do? Does it love you back? Does it give you a shoulder when you want to lean on someone? Does it share your happiness when you are bubbling out of it? Will it be there for you when you just want to lie down after a long hard day of work? If it matters to you so much, earn your own damn money and buy it!
I'm sorry but it's just not fair that the rest of the women get a bad reputation because of a bunch of greedy women!
This is very, very sad. I'm truly flabbergasted.
I will not be surprised if all men go on a marriage strike one day after reading the original post.
You want my answer? Here it is. No amount of money can buy me or my affection for anyone. Not one dollar and not 1 billion. I have too much self respect to be just bought by anyone with money. The only thing that could buy my affection for him would be his genuine affection for me not affection wrapped in the form of a metal! | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 6:49:52 PM | | ^^^^^what she said!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 6:54:16 PM | Seriously, how much do you want the guy to spend???
$2000 or more???
I am not a girl so I don't know at what price range is consider having a nice ring. But isn't the thought count??
To me, it sort of like if someone buy you a gift and you turn around and say it's not good enough. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 7:02:33 PM | On second thought I would hand her the catalog and tell her to pick out whatever ring she wanted, Money is no object!!!!
Ofcourse I will be handing her the Fingerhut catalog. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 7:28:54 PM | There was a rule of thumb that stated that an engagement ring should cost 2 months salary. Of course, that rule of thumb was created by DeBeers, who control 80% of the world market on diamonds. They even had a commercial that said "how can you make 2 months salary last a lifetime?"
Now they say it's 6 months? That's just crazy!
And how are you supposed to pay for the wedding and honeymoon? "Oh honey I'm glad you said yes. I figure that we can afford to get married in 6 years, have our honeymoon 3 years after than, then just another decade or so until we can save up for a house and start thinking about having kids" | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 7:28:58 PM | | Ok I obviously came off wrong on this, of course I want love, unconditional love, and your all right by saying that a ring can't love you back and all that, but the reason I posted this is because it seems like all my gf's are getting engaged, and they are all going on and on about there rings, they are all amazing girls and deserve the rings they have, I just wanted to know what guys thought about buying them... which kinda back fired because way more women posted then guys! Oh well | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 7:31:43 PM | Wow, as a man who has been in the position of at least looking at engagement ring, I'd have to say that they can get damned right outrageous. I'm sorry, I would NEVER ask a woman to buy me a functionless trinket for anywhere near 1000$, and to think that if I were a woman, I'd be able to scoff at a 1000$ ring, wow. It's truly an amazing day. The ring should represent your love, and as far as I know, you cannot put a price on that. If a man is willing to spend 800$ on your ring because that is what he can afford, then that should tell you how important you are, that he is spending all of his available money to let you know that you're special.
I want to say that I appreciate all of the women who shy away from society's standards of pretense and materialism. When I buy an engagement ring, I will buy the one that I believe will light up her eyes when I give it to her, because that's what I want it to do, not simply because it is what I think she expects. Some women might be surprised at what a man will do when he doesn't feel that there is some expectation to meet. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 7:34:56 PM | | Women who "go on and on" about each other's rings are doing so because most are catty and competitive creatures. This is not news to most of us here on the other side of the playground, us guys know it and have been forced to accept it. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 7:36:34 PM | "If a man is willing to spend 800$ on your ring because that is what he can afford, then that should tell you how important you are, that he is spending all of his available money to let you know that you're special."
Exactly. I was gonna say that but wasn't sure how to put it right. It's not the cost of the ring because each of us in different financial stage. If a guy is a millionair and he went out and buy a $800 ring, obviously he doesn't show much love toward his lady. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 7:38:37 PM | and they are all going on and on about there rings,
Do they go on and about their man and what he had to 'sacrifice' to buy that ring?
More than likely not.
