| | How do YOU handle rejection?Page 1 of 12 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12) | A woman e-mailed me indicating interest. After checking out her profile the feeling wasn't mutual, so I sent her a message back indicating I didn't think we were a match and thanked her for writing.
I immediately got an angry reply asking me "what was my problem"? Then she insisted that I tell her specifically what it was about her that made me think we were not a match. She was quite rude.
I made the mistake of replying and told her that I just didn't think we were compatible and that her behavior in her subsequent e-mails proved my point. Well, that set her off even more and she started calling me names and even contacted me from another site with the same vitriol. I eventually had to block her and did not reply any further.
To me, if someone is classy enough to take the time to reply in a civil manner, I'm grateful. I'm aware that I'm not everyone's cup of tea. I usually respond by saying thanks and wish them good luck.
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 10/21/2006 9:07:59 AM | Well, I can't say as I've gotten much rejection. Don't I sound like an arrogant jerk? 
But it's typically different for women. We tend to be on the receiving end of contacts. I can't remember ever actually emailing someone to make first contact.
Anyway, what you describe isn't unqiue to women. Men frequently respond the same way. I write a polite note, thanking them for writing, and wishing them the best of luck. If they reply in an aggressive or angry way, I simply block them then and there.
It's not worth the aggravation to get upset about it. | |
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*Illsa
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 10/21/2006 9:21:25 AM | I laugh in the face of rejection...bring it on!!!! Actually haven't been rejected MUCH
Luci4
 Look like an Angel...just feel like the devil
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 10/21/2006 9:25:15 AM | | In a situation as you just described? I wouldn't give it a second thought! Some people have issues.........whatcha gonna do? | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 10/21/2006 9:33:55 AM | Some people just can't be pleased.
You're polite enough to to give an explanation so she's not happy. If you hadn't given an explanation, she wouldn't have been happy with that either.
The woman was rude and vindictive so your instincts were obviously correct. Be glad you caught it before things went any further and now you're done with her. Lucky you!
Lord knows how she would have treated you if a relationship would have developed. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 10/21/2006 9:34:23 AM | | Usually for me it involves a pillow to the head followed by a loud popping sound..... | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 10/21/2006 9:39:22 AM | OP ... I wonder what she does when a potential employer rejects her? People that have had things go their way for a long time deal with rejection the hardest, I find, in every aspect of their lives be it work, friends, family, significant others ....
I deal with it by looking at it as a positive door-opening type of thing ... one that may lead to bigger and better experiences; ones that I may have not considered doing otherwise.
reject away, I say lol ... | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 10/21/2006 9:42:19 AM | I smile, say "okay seeya" and move on.
There'll be another bus coming any minute.... | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 10:54:00 AM | Verisimilidude,
I admire you for being nice enough to reply to her ~ whether it is good or bad. You show a lot of class. Many people don't even bother answering email.
Ron | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 11:11:44 AM | Handling Rejection .... I just don't know. Each time I get rejected the sistuation is always different, but in the end I go and find a bottle and some good friends and howl at the moon. Wake up in the morning, shake the headache off and start a new day.
Later
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 10/21/2006 11:26:59 AM | | Sounds like you were right in rejected her. Frankly men get rejected many more times than women do. I just shrug it off. I'm basically at the point that if she's not interested, so what? She probably wasn't worth it anyway. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 11:45:21 AM | I don't get mad, I get even
If someone's not interested they don't reply - no big deal | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 10/21/2006 11:58:33 AM | I handle it well if it is given honestly (that doesn't mean a big long explanation, just a "I don't think you are meant for me" or a "sorry, I don't see this going any further" are perfectly fine or in the early stage "sorry, I don't think we are a fit").
If someone is unable to be upfront about it, and would rather be sneaky, (not contact you, send an email when the relationship goes beyond that, etc) I do not handle it well. Or should I say it disgusts me. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 12:41:53 PM | Lets see....If it is made known right away that she is not interested, and no time is wasted, then I'm just fine, and I move on.
If I am being led on, and such....or just nothing at all, then it upsets me a bit....as a person, I deserve an honest answer at least. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 12:54:12 PM | I declined a date from a 27 yr old and so he blocked me........then the week after he writes a note 'how are you doing, how is your day?' i replied that he blocked me, but couldn't through to him CUZ I WAS BLOCKED....tee hee ..ok ok so maybe only i think its funny  | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 1:20:42 PM | | The best thing is..not to say anything. In my years on the paid sites I would say hello only to those who had very similar interests BUT got back...no thanks we would not be compatible. HUH??? you know why? Because the profile is fictional. LIES AND DECIET. So that is why some people go to such dramatic appeals ? To get their attention. Then it comes off as stalking, psychos..... | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 3:20:41 PM | | Well, I have to say I don't handle rejection very well, I tend to take it personally and question myself about what is wrong with me. However, due to the frequency in which I am being rejected, I'm working on keeping my self esteem intact in the face of being found lacking....the other person will never know my feelings of inadequacy, and I respond politely in pretty much the same way you do.... I would never ever react the terrible way she did. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 4:16:32 PM |
Handling Rejection .... I just don't know. Each time I get rejected the sistuation is always different, but in the end I go and find a bottle and some good friends and howl at the moon. Wake up in the morning, shake the headache off and start a new day.
Amen to that brutha. I've had enough rejections to numb me to the pain, just enjoy the ride while it last lol. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 10/21/2006 9:35:53 PM | I remind myself that I've had a few really good long-term relationships with people who deemed me worthy for long periods of time.
I'll find another. Maybe THE other, you know? One day.
I just gotta keep my grace. | |
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RJB888
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 10/21/2006 9:57:41 PM | | Man oh man, you got a crazy one, sorry about that. I've had men tell me sorry and good luck. No problems nothing invested. I've told some men the same, but never did I get emails like you have. Maybe you should report her if it continues. Good luck to you. | |
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