| How "quirky" is too quirky when it comes to a date?
Posted: 11/2/2006 11:01:05 PM | Lots of people do the "coffee meet" as a first contact but that can get kind of boring after a while. The atmosphere of a job interview makes it hard to realy express who you really are. Maybe that's not true for everyone, but let's assume for the sake of argument that you want to get out of the coffee shop (cause it's going well) and do something different.
So, when faced with the quickness of people to see "red flags" in any kind of strange behavior, where would you draw the line on "quirky" dates? Here are some examples:
Just riding the bus (saw this in a movie, and I'm talking about the city bus)
Going to one of those big toy stores, just to play (this worked great for me)
visiting a really old cemetary to do headstone rubbings (also a movie)
Going Trick or Treating (in Febuary, also a really fun time)
Does anyone have any other suggestions of fun (but kind of strange) dates? | |
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| How quirky is too quirky when it comes to a date?
Posted: 11/2/2006 11:10:03 PM | Go kill some time at a dollar store ... no two are alike and if you decide to buy something it won't cost you a fortune.
One first meeting I had, we met for a drink at a quaint bar on the main street in the middle of town. We had our drink, then went for a walk. It was different, because we had met in such a small town, that it only took us an hour to walk to the end of town on one side of the street, then walk to the other end of town on the other side of the street, and return to the bar we had met at ... had another drink and both went our separate ways. We did not date ... but continue to remain really good friends. | |
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| How quirky is too quirky when it comes to a date?
Posted: 11/3/2006 6:36:55 AM | Here are some from my own experiences of " quirky " dates...
1) Sightseeing the city that we both live in. Toronto is a fascinating place but people are generally too busy to explore it. So, we decided to just walk around the city and get lost together in little alleys and places that we would never consider getting lost in simply bc we work all the time...it was fun, interesting and romantic.
2) Cemetary - just to chill there and talk. It was a nice sunny day and cemetaries have an ethereal quality to it.
3) School library - believe it or not, the " studying " time was THE date and it was very cool :)
4) At an art gallery.
Nothing too quirky....call me old-fashioned, but I like the idea of a nice restaurant, getting all dressed up and hitting a hip/trendy bar after to do some dancing and boozing. | |
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| How quirky is too quirky when it comes to a date?
Posted: 11/3/2006 7:47:53 AM | | Quirk is good, normal is boring, but any normal date can be made quirky by behaving oddly. Then if she doesn't play along she's not the right one. Normal people want safe boring lives and they don't show up for the important things in love because of the risks involved. | |
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| How quirky is too quirky when it comes to a date?
Posted: 11/3/2006 8:04:20 AM |
visiting a really old cemetary to do headstone rubbings (also a movie)
HAHAHAHAHAHA 
LOL ............ that line was so funny for me......
Quirky is good.......... Creepy is BAAAAAAAAAAAAD! | |
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| How quirky is too quirky when it comes to a date?
Posted: 11/3/2006 8:23:07 AM | i really haven't had any quirky dates, but i willl admit the meeting for coffee does get a little dull. and i find it a bit uncomfortable to chat, actually, unless it is in a quaint little place but tim hortons just isn't relaxing or comfortable.
with christmas approaching, i am a big kid about the lights and all the decorations. the idea of walking through somewhere really nicely decorated, window shopping, just strolling, stopping for hot chocolate, just chatting and enjoying the ambience.
the season is over but i love going to country fairs.
I like cemetaries myself, really old ones. the hamilton cemetary in my area is quite interesting. even better, you could do one of the haunted walks offered in a lot of places and then afterwards go for a drink/hot chocolate/coffee and then you have this activity that you did to talk about, etc.
local farmer's markets..i love exploring markets, although the local one for me isn't great. but something different, then pick up lunch there and go eat in the park, etc.
in the summer, if the guy is into it, go fishing...i don't know anything about fishing but if he does, that would be a fun way to spend a morning, bring a packed lunch, etc...as long as we can let them go back | |
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| How quirky is too quirky when it comes to a date?
Posted: 11/3/2006 8:29:36 AM | Well some quirky dates I generally hold off on till the 3rd or 4th date are as follows:
1)Donning popcorn suits and going for a walk in Central Park.
2)Setting up a Slip and Slide at a Shriners Convention.
3)Visiting Celebrity addresses and asking to borrow a cup of sugar.
4) BBQ'ing Babyback Ribs at a PETA rally.
5) Wearing Matching Sailor Suits and Going to an Army home game against anyone but Navy.
Happy to help, and good luck! 
Have fun ;)! | |
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| How quirky is too quirky when it comes to a date?
Posted: 11/3/2006 8:31:31 AM | Coffee is a kind of generic term that leaves both parties a convenient out should the chemistry not be there. It's my experience that the decision as to what to do isn't a problem if everything clicks and if it doesn't, the "coffee" thing is your out. I personally dont think it's a good idea to over plan that first meeting anyway. Puts to much pressure on all concerned. Here's what I do... I bring my sense of humor with me and If nothing else, I enjoy the time and unless my date is a total dullard (and some are), so does she. I've met some really fine gals that I didn't really click with but we had a fun time anyway. On the other hand, I've met a few that left me wondering. I'll never forget the one that hated bikes, out of doors etc. I have no idea what she expected but she did get the coffee and a smile.
