| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 10/31/2006 2:31:29 PM | Whether it was really far away, out of date by a long time, apparently air brushed etc...
What do you do when you meet and you're like, "um, Jack?...or Diane?" Is it that big a deal to you after you've gotten to know a person or do you just go on from there? Feel free to throw in some past experiences where the pic was just SO different than the person you met, and what you ended up doing. | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 10/31/2006 2:41:11 PM | well, you have to ask yourself , was the person trying to deceive you, if thats the case,, you only need to be polite and just say there is no connection.
I have ran into this on a few occasions and if they can be dishonest, then you have the right to be Honest.
You are not obligated in no way to try and make something work between the two of you..as the person was being deceitful in the beginning. | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 10/31/2006 2:47:18 PM | | Just remember, people post very good pics of themselves. Nobody posts a bad pic on their profile. When they do, everybody's like, 'why did you post such a bad pic?'. Flattering pics are good, but unrealistic pics are not good. Or 20 year old pics, never understood the importance of showing someone what you used to look like, if you look vastly different now. Then again, some people assume (or wish) they havent changed at all in 20 years. | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 10/31/2006 2:57:59 PM | Sadly, in seven months I've had 10 dates through online dating. Eighty percent did not look like their profile picture. I was polite, paid for the dinner. Problem is, you can't start a relationship with a lie. I haven't an answer for old pics. Perhaps not relying on online dating.... meeting people at social stuff, church, sport events, ect. is better. Best to all..  | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 10/31/2006 3:18:33 PM | I made arrangements to meet a man from POF at Tim Hortons... I walked past him several times.. He finally called my name... He did not look anything like the photo on his profile... The man I met was at least thirty years older..
But as we had made plans for drinks and dinner, besides we had spoken onthe phone a few times so I was curious why he had posted such an old photo.
When I mentioned the picture he seemed surprized... He said it was him but around 20 (plus) years ago.. He thought he had not changed much!!!!
We had a lovely evening. Very funny man but not my type, nor I his..
I did notice the next time I viewed his profile, that he had gotten new pics...
I have actually come across this a few times..men who really think they have not changed that much... Do people not look in mirrors???
two or three years ...OK but over 20! Also with weight.. they think they appear the same at 100 pounds heaver!!
amazing!!!!!!!!!!!
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 10/31/2006 3:28:18 PM | Instantaneous deal-breaker. I HATE that. It's a cruel calculated trick that some people do because they aren't happy with their true/correct current appearance. I find this the most horrific trick that online people play. I have actually been on a first meeting where I stood right next to him waiting for him. I had NO clue the man next to me was the man I was supposed to be meeting. Now, I require TONS of pictures, and webcam time. Grrr, the subject makes my teeth grind.  | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 10/31/2006 4:05:52 PM | Man you look like a dog, or I might be interested myself  Anyway, I have no use for liars of any kind...but recently I met a man at frisch's that I had talked to off and on for more than 6 months...He looked nothing like his picture, plus was 100#'s heavier which was not a problem because he is 6'3"...the problem was I thought I was stood up until he called out my name...We dated for several weeks but it was like I didn't even know him...
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 10/31/2006 4:34:05 PM | | I'm with verygreeneyez. This has happened to me many, many times. I had a date with a person who posted a picture of her friend! I only knew it was her because she told me what she would be wearing. In advertising they call this "bait and switch" and it is illegal. | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 10/31/2006 4:42:29 PM | Does anybody really look like they do on their driver's license?
Some people might not usually be the person in FRONT of the camera, but BEHIND it most of the time so they don't have that many pictures.
To have a picture on your profile that you had fun doing Glamour shots over the weekend, is that you on a day to day basis? All dolled up like that at the office, or stopping to grab a gallon of milk.
