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Posted: 11/7/2006 8:54:43 PM | | im so pissed at guys saying they love you then running away.whay the heck cant they just get there head on straight insted of playing games with us!!! im so tired of beeing burnt i dont think ill ever find the right guy:( | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 8:57:04 PM | All guys aren't that way. Taking out a race for the crime of a few...
Live and learn...there are many guys who will say whatever to get sex but there really are decent guys out there.
Don't give up and don't jump to believe the words...watch the actions and take your time. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 8:59:44 PM | | i was supposed to get married he said he loved me and everything and now he tells me tonite im not needed any more...im so done i have 2 kids to look after and unless a boy can be a man then i ant going to be with no one no more he was a great guy but even the great ones arnt that great | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 9:01:29 PM | | lol thats cute but i ant waiting 60 years for no guy | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 9:05:08 PM | | i understand you i know i am a male but when i am with a girl i am with the one girlHe is out there.and remember if you have kids he needs to understand that they are a part of you as well | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 9:07:19 PM |  Not So Fast Now!!! Women are men TOO, I mean we're All Human, Kinda... | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 9:10:45 PM | Anger hurts only the person feeling it...once you can get passed that it will get better.
Please do not pass your anger on to your children...they are sponges. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 9:18:19 PM | Hi Sexydeva,
Sorry to hear this....and I understand how you feel....
Young lady you have to have patience okay, don't jump into anything serious....and I hate to say this but keep you guard up a bit longer......sounds like you have your heart on your sleeve like I do......be careful....
Great thing about this thing called life is you are stunning/beautiful....have beautiful kids....so you can wait some...you are young ...so learn about these player and drop them as soon as you find out who they really are....don't take it personally though....you are the complete package...but an inexperienced one...and over time you will overcome this too...:))
I pray things work out for you and yes, there will be a good and commited family man just for you...it is only a matter of time. So take your time....:)))
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Posted: 11/7/2006 9:26:11 PM | | Perhaps you could be too demanding like a lot of women. It's the same for men, you think you found someone and they say they want to meet you and find a real connection with you till someone else comes to the picture and then they just ignore you. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 9:33:33 PM | | ya i know theres someone out there but im tired of trying to find the right guy...i thought i did have a great guy this time he just needs to grow up.my kids are my life and they come first..im not gonna bother looking anymore theres no point im tired of doing everything for men and getting nothing back | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 9:45:46 PM | | wait for the right guy comes for you.he will do everything for you,just to have you, its true | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 10:31:40 PM | Turn your negativity into positive energy sweety, don't give up. Focus on your darling children and Look not so hard for true Love, for True Love will find you.
Best wishes and God Bless
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Posted: 11/7/2006 10:46:06 PM | If you think you'll never meet the right guy, you never will. You attract to your life whatever you convince yourself of. It's true of anything. I'll never be president, I'll never get in shape, I'll never have a nice house. If that's what you tell yourself, that's what will occur.
On another note, everybody--men and women--are a little screwy in some way. 1) Stop griping about a few guys that you've known because we're not all alike, yet, we all have "flaws." 2) Don't pretend that you and all of your female buds are all so perfect. We're all better than others at some things but each of us has shortcomings and inabilities.
I hear you, but sweeping generalizations are inappropriate. Your headline might be changed to "so pissed at a few men."
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Posted: 11/7/2006 10:52:36 PM |
im so done i have 2 kids to look after and unless a boy can be a man then i ant going to be with no one no more he was a great guy but even the great ones arnt that great
First of all blame this guy not all men, for his actions...now ask yourself what was it that attracted you to him.
Ever think it could be the type of man you are attracted to, if you are saying there is pattern here.
Rememeber you are the one who said he was great. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 11:03:57 PM | Sexydeva...ok, go to the global forums...head to 'ask a guy'...thread is called 'advice...again...?' Check that one out.
Now, after you have hopefully read that, would you think it would be fair that a guy would classify ALL women as players or whatever the term would be called for in this situation? | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 11:12:13 PM | Are you kidding Deva?
Have you really had a look?
Women who DEMAND the magic ":committment" but divorce withing two years of the marriage. And over something a shallow as a toilet seat.
It's the women who say, "untill death" and then run away. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 11:14:20 PM | | Perhaps you profile sends them the wrong message. "Sexydeva". and things like PARTY. Or maybe you tend to rush into a relationship without giving yourself time to really see what the guy is all about. You don't have to kiss every frog that writes you.... If I were you,and thank goodness I'm not,nor you are me,I would look at MYSELF first..... Not saying anything is wrong with you or that you are a bad person.but if you have been throught this many times,I think that the problems is with......me???? ray | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 11:28:00 PM | cougar 99 has great advice...and take it from me, who has the same reaction is you--only I'm over 50...
It is VERY difficult to go back, to look back to where you may have derailed from taking care of you and your dreams. The babies you have now are an additional layer of responsibility. Somewhere obscure is the marker, the fork in the road, the key (they say) to a tiny piece of you that quit paying attention (I'm with you here, because I don't know what that piece of me is, maybe a 6 year old me)...that somehow traded "the ways/values of the world" for your true known worth, the essence that enables you to say STOP, WAIT, I don't think you're in my best interest.
