| What to do when a drunk guy gets in your face?
Posted: 10/14/2006 8:37:49 AM | This one guy, several years ago, sat down at my table at the bar, univited and proceeded to hit on my (then)wife. I didn't like the guy, neither did she. I asked the waitress to talk to him or I was going to talk to him myself. She did and the guy left stayed on the other side of the bar since then.
I see this guy at the bar lots. He gets totally hammered and he's one of those "too friendly" drunks.
I went to the bar last night and he was there again. I didn't care that he was hitting on and hanging off of half the ladies in the bar. Most tolerated it, some even liked it. EEWWW!!! but not my problem.
It became my problem when he stood behind me while I was sitting and he puts his arm around me, gets right in my face and starts spouting drunken drivel. I can put up with that for maybe 5 seconds. Then I asked him nicely to back up. He didn't. I asked him again not so nicely, he told me he was an a$$hole. To which I agreed. I poked his nose with my finger hoping to bug him and get him to back up. He says... If you ever do that again, I'm gonna...
That's when I stood up and shoved him back. Damn, I wanted to deck him! This guy seems to be one of the bars pets. The whole bar was watching at this point. Everyone was telling me it wasn't worth it. I put my arm around him. Told him to walk the other way and I'll sit down. I gave his chest a bit of a pat, gently pushed him back out of my way, and sat down with my back to him.
He sat down and started talking to me about 5 minutes later. I told him very clearly, "I don't want to talk to you." Turned my back to him and ignored him. He didn't bother me again after that.
I go to this bar every now and then. Chances are I will run into him again. Chances are he's going to be drunk and too friendly again. What should I do if he get's in my face again? I'm really tempted to pop him. | |
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| What to do when a drunk guy gets in your face?
Posted: 10/14/2006 8:49:04 AM | Let's say that you hammer him..you only hammered the booze..not the guy and he will do it again next time he's drunk.
So far you did the right things, keep it cool, everything is in the way you look straight in the eyes of a guy, not the words that much; strenght of personality, force of character.
Most of those loose interest on you the second you deprive them with any form of verbal interaction and move along.
there is NO magical ways, as he might be drinking in excess for many reasons, so methodes change depending also on that.
Piece of advice: next time, never turn your back on a drunken guy again...you never know. | |
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| What to do when a drunk guy gets in your face?
Posted: 10/14/2006 8:52:34 AM |
This one guy, several years ago, sat down at my table at the bar, univited and proceeded to hit on my (then)wife. I didn't like the guy, neither did she. I asked the waitress to talk to him or I was going to talk to him myself.
please tell me I am not reading this. | |
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| What to do when a drunk guy gets in your face?
Posted: 10/14/2006 8:58:14 AM | ^^^you're not reading this
I hear you about the not turning my back on him part, but if I didn't, I'm standing there looking at him feeling like I'm gonna kick his ass. If I kept looking at him, what? It becomes a staring contest with a drunk who's too stupid to walk away. I'm not worried about losing face and decking him/not decking him, I just want the guy to leave me to my space. I think the mistake I made in the first place is standing up or maybe provoking him by poking his nose.
I know the guy is not out for a fight. He's just being his "friendly" self. I'm looking for a peacable way to prevent this from happening again. This is a small town and I don't want to be getting into fights here. Rumors fly too easy and I don't want that kind of reputation. Still, I'd rather pop him than have him hang off of me again. Staying away from the bar is not really the option here. Popping him is also not really the option here.
Commonsens, it seems you might have some martial arts training by the look of your profile. I know avoiding a fight is better than being able to finish it.
How do I deal with him if he puts his arm around me again. I'm not going to make any empty threats to him. I'm not going to tell him I'm gonna break his arm unless I actually plan on doing it. | |
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| What to do when a drunk guy gets in your face?
Posted: 10/14/2006 9:17:14 AM | 1. Walk Away
2. Get the then wife to get him removed from the bar. Women can easily go up to bouncers and get alomst anyone removed.. if you go to a bouncer and ask, they will laugh, wait for a fight then kick you both out.
3. Laugh at him, then walk away. Boy that will piss him off.
4. Head butt to the nose works Awesome!
5. Grab him by the "twig and berrys" and squeeze really hard, then ask him nicely to back off.. Works like a charm!
6. Get the GF to kick the shit out of him. Thats always a blast!
7. I donno im just rambling on at this point. kinda fun though!
8. There is no 8.. Im done. I Think...  | |
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| What to do when a drunk guy gets in your face?
Posted: 10/14/2006 9:22:27 AM | I really considered the head but when I was sitting there with his face in mine before I even got up.
