| Co-workers...... Potential Partners or Terrible Trouble
Posted: 10/8/2006 11:46:09 PM | I have often wondered if a fellow co-worker can be a potential partner?
I work at a large company and there are a number of great looking women that I am attracted to, they are all smart and funny, and have an enormous relationship potential. What bothers me is I have a small voice in the back of my head that says getting involved with someone at work is trouble and I should stay away.
Is the prospect of being shot down in your place of employment a potential hazard of dating? Or does the risk outweigh the reward? | |
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| Co-workers...... Potential Partners or Terrible Trouble
Posted: 10/8/2006 11:56:59 PM | Is it me ??????...hehehe
well, I have always said don't do it unless one of you are prepared to leave your job,
and only if you are both on equivalent levels - do not mix managers with employees or
supervisors with mgrs - you must be equal or forget it!
I did have a 5 year relationship with a co-worker - but we worked in different
departments and different times some days - it made it very difficult to end the relationship
seeing each other every day , not being able to let go. Finally I left the company,
which made it easier to leave the relationship.
just my experience - but I also believe in listening to your heart! | |
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| Co-workers...... Potential Partners or Terrible Trouble
Posted: 10/9/2006 12:02:06 AM | If a small voice is talking, LISTEN!!! that is your subconcious trying to IM you. Never disregard that little voice or you may very well regret it.
OT- My policy is to keep my work & personal life completely separate. Do I really want to see someone I date day in & day out? Nope - not really & I have seen some truly ugly confrontations performed in a place of business. Too tacky  | |
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| Co-workers...... Potential Partners or Terrible Trouble
Posted: 10/9/2006 12:10:00 AM |
Dame - he is a guy, the small voice he hears is not the same as ours
I think it is the same voice that you hear. It is being drowned out by the louder voices though.
And that is why I am listening to it........... | |
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| Co-workers...... Potential Partners or Terrible Trouble
Posted: 10/9/2006 12:19:09 AM | ^^See, what happens to the pofers - we all hear voices
small ones and loud ones - the point is there are many voices we all hear here
can we get someone to stop the voices? -are they the bancamper's we hear yelling at us?
I would just do it Mikel - if you are prepared for the consequences -
as long as it isn't the bosses daughter!
VVVV look down there Dame Miss Chevious yourmatch - check out his profile! | |
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Joined: 9/2/2006
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| Co-workers...... Potential Partners or Terrible Trouble
Posted: 10/9/2006 12:35:51 AM | well then mikel - carry on
keep admiring from afar - let another man swoop her up
and watch them dance off into the sunset
and keep your job - alone - ever after
(ps - its usually the woman that leaves the workplace 9/10 times) | |
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| Co-workers...... Potential Partners or Terrible Trouble
Posted: 10/9/2006 12:48:35 AM |
keep admiring from afar - let another man swoop her up
and watch them dance off into the sunset
and keep your job - alone - ever after
That will probably happen, it has happened before, and it will probably happen again.
But I will keep my job......until I retire in seven years. | |
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| Co-workers...... Potential Partners or Terrible Trouble
Posted: 10/9/2006 12:50:56 AM | I think you should listen big time to that small voice....and I would add RUN from the thoughts of getting involved...its risky, it can get very complicated...and unless you both can be real adult about it, and thats very hard to discern before hand (look how most marriages break up very nasty), I would look beyond work......and this is from experience talking | |
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| Co-workers...... Potential Partners or Terrible Trouble
Posted: 10/9/2006 12:51:44 AM |
well, I have always said don't do it unless one of you are prepared to leave your job,
and only if you are both on equivalent levels - do not mix managers with employees or
supervisors with mgrs - you must be equal or forget it!
I must disagree a little with that, cuz I actually grew enuff balls to ask my fellow employee out being a supervisor and she being a regular employee. Things would of worked out if it weren't for inexperience and medling parents.
And yes she left the company, but so did I and now I am once again in the same predicament.
But this time, I am in a higher position, oh this time around sucks!!! | |
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| Co-workers...... Potential Partners or Terrible Trouble
Posted: 10/9/2006 12:57:43 AM | nope wouldn't do it , too many entanglements and reprecussions. Same company is okay but it has to be different offices. Pple are always gossiping as it's human nature and some pple do live vicariously through others as they have no life of their own or unhappy with their own lives.
what if the relationship didn't work out r u willing to relocate to parts unknown or is she?
