| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 10/29/2006 8:42:10 AM | HI I am very new on this back to dating thing. Extremely new to POF. A week, actually. lol
Just met someone in the summer and we have spent Every weekend together since. IT was magic. And i feel it is also special for him. He brought me flowers everytime, and a cuddly bear, and when i had mentioned I liked hedgehogs, he found one somewhere. Made me think he was thinking about me. But i still have questions. And its driving me Crazzzzzzzzzzzzzy!
But we have talked a wee bit about past etc and it appears he has beem burnt before. I feel he is also new to all this. It felt so wonderful to me that I want to hear from him more often, yet he is so busy and I only got that call mid week to arrange to meet for the weekend. Now he only calls nearer the weekend to meet up. When we are together it is still magic. But is this what they call a 'Booty Call? I sound so bloody naieve* Hate feeling needy etc but would like to hear from him during week if only to say goodnight. Am i wrong? Girls, How would you handle this? Guys, what do you think? Help Please | |
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| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 10/29/2006 8:55:59 AM | I'll try to condense what I think here:
If he just comes over for sex and then leaves, it's a booty call.
If he comes over and you go out and spend time with each other talking and getting to know each other, it's dating.
If he comes over and makes plans for the future with you, it's a relationship. 
If you want him to do something different, you may have to verbally express it, very clearly, without a lot of other things mixed into the conversation about feelings and stuff.
As in, "Gerald, I love spending time with you, would you mind if we skipped watching three hours of pro wrestling tonight? I'd like to go out to the domesticated garden plants show at the civic center instead."
Edit: VVVVVVVV LOL! And then there's that! | |
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MAPT
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| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 10/29/2006 9:05:31 AM | JMO...but it sounds like a booty call relationship. My advice is to keep going if you like the weekend fun and just supplement during the week with a weeknight booty call guy. Something like Mon-wed...John, tues-thur...bob, fri-sat ...gus and sunday you can rest up and hang out at POF. I keep emphasizing schedules...gotta have schedules people
Well or find a a guy who isnt just a booty call
JMO
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| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 10/29/2006 9:15:38 AM | Cheers it has been very....well.......its been very! JK ty
Actually, concerning the booty thing It's very mutual......Maybe whats happened is.....Its been awhile since I've been involved that "I have been unleashed" lol and need more of the booty.
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| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 10/29/2006 10:28:54 AM | When I have a thing for someone, they are always on my mind. I would definately call during the week, if only to say hello.
Why wouldn't you call him more often, if that's what you want? How far away does he live? | |
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| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 10/29/2006 10:33:30 AM | yes this is booty call, isn't that what you wanted
You spent every weekend together, was it always about sex?
Of course he'd bring flowers, heddgehogs, and cute cuddly things,
does he still bring those or any items?
he used to call midweek now he only call near weekend.... what does that tell you?
next time he calls near weekend, have him over, but no sex just cuddle, see his
reaction, that might give you some insite on this guy
so yes continue what you're doing but mention to him you now like perfumes, jewelry, and purses, see if he could finds those somewhere. | |
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| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 10/29/2006 10:39:16 AM | | Sounds like he has a lot more going on then just you. Never calls? WTF is that all about? Let me guess, you don't have his number, you don't know where he lives, you always meet in places that he chooses. He doesnt talk much about himself and when he does and you put it all together it doesnt make sense. Sounds like a match made in heaven... | |
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| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 10/29/2006 11:16:50 AM | | Hi I call........ i have hisnumbers its not that its...........and we always go over to his house........He is busy works during week and is working on an album........but but its the week thing that post about introvets and extroverts is making more sense all the time | |
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| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 10/29/2006 11:32:03 AM | | I don't know. Man r so confusing. And I know, woman can be just as much. But this guy does sound suspicious. Depends if his behaviour has changed a lot since u guys been seeing each other. And not changing for the better, meaning, not more towards getting to be closer but more distant. I mean if what he says doesn't match with how he is behaving, RUN! FOREST, RUN! is all I can say.... Also, do u have a 6th sense? IS it telling u something is wrong, just not right? Listen to it. Leave him, forget about him cause I don't know about u but whenever my 6th sense is telling me something and I don't listen to it, I GET BURNED EVERY SINGLE TIME at the end. Just a thought. Good day. | |
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| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 10/29/2006 11:51:14 AM | Girl,
He likes you! He takes the time to bring you something special. That is into you. He calls you once during mid week ,so what you want a everyday chat.,that can get boring, take your time it will be fun. Just enjoy whats going on right now sounds like a good thing and you never know where it might lead.
Enjoy the ride,
Sweetkala | |
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| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 10/29/2006 11:52:13 AM | | Well then call him alot, go over and see him all you want, barge in, be unwelcome and see how it pans out. This will give you the truth of things very fast, unless you don't want the truth... | |
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| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 10/29/2006 12:02:35 PM | He is busy works during week and is working on an album...
Oh, *GOD*!!! You didn't say he was a musician!!
I dated my share of musicians and was even married to one for five years. All I can say is, "AGGGGGGGGGGHHH! RUN! RUN AWAY FAST! Do NOT look back! Do NOT go to his gigs until 2am when you have to work in the morning!! RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN!"
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| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 10/29/2006 12:10:09 PM | ~OP~ I don't know. The booty calls that I hear about most often don't include flowers, magic or cuddle bears. And they rarely happen on the weekend, unless the other options run dry for either party. Personally ~ I "dated" a man for over a year. He would call on Tuesday, set up Friday and that was that. Every single week for a year. We didn't have sex one time, because he had a booty-call relationship with someone he didn't want to date, but was fine sleeping with ~ hey, it worked for me because I didn't want to sleep with him, but I really did enjoy his company. A true booty call in my mind, is nothing magical, it's simply a physical act. What you describe reminds me of dating. Go figure ~ everyone thinks you are a notch in his belt and you might just be dating him. HA!! Now wouldn't that be funny???  Just my opinion ~ but you're probably more likely to get the real answer from him, not from a bunch of strangers in a public forum.  | |
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| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 10/29/2006 1:08:58 PM | You have been seeing each other for long enough that it would not be out of the question to bring up how he may feel about "exclusivity". You will know then...if he still want's an "out" you will know by the way he reacts.
Any stumbling or even quick agreement may give you the answers you need to see if "he is really that into you"....If not, then move on.
Nothing worse that being a temp. when you could be meeting the right one! | |
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| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 1/27/2007 4:09:20 AM | BabyV,
If you want to know, there's the old fashioned way!! Ask him, ask him to spill the beans! Ask him why no more cuddly things and don't settle for something easy, make a point to get an answer! Ask him why his phone calls are closer to the weekend, instead of like they were in the beginning, here a tidbit. If he wants your attention he will make time for the things that are important. So don't settle, if your important to him, he had better make the time for those certain things | |
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