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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/1/2006 8:13:09 PM | What do you mean by, 'not taking care of himself.'
Yes, I would date a man who would be living paycheck to paycheck. God knows, there's lots of wonderfully decent men out there who're struggling like many of us.
That hardly deems me to place him in the, 'reject' catagory.
Jeeze, how shallow can one be. | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/1/2006 8:19:06 PM | | I met a guy who's really nice and he liked me, but I didn't like him because he doesn't really take care of himself. He moved Hong Kong for already half an year and his apartment still look like sh*t. He doesn't have any friends here and not intend to meet anyone. So it turned me off when I think that I need to take care of him if we have a relationship. It's like he got nothing except you, doesn't it make you scared in a way? | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/1/2006 8:32:00 PM | Stuggling does suck. Trust me i know,,cuz i am doing just that myself.
What does having a messy or unkempt apt have to do with living check to check? Maybe he is just that way,,,,a slob. lol As far as 'not intending to find freinds',,,how do you know that? He's only been there 6 months and he works too. Give the guy a break ffs.
Actually,,if you do plan on leaving him,,,,you're actually doing him a favor. I bet you are the whiney type that pouts and stomps her foot when his world and his money doesnt revolve around you. | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/1/2006 8:32:10 PM | Ok, this is just an assumption from what you have posted...
If you mean somebody who maybe doesn't have any future plans, no ambition, doesn't seem to do anything with his life....I'll be honest and say no, I wouldn't be attracted to that.I'm extremely ambitious and look for the same in a partner..
If you're talking about a man that is living paycheck to paycheck to make ends meet so that he can one day make something of himself, yes, definitely! Regardless of how much money he has.. knowing that he has goals, and a drive to get ahead in life, is a major plus in my book... | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/1/2006 8:38:09 PM | | It's not only about this. He moved here 7 months already and his apt still look like sh*t, he doesnt even have a tv or sofa at home. Also, he doesn't have any friends here and he's not intend to make any friends. He still doesn't have a working visa which means he might get kickout anytime! Doesn't this turns you off that he got nothing except you and you need to take care of him all the time? And I feel insecure to date a guy that he might gotta leave the country anytime. Am I so wrong about this? No offense about the post topic, maybe I wasn't clear enough. | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/1/2006 8:52:38 PM | C'mon guys, cut her some slack! You can tell english is her second language, maybe show a little compassion and understanding while she's trying to get her point across!
Lovely...If you're worried that this man can't seem to do anything on his own, then maybe you shouldn't get involved with him. The fact that he's not doing anything about his visa means that he really doesn't care wether he stays there or not. If he did, he'd get his butt moving...It might not be a good idea to start a relationship with somebody that could, at any moment, be sent back home.
Regardless of all that, only you know your preferences, and you know what you can handle. Don't get involved with a man for the sake of being with somebody. You are a beautiful girl, and you should never settle with someone, if you don't agree with his way of living.. | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/1/2006 8:56:37 PM |
What do you mean by, 'not taking care of himself.'
Yes, I would date a man who would be living paycheck to paycheck. God knows, there's lots of wonderfully decent men out there who're struggling like many of us.
That hardly deems me to place him in the, 'reject' catagory.
Jeeze, how shallow can one be.
ty irish eyes.. couldn`t have said it any better myself.. | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/1/2006 9:00:21 PM | ok number one did he have a job from the country he came from?? Number two did u ever think that maybe his self esteem was low, that maybe he hasn't done soo well in the past with jobs and maybe he's nervous in a new country?? see people have to think about these things when they talk about other people, WHY is this happening?? are you willing to find out?
have u asked him? and personally unless you live in his apartment you have NO RIGHT to judge it , that is HIS not yours.
if something is going on with him, then maybe consider asking him if he needs some help in certain areas. I bet he's really appriciate it.
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/1/2006 9:19:51 PM |
I mean if a guy is living paycheck by paycheck that means he doesn't have any plans for future and doesn't take care himself at all. Would this be a turn off for you?
