| How often was Mr, wrong really Mr. right?
Posted: 11/4/2006 1:51:20 PM | Ladies, I ask this cause I've talked to a couple of female friends who surprised me wit that their significant other was not really their first or second choice, but someome whom at first they wouldn't have never even considered looking at.
I'm wondering how many ladies here have had their significant other been someone they would not have looked at on a regular baisis?. | |
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| How often was Mr, wrong really Mr. right?
Posted: 11/4/2006 2:24:32 PM | | In my personal experience, Mr. Wrong has always been Mr. Wrong (even when given the chance), and once or twice, the guy who I thought would be Mr. Right has proven to be Mr. Wrong as well. | |
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| How often was Mr, wrong really Mr. right?
Posted: 11/4/2006 2:45:26 PM | ^^^^^^^ DITTO
I never even gave this new guy at work a second glance-well until he asked me out-turns out I still shouldn't have looked cuz I ended up married and life went downhill from there | |
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| How often was Mr, wrong really Mr. right?
Posted: 11/4/2006 2:54:09 PM | Mr wrong is usually wrong.
Although, there is such a thing as Mr Unexpected. Sometimes I go out with men, who are not men with traits, that would be classified as idealic in an ideal relationship world, but these men turn out to be THE BEST relationship material, and most considerate people I've met. Because of their unusual life situations, they try harder than most men to maintain good friendships. Life is what shapes a person, so if Miss X can see that realm of the world then Mr Unexpected can become Mr Right.
But if she has already labelled you as Mr Wrong, then it is likely not to change...or not for long.
As for what your female friends have said about their marriages, what many mother's tell their daughters... "marry the man that adores you, not the one that you love" | |
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| How often was Mr, wrong really Mr. right?
Posted: 11/4/2006 2:59:06 PM | | Talista: Couldn't have said it better! (About Mr. Unexpected) Sometimes there are most definately men that you wouldn't usually look twice at, you end up talking to them and all of a sudden they're *hot*. Inside and out. The reverse can be true too all to often... | |
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| How often was Mr, wrong really Mr. right?
Posted: 11/4/2006 3:00:22 PM | Mr. Wrong For Me remains wrong. More often than not Mr. Right For Me is also wrong. If he was really Mr. Right, I wouldn't be in forums on a Saturday afternoon talking about Mr. Wrong or Right.  | |
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| How often was Mr, wrong really Mr. right?
Posted: 11/4/2006 3:05:28 PM | I firmly believe some men are just plain-out misunderstood. I am a misunderstood type as well and it's baffling to me sometimes.
Some men I've met seem to come off as arrogant and full of themselves which immediately turns me off. Because my exhusband was that way as well. I back up slowly, cut and run. But...one man I met..... really had every right to be full of himself, because he turned out to be an AWESOME human being. If we hadn't been neighbors and more than acquaintances, then I would never have been proven how entirely wrong about him I was.
The misunderstood can understand the misunderstood, alot better than the understood can understand. Do ya understand?
I am mostly misunderstood to be the one..... always on her funny toes. Always laughin' and makin' others laugh, mostly at my own expense. People never understand I have a very serious and sad side to me. They don't seem to wanna tap into it...cuz I don't.
But I'm sure I've been pegged as Ms.Wrong, just as I did my neighbor. If I had not longed for friendship instead of a roll in the hay with this man, I wouldn't never have known how right he really is. | |
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| How often was Mr, wrong really Mr. right?
Posted: 11/4/2006 7:24:15 PM | | Well, when a friend first tried to set me up with the man I later married, I at first was insulted...obviously, I changed my mind. Now, though, AFTER the divorce, I think differently, which is to say that I would again be slightly insulted, or at least be wondering "Now WHY would you think we would be a good couple??" LOL. | |
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| How often was Mr, wrong really Mr. right?
Posted: 11/4/2006 8:13:20 PM | | I like to think of myself as a highly perceptive woman...so when I see a Mr. Wrong in my midst, 99 % of the times, he really is Mr. Wrong. I have only dated ONE Mr. Wrong and that was a mistake bc it was a long distance, sham of a relationship that I broke off immediately simply bc I knew I didn't care for him in the end....and that I really didn't know him as a person. But like I said, a woman just has to be highly perceptive ( not just in regards to the male, but also in regards to her own character / personality / individuality ) and there is a fool proof way that she will always somehow find Mr. Right. | |
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| How often was Mr, wrong really Mr. right?
Posted: 11/4/2006 10:01:40 PM | There's a BIG difference between "Mr. Wrong" and "Mr. Not-Quite-Right." What you're describing is the latter.
The former is sexy, hot, dangerous and attractive and almost always a very bad idea. That's why he's "Mr. Wrong." And he's NEVER right.
"Mr. Not-Quite-Right" is a guy we wouldn't normally consider dating for various reasons, but who can pleasantly suprise us...occasionally, and become "Mr. Right." | |
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| How often was Mr, wrong really Mr. right?
Posted: 11/4/2006 10:27:53 PM | ^^^ Well put!
I'd put myself in the Not-Quite-Right category for most women, honestly.
I'm like a red flag warehouse to most people, but get to know me better, and it really can be surprising just how different I am from what people think.
Of course, I've met a Ms. Wrong in the exact definition of the above post as well (hence no picture here, in fact), so I have to push for my being a non-hypocrite in this thread and say that every woman should be careful to know more than what they want: they have to know who they *deserve*...
No woman deserves a self-obsessed loser. If a woman thinks any man (even me) is such, the relationship should be a non-existent non-possibility with absolutely no probability of happening.
As for a low-self-esteem winner, well that's the Not-Quite-Right category's prime members, methinks...
Just my two cents... I know I'm not a woman, but I have two quality pennies to add here, in my opinion, so here they are... | |
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| How often was Mr, wrong really Mr. right?
Posted: 11/5/2006 6:13:31 AM | I think its because they have to go with the jrks first, to realize the guys theyve been turning down actually were better
lol Kinda agree with that to an extent.. But I guess both sides go through that phase sometimes.
I guess the term would be Mr. Quite-Not-Right.. Though isn't Mr. Quite-Not_Right someone you know you have a vibe with but that little connection is not there to make u persue it further?
I'm thinking of someone whom u thought you had no connection with at all, in fact, might have been a complete turn off and then when you actually got together with this person you find out its the opposite.
I'm like most of you though, when I get that wrong person vibe I literally shut down all attempts of trying to persue anything more than friends or associates. | |
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| How often was Mr, wrong really Mr. right?
Posted: 3/15/2007 3:53:00 PM | I'd put myself in the Not-Quite-Right category for most women, honestly.
That's probably true. But "most women" aren't all women and what you have for the right one is something very special. Unfortunately you'll have to spend some time to find her. But it'll be time well spent.  | |
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| How often was Mr, wrong really Mr. right?
Posted: 3/15/2007 4:53:34 PM | | In my personal experience, I have never had a Mr. Wrong turned out to be Mr. Right. Mr Wrong was Mr. Wrong. The thing is, luckily, I have only had ONE Mr. Wrong in my entire dating life. I give people a benefit of a doubt, but once I have an inkling that a man is Mr. Wrong, I don't try to rationalize it and see if he could turn out to be good. | |
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