| HES SEEING OTHER PEOPLE AND DOESNT WANT ME TO SEE OTHER PEOPLE
Posted: 10/19/2006 10:42:35 AM | IVE BEEN DATING A WONDERFUL MAN SINCE LAST NOVEMBER,HES ALL I EVER WANTED, IM IN LOVE WITH HIM,HOWEVER,HES SEEING OTHER PEOPLE AND DOESNT WANT ME TO SEE OTHER PEOPLE I DONT KNOW HOW TO HANDLE THIS,HE SAYS I RUSH THINGS,AND NEED TO HAVE PATIENCE WITH HIM,HE SAYS I CALL TO MUCH, TOO OFTEN,AND THATS WHY I DONT HEAR FROM HIM FOR DAYS SOMETIMES,BECAUSE IT UPSETS HIM THAT I CALL SO OFTEN.BUT I THINK ITS BECAUSE HIS SO CALLED FRIENDS HAVE HIS ATTENTION,ITS OK FOR HIM,BUT WHEN I GO FOR A DRINK WITH A MAN FRIEND ITS WRONG! THIS ISNT FAIR!
MY WHOLE WORLD IS CRUMBLING,PATIENCE RUNNING OUT. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!
NOVEMBER 16TH WILL BE A YEAR FOR US BEING TOGETHER.
PLEASE TELL ME WHAT I SHOULD DO,I DONT WANT TO LOSE HIM,BUT IM NOT GIVING UP MY FRIENDS EITHER!!   | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 10/19/2006 10:59:28 AM | You guys aren't on the same page it seems. He's still playing the field and you are ready to settle down. Let me be to the point... let him go. If you do manage to get a commitment out of him.. he'll most likely resent you for it and leave you.
One important thing to understand... it's not about you. He's the one with the problem.
Look... back off and don't let him know what you are doing when you aren't around. Chances are you'll find out what's going on. He'll either think he's loosing you and change for ya... or he'll be a control freak and loose his cool.... last option is that you both go your separate way.
I know this isn't easy advice to take.. but it's the truth. | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 10/19/2006 11:57:13 AM | | I agree with cumgetsum......although you do have feelings for this guy, he obviously does not have the same feelings and commitments you do. I sure don't think you need to (or should) put your life on hold for something that just is not there. Time is a precious commodity, and wasting your time on someone who may essentially be toying with your emotions is not worth that time and the trouble you are going through. | |
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2uneek
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Joined: 10/12/2005
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 10/19/2006 12:19:26 PM | | Let me be no#3 to offer the same advice. You already see how you situation is wrong. He can play the field while you cant?? BS. A confident man wouldnt have a problem with you seeing guy friends. Ditch him before he makes you regret it. Friends are more important, and anyone who makes you choose are tries to put you on their mantle so to speak has seriously got their head up their @$$. If you have anymore trouble just let someone know. | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 10/19/2006 12:26:23 PM | Did I read this right? He's seeing other people,,,It upsets him if ya calls too often,,,Yet he does not want you to go out with yer friends... And ya say he is all you ever wanted in a man?? Well Kiddo, to the wise Old Kowboy,,,,,It would seem.... He's not so Wonderful..And you expect More from yer man???
Iffens yer question is fer a bit of advice?
Throw him back,,,,Shouts NEXT ! and find yerself a real man....
Kowboys Gone~ | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 10/19/2006 12:42:08 PM |
HOWEVER,HES SEEING OTHER PEOPLE AND DOESNT WANT ME TO SEE OTHER PEOPLE I DONT KNOW HOW TO HANDLE THIS
Yeah you do unless you are extremely desperate or just not very damn smart; MOVE ON! This guy is a control freak who wants to have his cake and eat it too.
Next time, DON'T move fast, be honest and be yourself but women who seem to be pushy,clingy, needy, can tend to scare away guys( even GOOD guys) and attract users, gameplayers and manipulators.
I think you are probably way WAY better than that! Forget this guy he's nothing but a boatload of drama, stress and probably grief.
Cindy O | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 10/19/2006 2:30:44 PM | Hey Teddy Bear,
I think he's obviously saying "He's NOT the COMMITTMENT KIND".
Move on, you still have your life & friends.
BE HAPPY! | |
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| HEY teddy bear, my feelings about your concern
Posted: 10/19/2006 3:15:55 PM | I would like to answer your question the same way a lady once answered a question that I had about someone I was dating.
She said, "If you are having this type of trouble with this person while you are only dating, why would you want to stay with them and get into a worse situation?"
At first I thought she was mean by telling me that, after a while and lot of thinking I came to understand what she was saying and I agree. I hurts to move on, but sometimes you need to think of your future and what you need to be happy. | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 10/19/2006 3:47:15 PM | Please move on.... He'll eventually settle with you..he's not worth it. He's should be beating at your door declaring that your the only one. He should be able to talk with his friends while your in the same room. have him invite his friends over for a get-together..billiards..anything. But make his friends come around you guys. You have to do the same with your friends.. Its ok to have seperate friends but you have to still include your seperate friends into your joint life. this will set boundaries for your friendships as well.
I'm just a guy tired of people trying to pull the wool over the others eyes.. Honesty...thats my motto, sorry for the preaching.. | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 10/19/2006 3:59:43 PM | | lol, you say he should be beating at my door declaring im the only one, thats too funny,i dream of that everynight lol,when i spend the night at his house he has to answer all thease text meessages on his cell from his soo... called friends, and you dont have to apologize to me for the preaching,its ok, i must be a complete idiot to fall in love with this one, but after a whole yr with him, i cant walk away,i take my relationships very very seriously,if i lose him i dont think i can go on,and besides maybe hes right maybe i need to learn patience and stop calling so much so often,but then again, if i was him i would love someone to call me all the time. eehh im so confused | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 10/19/2006 4:24:06 PM | Well, I wish I could show you how he should be treating you.
