| Filling the Lonely Times
Posted: 11/10/2006 6:00:11 PM | | It's Friday night, and I find myself alone watching The Wizard of Oz on TV and wishing my kids were little again. Sometimes the loneliness gets to be unbearable, and filling that time can be an unsolvable problem. I'm not sure if there is anything that can remove the lonely feeling short of having another person in one's life. But if there is to be no other person, have you found anything to help? What do you do to fill the lonely times? | |
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| Filling the Lonely Times
Posted: 11/10/2006 6:04:28 PM | crim, right now i'm listening to my christmas music going through my multi colored mini lights and going to get ready to take the lights down from last year since they're almost all out.
other than that, i clean all of the time....... | |
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| Filling the Lonely Times
Posted: 11/10/2006 6:31:56 PM | | I'm really beginning to hate the weekends. My son is at his daddy's house and here I am... alone.... again..... | |
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kasie
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Joined: 3/4/2006
Msg: 4 | |
| Filling the Lonely Times
Posted: 11/10/2006 6:57:03 PM | Hey ... Sometimes we clean..sometimes we cry..sometimes we dream...me..hell I take hot bubble baths by aroma therapy candle light..sometimes I play tons and tons of slingo..sometimes I clean the carpet.. (im actually up to about one time a month..LMAO) but then there are the times I find NOTHING to do so I read.. I burn CD's to give to friends.. I call my parents and go visit them.. I call my sister and find the latest gossip in her drama.. or I chat online with my long distance friends..
now .. TONIGHT..I found myself agreeing to let my teenage daughter babysit.. guessssss who's babysitting..lmao.. Its okay..its my grandchildren..I love em!!!!!!!!!
Its all good..I decided Im gonna try to make for better holidays..Im gonna try to find some things to do like volunteer at the homeless shelter..I also thought about going through closets and closets of clothes to donate.. (great tax deduction) meanwhile..still tryin to find a REAL job..
Hang in there ... Im learning that it gets easier each year that goes by.. | |
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| Filling the Lonely Times
Posted: 11/10/2006 7:14:58 PM | Wow, kasie, I thought about the same thing tonight....volunteering for a thanksgiving shelter...
sherry | |
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Posted: 11/10/2006 7:49:31 PM | Dang, I must admit, I use these forums to help with the lonely times....but everyone seems to have gone to bed....or having a more interesting Friday night than mine!
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Posted: 11/10/2006 7:50:54 PM | | Yes, the forums are like having people to talk to when you need them. It is really dead tonight, though. Even lakie is gone! | |
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Posted: 11/10/2006 7:51:15 PM | Being a guy, I guess I have different needs. I'm not getting the feeling of being lonely. I get the feeling that I don't get any personal time.
During the week I'm working and then watching my kids while their mother works (till 1:00am). Then, on the weekends I'm usually helping my mother with things (bills, chores, etc) or I've got my kids with me. It's come to the point that I'm trying to maintain two different households.
I would kill just to have an entire weekend or even a day to myself where I didn't have to tend to someone or be back by a certain time.
However, I do have those days where I wish I had someone else around (ie over the age of 18) who actually cared about me, what I'm doing what is going on and I can talk to them (and vice versa about them).
On the days when it really gets unbearable though, there is always the barley and hops! 
It doesn't make the pain go away but it does make you numb enough so you can sleep.  | |
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Posted: 11/10/2006 7:57:48 PM | | What gets to me the most is that when I'm here alone, there's absolutely no one on the planet that cares about what I am doing. It feels like such a waste. Sometimes I wish I could leave everyone out and go do something which would make them feel as left out as they make me feel. Does that make sense? Probably not, I'm just rambling on. | |
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| Filling the Lonely Times
Posted: 11/10/2006 8:12:49 PM | the problem is, Sharon, while they're out doing those things, they aren't thinking about those left out...it's kind of a 'Catch 22'. And if we were out doing those things, we wouldn't be thinking about those left at home.....
I just figure it's all a balance, but at least in this day and age, we have these outlets, for our lonely times.
Sherry | |
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kasie
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Joined: 3/4/2006
Msg: 11 | |
| Filling the Lonely Times
Posted: 11/10/2006 8:23:16 PM | Thats something we should think about Sherry...maybe we could all take our older kids..show them why we should be Soooooooooooooooo thankful!! | |
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Posted: 11/10/2006 8:27:46 PM | lol, Kasie, I have a 4 year old.....she's grateful when I just play a game of 'Candyland' with her....and it's the good, pure way to have fun...she reminds me of what it's all about....when she's older, and doesn't need me so much, I may be at a loss...
Sherry | |
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kasie
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Joined: 3/4/2006
Msg: 13 | |
| Filling the Lonely Times
Posted: 11/10/2006 9:29:56 PM | I hear ya Sherry. I have a 5 yr old...and 15 yr old..whats that tell you...
