| a promise of sex broken
Posted: 11/9/2006 11:00:21 AM |  
My fiance and I are having trouble in the bedroom. He mostly like it in the morning, I like it mostly at night. last night we were partying and he was very obvious he wanted to have sex, he even tld me straight out. Anyways, when itt was time for bed I got naked, got him naked and started in, but he fell asleep. I got angry with him and we started fighting. The whole thing was was that I fall asleep too sometimes and i got angry for him doing the same thing, ( stupid, yes ). Only this time it was different because I was the one who initiated it when it is usually him initiating things. He has had problems with me because he wants me to do that more, but everytime I'm horny, and in the mood, he falls asleep!
Why does he ask me to do something when all he does is fall asleep? Am I not good enough? He told me I didn't try hard enough! and What is it with guys and blowjobs, my guy gets annoyed I dont do it more often, sometimes I just dont want to. other times I do. How come guys are like this? And why can't he finnish me off instead of saying, " i don't have any time for that, got to get to work." but he always says it after he gets off, its like I dont matter. I know he tries hard to get me off, but why cant a guy control himself and actually enjoy the ride?? Please help, thanks!  | |
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Posted: 11/9/2006 11:13:25 AM | very simple explanation for that!! because blokes are selfish and once theyve shot thier load thats it,,, plus it takes us 2 mins for us to cum and takes you girls 8 hours... try getting with a frenchman or italian who love to spend ten hours under the sheets us brits just havent got the time..  | |
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Posted: 11/9/2006 11:43:46 AM | Yes, I agree you men can be selfish. 2 minutes? thats too bad for you. But 8 hours for us??? C'mon! Let be realistic here. I've never heard of it taking 8 hours for a women to climax the big O! 8 minutes, okay.  | |
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Posted: 11/9/2006 12:09:09 PM | I think he was being hyperbolic Candy. Nice of you to notice.
Most guys are selfish. So are most women. Deal with it.
Any given guy likes what he likes and not what he doesn't. Same with a gal.
You don't need to change him, (what is it with the lack of a "Y" chromasone and the need to meddle anyway...seperate topic) what you need to do is be friends, but get a man that comes closer to satisfying your needs and you his by just the way you are, not because of a need to change or be changed. This is important. Sex, or more accurately sexual differences, pressures, or difficulties are the number one cause of stress and unhappiness in relationships, right in front of money and inlaws.
Given enough time and a little opportunity living in a situation like this has all the earmarkings of eventual infidelity, whether out of ennui, anger, or a need to be close to someone that has the same needs you do.
Better deal now, than be sad at the loss of time and lovin' later. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2006 12:14:43 PM | | Try putting a band around the base of his shaft alot of times it can keep them from cumming too fast. Also buy a book called "How to tickle his pickle" it gives good advise and some good positions that both of you can take place which may help with the whole not giving blow jobs enough. Plus you will both be getting satisfied. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2006 12:34:48 PM | I'm so glad you two started noticing these things before you got married.
Personally, I'll be damed if any woman falls asleep on me. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2006 12:38:51 PM | | Maybe you could try to go to bed a bit earlier? That might help. :) | |
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Posted: 11/9/2006 12:47:16 PM | you both fall asleep on each other, but it is only a big deal when he does?
I guess I don't understand....
Maybe try in the middle of the day, or wake him up after a couple hours of sleep to do the deed, maybe that would make you both happy.
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Posted: 11/9/2006 1:54:25 PM | Well what do we have here?
"What is it with guys and blowjobs"
(1) I don't like blow jobs
" but why cant a guy control himself and actually enjoy the ride??"
(2) You haven't taken a ride on the Mikercoaster!
(3) Problem solved! | |
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Posted: 11/9/2006 6:02:28 PM | alcohol in men = sex
but, the problem is that it's not good sex. if he loves you he will tend to your needs
and wants.
I try to please a woman more than they please me and that means foreplay and
lots of other stuff rather than the you know what.
sounds like he's too selfish and if you want this type of sex life when you get married,
sounds like he's not the right one for you.
just my two sense. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2006 7:54:47 PM | Sex cannot make a relationship work, but it can cause one to fail.
Discuss it with him. If it's important, seek professional help. If that fails, either live with it or move on. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2006 9:14:41 PM | You like it at night.
He likes it in the morning.
Why don't you both comprimise and try out a nooner.
Blowjobs are great but I enjoy sex just as much....hmmm, I might just like sex more, hard to say. Try giving him a bj "on the house" sometime (no expectations for returning the favor). That might ease up the finger pointing. Face it - you're aware of the problem and he might be completely self absorbed, so you might have to be the adult. You're lovers. Start loving.
You're reminding me off being married. If he doesn't respond, start working on your profile... | |
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Posted: 11/9/2006 11:28:40 PM | This is one of the most horrible rants ever. It appears you have nothing but contempt for this man. You should just leave him, rather than cheat on him and publicly ridicule him.
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Posted: 11/10/2006 5:42:21 AM | I'm still trying to get over the guy that said he doesn't like blowjobs. I don't know where he hails from but my God that's UnAmerican! | |
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Posted: 11/10/2006 6:08:10 AM | | ummm,,,OP,,,why air your dirty laundry all over public domain? geez, talk to your s/o about this. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2006 6:45:48 AM | WOW !! I cant seem to get past the fact that your not already married, not to mention my being bewildered at the fact that either one of you would want to marry the other... at least by the sound of this post, that is.
No offense intended but it seems to me that, indeed, you speak of "Problem [SEX]" only????? My advice would be to work on "Respecting Each Other" and "Loads of Communication" on all levels,in all aspects, both in and out of the bedroom.... Then you will find being horny turns into 'passion'... feeling obligated, or it to be a duty, turns into 'Desire and Longing' Trust and Patience replaces the burden of Pre-set Expectations, Frustrations disappear with creativity taking its place. and so forth .... Get the picture? 
Of course thats just my opinion, but would like to wish you luck on what ever path you choose. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2006 8:40:13 AM | | Eh, I dont like blowjobs either, so it doesnt sound strange to me. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2006 12:48:40 PM | | i think ill try to leave him hi and dry a few times, see what happens... | |
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Posted: 11/10/2006 12:52:10 PM | | try making him do you first, I tell you im always in for a little bit munching. Once a guy cums the mood usually disapates, but if you make him do you first then he will be in the mood and get more and more in the mood as time goes on. Just make sure that he satifies you first. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2006 12:53:51 PM | | the thing is we have three little boys all under 6 and we can't do it during tthe day because he works so ;much. i appreciate all the advice and i do think that we should start working on respecting each other and loving each other, maybe even taking a break from sex for a little while, what do you think?? I love this man, but he seems to think " theres nothiing to talk about" and thinks i am being stupid for having these feelings.... but something inside me can't help it.... what should i do? | |
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Posted: 11/10/2006 2:43:02 PM |
last night we were partying and he was very obvious he wanted to have sex,
Pssssst.........next time get him home before he get too drunk that he conks out!!!!! | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 11:57:41 AM | Yes I know he was being hyperbolic DentedKnight and true we all can be selfish at one time or another. I certainly should have mentioned that fact too! Well said too!
You should never have to "change" someone. If you feel you like someone, notice flaws or dislikes but bend to the "thats okay, I can change them" then you shouldn't move on with them. Communication is also the key. Communicate your needs and desires. If you don't communicate then you are headed for disaster. Being friends first is even better, then you get to know them as a person and how they treat those of the opposite sex, therefore you know how they may treat you.
Good luck! | |
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