Sure I would...why wouldn't I? Paycheck to paycheck is how many people live....even those WITH higher educations. Now..if you are materialistic and want a man with money...I can see why the paycheck to paycheck thing would be an issue with you. | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/1/2006 9:30:05 PM | just because a person is living from paycheck to paycheck it doesn't mean that they don't have a nest egg that you don't know about nor does it mean that they don't take care of themselves. it wouldn't turn me off because i know what it's like. as long as his/her partner really cares enough or is in love with him/her that should be good enough.
i feel as if anyone that gets turned off because of that should do some soul searching....they could have been down on their luck or might end up being down on their luck one day. money is nothing but a piece of paper with numbers on it to pay back debts for past, present, and future.
i'm sorry, i have to agree with sweettreat | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/1/2006 9:40:21 PM |
so does that mean you would have a relationship with someone if he might get kickout of the country anytime?
Could be he's just there for a visit, and did not plan on staying in the country !!!! I can't see, why you can not have a relationship with him !!!! You are in Hong Kong visiting as-well, do you plan on living there the rest of your life ? !!!! Or do you plan on returning to Canada, someday !!!!
Before you get into a serious relationship with him, you should speak to him, just like you did here, and see what the outcome is !!!!
Good Luck !!!!......................................................Benz !!!! | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/1/2006 9:45:44 PM | I wouldn't have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck to paycheck!
A woman, now that's a different story!
The guy living paycheck to paycheck, and has things in order, must be doing something right. I worked a job that the pay was really crappy compared to the hours worked. I worked the job for 5 years too. I liked the job, because I liked what I did. I was a taxi driver in western New York.
So if a guy living paycheck to paycheck, and a woman that is doing the same got together, and split the cost of living, HOLY COW........that produces money to do other stuff with.
So that's how my parents were able to afford the house we lived in as a kid, AND took us camping, fishing, to amusement parks, to Niagra Falls, and other FAMILY stuff.
Many things that our parents did while we were growing up, should be brought back around full steam ahead and shown to the younger generations that seem to forget the family values stuff we learned as a kid. GOOD LORD I'm only 33 and sound like I should be 63. | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/1/2006 9:46:27 PM | you took the risk of being with him in the first place knowing all of this, you made your choice.
you have choices now too. do u really want to break up with someone over money and a messy house? is money really that important?? there are many free or cheap things you can do on dates, going for walks, a picnic, a candlelit dinner, a movie, reading to one another, ice skating, whatever else there is. and to answer your question if I really liked the guy, then yes I would enjoy the little time I had with him, I beleive that two people meet for a reason even if that person is only in their lives for a short while! do u remember what attracted you to him in the first place? thinking positive will getcha somewhere. | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/1/2006 9:47:00 PM | maybe i'm missing something in translation, so if that is the case then I do apologize, but like many have already said, a lot of us live paycheck to paycheck. I just quit a good job at a pharmaceutical company I hateed working for so I could go to culinary school to be a chef, something I have always wanted to do.
So now I'm starting at the bottom of the ladder and making almost nothing working in a restaurant while going to school, so I definately live paycheck to paycheck, but that doesn't meant I don't have ambition or plans for the future. I willingly made this sacrifice to give up a decent job, move to a new town and roommate with total strangers so I could do something I feel passionate about.
You haven't really given us much information on your boyfriend, so we don't know why he has moved to HK, why his VISA is still an issue, and why he doesn't have a TV or Sofa or nice furniture in his flat. Could it be that he is really short of extra cash and still views things like a TV as a luxery that will have to wait?
You are coming across as materialistic and shallow, but perhaps that is just something that is lost in translation, so I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt.
You need to tell us more about why he's in HK, with no VISA, what job he is working, etc., before any of us can really make further comment.
And I agree with another poster, that you are very lovely, but looks aren't everything. You probably need to make a decision about how you really feel about this boyfriend and if you really care about him enough to help him through a difficult time, or if you just need to move on to some guy with money that can make you happy. | |
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| Would you have a relationship with a guy who's living paycheck by paycheck?
Posted: 11/1/2006 9:54:32 PM | So language barriers aside ~ I fail to see what the problem is. Maybe I missed it, but you obviously aren't attracted to this guy so don't go out with him. There! That was easy.
And yes I would definitely go out with a guy who lives paycheck to paycheck. Money struggles aren't a character flaw. | |
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