There are no bouncers at this bar. Only a couple of lady bartenders. I've seen them stop fights easily enough.
I think next time, I'm gonna just get up, push past him, and go out for a smoke.
options 4, 5, and 6 are the ones I want to avoid but would so love to do them. | |
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e-wok
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Joined: 9/25/2006
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| What to do when a drunk guy gets in your face?
Posted: 10/14/2006 9:27:38 AM | Easy solution.....CALL THE COPS! It is ILLEGAL to be drunk in a public
place. The little bar you hang out of loves this alcoholic and feed his
habit for money. Describe him to the 911 operator but don't get
caught....if managment finds out it was you you'll never be allowed
to come back again.
I never buy into bad behaviour because he's only "drunk" - that's BS.
He lost his inhibitions and is more honest NOW than he's EVER been
in his entire alcoholic life. | |
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| What to do when a drunk guy gets in your face?
Posted: 10/14/2006 9:42:48 AM | Putting his arm around you, by law, is assault. Very well could be taken as a threat. So, basically, if you go the "headbutt to the nose" route, you're safe.
Now, I have my local watering hole, and I know it's not wise to be fighting where I frequent most. But, if some jackass gets in my face day in/day out, no matter how many times I've asked nicely to f*ck off, he will get the message one way or another.
The bathroom is a great place to f*ck someone up. Usually no security, and no one jumps in.....too busy using porcelain. Providing you win, you can go about your pint with no one the wiser.
Or, get a buddy to smack the shite out of him. See, these guys don't go away. Like a fly at a barbeque. It's sad that they're always like that, and feel sorry for them.
I know fighting isn't the answer...... perhaps a good thrashing will wake him up. | |
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| What to do when a drunk guy gets in your face?
Posted: 10/14/2006 9:54:56 AM | I'm not gonna call the cops because he is putting his arm around me.
Other than Commonsens, the rest of the guys seem to think a thrashing of some sort might be in order. | |
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| What to do when a drunk guy gets in your face?
Posted: 10/14/2006 9:56:49 AM | Hitting the guy is gonna get ugly, justified or not, however I can't say it's not worth it.
To the random bar guy, there is no good solution. If this guy is a regular however, maybe contacting the owner would be a good idea.
I understand it's illegal to be drunk in a public place, but does that include privately owned and licensed bars? I don't suggest 911, a drunk guy isn't an immediate emergency. | |
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| What to do when a drunk guy gets in your face?
Posted: 10/14/2006 10:32:42 AM | cpg^^^
That actually sounds like a solution. It worked for me the first time by talking to the bartender/waitress to say something to him.
If I see him there again, I'll ask her to tell him to stay away from me. If he comes up to me after that... At least he was warned. | |
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e-wok
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Joined: 9/25/2006
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| What to do when a drunk guy gets in your face?
Posted: 10/14/2006 10:44:22 AM | "Privately owned" establishments are still PUBLIC places and are openly inviting
the public to enter. If you are a MEMBER of a club...paying yearly dues, you are
argueably permited to be drunk. Bars, restraunts, pubs....it's ILLEGAL. There's
no clause in the law that allows for you to get pissed drunk at
such and such a location.
IRVING, Texas -- The Texas Alcoholic Beverage Commission has taken its fight against drunken driving to a new level. TABC agents, along with Irving police, targeted 36 bars and clubs Friday, arresting some allegedly intoxicated patrons before they departed the businesses.
The officers and agents also kept watch on bartenders who might have over-served patrons.
Agents arrested 30 people Friday night. Most of the suspects now face charges of public intoxication.
The agents and Irving police officers traveled from bar to bar and worked undercover, according to an NBC 5 report.
The report also said that some agents shared tables with suspected drunken patrons. Some patrons were subjected to field sobriety tests inside bars.
Agents and officers said the operation represented an effort to reduce drunken driving.
Sgt. Chris Hamilton, of the TABC, said some inebriated bar patrons "end up killing themselves or someone else" after departing the businesses. | |
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| What to do when a drunk guy gets in your face?
Posted: 10/14/2006 10:57:06 AM | I agree with those who point out that this guy needs to have a sit down with a cop, then a lawyer, a judge and finally a rehab.
Get his name next time, if you don't know it already. Charge him with assault and harrassment.
The guy's a d!ckweed who shouldn't be out in public. Chances are you aren't the only one who's really bugged by him. | |
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| What to do when a drunk guy gets in your face?
Posted: 10/14/2006 11:56:08 AM | Step 1. Avoid him. if that doens't work...
