ya472
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Joined: 4/29/2006
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 10/26/2006 8:25:50 PM | I dated a couple of women who spoke another language, and my brother is married to a lady who does.
When she is conversing with her friends, there is no way to know what she is talking about, and to me, though, it seems rude when they do it in my presence.
Would this upset you? Does this eventually cause a rift in a relationship ?
Should a person attempt to learn this second language? Or, would it seem like you don't trust your partner/friend?
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*Tee*
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Joined: 9/4/2005
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 10/26/2006 8:42:43 PM | | I would much rather learn their language so that I can converse with them,rather then ask them to speak my language for my sake. I'm totally intrigued by different cultures, maybe thats why I end up dating foreign men, and I have no problem asking them to teach me.. | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 10/26/2006 9:43:42 PM | If they do the following than you should be worried:
1. They point at you, than talk some more, than look at you than laugh.
2. They point at you, than talk some more, than their friend comes up to you, picks you up, and toss you around.
3. They point at you, than talk some more, than they start to make out with each other.
4. They point at you, than talk some more, than they run off to your car and steal your car leaving you stranded.
5. every other example that is similar to the ones I mentioned. | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 10/26/2006 9:49:51 PM | I don't think it would upset me that they speak another language.
It would definately upset me if, for example, there were three of us in a room (myself, my significant other and someone else) and they were having a full on conversation in the other said language.
I've had friends that would have entire conversations in French with me in the room, just sitting there like a dope. It's rude when there's no way I can follow or join in on the conversation.
Any other time but that? No biggie. | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 10/26/2006 11:18:04 PM | how about this for translation:
1. Mi HungEE- Is a short loud grunt a man makes when he is hungry and suggesting to go some place to eat.
2. GRRRRRRR- Can be a short or a long growl which means, "Sniff my butt please, I think you are attracted to me".
3. Arrrggrrrrr- Not to be comfused with number 2, this means that a man had become more sophisticated and decided to use more syllables for an attempt at communication and it basically means the same thing as number 2.
4. Arrrggghhhhhhh- Not to be confused with number 2 or 3, this is the apex of the male's communication. When man has finally triumphed to the best of his ability and brandishes a sword and wears an eye patch while walking on a fake wooden peg leg (Most likely caused by a shark while shark fishing with his own body as bait. Jack Ass 2 the Movie syndrome). This longer yet more complicated grunting means several things: It means, "kill it", "beat it with your****piece", "beat it with your peg leg", or "sniff my armpit please, I think you love me".
5. and being damn proud to be able to communicate with only 4 different grunts. | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 10/26/2006 11:38:05 PM | .
Actually, I grew up like that. Some in my family (and many friends) speak Polish and Russian as well as English. We studied it all through grade school, as well as spoke it at home when the older folks were around. Then, in junior high and high school, we had to take another language and most of us opted for French, which was great for me cause most of my family can speak French (the school didn’t know that).
Throughout our adult life we all used English, of course, except when we were talking about the kids and/or planning something we didn’t want them to know about. Today it’s 99.99% English.
However, I go for haircuts at a shop that was all Polish barbers. Two retired and Arab barbers took their place. That’s cool cause there are many Arab people in the neighborhood now and all the men need haircuts. However, sometimes they would sit there and talk in Arabic. I laughed one day and asked my barber how often that goes on. He said often.
So . . . I started speaking Polish with my barber. The barber cutting hair in the next chair joined in, as did his customer. It was quite interesting how the Arab gentlemen were looking at us when we were telling jokes and laughing in a language they could not understand. Soon, other than greetings & whatnot, English was the only language used in that shop.
Same in a restaurant I frequent. The place is owned by a young Arab-American guy. I only know a few words in Arabic. When Arab people came in speaking Arabic, we would speak French just for the heck of it. They would usually revert to English.
