| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 10/26/2006 1:30:09 PM | Do you believe you can have an intense connection with someone you barely know...after meeting just once or twice? Do you believe you can meet someone incredible....and its not complicated or difficult...you can just fall for each other right away ....after 30?
I know in my early 20's I believed in all of the fairy tale...but then kids, marriage, divorce, and reality sort of had me thinking that it would be less perfect...i would have to accept that it wasnt the guy i imagined.....and then recently I am thinking maybe there is a guy i can be with and it could be what i always wanted.
(I know life isnt all smooth sailing I am talking about how difficult it can be to start)
So what do you think...is the fairytale possible still? | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 10/26/2006 1:39:48 PM | | First off, I don't believe in fairy tales at any age - that's what heartbreak is all about. That being said, I do believe in the magic and that can happen at any age, any time. As long as I believe in the magic, I go on looking for that elusive someone for me. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 10/26/2006 2:18:04 PM |
Do you believe you can have an intense connection with someone you barely know...after meeting just once or twice? Do you believe you can meet someone incredible....and its not complicated or difficult...you can just fall for each other right away ....after 30?
NO - it doesn't happen at any age because that is not real, it is fleeting - it is pent-up emotion run amuck.
"Love at first sight" is the nice term for "we're both really desperate and don't want to be alone". | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 10/26/2006 2:20:22 PM | Thanks for that Lyrical and Gren eyes.
It's refresthing to hear for a couple of level headed girls whos views are not blinded by rose coloured glasses.
Romance is possible at any age. Fairytales are not. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 10/26/2006 2:50:08 PM | I really do hope there is my perfect man out there somewhere and that one day i will meet him and realise who he is !!
As to fairytale - im not so sure because reality kicks in at some point (usually when you catch them picking their nose ..lol)
I think what im trying to say is that - I hope there is such thing as the fairytale at any age but like Lori - one fairytale with an unhappy ending - Im a bit worried about knights on white horses - whats their motive??!!! | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 10/26/2006 2:54:44 PM | Ok....Asking people on a dating site if love, romance and a fairy tale ending are possible, is like asking a run-down pedestrian if it's safe to cross the street.
Love at first site is awesome, unexpected, and might have been my life's greatest moment. Don't let anyone tell you the world is flat just because they don't know any better. (Not gonna make any friends with this one!! hahaha) | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 10/26/2006 4:37:32 PM | | I never did believe in fairytales, and I don't think there is a perfect person, but at the age of 49, I still feel there is someone out there, that is perfect for me. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 10/26/2006 5:15:10 PM | I'm living the fairytale - but it is very real. And it wasn't until my mid-40's that I found her (or she found me). Anything is possible - how likely, is another discussion.
Yes, it is still possible to have an intense connection after only one or two meetings. It is still possible to fall in love quickly, and it is still a wonderful experience. Age is irrelevant to this.
It's now over 6 years later, and the magic hasn't faded. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 10/26/2006 6:20:30 PM | | Yes it is possible at any age. In fact, I haven't been happier in my life, and I'm 35. Yes, the fairy tale is possible if we want to believe in it enough, that it will happen. The more I see how things happen, the more I believe in a self-fulfilling prophecy. You are who you believe you are. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 10/27/2006 12:00:46 AM | | I've never believed in that type of fairy-tale. No such thing happens in RL because life isn't easy or perfect. Call me a realist. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 10/27/2006 12:16:31 PM |
Im a bit worried about knights on white horses - whats their motive??!!!
They are looking for someone to clean up after the horse. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 10/27/2006 1:13:40 PM | When I was younger, I did not believe that there was anyone out there 'just for me', & 'I for them'. It wasn't until I hit my 30's, that I realized I deserved that sort of connection, and opened myself up for it.
*sigh*
Now I am involved with the most amazing of men. Our connection was almost instantaneous, and quite unexpected for us both. Quite amazing, really. I am at the point, where I can't imagine 'before' him, or moving on 'without' him. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 10/27/2006 1:32:31 PM | Developing a deep connection with someone only after a few meetings? Maybe, call it mutual attraction, fatal distraction, falling in lust, but falling in love takes a little longer. The good news is it can happen to anyone, at any age, and we all should be so lucky, but fairytales are for children's books.
