| Why don't people post a picture on their profile?
Posted: 3/26/2005 5:33:22 AM | | This puzzles me. I have heard the expression that love is blind, but their has to be that initial physical attraction. It seems to me if you are looking to find someone, you would want to know what they look like. So can someone explain to me why most people don't have a pic on their profile? | |
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| Why don't people post a picture on their profile?
Posted: 4/12/2005 9:05:12 AM | I must say, it IS a rather intruiging question. However it can be singled down to one of the following:
1. No pictures are available for posting;
2. The person feels unncomfortable with their appearance or;
3. They wish to filter their responses. I know that men are more likely to belabour a girl who looks 'hott' with such messages as she doesn't care for. In essence, pictureless-profiles always fall into one of each category; and I'm aware of people who fall into each. For me; I'm not exactly Johnny Depp (I understand he's one of the hottest things out there, now), but I'm comfortable with my looks. I understand that those who appreciate it are worth the conversation. | |
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| Why don't people post a picture on their profile?
Posted: 4/18/2005 8:06:01 PM | | I would have to say that people don't post pictures on the their profile because like it was said they don't feel comfortable with their appearance or in my case I didn't have no way or equipment to use to put my own there with. In most cases I believe what I stated would be the most obvious reasons. | |
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| Why don't people post a picture on their profile?
Posted: 4/26/2005 3:55:01 PM | Big Man i dont agree cause i'm comfortable with my appearance and my body and everything some people dont have the equipment or they dont have the time which in my case is both so sorry big man i dont agree with you!  | |
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| Why don't people post a picture on their profile?
Posted: 7/15/2005 3:46:38 PM | Could it be an identity thing? Check out MY profile...would you post a pic?
The whole scenario where an individual does not have the technology to upload a picture is pure bull. | |
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| Why don't people post a picture on their profile?
Posted: 8/3/2005 10:58:12 AM | Wallyworld or any modern photo-lab will put regular pics onto a CD...Wallyworld will even post your pics in a file on THEIR site so you can access them...Hmm...
So, it's basically back to a person being uncomfy with themselves, lazy, or trying to *filter*.
I'm VERY uncomfy with pics...I tend to look better on web-cams or video..or in person...But for some reason not in pics. BUT...I *still* post pics. You gotta know who you are talking to, and the visual is a part of it.
As far as filtering, I do it to. I will not talk to or *whatever* anyone unless they have *some* visual. Heck, even if it's of their pet, or summer vacation house?!?!
I dunno...call me crazy...
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| A reason why people dont have a pic posted
Posted: 8/24/2005 7:53:34 PM | | hi my name is lisa and most people dont have a pic bc they dont have one or they dont know how to go about putting one up there chill out alot of people have web cam though maybe people need to get yahoo messenger so when someone meets on here you could go there and see them on cam like me i have a cam but no pic!!!! so thats why some people aint got a pic on here. | |
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| A reason why people dont have a pic posted
Posted: 9/16/2005 2:34:03 AM | Wow. None of you guys hit the major real reason...which explains a lot.
I've been dating online for about four years now. It's been overwhelmingly successful. The thing is, you have to understand what online dating is for. It is NOT to pick out someone based on appearance. It is much cheaper and easier to do this "outside," in a bar, coffeeshop, bookstore, or any other place single people gather. (If you can't do that, you need to make sure there's nothing wrong with you. And there are *plenty* of places besides bars no matter where you live. Try your grocery store, even.) There are more people to scan through more quickly. And many of them may be hotter, if that's what you want.
Online dating lets you pick out a person based on personality and compatibility. Then you can decide if you're attracted. Picking people based on appearance is why so many folks complain that "it doesn't work" or "this site sucks." They pick someone who's completely incompatible--or, many times, someone who's obviously boring and stupid, or who is single because it's their fault. But if you know how to read a profile and the resulting emails, it's almost as if you can read minds sometimes.
I get plenty of offline offers already. I'm OK-looking, but I'm no model or anything. It's just that if you want to date me based on my looks, there's no need for me to go online for that.
There's another factor. Atlanta's a surprisingly small town. I've seen people from online all over the place...and I don't go out more than once or twice a week, if that. You might want to think about whether anyone from work has seen your profile, too. It's a long story, but I once almost lost my job because of posting a pic online. (No, it wasn't a nekkid one!) So now I just offer to send a pic to anyone I contact. Few women contact me, despite a pretty good profile, but that's OK. Being passive never got anyone nothin'. Just about all of them write back. | |
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| Why don't people post a picture on their profile?
