| Whats wrong with sex based relationships?
Posted: 4/27/2004 1:20:15 AM | All I hear the women say about relationships is honest, communication, etc.. Whats wrong with having a relationship that is just good sex. When the sex goes bad, just move on. Why do women always want more than that?
But no, women make us lie and play games and then whine when they get stepped on. In the words of Jeff Foxworthy "Ladies, I'll tell you what men are thinking...'I'd like a beer and I'd like to see something naked'". It's funny because it's so true.
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| Re: Whats wrong with sex based relationships?
Posted: 4/27/2004 2:28:35 AM | if you want the sex to be good, you better be good yourself.
if a cook is a bad cook, how often do you wanna eat thier dinners?
a relationship of sex can be really fun, but also pointless.
I've done it myself, and I can say in retrospect that sex relationship was part of what kept me single for long periods of time, cause I held back from taking other girls serious and meeting someone more substantial to a real relationship.
a relationship of just sex can be nice, but eventually it holds you back, and may realize your just wasting your time.
I think girls are 10 times more observant then I am, and would probably think this kinda thing long before I do.
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Posted: 4/27/2004 5:48:57 AM | | You said it all when you said "when the sex goes bad, just move on". That's pretty cold, chum. Any relationship based on sex alone ISN'T going to last. Eventually, one or the other will come to the realization that there's more to life and relationships than just carnal pleasure, and then that will be that. While I'm sure that there are lots of women out there who think with their vaginas the same way a lot of men think with their penises, a true, lasting, worthwhile relationship is one based on a plethora of other things like friendship, loyalty, understanding, devotion and commitment. If all you want out of life is sex, that's fine. But don't expect all the other worthwhile benefits to be there. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2004 10:08:35 AM | | hmm vey true dio....but if i reltationship rocks and is perfect.. and the sex is getting a bit blah... there are always ways to spice it up. To leave someone because they suck in bed is the most retarded thing ive ever heard. It cold and it makes me think that thats thier purpse to be your fluk. So everyone can better themselves and if the courtship is awesome..but the bed is cold....add some fire and the ice will melt. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2004 10:16:39 AM | how can anyone think of sex only? isnt there a place for love? how can you move on after sharing the most intimate moment with that someone? to me, sex is only an extension and expressoin of loving, sex on its on even the most wonderful adventrous sex, is only a cold moment that soon fade away. as think about it when you have had your oragsm what d you want after that. ahh see whe youa re in bed with someone you love , sex dont end when you reach climax, it carries on through cuddles and showing the caring loving and gratitude for the good sex you just shared.
but if its only sex for sex, as soon as you finished , you just move on as you said. like eating in a restaurant you just leave. after havin your meal. could that form any basis for long meaningful relationship? i dont think so.
also if it goes cold, thereis always ways of talking things over, and i dont believe that a good lover who was a sex goddess one day would turn the next day to a cold fish unless there is an underlying problem that needs to be explored discussed and eliminated.
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Posted: 4/27/2004 10:37:19 AM | | your right wild.for me im just as happy holding my man all night and kissing and touching to show my love. Sex is just a gift and a treat at the end of all the forplay. There are so many ways to show affection....and like i said as well as wild...spice it up if it goes blah..if you truly care about your mate.. and there is a medical reason for the low sex drive go to the doc together. It hapenned to me after my daughter was born...my drive was nil..my hormone level dropped like craazy andi had no interest at all. si the doc put me on some pills to bring it up and the playbunny came back LOL... | |
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Posted: 4/27/2004 1:01:07 PM | | This is my whole point. Last week I put a post up honestly asking the women to view my profile and give me suggestions for improvement. Not one reply to the post. I post this crap, thats to me is a ridiculous consept, and there are five replies in less than 24 hours. I guess 'sex does sell'. Sorry but I was just using this as an experiment and I found out what I wanted to know. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2004 1:20:49 PM | | well alot of girls dont really care for a guy who says SEX SEX SEX... if its in jest then ok..but it makes you appear as a gigilo and not really into the date thing. i havent seen your pro yet so i cant comment on it. but tellme were you honest about what you said or were you joking it might change my opinion of you. | |
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alura2
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| Re: Whats wrong with sex based relationships?
