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i would like to suggest that pof add a feature to the blocking function; once you've blocked someone, you [the blocker] are then blocked from sending further e-mails to the blockee. or, alternatively, if you send someone a message after blocking them, the blockee gets a chance to reply.
i know you're going to say it shouldn't be necessary, and i agree with you there. but, i think it would be a good idea. here's the (short) story: i've been blocked twice, both times after saying a polite "no thanks". both guys sent me messages. when i attempted to reply, i found out i was blocked. in both instances, i was irritated. not because i care about being blocked, but because their messages were deliberately inflammatory and/or insulting. ok...the truth is...i also kinda wanted the last word....a rebuttal opportunity.
obviously, most people use the block function as expected. but for the minority who see the block function as an opportunity to send insults, attacks, unsolicited political rants, etc., and be insulated from any reply, there would be value in having the block function work both ways...the blocker could neither send nor receive messages to/from the blockee.
would like to suggest that pof add a feature to the blocking function; once you've blocked someone, you [the blocker] are then blocked from sending further e-mails to the blockee. or, alternatively, if you send someone a message after blocking them, the blockee gets a chance to reply.
of course, if they'd just been mature and gone on with their lives, i wouldn't even know i'd been blocked...because i would never have mailed them.
the point is, i was already done, and wouldn't bother blocking someone i'm not interested in, when the interchange had previously been amicable. are you suggesting that i just block anyone i determine i'm not interested in?? if you check my profile, you will note that i have absolutely no restrictions on who can send me mail. there are men on this site that have become friends AFTER i said i was not interested romantically. if i had just blocked them, i wouldn't have made those new friends.
nope. i think i shouldn't have to be bothered by a discontented instigator. with simultaneous blocking, it's likely i'd never even know i had been blocked.
and miss13, wherever did you get that idea???
ok...the truth is...i also kinda wanted the last word....a rebuttal opportunity.
obviously, most people use the block function as expected. but for the minority who see the block function as an opportunity to send insults, attacks, unsolicited political rants, etc., and be insulated from any reply, there would be value in having the block function work both ways...the blocker could neither send nor receive messages to/from the blockee.
if you are being harassed by email,
a) block them b) report them via the Report User link at the bottom of their profile c) drop a note to the global Forum Moderator account.
ok, trappedonbayst, i definitely can do that. already blocked them, and i will report them, too.
but i still think the suggestion is a good one. i'm no programer, but i'd think the simultaneous block would be fairly simple to implement. and, it would, ultimately, result in fewer instances of members reporting inappropriate behavior...and less work for you mods . jmho...
ok...the truth is...i also kinda wanted the last word....a rebuttal opportunity.
Along with E-Mail blocking them, goes the Decision to not have any further Correspondence with them.
when i attempted to reply, i found out i was blocked. in both instances, i was irritated. not because i care about being blocked, but because their messages were deliberately inflammatory and/or insulting.
Just a last swath to get under your Skin ...
After you block them, forget all about them, put your Attention on more constructive and amenable Communications.
The first Step, or usual initial Procedure would be to E-Mail Block a User, if nothing more than a few unfriendly Words have been exchanged via E-Mail or Instant Messenger. To block a specific User from contacting you again, go to your Inbox, open the E-Mail of the User in Question, at the bot- tom left click on the Block User Link.
Below the Block User Link, at the very Bottom of any opened received E-Mail Message is also a Spam/Scam Report Link you can click to report that User for having sent you Spam and/or Scams.
Plentyoffish.com is not responsible for the contents of these messages. If a user requests money on this site it's a scam, and you should report it here along with any other type of scam/spam.
Your Profile must have been in Existence for at least 30 Days and be E-Mail logged into the Plentyoffish Site before you can see the Report Member Link and file Reports.
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Should minor Threats, Profile Misrepresentations, Multiple Profiles and similar related Issues, e-mailing of offensive Images, Non-Forum or Site Violations be involved, or other Conduct unbecoming which require Corrections or have a Bearing on the Status of being of POF Member, then use the Report Member Link at the Bottom of any given User's Profile.
Your Profile must have been in Existence for at least 30 Days and be E-Mail logged into the Plentyoffish Site before you can see the Report Member Link and file Reports.
If the Matter is of a more urgent Nature, you have Queries, or the blocked User continues to harrass/stalk you via another Account/Profile, e-mail any of the Moderators.
Personally I've been blocked twice and I feel both times were inappropriate. I understand the need for a block mechanism, however I'm curious how many other people have been inappropriately blocked and I think it'd be good to change the programming so that when someone initiates a block the target person is able to send one response message before the block comes into full effect. That way misunderstandings can be addressed (or apologies offered) and childish insult/last word then block manuevers are prevented. Whose with me?
Copy the insult, block the user, go to their profile if you're still ticked, click on "report user" highlight the appropriate stupidity, paste the offensive mail into the text field, send, done.
your advice doesn't apply to my cases because they were both misunderstandings... theres no insults etc to report to mods... the people I was chatting with ended our conversations with misconceptions about what I was saying and I'd like to explain things but I cant because of the immediate blocks placed on me... there is no possibility of reconciliation, which means we both lose out on a potential friendship
I've had the same experience as the OP ... and admit, that it's quite irritating to compose an answer to the insulting email only to discover that you have been blocked from sending it. In the meantime, I've just developed the attitude that even sending a final reply would not change a doggone thing ... and they quite possibly would not read it anyways ... unread/delete would more likely be the response which would just irritate you further.
When people do things like that ... I just picture an immature individual on the other end and actually end up feeling sorry for them. You know in your heart that they must be a very unhappy individual to be pulling such hateful, yet childish stunts. It's best just to focus on the positive and put that kind of stuff behind you. Don't give it a second thought ... those people just aren't worth it.
I've been on and off this site for a year or more. Today was the first time I've been blocked. It was so weird...right in the middle of a long conversation which seemed to be going well. He had just given me his phone number, which I didn't write down, and we were talking about our next conversation and my computer crashed. When I finally got back in and tried to write him...I was blocked.
I like the idea of having one last chance to say something... like hey...wasn't trying to ditch ya, computer crashed. Now, I'm left with this feeling that I did something wrong...which is just so...wrong...laughter.
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