I don't have it figured out, but I find myself, over the past 30 years, in numerous (4? 5?) profoundly moving (nowhere) dedicated relationships that I'm compelled to give, to defer, to love...and lo...after a month, 3 months, a year, 6 years...the guy has a wholly different agenda that is tossed at me like a card game.
How could you have known? Many married women have never known after 25 years of marriage. I sure as heck never knew. And we all wonder....shouldn't she have seen it coming...couldn't she have changed the situation to her favor earlier on...etc, etc.
First of all, love is a GOOD thing. Second of all, somewhere, who knows when, this guy quit giving, and started focusing on how you (or something before you) owed him backpayments...and suddenly, you're his opportunity to "get even." I've been there, and I've laughed AND CRIED that the guy is so heartlessly brutal.
Injuries and healings. How do we avoid being injured again (someone has to tell me!). How do we awaken to the...archetype/fairy tale we seem to be living. Can we? I could point to victims of manipulative priests, manipulative sociopaths who've made front page headlines...these are injured folk, too...that we need to recognize, dissociate from, love, but MOST IMPORTANTLY, protect our creative, vulnerable, pure selves from.
I don't have the instant cure for your situation, though a few books I've been reading have given me eerie insights into the underlying currents....for you, your babies are sooooo important, and your maternal love, your maternal instinct are the best nutrients you can give them: you're hardwired as mama-woman to provide that...and this is one of your blessings!
The other books/publications help to view the archetypical heroine image in our psyches and in centuries-old fairy tales: Women Who Run With the Wolves. GREAT book!
Another pair of resources (and not as ephemeral) that provide statistics about people, couples and love are Why We Love by Helen Fisher and The Dangerous Passion: Why Jealousy is as Necessary as Love and Sex by David M Buss.
These statistical-based books research the fidelity factor in societies throughout the world and throughout history. They've helped me squelch the "you dummy" messages I seem to focus on when I've been duped/dumped/taken for a fool (the situation as I see it)....you see, that other person probably would have been a lousy parent to your babies: he needed mothering, nurturing, approval, forgiveness...and he couldn't give it: to himself, to you, or to your babies. Someone out there DOES understand the miracle and power of love and sacrifice and giving and will GIVE this to you freely, without cost, exception, condition. I know I've given my love that way. And gotten back more neediness. Because I choose (subconsciously) needy guys...and I still have yet to figure out why they can't give back.
Trust me, if they can't give to you, they can't give to the next person, or the previous person, and YOU have to discover (try to be quicker than me....it's been 30 years of mistakes) what you need in life--from another, where when and how you fell asleep to those needs...that's what the Women Who Run With the Wolves book might be able to help you with. I don't have human babies demanding my time. I have the luxury of reading these heady tomes. I'd by far prefer love...and your babies might just be the best and most fertile garden for planting and reaping love. When a man comes along who recognizes--AND ACKNOWLEDGES THAT FERTILE GARDEN IN EVERY WAY (to you, to himslef, to your friends, to his family)...snag THAT guy: he is worthy of your devotion. Anything less isn't worth the effort: ESPECIALLY with your babies involved!!! | |
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Posted: 11/8/2006 12:33:42 AM | | Not all men are scum. Just take your time getting to know them. Both women AND men have had bad luck but there are good ones out there. | |
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Posted: 11/8/2006 12:49:30 AM | I find that we tend to bring such things on ourselves, either through our actions or our choices.
I have an ex right now who is head-over-heels in love with a man she wants to marry. He'll never marry her. I'm quite certain he's cheating on her now. They've been going out for a year, and she doesn't have his home phone number.
And yet she's right there, chugging away. And when it goes south (likely because one of the other women catch on and make him leave her), she'll be pissed at men and hurt. But every sign is there and has been there for some time. In her case, it's even been pointed out.
Feel free to be pissed at the guy that behaved this way, but ask yourself if you were really looking at his behavior from the get-go. Maybe he was just a good con-artist playing you, but in my experience its more likely that you ignored who he was in favor of who you wanted him to be.
PS. What do they put in the water in Canada that all the women there are so pretty? | |
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Posted: 11/8/2006 1:15:59 AM | Thank you, Jerry.
more often than not, it tends to be the 'greener grass' syndrome....but that grass is often tainted, isn't it ? I believe in justice, in the long run..and it WILL happen !  | |
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Posted: 11/8/2006 1:29:01 AM | What goes around comes around...you reap what you sow...yada yada yada! People, do not know what they want!! Sooooo many freakin' games out there!! Yes, the grass is greener...excuse me I forgot to put on my sexy lingerie while you're sitting there in your sponge bob boxers!  | |
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Posted: 11/8/2006 2:55:23 AM | | Then you know by now.....when a guy promises you the sun and the moon to get all the goodies......you know he is lying.....learn from this and you will be wiser for it.....time tells all stories and when it comes to the real thing....time is on your side...good luck to you... | |
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Posted: 11/8/2006 3:20:19 AM | Great attitude for being on a dating site...  | |
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Posted: 11/8/2006 12:14:28 PM | | For the record women are just as guilty as men when it comes to playing games. Don't bash the men because there are some great ones out there~somewhere~. I saw a thread on how fathers walk away from their children but mothers do it to. Women can be players just as much as the male species. I just don't think we hear of it as often. | |
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