Posted: 4/27/2004 1:30:08 PM | | yupi had a fuk friend for 6 months or so. It was all we wanted..fantastic sex is must say...he was wonderful..buti wanted more from him and his shifts changed so we could hardly ever see eachother anymore. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2004 4:11:55 PM | | "WHAT ABOUT LOVE?!?!!?!" There is no such thing as love. We are animals and not the kind that mate for life. SEX is the whole purpose, love is the illusion your mind puts up to insure more SEX. The concept of there being more to it than SEX is as baseless as life after death. | |
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| Re: Whats wrong with sex based relationships?
Posted: 4/27/2004 4:42:27 PM | | You poor man........the only illusion I see is your whole concept on love. There is way more to it then just sex. Why would couples stay together when their old or one is deathly ill? Is that for hope of more sex too??? Maybe if we did mate for life, (as you say) the world would be a lot better off then it is right now! | |
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Posted: 4/27/2004 4:51:43 PM | | How many couples do you know like that? I don't think it is about sex at that point because that is the end of life. We can not become really human until our hormones production stops and we essenitally become asexual. Then we can tolerate each other until some bodies dies. | |
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| Re: Whats wrong with sex based relationships?
Posted: 4/27/2004 5:10:16 PM | | 99 has anyone ever told you you resemble the little sister on Family Ties? This is not trying to be funny because I love Family Ties and I am totally serious. | |
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| Re: Whats wrong with sex based relationships?
Posted: 4/27/2004 9:10:47 PM | | To Alura: I did start this post as a jest; just to see what it would take to get ppl a little fired up and kinda instigate a war of the sexes. I do think that there is much more to a longterm relationship than sex. Personally, I feel MOST (there are always exceptions) women enter into relationships hopeful of something that will last. I think MOST men enter a relationship hoping for good sex...at the start anyway. Quite honestly I think down deep inside men are hoping for something more but wouldn't ever say so to their buddies. Of course we all know the complications that set in soon in any relationship. Damn this whole thing is complicated. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2004 1:23:59 AM | | manofire you raise an interesting point but dont forget about the fact that if you ever want children and raise them properly you are goin to need a wife. At the point maybe you become asexual i dont know haha but i think there are times when you need to care for a women, especially when children come into the mix its best for all parties. | |
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| Re: Whats wrong with sex based relationships?
Posted: 4/28/2004 6:18:16 AM | | Hi !! alura2. Everybody like sex based relationships nothing else becz If any body offer to other people they can do if possible. Yes i am looking also a lady who can sex with me without any condition. I think that sex will be based relationships sex. so nothing wrong here. | |
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| Re: Whats wrong with sex based relationships?
Posted: 4/28/2004 9:02:32 AM | | I personally think that guys fall into lust, cuz we usually follow our animal instincts, LOve is something that sneaks upon us when we aren't looking, while we're not paying attention, like the first ' I love you" ,While we're watching the 7th game ot the Stanley cup finals.Do you really expect us to remember that kinda thing??Well they sure ain't going to let us forget it!! So guys, pay attention!! It's the little things that count, Peace | |
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| Re: Whats wrong with sex based relationships?
Posted: 4/28/2004 10:03:53 AM | | ahh back yes very true.. the little things matter so much. Its when its done no questions asked and it bowls me over with a happy shock and it makes me love them all the more. | |
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| Re: Whats wrong with sex based relationships?
Posted: 4/28/2004 3:17:09 PM | | hhmm..the responses in this thread seem to vary extremly..although personally i must admit that a relationship based solely on sex is an absurd concept,firstly,although no strings sex may seem appealing to some,how long would it be before the novelty wore off,relationships arent based purely on humping eachother senseless,they are constructed on commitment and companionship,they are built upon respect and caring for one another.and dare i say it..love.. the majority of us yearn for someone to cherish until are dying day,and in turn to be cherished..whilst it may not be a natural occurence to the emotionally challenged of those amongst us it is still a pivotal aspect of are time on earth..to love,to be loved..maybe in the primative ages of times gone by when we where content to go through life having sex solely for the purpose of recreation would the question on this thread hold any weight..but are evolution has affected are emotional needs to the extent that we need more then just meaningless sex.. | |
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