| Is Anyone Seriously Looking 2 Meet & Date On Here...?
Posted: 10/22/2006 9:47:33 AM | I'am beginning to think from all I observed here this is more of meeting friends site...?
Now don't get me wrong... I have made some great friends
in the short time I came here...!
But on paying sites, I have met and went out w/ some very decent nice guys
for Dinner & Dancing, the men who pay dating sites IMHO
seem 2 be more serious in their search...!
Is it just me....? or R their more who think this...?  | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 10/22/2006 9:57:10 AM | Rose-
I am on 2 other sites besides this one, and lately I seem to be getting more "action" of any kind here. MY problem is that my divorce is not yet final, and the guys who want to get serious are hesitant to contact me. Right now, I'm not really sure or specific as to what I want, so I figure, whatever is meant to be will happen. Even having just a "friends' site helps during the lulls when in between dates, plus making new friends is always a good thing. | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 10/22/2006 10:02:29 AM | Yes, it does seem that way to me, but sometimes the best serious relationships begin as casual friendships, and friends sometimes have other friends who might be a good match. So anything that expands your social network is good.
As far as the paying sites are concerned, I can't say I had much luck with either Match.com or Yahoo personals. I think those site are complete rip-offs, but somehow, they continue suckering people in. I would have thought that sites like POF would have ruined them by now. Maybe the men there are more serious, something I obviously don't really know about. However, I do know that many members there are not paying members, something you are not told when you view their profiles, so emailing them is a total waste since they cannot respond! | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 10/22/2006 10:16:46 AM | DrDave-
You know, you brought up a good point that I didn't realize about Match- I would sent out winks or emails and not get responses, and when I didn't get responses, I'd write it off as rudeness on their part. THere is always the possibility that they are not paying members.
At different times, I have gotten dates from all three sites, but this one is the most active. Also, If I am in a lull period and am home on a Saturday night, at least on these forums I am in contact with other people and not just watching TV.
Another trend I have seen is afternoon dates rather than evening dates. | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 10/22/2006 10:30:47 AM | Yes, it does seem that way to me, but sometimes the best serious relationships begin as casual friendships, and friends sometimes have other friends who might be a good match. So anything that expands your social network is good.
Yes true Dr Dave Relationships have 2 start w/ friendship..!
I'am referring 2 the guys if their really serious on here...!
As 4 some of the other sites I have 2 say I met a Great Luv on Y personals
but 2 years later he died..!
But I do know quite a few couples who did meet and get Married from Y personals
and MATCHCOM...!
Also these 2 sites let u see if their paying members...! | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 10/22/2006 11:29:33 AM | i'm hoping to meet someone and possibly go out on a date but it seems to me that no one is interested in me.
no one to love, no one to care...
loneliness is growing, and a heart to spare.
for the way i've been feeling every day...
my heart seems like it's running, running astray.
just another one of my shorties..............sorry, i don't have a name for it. | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 10/22/2006 11:43:33 AM | the furthest i would get with anyone from here is chat in yahoo, email here, told that a friend would join a few friends and myself bowling, then blocked (by yet another for no reason). all i did was talked to him a few times, asked him if he would like to join my brother, a friend, and myself bowling, he said yes then i haven't heard anything from him. oh well, it's his loss and right now, no ones gain....i'm really getting tired of this. no flowers, no nothing...........not even a walk in the park, let alone a phone call.  | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 10/22/2006 11:59:43 AM | pony so sorry maybe your mans not on this site.lots of single men don't use dateing sites most of them are married the ones that I have chatted with and some of them don't say that in their profile.as for me i'm married and yes i'm on here hate to say this but this site has helped my marriage I made friends on here that are nice and do give good advice.so is it wrong for me to be on here because i'm married I like to have fun to. | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 10/22/2006 12:08:47 PM | Nope, not single, not looking, don’t have a profile on a dating site! LOL
I have a profile on another site and no, I am not a paying member. I think it's ridiculous to pay to talk to someone. Seriously....aren't they making enough money from the ad dollars? But anyways…back to my story. I have hidden my id in my profile on the other site and surprisingly enough….this does weed out the 7th grade dropouts. If they want to find me hard enough from the other site, it’s possible.
I really enjoy the forums on this site and if I did find myself in a committed relationship, I would probably stay just for the friends I have made and the constant laughs I get from the forums. | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 10/22/2006 12:22:02 PM | The way that I found this site is threw my brother in law he had a profile on here and he had me look at. so I was reading some of them thought it sounded fun so I put one on.and I still have my old profile on but live in MN on that one it started as a joke on him. so yes you can have more then one profile.but when I do chat with people I tell the truth. oh and my brother in law just got married and he meant his new wife on this site.  | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 10/22/2006 12:34:16 PM | I agree with you ponygrl I'm having the same problem.
I changed my heading which you can check out
if you want to its how I feel now.
Never felt as empty as I do today.
I tried other dating sites Bikerkiss,Singlesnet none of them work.
I may as well give up on looking.