Here's where the emailing and a few phone calls really help. If I'm a good istener I already have an idea of what my date likes and I take it from there. The best advice I can give is this:
Lighten up man... it's just a girl...  | |
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| How quirky is too quirky when it comes to a date?
Posted: 11/3/2006 8:56:07 AM | | I've had an interesting first date at a small town zoo. We were to have coffee but the zoo was just across the road, so there we went. It was fun...the kind of zoo that if you can catch the goat/rooster/peacock you can pet it. I love a quirky date but like Thorn I think it should wait until the 3rd or 4th date, before that it might just be plain strange. | |
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| How quirky is too quirky when it comes to a date?
Posted: 11/3/2006 10:45:54 AM | | I like the idea of the flea market..you can walk around and talk at leasure without being forced to communicate..there are lots of people around and you can have coffee or a snack if you like. If nothing else, you might find something you like to buy there! | |
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| How quirky is too quirky when it comes to a date?
Posted: 11/3/2006 12:31:57 PM | Pack lunches and feed the homeless
Did anyone else visualize a date where the couple sits on a park bench, tosses sandwiches on the ground, and watches homeless people flock around them like pigeons? | |
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| How quirky is too quirky when it comes to a date?
Posted: 12/1/2006 7:43:58 AM | Quirky (or about time)
Some time ago I had made friends with a Guy in the Military... We had met over one of these dating sites of course and he was deployed over in sand land. There was synergy right away but never could get in the same place at the same time to ever meet. LOL long story short and 3 years later he wrote me saying he was going to be in MD for a friends wedding. Now I'm 3 hrs out of the way ... I agreed to drive 1hr closer and meet him at a beautiful park that over looks the water. It was romantic, spontaneous and cool.. We only got to chat for a little while and he did stop back in on his way back through ... but the military hasn't had him back that close since...
So that’s my Quirky whirlwind story ...
Other then that I like to think outside of the box... Bookstores are great you can learn a lot about a person by where they migrate to the different areas or use the books to fill in the awkward times when your not sure what to say.
If you keep planning to meet and never seem to have things coordinated then you can be spontaneous if your chatting and say ok lets pick something half way ... jump in the car and meet ... it can be just the parking lot or the center of the HRB .. Point is taking the chance and seeing each other face to face to say hello and talk for a few.. Then if you both like then a real date can be planned...
No matter what you do the point is to get past the quirky awkwardness of that first meeting and then when you do spend more time on a date you can relax and enjoy each others company......
So peace and happy dating to everyone  | |
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| How quirky is too quirky when it comes to a date?
Posted: 12/1/2006 1:52:43 PM | Find out what the girl likes to do for fun and do that for a first date... It can be better then coffee and you'll learn more about her... You will also see how she acts in her normal enviroment... Also less tension  | |
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| How quirky is too quirky when it comes to a date?
Posted: 12/1/2006 1:57:16 PM | My quirkiest date was probably going to pick blackberries in the middle of the summer. There was this big ole open field nearby and I told him how the berries were just hanging there, and we agreed to pick. Between watching for snakes and trying not to get bitten by chiggers, we had a blast. Contest to see who got the biggest berry, most berries, reddest hands.......
Met once at a carwash too. He even supplied the quarters!! | |
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| How quirky is too quirky when it comes to a date?
Posted: 12/1/2006 4:18:47 PM | Hmmm, I like the borrowing a cup of sugar idea, except why not make the whole thing, like a pie but borrow all the items and pretend you're a newly married couple that just moved into the neighborhood. Good idea, by the end you could end it in divorce or who knows...
What would be even funnier, is to immediately pass the new ingredient to the partner and let them mix it in as you continue to chat and thank the neighbor for the donation. And then just switch off with each neighbor.
Great idea, I think I am gonna have to try that one!
Don't forget to bring the bowl and wooden spoon... | |
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| How quirky is too quirky when it comes to a date?
Posted: 12/1/2006 4:50:06 PM | | I don't know if this fits in or not but it was a lot of fun! I met this woman for drinks at one of my favorite places and we hit it off very well. She asked me if I would like to come back to her place for dinner. I said," sure sounds fun". I followed her back to her place and we had a wonderful evening. We went out a few times after that but, it did not work out but ,we still had a great time! I think whatever you do if it is clicking it doesn't matter. | |
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| How quirky is too quirky when it comes to a date?
Posted: 12/9/2006 1:26:38 AM | Many years ago, a girl I dated in college got the idea to pretend we were an engaged couple and go tour homes for sale. I bet we saw 20 homes that day. She was very imaginative and a lot of fun. This wasn't a first date, but a third one, however.
The quirkiest first date I ever had (and my first date EVER) was with a girl in high school. We ate at a Pizza Hut before going to a concert. As we were starting to leave, she begins talking very loudly about "what will happen if our parents find out we're eloping?" You could practically hear a pin drop as the restaurant hushed to listen. I played along, and before long, people were whispering about "those two runaway kids".
She then goes, "Give me the money for the pizza, and you pull the car up to the door." Puzzled, I did so, and just as I pulled up next to the door, she comes running out screaming at the top of her lungs, "Run! My dad just walked in! Go! Go!" I peeled out (as much as my mom's 1974 Plymouth Valiant would peel out) and hit the highway. She was looking back at the restaurant as we pulled away, and starting laughing because the windows were blocked with people trying to see what was happening outside.
Great fun... I sure miss her sometimes. | |
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