| what does it take to meet a decent woman??
Posted: 11/8/2006 11:03:53 PM | | I dont know about you guys, but my friends & I admit its so hard to find good quality women these days. we can remeber 10 years ago when it seemed so easy! You could just go up to one & ask them out & you had a date! People were "more free flowing" then & now they are stuck on themselves or so picky. I dont know, just my opinion. | |
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| what does it take to meet a decent woman??
Posted: 12/18/2006 9:42:26 PM | | ya know i moved from australia and went to the bar and all i got was taken advantage of of they teased meit was bad i should have known better i thought american women were diffrent but they are all the same the nice guys finish last i promise im a rally nice guy but i dont treat women like crap and i promise i alawys finish last | |
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| what does it take to meet a decent woman??
Posted: 1/3/2007 7:42:43 PM | | decent... someone who knows what they want in life, is not a game player, & has a job, car & their own place. quality would be someone with respect, honesty, good morals, communicates well, etc. | |
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| what does it take to meet a decent woman??
Posted: 1/8/2007 12:05:30 PM | Cat,
If the age is correct in your profile, ten years ago you would have been 21. At 21, there would have been a big pool of women out there to pick from. At 31, the best have already been snatched up by other decent, quality men like yourself. It is a fact that women are ready to settle down at a much younger age than men. Our clocks are ticking and most want to have their first child by 30.
But you can look on the bright side. If you wait another ten years, the pool will be filled with decent, quality, single women with kids who have discovered that the men they married weren't decent after all.
Happy Fishing!
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| what does it take to meet a decent woman??
Posted: 1/9/2007 7:00:06 AM |
They are still looking for the bad boy at 50 it seems.
Usually at 50 that is all that is left. The goods one are taken, the weird ones still live with their moms and then there are the mid-life crisis boys with their 20 year old girlfriends.
What is a girl to do? Oh I know, sail off into the sunset on their own boat!
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| what does it take to meet a decent woman??
Posted: 1/15/2007 7:49:47 PM | Hey, to be a decent man, treat her with respect, and beleive me, you would get the same in return, well, at least from me.
I think we all need to just be honest with ourselves, and treat other's how we would like to be treated. | |
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| what does it take to meet a decent woman??
Posted: 1/16/2007 8:32:25 PM | it really goes both ways, I like to live by an old rule that my Grandfather taught me...."treat others how you would like to be treated" and another good one is.....it isn't just finding the right person but also being the right person. It is scary out there. I have been divorced over 3 years and still haven't dated.
At the beginning of most all conversations I have had with women we exchange stories, they find out that I have been a carpenter forever and the first thing they want is for me to come over and fix something on their house..... | |
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| what does it take to meet a decent woman??
Posted: 1/18/2007 7:29:40 AM | I love what your saying's really mean. It is scary out there in the dating scene, been there. Now just looking for the one I can spend the rest of my life with.
As for a decent woman thing, hey! we are all human, i feel if one can be decent with the other, then it all falls into place. Just be yourself, smile, and lend a helping hand.. | |
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| what does it take to meet a decent woman??
Posted: 1/31/2007 11:54:00 AM | | Having recently ditched match.com for for what seems like permanent single-hood, I can totally relate. It's seems like everyone out there (woman and men both) are looking to meet as many people as possible in as little time as possible. I guess I just don't understand that concept. | |
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| what does it take to meet a decent woman??
Posted: 3/26/2007 4:55:26 PM | Patience, humor, a good book to pass the time. Hi. I may be moving to Minneapolis soon for a job. Just thaught I'd spy on you guys. (grin) See what I was getting myself into. Looks good from here. Good luck with the ladies. One I've been emailing 2 weeks now is coming into focus. Sept she's gonna hate Minneapolis. Pretty sure she is looking forward to seeing Texas.
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| what does it take to meet a decent woman??
Posted: 12/11/2007 12:04:01 PM | you said it all,what does it take to meet a good "man"? i have all those things, but i seem to attract all the losers.i dont know what im doing wrong.sure,im overweight,but i dont care,if you dont care. i can work up till about 60 hours in a week and still come home and do stuff around the house!im 60 years lod,and ive never felt better in my whole life,so,go figure,thanks,susyq47 | |
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| what does it take to meet a decent woman??