Pat | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 10/22/2006 12:39:11 PM | Hello CC,
I think its nice you joined in it doesnt matter if a person is married
if they are looking for friends.Friends mean more than gold.
Friendship is a gift you treasure from the heart.
if you can find someone who doesnt mind being just a friend
that means they are sincere.
Pat | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 10/22/2006 1:09:48 PM |
As far as the paying sites are concerned, I can't say I had much luck with either Match.com or Yahoo personals. I think those site are complete rip-offs, but somehow, they continue suckering people in. I would have thought that sites like POF would have ruined them by now. Maybe the men there are more serious, something I obviously don't really know about. However, I do know that many members there are not paying members, something you are not told when you view their profiles, so emailing them is a total waste since they cannot respond!
Dr, I totally agree with you. I myself paid for one month on one of those sites and got zero replies back. No winks, no nothing. What a rip-off.
I don't think I am that bad. I hope not... | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 10/22/2006 1:14:44 PM | Congrats to ur friends CC... that is great new's 2 hear...!
GGGG maybe this site has some promise after all...!
Not that I'am ready 2 get married again if at all...!
But some dates w/ a good guy would be nice see where it leads...!
But If nothing else I have made some good friends on here...!
so CHEERS....  2 good friends..! | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 10/22/2006 2:34:24 PM | Dave, I'm glad you brought up the issue of Match and Yahoo. In the past, Yahoo's policy was that you only had to pay to send an email. The person receiving it could respond for free. Somewhere along the way some marketing genius got it into their head that "Hey! We can make more money if we up the cost of doing business AND make you pay to both send and receive emails!" Way to go genius. You just cut your income by at least half and have all but guaranteed the failure of Yahoo Personals.
As far as Match is concerned, well, let's just say that if you do a search on Google for lawsuit and Match, you'll see they have their hands full with at least one class-action lawsuit over how they operate.
To get back on topic, I'll have to agree with the OP. While I am on here looking for someone, there is essentially noone in my area that matches up so I hang out on the boards for now offering my 1 1/2 cents (inflation ya know).
I did try to convert someone I work with to come to this site when I saw her profile on another site that I belong to. I explained the benefits of Fish and while right now she's having some luck elsewhere, she may eventually end up here. | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 10/22/2006 2:38:25 PM | Hi Pony,
Just a thought... some guys like for a woman to represent themselves as more feminine; of course, you need to present yourself as you are, and not pretend to be someone, but if it was in your willingness to make a few changes, you might consider some makeup and a new hair do, and a sexier lower cut top :) Thats just my 2 cents worth- take it or leave it.
-- MJS | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 10/22/2006 4:21:18 PM | | ok have to put my 2 cents in some men like woman the way they are without the makeup and the fancy hair and I see nothing wrong with ponys hair and for the lower cut top she wants the man to like her not her well you know had to put my 2 cents in. | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 10/22/2006 4:23:47 PM | I have a general complaint about any and all dating sites. I have tried Yahoo, Match, and eHarmony. Probably spent a couple hundred dollars over a 2 to 3 year period and have dated some really nice women and some true to life, dumb shit girls. Deep down, I kept thinking that something is wrong with me since I am the "common denominator" in any and all relationships.
Now, unlike a few gentlemen out there on these sites, NO, I don't know specific names, most of the men and women are on here for finding friendships that turn into relationships. I know of 3 couples that have gotten married from the online world and they are doing fine. I myself have dated a girl for 2 months only to stop the dating since I just can't drink 5 nights a week. I have probably gone out on roughly 12 dates with a few repeat dates and only one of those experiences actually led to sex at the end of the evening. Also for the record, I called each and every girl I dated either the next day or day after. Some picked up, some didn't but I always went that extra mile.
I wondered myself why the online thing? I have no problem talking to women in public, I don't go to bars or "clubbing" as the kids call it these days, so why I am having a hard time meeting people offline from the online world? Has TV ruined the perception of online dating into thinking that all men are in their 40's and child molesters? Are there THAT many stalkers and sexual predators out there that ruin it for the good guys AND girls out there? I don't know that is why I asked!!!
Bottom line is this: from my experience, I always chat through email or instant messenger first before I ask or give a phone number, its a little rule I have. I also prefer to see a picture of someone just for the simple reason that I have posted a pic of myself so what exactly are you hiding? I always prefer to meet at a public place that is more relaxing and friendly for her simply to make things more awkward than they have to be.
I don't know, maybe I am just an ***hole that looks into things too much. That's my two cents. Bash me as you must!! | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 10/22/2006 4:32:57 PM | CRZY-
No bashing from this post-er. Sound like some of the women that you picked out were real jerks. You sound really frustrated. Maybe if you loosened your boundaries of qualities a little? Try a girl with maybe one different quality than you would ordinarily date. How about taking some classes or joining a gym or martial arts class? Or maybe a group at your church if you have one. Something that has members of both sexes. Those are only the first things that come to my mind to suggest to you. | |
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