Maybe that's where the saying your picture doesn't do you justice, or you look better in person than you do in your picture. I want to date the person I'm meeting, not their picture which may not look like them. | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 10/31/2006 4:58:15 PM | You know what. I can take two pics the same day and depending on the lighting, whether I've used a facial astrigent, or just for men, people have had difficulty recognizing me. I have an illness that on off days makes me look "older" and on good days using just for men. Well you see my pic. I actually think it best to meet someone on an "off day". If they can't put up with both the good and the bad, they don't deserve either. If I were to line up any set of pics, I doubt anyone could put them in chronological order. I've avoided many an unnecessary date by sending an off day pic when someone contacts me. | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 10/31/2006 6:11:23 PM | | I have to admit I have been stunned because of this and haven't dated off the internet yet because of it.I also find many women have the old pic's combined with the new.I wonder why this is.But at least there is some honesty to it.Therefore I prefer to wait until I am sure who it is that I am interested in.Allthough I like to pay moe attention to whats on the inside.It starts with honesty and from the start I'd say thats where the picture comes in | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 10/31/2006 7:13:18 PM | Huge deal breaker for me. Add to that the misrepresentation of the height and weight ... most of the time, I just have a cup of coffee and find somewhere else to be. It's lying ... no matter what you say.
My pictures really do look like me and they are current. It's trying to meet someone under false pretenses ... it's not right and all I can say is that I admire anyone who follows through and continues to date someone who would do such a thing. | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 10/31/2006 7:37:20 PM | | I think some people are being honest when they think they haven't changed in 20 years. Since they see themselves every day, they don't notice the gradual changes that occur. If you didn't see someone in ten years, they'd probably look quite a bit older to you, but if you were with them every day you'd hardly notice them aging before you. | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 10/31/2006 7:43:07 PM | I met someone whos pic was different then they were. His picture was a total lie. It was him but he was about 200-250 lbs heavier in person. He was bigger in his pic and said "i am a few extra lbs."
Well the fool moved here from regina and I met him and he was bout 400 lbs!!!!! I am sorry but that is just a little to big for me and there is no way in heck id fall for someone that big. At least I cant see it happening. | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 10/31/2006 9:20:22 PM | when younger I used to use telepersonals and there weren't any pics back in the day, it was all just talking so I met this guy he said he was a tall dark handsome lawyer who worked down town etc. he went on and on about how he turned heads, was so attractive, fighting off women, said he was 6ft 180lbs, 28 years old. I thought I was really into him. When I met him he had wide hips like an old woman, face like an animal, was at least a decade older than he claimed looked nothing like he said he did.... I said .... um.... hi. I was too polite to leave on the spot, even though he was a big liar and deserved to be ditched LOL but I was nicer then so I went to lunch, he said OMG you are late and I'm starving, seemed really mad, THEN he had a boner all through lunch, I know because I thought it looked like it, was really obvious and I said "OMG is the what I think it is," he said yes, THEN he ate a whole pizza and poured some kind of oil over it, then asked me to go to his place haha...and said maybe not, I ran for the subway....what a creep. That was one of my worst dating experiences....one of them.
Another guy I met said he was a young looking 40, I was 24 or so but though hey little old but why not, well I think he was more like an old looking 50 rofl and lied about other stuff too, painted himself to be way hotter, I was very disappointed.
I got better and better at it, figured out what questions needed to be asked, how to tell is somebody was lying etc. so I did eventually meet the kind of guys I was looking for.
I did learn from that that everyone thinks they are good looking and will all tell you they "get called cute a lot"...probably by their Mother and nobody else. ;)
I like net dating way better because you get a pic, cams etc. next best thing to the real thing, you can really get an idea of who you're meeting unlike just trying to tell if somebody "sounds" good. People don't usually match their voice but net dating can be freaky too. I'm pretty new to it still and am honestly finding it fascinating. | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 10/31/2006 9:48:51 PM | [I think some people are being honest when they think they haven't changed in 20 years. Since they see
themselves every day, they don't notice the gradual changes that occur. If you didn't see someone in ten
years, they'd probably look quite a bit older to you, but if you were with them every day you'd hardly notice
them aging before you.]-Cheap Trick Fan
That's exactly right. It's a gradual process & we often don't notice it. Or there might be other reasons. As
another person posted, if we are the one who is usually behind the camera, then we won't have many pics of
ourselves. When I first started online dating (2 1/3 years ago), I only had one picture scanned. (I don't have a
digital camera). It's cropped from a larger photo; it was taken at my last wedding, in 1999. LOL (It's the one
with the white shirt, 4th from the left)
Once, on another site, I inadvertently switched pic #3 from left (which was taken in 1982),
for my main pic. No intent to decieve, just didn't have many pictures scanned. Now I have lots, all my others
are within this past year. | |
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