I feel badly for the men when it comes to this. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 7:41:51 PM | I remember back in the day LOL... Like who cares about back in the day but. when i did propose to my ex i didn't have a nickle. she seemed upset that i didn't have a ring so i got creative. I was a painter at the time so I did about 8 quotes to secure the downpayments on the jobs. I got enough for a ring that she chose with was about 400 dollars back then. however the amount of labor i did for free for that damn ring was about 3000 dollars. I wanted to make sure i got the deposits so i bit very low on the jobs. She never knew for a lot of years what i did to get the ring. but when she did the ring ended up meaning more to her. when we seperated she did return the wedding band but guess what she kept. lol... I'm not sure if its the amount of money payed but what meaning it has. If someone has a lot of money what difference does it make if its 10,000 dollars or even a hundred thousand. My mom is into jewlery, but shes smart about it. she has a freind who is a dimond buyer. and another who is a gold smith. what would cost someone thirty thousand only cost her 10,000 tops. and let me tell you some of her rings are stunning, not the crap that i see on a lot of womens fingers these days... So again money doesn't buy happiness well not saying 10,000 isn't a lot for a ring.
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Posted: 10/8/2006 7:41:57 PM | | The sound of a future divorcée... | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 7:44:21 PM | Honestly I think that alot of the women on here are LYING all women want nice engagement rings.... these women are all trying to look good............ I don't care about looking good on here and I do believe that an engagement ring means ALOT!! So does love and feelings and wanting to be with someone forever but the ring is an extensionof all that!
And my girlfriends talk about there men way more than there rings, and they are all in love and so are the guys and they think that there gf's were worth expenxive rings! | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 7:46:45 PM | No? ok then lets say $4556.78, the car, the bike, my left nut, the house & all the Halloween candy too?
Well, if you're talking Halloween candy . . . screw the ring, I'm in for the candy! But I get all the chocolate bars till death do us part!  
Edit^^^^ Nice. So the women on here who don't happen to agree with you (of whom I am definitely one) are liars? Sheesh. Frankly, I don't want something on my finger that someone might kill me for. I'll skip the ring altogether, thanks. If I were to get married (God forbid, LOL), I'd prefer a plain band to anything else.
And let's face it: a fancy ring can equal the cost of a down payment on a HOUSE, for cryin' out loud. If we're going to start throwing that much money around, let's at least spend it on something practical (like the aforementioned down payment).
Also, what if he can't afford an expensive ring? Would you really want him to go into debt and borrow the money for a "nice" ring?? I'm thinking I'd rather start my marriage debt-free, thanks - even if that means wearing a $2 ring from the county fair (which a friend of mine actually did, and still does, much to her husband's amusement - LOL).
Just my .02. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 7:47:35 PM | "Honestly I think that alot of the women on here are LYING all women want nice engagement rings.... these women are all trying to look good............ I don't care about looking good on here and I do believe that an engagement ring means ALOT!! So does love and feelings and wanting to be with someone forever but the ring is an extensionof all that! "
Oh....so just because we disagree, we become liars eh?
Well, sorry but even if I wanted to lie, I could not. In my culture, engagement ring does not matter as much as the vow does and the marriage ceremony does. I was raised that way, my parents were raised that way, that's why they are still together. I'm sure if my mom was a materialistc woman, my dad would have gotten tired of her even before I was born. But she was not and is not and they are still together. I hope to have what my parents have, that's why I'm not materialistic. Not all women share the same values. That's why I don't give any importance to "rings". Not to mention the fact that I am allergic to rings and also the fact that I don't give a hoot about a man's money. If I did, I'd easily marry a 45 year old man and be his trophy wife.
Not all women care about this stuff and not all women are materialistic. Sorry to burst your bubble though. Ask someone to fix it for you , will ya. And send the bill to some poor guy who will end up buying the ring to suit your senseless whims.
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Posted: 10/8/2006 7:49:17 PM |
Honestly I think that alot of the women on here are LYING all women want nice engagement rings.... these women are all trying to look good............
Easy there... you had no issue starting this thread and making yourself come across as such, but don't assume that ALL or MOST of us women here share the same values as you.
Nice doesn't always equal an 'investment' that equals the amount of a car or a house.
Trying to look good? you place too much emphasis on what others think. | |
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