Posted: 9/28/2005 12:47:50 PM | there are a billion reasons why people dont have pictures. some dont want to be judged on an appearance of a photo that may be a result of many unfortunate freak exposures
maybe they look completely different in real life than in their pictures
people who don't want to share their photos, shouldn't be looking for a date. probably just looking for chat exercises.
and people who can't afford to get them .. well you might want to mention that youre planning to sponge | |
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| Why don't people post a picture on their profile?
Posted: 10/17/2005 9:38:42 AM | Now hold on one second there. I don't have a pic up, and it's because my computer is pretty old at this point. I don't have the spare cash to up grade right now, would that make me a sponge?
I don't buy the whole, "This is me, just how I look, every day of my life." thing at all. I'd be willing to bet that more then half of the pic's up right now, are not a good showing of how this person really looks at all. Me, I'd rather get to know someone, talk to them for a wile, and then meet them face to face. Sure, it could be good, it could be bad, you takes your dice, and you rolls them. But the same could be said for folks who do have pic's up as well.
I think you guys or over thinking this whole issue. If you like someone, and they don't have a pic up, so what. You've got 50/50, same goes for folks with pic's up.
I'm fine and happy with the way I look, and am attractive even with a the few pounds I carry around with me. I would look right if I didn't have my gut. LOL But just because I don't have a pic up, doesn't mean I don't want folks to know I've got it. Or am ashamed of the way I look.
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| Why don't people post a picture on their profile?
Posted: 1/10/2006 9:43:56 AM | there's lots of reasons
- they don't want to identified obviously
- safety purposes
- not wanting someone they know to see em and have explain what they feel is personal or harmless
- of course there's the cheaters
- don't have scanner
- don't have current pic
- lazy or haven't gotten to it yet
- come on here to post to forums and not ever planning on meeting anyone so you don't really have a need to know what they look like
- ashamed or don't want to be judged by appearance
- PC isn't up to snuff
There's more I'm sure.
But I am sure if you badger someone enough they'll just find a pic somewhere on the internet just to shut people up. lol | |
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| Why don't people post a picture on their profile?
Posted: 1/19/2006 10:38:31 AM | Like they said, there are tons of reasons, some insecurity, some don't want to be judged by appearance and want you to want them for more before you actually viewing their physical appearance being good or bad. Others are afraid someone they know might see them like a significant other, but for what ever reasons it's their choice. But before commiting to meet someone, I do think it is highly recomended you at least request a picture to know who you are meeting with.
Now, there those that are looking for their true love and then post erotic and revealing pictures of themselves, I think that is a receipe for disaster, you are who you potray you are. You can't expect to post pics of you in a bikini or sexy langurie and expect guys to contact you for a long distance relationship unless you are looking for sex, then it makes sense. | |
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| Why don't people post a picture on their profile?
Posted: 2/7/2006 10:53:26 AM | | I have several reasons for not posting a pic here. One of them is that I am probably the least phonogenic woman in the world. I have met men from online who told me that I looked so much better than I looked in my pic. I am a teacher, and do not want people seeing my pic online. I am too mature in this life to judge a potential partner by a picture, and the men who are into appearance being so important are not my type. If a man hangs around long enough to get to know me without a pic, he is a substance type of guy. Too many pic collector immature type men online for me to waste my time with them. | |
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| Why don't people post a picture on their profile?
Posted: 2/26/2006 10:22:29 PM | | in my opinon it's worst to post an outdated pic of themselves.................thus giving a false impression to someone..............what do they expect if you do decide to meet them............they are clueless when you dont recognize them or dont have an attraction...............well they dont look anything like whom they told you they were | |
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| A reason why people dont have a pic posted
Posted: 2/26/2006 10:33:56 PM | no I wouldnt worry about anyone from my job knowing I post my profile on dating sites...................I actually tell them I have.
What type of job do you have that you could lose it over how you meet women? | |
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| Why don't people post a picture on their profile?
Posted: 4/3/2006 12:34:16 PM | I post my pics and been asked to take it off lol im not ashamed of who i am what i do or what i look like im just me.
so eiher people will have to accept that oor grow up casue we should not have to put up with people who think they are beter than any one else. Just My opinion | |
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