Posted: 2/5/2008 4:16:50 PM | I think from reading here that men and women are generalizing and stereotyping.
I lived in a small town and moved the the city. Loved it and stayed most of my adult life.
Then fell in love and moved back. Now you'll love this... live with my parents.
What was that ? I am weird or something ?
Well I could have seen the trouble from the beginning and didn't get too close but wantes to give it a chance.
So, I tried and it didn't work. She tried too.
I'm almost 46 and still single but that's ok until the right one comes along.
How do I know its the right one ?
Well I won't know from a profile or first date but finding someone who wants to see you enough to get to really know you and someone that I can do the same.
It takes 2. We guys makes mistakes and you gals make mistakes. I try to admit and correct mine.
Life is a learning process and I'm still living.
I've dated women with a baby, women with teens and women without kids.
Some were big and some small.
All I can say for myself is communication is what made the relatioships last and the lack of it ended it.
Then along with that comes love respect and understanding.
Maybe the grass seemd greener on the other side of the hill.
We all have our stories whether we fit a profile or pattern of some kind or not.
I can tell you abuse changes a person and makes it hard for a nice guy to gain a womans trust and the same likewise.
Then there is drug adiction alcoholism and other factors.
Those are the things that make it tougher than it already is to find and stay in a positive relationship.
I don't do any of those things and still have trouble, but you know what ?
I have lived and loved and loved it. I'm starting over again and hope sooner or later I won't have to.
I figure I am taking some self inventory and being careful not to blame others.
I don't plan on living with my parents forever or worry about being alone forever.
I am here to find someone to share my life with who want to share theirs with me.
You can decide to take a chance on me or choose not to based on what you see here or get to know the real me in person.
I can garantee you I have nothing to hide, what you see is what you get and I improve over time.
I learn from myself and others.
So I have no questions or answers for this thread. Just my 2 cent. | |
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| what does it take to meet a decent woman??
Posted: 2/8/2008 2:54:09 PM | Well sweetie,
This forum is good.
I like it alot.
I am decent woman.
So to all the women out there Ken.
Is a great guy. I should know.
I date him before. | |
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| what does it take to meet a decent woman??
Posted: 2/22/2008 8:22:22 AM | dateing has definatly changed over the last 5 years. Ive beendivorced going on 21/2-3 years, and been wanting to find someone to date. but let me tell you one thing. i dont use paysites, and here at plentyoffish.com, my results have been less then facinating.
I send more mail then i recive, and 2/3 of the girls i mail look at my profile and dont write back...at all.
*shrug*
talk about discouraging. I dont get girls attention in the real world, and i dont get girsl attention online either. That has to mean im seriously doing something.....different. I wont say wrong because well if i was doing something wrong i woulnt be talking to any girls right? Teehee
Anywho im new to t hese forums here and will probly be posting alot. so i hope to find some good information on how to change my luck streak with meeting nice girls.
Because as someone said in another thread, Nice Guys Finish Last. It a sad truth(and im sure the same goes for the girls to). | |
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| what does it take to meet a decent woman??
Posted: 4/27/2008 6:41:31 AM | Well.. this is an old post but thought I would reply. I think women and men have the same problems. You see from the e-mails i have received the last 3 years being single men want to have the "girl next door" but they also want a gal with a hidden wild side. The same goes for women we always want this sweet perfect guy but are attracted to the bad boys. Sadly we all think people will change for us which we all is not true. If you are waiting for that to happen you will find nothing but heart beak!
This is just my opinion but i think that too many people, especially online see a picture of someone and fall for the person they think they see in the pictures. They never look past the pictures to learn who someone REALLY is. When I look at someones picture the first thing i look for is their eyes. You can tell a lot about a person by looking into their eyes. The second is their smile. Those 2 qualities are the reason there are quotes like " A picture is worth 1,000 words."