BonBon | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 10/27/2006 1:50:28 PM | I hope that love is possible after 30 I really do but I wanted love at 20 and 30. I guess more so now but I gave up on perfection and the fairytale as life delivered things that were reality and difficult. Now I want someone to enhance my life but not rescue me or make into a full blown fairytale.
Olivia bella | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 10/27/2006 2:09:39 PM | | Magic happens, yes. But a fairytale always ends at a climax. Life continues after the climax of the story. Relationships are work, no matter how much magic or sparks occur at the outset. Disappointment happens when you expect the magic to carry you through the times when hard work is required. Sometimes, the relationships that make it aren't the prettiest or the neatest or the cleanest, or the most romantic. They are the ones where two people make a commitment, and stick to it. If the magic makes you feel like it should always be easy, that's not magic. It's illusion. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 10/27/2006 2:25:51 PM | Recently said to a friend of mine: "I'm pissed off at Disney for selling us this whole fairytale romance garbage.."
Yeah, I'm frustrated.
When someone treats me like a prince and I'll believe in fairytale romances again. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 10/27/2006 3:41:05 PM | I am not sure it is possible after mid 20's, nevermind after 30.
I would still like to think so because behind this charade of Miss Independant, I am a true romantic who is still looking for the love of my life. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 10/27/2006 7:09:33 PM | fairy tales weren't all that romantic ... think about it ...
Cinderella; abused child, probably suffers from delusions (pumpkins turning into carriages, and mice turning into drivers); falls for the first guy who pays her any attention ... okay so he's a prince (so is Prince Charles ... nuff said)
Snow White; accepts bad food from crazy woman, and falls into a coma; but prior to that she lives with dwarves ... sounds great. (yawn)
Should we even talk about Sleeping Beauty? more comas! uh ... yeah. I don't think I want my life to be a fairy tale thank you very much!
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 10/27/2006 7:47:30 PM | Nope.
However, I suspect the term "fairy tale" probably carries too much baggage that might seem rather naive or even infantile to most who are over thirty. A fairy tale is make believe. I'm pretty sure that most singles who are hoping to meet someone aren't interested in being charmed into a make believe relationship.
I also happen to believe that what ever positive, breath taking and dizzying emotions are associated with feeling as though a fairy tale romance is happening to you are worth hoping to experience as an adult, at any age. It's not impossible, even for the most jaded or heart scarred. It's not foolish, either. Don't you think you deserve it? I do.
Being sensible about falling in love is ridiculous. Trading in the glass slippers for something that keeps your feet more firmly on the ground is probably a smart idea, though. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 10/27/2006 7:54:53 PM | i always thought that fairytales are full of magic i.e. pumkin=carriage. the trouble
with were fairytales is that i don't know if it is a fairytale or a nightmare until the
tale is over
i know there is magic, i see it everyday. it is called life-a smile-a rainbow and so
many other places/things--people. magic is for all ages! | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 10/28/2006 6:46:52 AM | Hmmm well I dont know if I necessarily believe that intense feelings can evolve after a first date (believe that is called infatuation). I DO think that as we get older, it is easier to distinguish between what we want, and what we don't want.
As a hopeless romantic, I DO believe in the fairytale, however the story has to take time to develop, and in my opinion cannot happen instantaneously. Its possible to feel a connection with someone after a couple of meetings (with a LOT of variables thrown in), but this is usually based more superficial things, and not the "glue" that is necessary to bring two people together in a happy long-term reunion. That being said, feelings for someone have to start from somewhere... right??
Cheers !!
I thought I found someone, but it wasn't meant to be... so Ill keep searching, patiently!  | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 10/28/2006 5:39:21 PM | I think when we aged and experienced things along the way, we tend to mature.. its not that we are picky or man hater bec of the circumstances, its just that we now know what we want....
i dont think fairytales ever comes true tho.... it is just in the book.... but you know what, its not bad to dream and hopefully to live with that dream someday.. it a bonus....
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