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Posted: 10/15/2006 1:20:56 PM | I'm not sure where to put this but since it has to do with dating I guess this forum might be the proper venue.
I have decided to not have any more dating experiences from here. I'm sick and tired of all the insincere people who play games. They arrange a date and never show up, never calls so the dating experience is zero.
I am done with online dating. I am going to delete my profile. It's just not worth it.
Does anyone else feel like me? That it's not worth it?
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Posted: 10/15/2006 1:29:43 PM | POF is kinda like life, there will be bumps along the road. Maybe you could try a different approach to get where you want to be. All the gobbers out there get to us and make us want to quit. All ya can do is try, personally I have never regreted at least trying.
If you feel that fed up, then maybe taking a break is the right thing.
What ever you decide, go get um ! | |
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Posted: 10/15/2006 1:54:19 PM | I agree with you, there are too many pretenders on this site. It seems like everytime I get interested in someone they stop talking to me.. Before we even meet! I think that maybe alot of the people are married and just living a fantasy world through online dating,,(Ya know, while the wife is away..) One guy asked me to call him, then gave me his office number because in his words "It is much easier to reach me there!" Others have made dates to meet, then canceled at the last minute. I am almost ready to give up myself!
Claudia | |
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Posted: 10/15/2006 2:07:04 PM | | i agree, i feel that people are getting a chance to be flirty and get a bit of salt n pepper on their fish n chips life, but not willing to meet up, just getting a kick out of something that teases thier fantasies, its annoying, i think the danger of internet dating is that it becomes a mental experience, and people dont meet up down the pub for an in the body experience, i think you have to be careful not to get entwined in people like this, and maybe if they dont meet us after a couple of weeks, then they are time wasters. i recon anyway. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2006 2:38:26 PM |
The whole thread sounds like a pity party to me. Maybe you just like and attract jerks. You should soul search what it is you're looking for in a man because you're likely to meet and attract the same type of man no matter where you meet them unless you change your approach.
This is my whole thinking word for word...........I could say the exact same thing has been happening to me OP, but I have decided that I am totally changing WHAT I look for in a partner and that goes for looks, job, geographics, etc.
Need to change something within yourself is my thinking, I know I have had to or I will continue to stay that stalled car on a deserted road. Just a thought. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2006 2:38:37 PM | Perhaps you should look at this from another perspective! I find the best way to avoid disappointment in the cyberdating world is to "expect nothing". When I do go out on a date....I make a point of just going out and having a nice time. If there is a connection, great....but if not, thats OK to....it was fun...and better than sitting home doing nothing!
I have also included a blurb in my profile....that I don't plan on spending countless hours with online chatting and emailing. If we agree there's a mutal attraction....let's exchange telephone numbers, chat a bit....then meet! I usually meet people within the first week or two from the intial communication. I find when you pursue online chatting or emailing forever...an attachment does develop....and I don't want any attachment or bonding with someone I will never meet....or someone I will have no chemistry with when we do meet face to face. Plus, meeting early also makes it much easier to say...thanks, but no thanks....if there really isn't any mutual chemistry. 
I'm sure if you try this....you will find the cyberdating experience easier to handle. Happy Fishing  | |
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Posted: 10/15/2006 2:45:30 PM | After the dinner date I had this week I feel the same way, but keep plugging along hoping something better will come my way.
I had a great time with the guy. Then it ended with a handshake and "I will call you tomorrow night."........I ended up blowing my Friday night with a phone call that never came........and confusion over what the hell happened.......we had a great time.
I really do not think it is this web site.......I just feel there are alot of guys out there that just do not know what they want.......or do not want to commit to a good woman......"God forbid if someone comes along and snaps their wings off.........eeek!
Good luck........when God is willing he will send the right one your way whether it be this site or the new mail man. LOL Don't give up hope or you will be throwing away your dreams. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2006 3:02:17 PM | i wouldnt waste time complaining about men who dont show up... i'd take it as a blessing to free up time to find someone more worthy
simple as that | |
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Posted: 10/15/2006 3:05:59 PM | I'm sorry you had some bad experiences here, but you are inviting these kinds of responses by your post. I'm sure you are going to leave after you contact your friends, and not come back, because it's futile? No, you are just reacting. If you do leave, you will be back soon after I think. Good luck, whatever you decide. 