The only other suggestion I have is be yourself! Why waste each others time by pretending to be someone you are not. The truth always comes out in the end. So... with that being said there are plenty of us nice gals out there and gals there are plenty of nice guys out there. Just don't be afraid to say hello or you never know what you may be missing out on!
Just my 2 cents worth!
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| what does it take to meet a decent woman??
Posted: 7/3/2008 4:46:02 PM | | Scooter04....Well I just looked at your profile...and there is nothing wrong with it. You talk about your sense of humor and that one middle picture shows it. My ex husbans is on here too, he is very attractive and he sends out all kinds of emails and never gets any answers back either, so it's not you. Women are very very picky here, I have talked to a few, and I am surprised any man will give them the time of day, but they look real good, so I guess thats the bait that keeps drawing the men in. Good luck on your search. | |
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| what does it take to meet a decent woman??
Posted: 7/7/2008 8:00:08 PM | | hi, i think the question goes for men too.id like to meet a decent man.i totaly agree on the comment that you made about dating these days.i think some people are just out to see what they can get for themselves. i can honestly say that im not stuck on myself at all.i enjoy just the simple things in life.i suppose some men look at me and just see someone older than what they are looking for,and because im a little chunky,that sends them running.but i think im a good person.i have my own place to live,i pay the bills, and i work 6 days a week,and im not looking for a person to help me out,just to be my friend,thanks,susyq47 | |
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| what does it take to meet a decent woman??
Posted: 7/9/2008 10:59:47 PM | you know there are good decent women out there. but most of us are so sick of being treated like we are a piece of meat and not a person. or we have been cheated on or used and tossed away when the next hot thing comes along. you define decent as having a job and car and her own place. what about self respect. I myself do not count a lady who puts out on the first date as decent not even the second or third ect. what ever happened to the guys who wanted to get to know someone before getting into their pants.
and if going by what you define as decent then i have it all I have my own place that i am renting i have my own car i work 7 days a week i go to collage 4 days a week. you say women are superficial what about you guys you are just as bad. it isnt a male or female thing it goes both ways no one wants to take the time to see who people really are anymore they look on the outside and then dont bother to see the inside. | |
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| what does it take to meet a decent woman??
Posted: 8/3/2008 2:26:19 PM | If I can arbitrarily define 'decent' as someone I'm attracted to that's attracted to me, I haven't found that person yet so I may not be the best person to answer this but I'll try anyway.
My guess is that it's going to take persistence and thick skin. And by persistence I don't mean stalking, etc., I mean being willing to send out 10+ emails before hearing back from anyone. That's also where the thick skin comes in, I haven't been on here very long and I can say that it's not easy to see a string of 'Read/Delete's after my sent emails especially after taking some time to try to craft what I thought were interesting notes. You just have to keep getting back on the horse, cliche but true.
One thing to keep in mind is that unless you're a player or serial monogamist it'll just take one person to make the search worthwhile. | |
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| what does it take to meet a decent woman??
Posted: 8/25/2008 4:48:27 PM | if i had a nickel for every man's profile that said they are looking for a good woman, i coule retire a very wealthy woman.
i'm a decent woman...i can cook, clean fish, butcher a deer....i have a good job...make good money...car is paid for...kids are grown and gone. i possess more than 2 brain cells, don't drink or smoke....i'm educated...full of sass and confidence.
so why am i still single?? its simple really....i'm not built like a barbie doll.
if you men would start looking on the inside and make half an attempt to get to know people and not judge them by appearance, you would still be able to find a good woman.
just my opinion, of course
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| what does it take to meet a decent woman??
Posted: 8/25/2008 4:49:06 PM | if i had a nickel for every man's profile that said they are looking for a good woman, i could retire a very wealthy woman.
i'm a decent woman...i can cook, clean fish, butcher a deer....i have a good job...make good money...car is paid for...kids are grown and gone. i possess more than 2 brain cells, don't drink or smoke....i'm educated...full of sass and confidence.
so why am i still single?? its simple really....i'm not built like a barbie doll.
if you men would start looking on the inside and make half an attempt to get to know people and not judge them by appearance, you would still be able to find a good woman.
just my opinion, of course
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