Listen to that small voice otherwise known as ur concience or if u have that sixth sense known as intuition. It needs to be amplifed in order not to be ignored.
When I've done that ignored that little wee voice all hell broke lose and still am paying the price for that one.
OT: there are lots of beautiful pple in the world and it all depends how hard u are willing to find them and whether you'll willing to do what it takes.
BTW: there are tons of beautiful women on the BC pond so u don't really have to travel far and we certainly don't bite. There are no piranahas here! 
Just come out and make the move, simple as that! Nothing more and nothing less.
TTYL | |
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| Co-workers...... Potential Partners or Terrible Trouble
Posted: 10/9/2006 1:10:36 AM | | Where I work people jump around from partner to partner all the time ,One lady has had a relationship with four men In the place.It's just a big ugly soap opra ,and no one ever finds that right person. It's just one more reason I'm on P,O.F. | |
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| Co-workers...... Potential Partners or Terrible Trouble
Posted: 10/9/2006 7:06:39 AM | | Alot of variables here, but perhaps my suggestion to you Mikel is to find out first if they even would like to go with someone, would save you alot of grief my man. I don't see anything wrong with the idea of seeing someone at work, it is a possibilty that life wanted you to meet someone there, we never know until we try, besides, if the signs are good coming from the ladies in question that they might have an interest in you too, then hey, pitter patter and get at er'. Sometimes we get ahead of ourselves and see the extended "BIG" picture in our lives, the down the road scenario, but with everything, we first need to get in the car in order to go anywhere...good luck to you Mikel, hope it works out... | |
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| Co-workers...... Potential Partners or Terrible Trouble
Posted: 10/9/2006 8:25:37 AM |
Dame - he is a guy the small voice he hears is not the same as ours
its Gazoo the little alien that tells guys to do her - do her now - you know dumb stuff
^^^ You kill me Dustine
OT: I worked for a company where I was the exec sec. to the GM, he was married, although very shakily. We needed to hire a receptionist, and this blonde woman walked by his office window, he called up to the accts dept., and said make sure this girl get an interview. Well...long story short, they hired her, he started screwing her, every other woman in the office who'd been there for well over 5 years, got pissed because this woman was getting all kinds of perks...more money, more days off, more of everything. Two women quit and moved on to other jobs, I and another co-worker with 17 years of seniority between us....were laid-off due to downsizing and restructuring..."cough, cough" the new woman got to keep her high paying payroll job and we got the boot. Nice....
Eventully the GM got fired, the stupid bimbo left company at the same time .... apparently due to conflict of interest... 'roll eyes'... and everyone lived happily ever after. Myself and the other senior woman never needed to lose our jobs..... but you know... this man thought with his d*ck and no amount of committment, loyality and effort towards to company was of any value at all. Left a real bitter after taste and I do see the woman on occaission... not nice....
So Mikel.... think about what this may create in the long term... that's all. If you're going to go out with someone from work, consider everyone else and the effects. | |
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| Co-workers...... Potential Partners or Terrible Trouble
Posted: 10/9/2006 9:25:35 AM | I work for a company and there are no fewer than 10 couples that gave met and even married there ,so far I am the only one who it hasnt worked out for,so they seem to beat the divorce odds.
I also have dated a woman that works with me,we had a great time together ,and now we are still good friends,so who knows ,it depends on the people I think more so than the space you meet in. | |
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| Co-workers...... Potential Partners or Terrible Trouble
Posted: 10/9/2006 3:19:26 PM | Why, as a matter of fact you do..... Its you, D.......
Why else would I make a thread like this?
I would hope (at this point) you don't.
The last thing I need is people talking at work about something that hasn't happened. | |
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| Co-workers...... Potential Partners or Terrible Trouble
Posted: 10/9/2006 3:30:58 PM | Can we all say "sexual harassment"? Like it or not, if you even suggest dating a woman you work with, which is innappropriate during work hours, she can slap you with a sexual harassment complaint.
So, is it worth it?? Nope! | |
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| Co-workers...... Potential Partners or Terrible Trouble
Posted: 10/9/2006 3:38:26 PM | been there...done that.....would i do it again.....probably not.....it was fun while it lasted and trying to keep it a secret from other co-workers was fun and exciting (out in public we were only hangout friends which was hard)....but when it ended it was uncomfortable to be around eachother at work....she transfered to another store and i lost a good friend because of it
cheers A  | |
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