I've met some good friends here, and that has overshadowed the negatives for me. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2006 3:15:02 PM | I think Bikerbabii has the right to voice her opinion on what she is deciding to do....it may come across as a pity thing, but I think it is just a cry out at the kind of situations we have when we try to find that elusive partner. All we want is to be happy...the sad reality of it is that we have to weed through some of the less desired ones to get there....I guess it's a thing called ...DATING.
I say keep trying.....just put more emphasis on the quality you are looking for and edit out the rest by using bigger words...(they won't understand them and get scared)  | |
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Posted: 10/15/2006 3:16:27 PM | In reply to the question asked
at the end of the opening for
this thread, YES I am rather
discouraged or fed up with this
site as it is NO better opportunity
than any other site in comparison.
OP, I HOPE you get to reach your
friends before someone actually
does decide to play Vigilante and
/or mod and take it upon themself
to report the thread instead of
being mature enough to just walk away
from this thread and not start an issue.
It seems to apply that if you have NOTHING
nice to say , then don't say ANYTHING
at all.
WHY so many seem to be SO quick to
report a thread instead of NOT participate
either makes me feel they have had a thread deleted
at one point and are spiteful OR they are just so bored
on here to look for a thread they can "find fault with".
I saw that you asked IF others felt as you do,
so I reply in sticking to that topic
and say I share the view,
it is a lost cause for dating it feels like on here.
Had ONE guy that actually met
but that was like an "interview" feeling
the next guy repeatedly was SO complimenting
and even talked by phone to set up a meeting
and did NOT follow through, now a third guy
is still showing an interest but he is NOT able
to coordinate when even though we talk by phone
as he now says he dislikes using the computer..
and yet I discovered he is on another site also.
SO..bottom line is I see why you could feel this way
and I have to agree. TOO many options for some
and not enough sincere interest to find someone
by all too many.
Best Wishes in your search, whatever route you take.
I stay on here for now as I have made friends that I
look forward to hearing from and this is where we met.
I have dating on my profile choice still as that is what
I originally came on here in hopes to find. Call me optimistic.
I just place NO expectation of finding that in the long run now. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2006 3:42:57 PM | | No your not alone,im sure there are alot on here that feel the same as u do,..I know i do. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2006 4:00:57 PM | Ummm, I'm tired of it tooo...I just gave the few guys I (foolishly perhaps?) think aren't jerking my chain, my hotmail addy and tried to delete outa here. I took down photo's and wiped out info...all I could figure out to erase myself...lol...
No sob story...why bother?
Crystal | |
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Posted: 10/15/2006 4:20:14 PM | i took my profile off....and now, just over a month later, im back!! lol...but really, im just here for the forums and a few good laughs.
i think the fact that it is the internet scene, it's a little more frustrating. why do we resort to the inernet in the first place? because for most of us, we aren't having any luck in the real world. then the other percentage are those that are lazy, shy, or just don't "have time" in the real world (which makes no sense why they would date then...meh) anyways....after a while of meeting/dating/being stalked, i felt like there was more pressure online then in the real world. it really can be over whelming, especially when you talk to and meet more then one person at a time. the internet is easier to be INTRODUCED to someone, but thas it. then it's the exact same as the real world....meeting, getting to know eachother, etc...
so i would say by all means, if you really want to delete your account, go for it!! but you do have other options, like hiding it...or doing what the others said....edit your profile. change what it is you're looking for (i found that after i changed mine to hang-out, i didn't feel so pressured to find a man to "date")
good luck tho on whatever it is you decide to do!!
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Posted: 10/15/2006 4:46:46 PM | For everyone's attention, this is the OP's question:
I am done with online dating. I am going to delete my profile. It's just not worth it.
Does anyone else feel like me? That it's not worth it?
any character insinuations, attacks, off topic postings that have nothing to do with the question have been removed as per the rules found here Acceptable Use & Posting Rules and here Posting Rules.
Anything other than replying to the above quoted OP question will be further removed. Please abide by the rules or simply refrain from posting/replying.