" yes honey its your turn to watch blues clues..NO DAMN IT..turn off that MTV " or
" Hey Mom can I take Shy to the library to play in the kids area" (she is really saying god mom all I wanna do is hang out so that boy that lives next door just HAS to notice me and its the only excuse I got to get out..gotta drag "HER" with me..lol)
I think I will take the two of them and go to the homeless shelter..serve a bit of food (actually the little one would be more up for it than the teen) take something to some of the kids that are homeless and feel REAAAAAAAALLLLLLLL good that they get to go home and sleep in their own bed that night!!
Meanwhile..lonely... omg..I love it when the time comes and I get two hrs to myself (which is sooooooooooo rare!!) I couldnt live without them though..if they werent around..I would be the true version of LONELY!! | |
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| Filling the Lonely Times
Posted: 11/10/2006 11:47:00 PM | | Hello ladys.I may not be here,but! When Im always thinking of what to say next Sharoon,and yes I do know what your talking about,I go through it everyday.Thats why I go to sleep early sometimes,then them thoughts go away so I don't have to deal with them.But you know if you ladys ever need someone to talk to? Im here for ya ok? | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 12:34:23 AM | I don't know about you all, but when I'm feeling lonely, I run outside naked yelling the sky is falling, Then in a matter of minutes, these really nice guys in white jackets come over and take me for a ride in a really big truck. And you know what, I'm not lonely anymore.
LMFAO ..... 
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Posted: 11/11/2006 2:19:15 AM | | Mornin Sharon ohh do yo miss me at nite? Having some dsl issues as it got shut down on me.So im having to use the old dial up.And it sucks the big one.To slow fo me,not im not going to be able to keep up | |
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| Filling the Lonely Times
Posted: 11/11/2006 3:27:25 AM | I'm not sure if there is anything that can remove the lonely feeling short of having another person in one's life. But if there is to be no other person,
I think yo just said it yourself Sharon. Having someone in our life does a lot,it's only the ones that really don't tend to sse,and feel it rather then those that do.That make any since oh well. haha | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 5:51:44 AM | [quoteMeanwhile..lonely... omg..I love it when the time comes and I get two hrs to myself (which is sooooooooooo rare!!
I usually feel that way, as well, Kasie, but 11 days into unemployment....and I'm going out of my head!!!!!!!
I've always suspected that I thrived on being busy.....now I know it's true... | |
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eazk
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Joined: 9/8/2006
Msg: 21 | |
| Filling the Lonely Times
Posted: 11/11/2006 6:45:43 AM | CK~ After deciding not to vote to delete this thread, I put some thought into it. I really had that problem more when I was married....two people, separate lives in one house. 
But since the separation and divorce, I took the time to see who I was....and who I thought I was, and who I might be interested in meeting, and made adjustments to let the real me come out. Then I started taking steps to do what I was passionate about, and at the same time, put myself in the path of opportunity....actually, in the path of numerous opportunities.
Have I found 'the one' yet? Sure, dozens of times.....that's why I'm still on POF.... Nope, but that doesn't change who I am and what I do. And yes, at times it can be tiring, but it is less tiring than doing nothing....and far less tiring than many years of my marriage.
So what happens if I never find 'the one'? Well, as long as I'm breathing, I still have that chance....just have to continue to explore the possibilities that exist in front of us every day.  | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 7:20:08 AM | | when im feeling lonley and down -n- out i call my best cousin lisa get dressed up real pretty and go out to a club dance till i cant dance anymore and get biligerantly drunk...laugh my ass off and act a fool....this is my cure ....it always works | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 8:09:38 AM | Well as for lonely times don't have many of them.I live with my two daughters and grandchildren which never give me time to be lonely .We have done things for the homeless every year. This year i'am getting my grandchildren envoled it helps them to be thankful for the things they have and to relize there are those who don't even have food to eat.Idid that one christmas for my girls when they were small no tree just a few smalls lights spelling out EMANUEL 2 small gifts a piece. We spent the whole season gathering coats.,food ,clothing it got so coutagies that my neices and nephews got involed. Then my brother got the spirit he went down town and passed out gloves to any one who didn;t have gloves on .It was the the best christmas ever .Giving is very rewarding the feeling of be able to help those who are in need makes the season what it's all about. | |
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| Filling the Lonely Times
Posted: 11/11/2006 8:14:42 AM | I think one thing to remember, and I've said this in another post.
There is a difference between being alone and being lonely. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 8:31:00 AM | | OK IN A CROWDED ROOM I CAN BE LONELY WHEN THATS HAPPENS I GO OUT SIDE GET A GRIP AND RELIZE THAT IN MY LONLIEST TIMES I'AM NOT TRULY EVER ALONE .I THANK GOD AND JUST GO ON . I KNOW WITH OUT MY FAITH I WOULD FOREVER BE ALONE. | |
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