He will not learn until he ends up with someone who treats him like he's treating you.
And stay in touch, if he mess up, We'll plan the biggest get together on this site...and party all night..
There is nothing wrong with taking a relationship seriously..there meant to be taken that way. Why else do we give vows when we take it a step further. I wish my ex was half the person you are...keep the spirit.. and feel free to write.. I dont have to date you to make you my friend. | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 10/19/2006 6:31:54 PM | Hi, im not trying to be a jerk but ...how old are you..and what school did you go to?
Michael | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 10/19/2006 7:38:27 PM | Well Maybe that's a safe position for you to be in then, eh? Sometimes we pick the ones we know won't work out because we are either too scared... or just don't feel like we are good enough. You should see that you are only sabotaging yourself. Think of your kid... you want this jerk as his rolemodel?!??
Take a chance and look for someone that WILL call YOU all the time... ;)
Peace! | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 10/20/2006 12:05:02 AM | hello hey teddy bear.
how you doing honey? do you remember that old song from the 1960.s called [to many fish in the sea].sweetheart that's why you subcribed to this site.now take my advice and start hunting.don't you know some of these men just want to be loved,just like that ungrateful[ **stard ]that you are wasting your time with.go for it girl and be the huntress you were ment to be.have the men chasing you.only stop when you want to get caught.
sincerly,tootsiefru | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 10/20/2006 6:11:19 AM | | ya know that's a really good point.She would'nt be on a singles site if she thought he was tha one for her. | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 10/20/2006 10:32:57 AM | You know I'm really big on the "Man law" issue, but I have to tell you that this guy is not good for you. I don't like being a hater, but you can do better. I just replied to your other posting concerning your stress, and I have to say that type of stress can kill in more ways than one. It has been a year and a month since I was in a commited relationship. And the lady I was seeing was alot like your man when it comes to the friendship issues. But I felt that if you can do it, I can do it. "What's good for the goose, is good for the gander!" That is the creed that I live by. The signs are in front of you: the text messaging when you stay at his house. The reason he doesn't want you out with a guy friend is because either he is doing something wrong, and he's afraid that you'll do the same thing. Or he's constantly thinking about it. I do believe that men and women can go out just as friends, but those who don't, believe what they believe because they never had just a friend that they haven't tried to do something with. The female I was talking about, she was jealous of our neighbor from across the street. Our neighbor and I were friends before I met my ex, but she told me that she didn't like us being alone because she said, "Although I trust you, she might get down on her knees, and you might not stop her." While all along, she was out with a guy that was in our bowling league. My advice: keep your eyes open and be careful.  | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 10/20/2006 10:48:21 AM | | thanks for your post, im sooo upset over all this i cant sleep or eat! being with him since last november makes it so hard to walk away, when i love, i love deeply, and its tearing me apart. | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 10/20/2006 1:36:36 PM | You just have to face the fact that you never had him in the first place. He has been shouting that at you and you just can't/won't see it.
You can't make someone love you, that may be hard to take but it is what it is.
WALK AWAY. DO NOT LOOK BACK.
And may the best days of your past be the worst days of your future. | |
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FavorQ
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Joined: 10/13/2006
Msg: 19 | |
| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 10/20/2006 1:58:28 PM | I'd been with my guy for 3 years when we finally admitted that it wasn't going to work out. It's hard, cause I was very commited too. But don't let this guy pull you apart like this. If after a year he isn't ready to stop seeing other people and still gets mad when you hang out with your friends . . . I don't think he's the type your looking for. Time to move on honey.
You have my support | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 10/20/2006 4:13:13 PM | | If you can it would be funny if you could find out who is other girlfriends are and let them know what game he is playing . You can bet he is playing the same game with other ladies. The nights he is with you, another one is waiting for his call. You should try to expose this turdball ASAP. | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 10/20/2006 5:04:16 PM | | H E L L -O ESTER, I hate to be the bearer of bad news but Personally I think there may be alot you are not seeing.Are these FRIENDS of his,as they say FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS ? I may be totally wrong ,but my gut tells me I am right on the mark.I am sorry but its better to know now than a year from now.There are alot more fish in the sea and one that deserves one as you .Free | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 10/20/2006 7:12:36 PM | you state "november 16th will be a yearwe have been together"
Honey you have never been together there is not a we or an us it is just him.
With you waiting in the background.
He is using you for a piece and unless that is all you want him for too.
like everyone else said move on | |
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themom
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Joined: 10/12/2006
Msg: 24 | |
| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 10/20/2006 11:51:16 PM | | I also once dated a guy who swore to be true blue. Come to find out he was only fooling himself. I found out from a girlfriend, that he had asked her out several months earlier and did not want to hurt me, by telling me. We taught him a lesson he would never forget. We set up a girl for him to meet and then while he was in the other room on the phone she copied all of his other girl friends numbers and we called them from a pay phone. It changed him and we all walked away laughing at him. It was well worth the set up. | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 10/21/2006 12:27:52 AM | This is just my opinion, but if he's wanting to see other people, but is demanding you to NOT do the same, then it sounds like you're involved with someone who's not only a control freak, but someone who is suffering from the old fashioned "guilty conscience" complex. When you find yourself in a situation like this, you need to ask yourself very hard questions, that you may not answer very truthfully. 1) As much as I care for this person, do I want to be anyones doormat/convenience? 2) If someone who's asking me to be part of such an un-fair situation is like this when we're just dating, what would they be like if we got married? 3) If they know I'm being faithful, and they're not, could I truly think they would be faithful in a more commited relationship such as marriage? Just my opinion.  | |
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