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Posted: 10/15/2006 5:10:19 PM | | I beleive alot feel like you and that is why you see more and more people here "just for the forums". I feel like you in that there is alot of insincerity here, with both genders from what I've seen. But at this point, I have some really nice people here I enjoy talking to outside of the dating realm so I have not considered deleting my profile. If you feel it is making you unhappy, then I guess it is best to go. Wish you luck in whatever you decide to do. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2006 5:20:39 PM | | absolutely. it's hard to be an honest person, trying to grow friendships and relationships on a dating site. i had no idea. i did feel the same way as you, but instead of deleting my profile, i changed it - did'nt lie, just added a bit more about what makes me tick, and changed it to 'talk/email' because i did'nt want to close the door completely, and i like the forums. you could always do that too, or even hide your profile for a while, if you like. it'd be a shame to see you leave, but sometimes that is what you really need to be able to take a deep breath. yeah, we understand. good luck with which ever route you choose. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2006 5:24:58 PM | I think there are definitely times I feel like you. Usually its just after I've had a couple of dissapointing meets. I've never been stood up, so I can just imagine how disheartening that can be.
Take some time off, enjoy the forums, do things for yourself. Once you have some time to take a breather you can come back with a positive attitude and start fresh.
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Posted: 10/15/2006 5:30:14 PM | Yes, there are times when I have been disappointed/frustrated and deleted my profile. Sometimes I just need to re-group. Nothing wrong with taking a break every now and again, in fact I think it is quite healthy. Now I am back, but am taking everything with a grain of salt. Afterall, I'm only here for the free beer!!  | |
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Posted: 10/15/2006 5:34:53 PM | I have felt like this in the past...yes...but took a step back and readjusted my expectations. I find that most people are sincere...but maybe don't have a clue what they are looking for. I think POF is what you make it, so for me....for now....it is worth it Best of luck... | |
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Posted: 10/15/2006 5:35:05 PM | | I agree with you FUNME40..I have met some really nice people on this site not for me but nice..IF you do not try or put yourself out there, you will never get to meet your soul mate. Hold on to your faith, don't give up the only one winning are those who are making you feel this way.. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2006 7:39:41 AM | I have left plenty of fish after talking to countless no hoppers. All these men were interested in was sex i felt. I have met some friends on here and i continue to speak to them over the phone or msn. I decided to take the plunge and meet some men i chatted to but, the whole experience has left me very dissappointed. I feel that men are very dishonest and say what they think i want to hear....Actually, i am a mature, confident and realistic woman and if they tell me the truth, i am big enough to take it. I have just rejoined the site to view someones profile that i had been talking to for a while prior to meeting up with him. I have recieved mail but i choose not to answer any as i don't feel it is worth it anymore. One guy who i was seeing for a few weeks, disrespected me and at first i thought, just forget it, just another idiot but then, i thought, why should i, someone has got to stand up to these men who like to mess with emotions. So i confronted him and told him a peice of my mind. The joke is, i never wanted a relationship in the first place, i knew he was not the one, but i though...hey, a woman has needs. He came on heavy, totally ignoring what i had said, then weeks later, he's telling me he's not ready when i never once told him that i wanted a relationship from the begining, nor did i put any pressure on him in any shape of form...egotistical idiot. lol
Anyway's.....i can't say i won't try online dating again, but i am certainly taking a break from it for now. So, all i can say is.....you do what you feel, never say never, stay open, positive and stay true and honest to yourself. Follow your instincts, it never lets you down.
ps...the men that never showed up, probably did you a favour, believe me lol...
Good luck in your search xx | |
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Posted: 10/16/2006 8:01:52 AM | | Some days yes, some days no. Personally, I have met a gentleman from PoF and have fallen in "like". My profile is now in "hide" mode. What you are saying I have heard many times from both genders. Keep your sense of humor, adventure and faith. A positive mental attitude is alluring, negativity is not. If you feel the need to take a break and reassess, by all means do so. resist against becoming jaded and overly cynical. Good luck and best wishes--PW | |
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Posted: 10/16/2006 8:33:30 AM | I feel exactly the same and I'm not dating all that much for obvious reason's, which I'm not going to mention here since it's become redundant even to myself .
But I won't delete my profile since it's just another option and not only for finding the elusive love of my life. So it'll stay here till I meet someone. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2006 2:04:30 PM | | I've pulled my profile from the search on POF. It just seems that you have two crowds here... the people looking at things completely as a meat market... and then the people who lie non stop. The liars make the decent people look bad. A good guy can be honest and say "Yeah... I'm pretty darn average". The liars talk of the millions of hobbies that they dont really have, the vacations they "went" on, etc. It makes all the honest guys look like the bottom of the barrel :P. I don't want a girl to be picking me out like they pick a sweater from macy's. | |
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