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| Why do you think it becomes so much harder to find a relationship when one gets older?
Posted: 11/9/2006 8:19:45 AM | When you get older, you truly understand now that life is too short for ..... this .....that....whatever. It is called wisdom and maturity.
We know now to question things we did not question when we were younger; and we recognize things now that we did not recognize when we were younger. When you haven't been through something (in this case LIFE/LOVE/RELATIONSHIP), you don't know what questions to ask or what to recognize. After you have been through something you begin to know which questions to ask yourself and to recognize things that now tell you BEWARE.
For example, I loved a man not long ago, with all my heart, but he was sometimes a brooder. His brooding put a big damper on our happiness together. It did not take me long to figure out that life was too short for this stuff and that we would not be happy together. When younger, I would have stayed with him just because I loved him and because he loved me. | |
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| Why do you think it becomes so much harder to find a relationship when one gets older?
Posted: 11/9/2006 8:58:25 AM | | The older you get, the less available partners you will find. When you're young, the dating marketplace is saturated with people who are all single and in the same boat is you. As time goes progresses, people pair off and marry. So, when you find yourself single later in life, well, naturally there are far less fish in the sea. I find it's akin to being adrift in a lifeboat after the ship has sunk. | |
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| Why do you think it becomes so much harder to find a relationship when one gets older?
Posted: 11/9/2006 9:05:28 AM | no one's wrong here its all how you look at it. i can understand the baggage as you get older. but when you're young. a lot of people are moving different places and just because they're single doesn't mean there's worthy candidates. there's a surplus of single scumbags and skanks who make it hard to fine someone who isn't still sewing their royal oats   | |
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| Why do you think it becomes so much harder to find a relationship when one gets older?
Posted: 11/9/2006 9:45:25 AM | personally , i always wonder about guys who wanna get seriosu when the get older...i always think that the spend most of their time partying , changing girls when they were young, and now they wanna get seriousssssss......it should be easier maybe to find someone.but personally , maybe other girls think like i do! they always ask:
what is he doing single at that age still?
some will say i didn't find the right one , most say that , yeah right!!!!!!!!
hopefully u will find someone! | |
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| Why do you think it becomes so much harder to find a relationship when one gets older?
Posted: 11/9/2006 10:57:03 AM | It is harder. My "Character of Him" has become well defined as I have incorporated all of life lessons. My first husband was "pure lust", and 3 children later. My next will be "pure intelligence", with a zest for "lust". As I get older and older, the list keeps getting longer and longer. Does anyone out there appreciate a warm towel when he gets out of the shower? I will never be sold cheap again. But can be found in the kitchen cooking your hearts desire. Not LOL.  | |
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| Why do you think it becomes so much harder to find a relationship when one gets older?
Posted: 11/9/2006 11:58:59 AM |
It's hard to find a lot of things when you get older. Your memory fails, your sight goes. For all you know, you might be in a relationship right now, but you've forgotten or can't identify her again.
Well now, there's a man living with me, but I can't place him....
Seriously there isn't, but it's a good point LOL
Numbers are against us; many in our age range are already taken( Maybe they're unhappy and looking for something on the side, but I wouldn't define that situation as a "relationship")
Even the ones that are UNHAPPILY taken have serious reservations about upsetting their financial and social applecart by ending a marriage or LTR, to go back on the "market".
The ones who are already unattached, for whatever reason,may not have any social, practical or financial pressures pushing them to "find SOMEONE, ANYONE!" in order to alleviate an issue of finance, housing or simple social acceptance.
Most of us have BEEN married, divorced, or widowed. We don't NEED to create a family unit, children are either grown and gone or out of the question. Although there is still a certain amount of social pressure on women to be half of a couple, that IS changing. Single middleaged men are actually ENVIED by many people.
So yeah, it absolutely has come down to seeing a Significant Other as a nice "luxury", rather than something that's REQUIRED to have a fullfilling and happy life. So we( and I mean this for men too) can "afford" to be 'choosy'. That is NOT a statement about looking for material benefits, it's about being with someone whom we can love wholeheartedly, JUST because of the person they are!
Cindy O | |
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| Why do you think it becomes so much harder to find a relationship when one gets older?
Posted: 11/9/2006 12:31:22 PM | it gets harder because all the good ones really are taken...and only the leftovers are left
then the divorcees are put back into the available population and they kinda make things worse for the good leftovers...
the best way to find the right one is date lots of people when you are younger with the goal in mind of choosing someone to marry. its like an interview process. that is really the only way to be successful in this...remembering that chemistry is the important ingredient and then being a good communicator and loving person. | |
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| Why do you think it becomes so much harder to find a relationship when one gets older?
Posted: 11/9/2006 12:43:39 PM | I think there's always an element of difficulty when trying to find a relationship... now if one just wants to have sex with few if any strings attached, it becomes geometrically easier. I like sex... but, I like my integrity better.
the giggleparts -Sanctimoniousness +2 .... Can I kill magical creatures with that? D20 in the hizzy! | |
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