However, there are a couple older Arab business owners in Dearborn who are honestly trying to learn English. I try to speak to them in Arabic and they answer me in English. When we get so mixed up neither of us knows what the hell we are saying, we either use French or call one of their grandkids to act as translator and set us strait again. (Those conversations often become quite humorous and the kids love to listen in.)
Personally, I like languages and am always willing to learn. However, I think it is quite disrespectful to use a language other than English when anyone around cannot understand. I will not do it, except in the very few examples listed above.
I might add, too, that I have never been afraid to tell people to speak English while in public. That started when I was about 15 years old because I grew up in a multicultural neighborhood. (When I was young, I even learned some Italian to be a peace officer on the street.)
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 10/27/2006 4:04:49 AM | I love it.....a great opportunity for learning something new!
I'm conversant in a few of the romance languages already & it's a great laugh to see the look on the cute little Latina's face when she finds out the gringo-looking guy just understood her comment she made to her friend about his ass..... | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 10/27/2006 4:37:57 AM | I think it's cool to have a friend or a date who speaks more than one language. It makes me jealous more than anything because I wish I had taken my french class in high school more seriously.
I do think it's rude when you're hanging around with more than one person who speaks a language you don't speak and they suddenly break into their language in front of you. I used to have a couple of friends who were sisters who grea up in the Samoan Islands, and they did that all the time. It turned out they were talking about me sometimes. Heh heh. | |
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EB1
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Joined: 7/31/2006
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 10/30/2006 5:51:09 AM | English is not my language so I try to answer this question.
I do not speak my own language unless everybody in the precence can speak it. I think it's ignorant. If I have friends visiting me and we have English speaker among us we speak English.
Only if someone phones me and I answer my phone, I will speak my own language in company of others. and I usually tell people that I'm sorry but I have to speak my own language for a little while.
It would not upset me if someone would speak their own language. I would just think it's rude and I might even be bored listening since I would not understand. Then I would just excuse myself from the company and do something else.
I always say try to learn each others languages, it's not always necessary but it's good to know other languages too. | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 10/30/2006 6:01:01 AM | | If you are dating someone who is from another country, of course you should respect them enough to learn their language. First, it will help you understand the culture better, which in turn will help you understand how your partner sees things. Second, you will someday have to meet her family, and learning their language will help you communicate with them, AND it will go a loooooong way toward gaining their respect, too. Finally, it is just plain arrogant of anyone to think their own language is the ONLY or best language...think about this: 69% of Europeans are at least bilingual, and many can speak 3 or even 4 languages. Americans are WAY behind when it comes to learning languages. | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 10/30/2006 6:05:29 AM | OP = Should a person attempt to learn this second language? Or, would it seem like you don't trust your partner/friend?
What do you think? Of course you need to take the time to learn the language. You would be dating this person would you not? Wouldnt it make sense to learn as much about each other as possible? | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 10/30/2006 9:39:55 AM | My ex-girlfriend who is originally from Japan spoke fluent japanese as well as french. Well, when I visited her up in Georgia (where she was going to school at that point), she started to talk in Japanese on the phone. I got so annoyed with that I just walked off down the street a bit. When she caught up, she said that her family routinely spoke japanese when they were at the house or during communications between one another. I didn't really have a problem with that perse if she would of let me know beforehand , but after working in Orlando with people routinely talking in espanol, it became sort of a pet peeve of mine.
After that point, she refrained from speaking foreign when I was around. | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 10/30/2006 10:19:59 AM | Great post, dbndon. Hahaha. Sounds like my family (Russian and Polish). I really didn't learn the languages, but I did learn others for academic reasons.
Many living in the US are stupidly ethnocentric, steadfastly believing that the world rotates at our bidding. The caustic irony - we here in North America are a conglomerate population of immigrants.
Lean another language, visit others lands, study other cultures - it's a very healthy practice, because it encourages respect and tolerance for ways of living different from our own. It enriches and enlivens personal perspective and wisdom by experience. | |
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