| Dating East Indian Men
Posted: 11/1/2006 2:40:10 PM | I am originally of East Indian deccent but have been here in the United States all my life and am completely Americanized in every single way.
What do most women here feel about dating a guy of East Indian heritage? Are they somewhat reluctant because we are not one of the major minority races - - i.e. Hispanic, Black and Asian? | |
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Posted: 11/1/2006 3:01:08 PM | Race may not have anything to do with it.....
1)Since you were raised within the American culture, would it be difficult for you to date someone that was born and raised in India?
2)Would there be a culture clash?
3)Do East Indian men treat women differently than the Indian men that grew up in the states?
I'm asking because I have no clue. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2006 3:07:02 PM | Below are my responses:
1)Since you were raised within the American culture, would it be difficult for you to date someone that was born and raised in India?
ANSWER - Yes it definately would be. I have actually dated someone who was born and brought up in India and it just did not work out due to too many differences in values.
2)Would there be a culture clash?
ANSWER - Well that depends on how westernized the other person is. I am very liberal minded and I often clash with even my own parents in this regard.
3)Do East Indian men treat women differently than the Indian men that grew up in the states?
ANSWER - Yes they do. East Indian men who were born and brought up in India have a very different attitude towards women than someone like myself. Unfortunately that attitude is not at all good. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2006 3:12:45 PM | | Snow Bear - I am not quite sure I understand what you are saying here? Please explain. Thanks. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2006 3:12:48 PM | Thank you for the input.
I just wonder if the same applies to any culture as well? Such as if one is raised in the USA versus someone from Russia, Bosnia, Spain, etc....... | |
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Posted: 11/1/2006 3:25:31 PM | I haven't really thought about it before as I haven't really meant many men of East Indian heritage, and the few I have, have been married.
I guess it would just depend on how traditional he was. I don't think I could date one that was very traditional. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2006 3:29:15 PM | | I don't limit myself to any race but I've got a weak spot when it comes to East Indian women. | |
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Sigi
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Joined: 5/26/2005
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| Dating East Indian Men
Posted: 11/1/2006 3:33:37 PM |
I just wonder if the same applies to any culture as well? Such as if one is raised in the USA versus someone from Russia, Bosnia, Spain, etc.......
^^ What do you think...of course!
And when you are raised in an other country (doesn't have to be in the USA), you often experience a cultural difference/value with the 'heritage' country/background. | |
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Posted: 11/28/2006 11:34:40 AM | | For some reason East Indian Woman are highly desired by White men - - I have seen this through out college as well as my workplace. But that is not at all the case with East Indian men - - i.e. white women don't seem to respond to East Indian men in the same way white men respond to east indian women. | |
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ecleo
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Joined: 11/16/2006
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Posted: 11/28/2006 11:51:20 AM | ECLEO - You are probably one of a kind and I really wish we lived closer to each other 
Da Hitman - yes you are correct some east indian men don't really respect women that much but usually they are the ones who were brought up in India/Pakistan and then came here at a later age. But those us (like myself) who have pretty been here all of our lives - - tend to be just as americanized as and have western values as any other white american make would. | |
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Posted: 11/28/2006 7:15:01 PM | | who are you fooling?sri lankans,hindus,etc are the most major ethnic group in north america?show me you stats that say otherwise........... | |
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Posted: 11/28/2006 7:18:56 PM | | I wouldn't have a problem dating someone of another race, east indian included. It all depends on the person. I would never prejudge someone based on their race, everyone is different. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2006 12:08:37 PM | | I guess my question is more directed towards the online medium. I myself being a person of Indian heritage have never had much problem meeting and dating women outside of the online medium but just feel that women are more hesitant over here and don't really respond that much to a person of Indian Heritage. | |
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iammeg
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Joined: 1/24/2006
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| Dating East Indian Men
Posted: 12/5/2006 8:40:47 PM | I am white and I dated an East Indian man once. I didn't even consider the fact that he is east indian. I ended the relationship because he was really possessive and even after I ended it he was still phoning me months later. We'd only had one date and talked on the phone a few times! I'm not saying that all east Indian men are possessive; just that one loser (it was actually quite scary).
My current boyfriend is chinese and, honestly, most of the time I forget until someone asks me what his last name is. | |
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Posted: 12/21/2006 11:20:14 AM | | It's nothing wrong dating a East Indian Heritage! Well if a girl can except you because you are East Indian, then she isn't worth it! Forget her! There are white girls out there that like East Indians, or other races of girls! Me to be honest I think East Indian men are hot! Most of them are good looking. I think it's nice dating a guy of East Indian Heritage! I wouldn't mind dating an East Indian guy! | |
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Posted: 12/21/2006 11:44:37 AM | I don't think about a man's nationality when talking to him, what I do look for is someone with similar values, customs, lifestyles and interests. Culture in India is very different than it is in Canada, and women are generally treated with very little respect.
The media focuses on the poor living conditions in India, the horrendous violence women are subjected to and the old traditions of arranged marriages. That would discourage a lot of women here from having anything to do with any East Indian man, regardless of where he was raised. It's the perception of culture clash perhaps? Just my opinion, but I am sure there are plenty of women who would like to get to know you, so don't give up. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2007 9:52:10 AM | I love Indian men...their accent, their dark skin...
Just love it all! Turns me ON!! | |
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Posted: 1/12/2007 10:05:26 AM | | why do most east indian men think so low about them selves that no other races likes them, again another of this east indian cry me threads but have more confidence in yourself on who will love you not date you because you are an indian. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2007 12:25:27 PM | I think this thread has much merit and is NOT a pity thread.
Like the OP, I am also a "Coconut"; Brown on the outside and White on the inside. Everything about me is Western Canadian, except my appearance. I have found it quite difficult to make connections with women online due to stereotyping. Now, I don't blame anyone, as these are societal realities and I fall into the trap myself on occasion.
One thing I'd wish people would do more, is take the time to get to know one another before hitting that damn "block" or "delete button!!" Life is too short to assume or judge prematurely.
I am very confident in my appearance, intelligence and mate fulfillment potential but am getting tired of trying to meet people this way. I have no troubles building great connections with people face to face, but cyberspace is another story. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2007 4:10:49 PM | I had a professor in college that was from East India, he was one of the most intelligent men I've ever met in my life.
The East Indians i've met - the ones that are educated and working in a profession have been absoultely wonderful. I wouldn't think twice about dating one.
Just don't feed me anything with curry in it - please! | |
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Posted: 1/12/2007 7:01:26 PM | With open-mindedness comes respect and appreciation for one another, and although I would prefer to date a westernized Indian man as opposed to one raised there, for the same reasons I prefer an open-minded Mexican, Lebanese or hill-billy from Kansas, it all boils down to the initial attraction felt along with the ability to put aside all prejudices.
PS: I certainly think Indian men are hot and are in. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2007 7:03:08 PM | My uncle is from Saudi Arabia.. We call him "the terrorist" of the family 
He's the head civil engineer for a major city in Detroit, makes more than just about anyone I know  | |
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Posted: 1/16/2007 4:00:05 PM | To all of you: Thank you very much for the thoughtful and useful responses.
I have certainly had a good deal of success in dating women of other races (i.e. Caucasian, Asian or Hispanic) but that is in a real life type scenario. It is just that I feel that when it comes to "online dating," East Indian men are not as easily accepted.
As mentioned by some of you above - - there is this taboo with East Indian men that they are narrow minded or that their views towards women are not in par with Western/American standards. I think that this is completely unfair because for those of us (like myself) who have lived here for the most part of our lives, our views are very open minded (perhaps even more open minded than most Caucasian or African American men). | |
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