Step 2. Ask him to go away.
Step 3. Inform him that really, he's pissing you off. Try to get management involved.
Step 4. Tell him that there are two options: he backs off or you both go outside for a man dance.
Step 5. Fight. Make sure you win, but don't cause any permanent damage.
I would advise against the spontaneous crushing blow while he's sitting down with you, easy win, but it will not look good in the eyes of your town or local judge. A proper stand-up behind the bar that you both agreed to is a lot less likely to get police involved and doesn't make you look like an ovvereactive pyscho. | |
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| What to do when a drunk guy gets in your face?
Posted: 10/14/2006 1:53:14 PM | He didn't step outside when I invited him too. Just stood there like a dummy. I did give him a good shove back when I got up. He came back and I held him back by placing my left hand against his chest. He was too drunk to even remove my hand though he tried. I would have loved to go outside with him. I didn't want to deck him in the middle of the bar with everyone watching. I also didn't think it'd be fair to kick his ass because he was so drunk. Especially when all the ladies around me said he's not worth it.
Damn guy doesn't even smoke so I can't follow him outside. I'm not gonna follow him into the bathroom but that does sound funny. In High School I tried to drag some twerp into the bathroom after french class. He clung to the frame of the door. He looked so pathetic and scared I figure I did my job and let him go. He kept bugging me in french class.. I told him he was gonna get it. He never did end up getting it but he sure as hell left me alone after I tried to make good on my threat.
I almost hope he does try something next time we meet. I know that's a bad attitude but... I'll avoid him if possible. If he makes it impossible... This is the first time that he bothered me specifically since that thing with my ex. Maybe, hopefully, he's got the hint. | |
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| What to do when a drunk guy gets in your face?
Posted: 10/14/2006 3:14:26 PM | Red you are aware that here in Canada it is illegal to serve anyone that is noticably impairred?
The bar can lose it's liquor lic. , and is open to lawsuits if this clown leaves and gets behind the wheel then takes someone out. The bar owner may "help" you by ejecting this particular customer once they realise how much money this one drunk can cost them...... in the end it always comes down to dollars and cents. | |
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| What to do when a drunk guy gets in your face?
Posted: 10/14/2006 4:21:51 PM | RSP: Lol you are to damn nice. You Asked him to step out side? lol I thought that was something that died in the mid 60's. Don't ask. Just drag like you did in HS. He's drunk off of his ass, so you won't get into trouble as long as you don't maime him or something. Yeah, he may not remember the whoopin, but he'll remember a black eye and some bruises.
This guy sounds like he needs a beating for his own good to get him to realize his problem. | |
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| What to do when a drunk guy gets in your face?
Posted: 10/14/2006 5:29:42 PM | I didn't want to fight in the bar with everyone telling me not to. If he woulda stepped outside...
He didn't finish his threat to me. I poked his nose and he said, "if you ever do that again, I'm gonna..."
I said, "do what" and I stood up and shoved him. | |
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| What to do when a drunk guy gets in your face?
Posted: 10/14/2006 6:28:04 PM | It's a jungle out there. Sounds like you did alright. Maybe he just wasn't aware that it was a problem. If he gets aggressive as a drunk, you have to project images of his destruction to him with your mind. There may or may not be such a thing as esp but it'll come out in your eyes.
If you grab, push or punch him first, you're the aggressor. You are only allowed to use reasonable force under the law. If he's in your space - a 4 to 10 foot diameter - yapping or acting dangerous, ask him to back off (like you did). If's he's closer, say within a distance that he could sucker punch you, I think its ok to push him back. If that doesn't solve it you could say "hey bud lets go out for a smoke/a talk." Go outside. Fewer witnesses. Have a friendly talk.
The police don't really give a shit about this kind of stuff. Just don't do something in front of witnesses that compels them to write a report or arrest your ass. | |
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| What to do when a drunk guy gets in your face?
Posted: 10/14/2006 7:54:41 PM | This is the only bar in town that I feel is worth going to. I don't go to the bar that often anyways. I've seen him around the bar most often when I go at some point but usually across the room. This is the only time it's come close to something physical.
The time with my ex... He wasn't bothering me directly. Yeah, sure he was bothering my ex and I felt like kicking his teeth out, I solved that situation in a peacable manner.
This time it was my face he was in. I'm not gonna go crying to the waitress that this man is bothering me. | |
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| What to do when a drunk guy gets in your face?
Posted: 10/15/2006 7:33:09 AM | | I would say that if after your last little shoving match he still won't go outside he doesn't have any right to be in your face...so dragging him outside would be somewhat appropriate. | |
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