| | Would you go back to sum 1 that cheated?Page 1 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | | I went out with a girl for about 5 months and totaly loved every minute...I found out shortly after our break-up that she cheated. I still care about her and she wants to get back together..Should I trust her? | |
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| Would you go back to sum 1 that cheated?
Posted: 10/25/2006 5:48:20 PM | | if she has the ability to cheat on you once she will most likely do it again. If a girl is truly into you it's not possible for her to cheat because it would be antithetical to her nature. Unless she was raped and then it wouldn't be cheating, if she cheats it's one of the lowest forms of disrespect. You are setting yourself up for a huge fall if you take her back. | |
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| Would you go back to sum 1 that cheated?
Posted: 10/25/2006 6:00:38 PM | | Well if your still mad about her than go back with her having the understanding in your mind that MOST likely she WILL cheat on you again. If your willing to accept that and your positive you can deal with it then go for it I guess. | |
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| Would you go back to sum 1 that cheated?
Posted: 10/25/2006 6:28:27 PM | Well, I can't tell you what would be best for you as there are far too many details missing in the opening post...
For me... never. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me... | |
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| Would you go back to sum 1 that cheated?
Posted: 10/25/2006 6:36:43 PM | I say manda if r still crazy about her, give her one more chance, no one is without sin and mistakes, and deserve a second chance, strike three, your out, good luck in what ever you do. | |
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| Would you go back to sum 1 that cheated?
Posted: 10/25/2006 6:43:30 PM | sure antithethical is a human nature if one listens to ones inner voice and not influenced.
as for cheating it's antithethical for females to get caught. | |
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| Would you go back to sum 1 that cheated?
Posted: 10/25/2006 6:49:43 PM | No way! Kick her to the kerb. Strike one and you are out to my way of thinking. Why wait for her to cheat 2 more times. Talk about a dumb remark!Wow! | |
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| Would you go back to sum 1 that cheated?
Posted: 10/25/2006 6:52:52 PM | I would have to say no....don't go back. I think that cheating is more than just sex with another person ( or internet interaction , thats cheating to ) it is a breach of trust...a window into the type of person someone is and regardless of how they got that way it's who they have become. Capacity to cheat will also come with various other character flaws and in my opinion this is one to just keep on moving from
I am speaking from personal experience ....DON"T SETTLE | |
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| Would you go back to sum 1 that cheated?
Posted: 10/26/2006 2:59:17 AM | What sort of cheating are we talking about. A fling when she thought that the realtionship was dead in the water anyway. ??
Or doesn't she place any real value ofn the relationship in the first place.?
Can you see the difference? | |
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| Would you go back to sum 1 that cheated?
Posted: 10/26/2006 3:11:21 AM | | So wait 15 minutes ..you will be over her....your young...will have a dozen or so relationships in your future....no don't trust her...it's like leaving some coins on the table..will she take them or leave them? In this case...she took them and looking for more.... | |
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| Would you go back to sum 1 that cheated?
Posted: 10/26/2006 4:13:50 AM | | First of all, when you found out she cheated on you, did you ask her why? Maybe You were the reason? I say tell her where to go if her reason was 'i was drunk' . Do what you think best for you and your kind heart. Good luck x | |
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| Would you go back to sum 1 that cheated?
Posted: 10/26/2006 4:21:10 AM | Well, first of all it's "someone". If you expect to be taken seriously, exhibit a reason why we should. This isn't AIM chat.
Second, she doesn't want you or she wouldn't have cheated. Move on. This is all about immature levels of ego that you want her back. You won't see it that way, but that's all this is. There's like 300 gazillion women in the world. Why you want THAT one? Because you can't have her?
You won't understand why this is the correct attitude for many years yet, but take it from an old guy who has been through it all, just move ahead and get an upgrade. Maybe even one who cares enough about you to not cheat on you. | |
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| Would you go back to sum 1 that cheated?
Posted: 10/26/2006 4:34:34 AM | "I still care about her and she wants to get back together"
I can't believe you said that buddy... don't you know the famous line "The spots on the leopard don't change"??? Or haven't you ever heard military personnel talk about their kills in war? The first confirmed kill was the hardest, but the more you kill, the easier it gets??? Buddy, she will cheat again. If you go back to her and "forgive" her (what normal person could?), then you just TAUGHT her that she can cheat on you and get away with it. She will do it again. I guarantee it.
"Should I trust her?" --- Would you trust your dog to guard a piece of meat for you??? I wouldn't. She just shattered the trust. She's like a car that was involved in a collision. The damage is more than what she's worth. She's written off. You can fix it if you want, but it will never be the same.
With my own personal experience, I never tolerate cheating. There is no excuse for it.
You can always get another girl who is decent. You don't deserve that.
Take care. | |
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| Would you go back to sum 1 that cheated?
Posted: 10/26/2006 4:44:42 AM | | No move on I have been married twice and tried to make it work after finding out they had an affair, didn't work, trust is a very hard thing to get back once it has been broken. Good luck | |
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| Would you go back to sum 1 that cheated?
Posted: 10/26/2006 4:48:11 AM | | I have learnt to trust my instincts [ never fails me].....you should do the same. I believe in Karma......Karma takes too long to come around sometimes...but it does eventually get there. If I were you stay away. Your probably just starting to get over the aching heart feeling. Want to go through all that hurt again???? I don't think so. Your life you have to make your own decisions. Its so true ...once a cheater always a cheater. Most of my life I have had to put up with lying cheating men....cheaters never change............You can always just be friends.............GOOD LUCK!!!!! | |
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| Would you go back to sum 1 that cheated?
Posted: 10/26/2006 6:34:46 AM | | Absolutely no way I'd give them another chance. I don't necessarily believe once a cheater always a cheater, but I do believe that once someone cheats on YOU, and you let them get away with it, they will cheat on YOU again. | |
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| Would you go back to sum 1 that cheated?
Posted: 10/26/2006 7:14:17 AM |
Second, she doesn't want you or she wouldn't have cheated. Move on. This is all about immature levels of ego that you want her back. You won't see it that way, but that's all this is. There's like 300 gazillion women in the world. Why you want THAT one? Because you can't have her?
words of wisdom
You won't understand why this is the correct attitude for many years yet, but take it from an old guy who has been through it all, just move ahead and get an upgrade. Maybe even one who cares enough about you to not cheat on you.
Amen to that!!! | |
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