| Guys....can an overseas internet "relationship" develop into smoething more than....
Posted: 11/11/2006 2:57:41 PM | | This is a bit unusual - but there is a Canadian guy - that I met via the internet while he was here in Australia - we met briefly for about an hour just chatting and seem to get on very well. Since returning to Canada he has continued to constantly be in contact with me either by phone or the internet. The situation lately has been getting more of serious nature and he has started talking about either coming back here or me going over there to meet with his family. It's a way out there idea, I know.........what is best for both of us....what do you think ? Thanks | |
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| Guys....can an overseas internet relationship develop into smoething more than....
Posted: 11/11/2006 3:32:54 PM | Be very very VERY careful. It's extremely difficult to really know someone when there is any amount of physical distance involved.
Frankly, people can just hide too much online. If you do decide to continue this, take advantage of any non-textual interaction you can get. That is in your case because of such a large distance, voice.
It's still somewhat easy for people to hide in voice contact, but not quite as easy as just online text. Even just the whole time factor thing helps. Meaning in text they have more time to think out their responses. In voice they have to be quick, and you can more easily detect indiscrepancies, dishonesty, emotional reactions, tonal inflection, etc.
Remember, paying attention to what IS will serve you much better than thinking about what "could" be.
Good luck
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| Guys....can an overseas internet relationship develop into smoething more than....
Posted: 11/11/2006 11:59:48 PM | why didn't you met him when you both where in Australia? your profile says you are in Victoria, and Victoria is in Western Canada? maybe there is another city with the same name in Australia!
anyhow, you should talk and see him via webcam before doing anything, and there is no problem to go to other places to meet your man, if you trust him 99% | |
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| Guys....can an overseas internet relationship develop into smoething more than....
Posted: 11/12/2006 2:28:07 AM | Victoria is the little triangular state in the south east corner of Australia with the second largest population - about 5m. Through the forums I have met a delightful Canadian Victorian to exchange notes with. Guess old Queen Vic was on the throne when these places were established.
Good luck with your relationship Serindipidy. You have spoken face to face so you know quite a bit already. Build slowly and plan wisely. | |
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| Guys....can an overseas internet relationship develop into smoething more than....
Posted: 11/13/2006 12:37:57 PM | ^ many Russian girls sent me emails that they are in love with me, so on and on...finally they said they like to come to Canada to meet me, but don't have enough money and asked for money!!! they said there is not any webcam (to meet online), even they don't have any phone !!
^^^ I think serindipidy said they met each other just online, not in person? | |
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| Guys....can an overseas internet relationship develop into smoething more than....
Posted: 8/30/2009 4:32:34 PM | Well i for one would love to know if this worked out for you, as i am in the throws of a similar situation.
I have been chatting to a woman on a daily basis & would like to see about taking it to the next level. She is from overseas and we have chatted about meeting up one day.
IMO i think something like this can work if the two people involved really want everything to work out. | |
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| Guys....can an overseas internet relationship develop into smoething more than....
Posted: 8/30/2009 4:49:09 PM | Of course, most people here would tell you to be careful at the very least.
I would tell you that it takes time to really know someone and as you first start getting to know each other, truth be told you do not actually “like the person” since, you like the person “you THINK they are”. It's only once you've spent a considerable amount of time together and have lived through many situations that your eyes open up and you see other facets of who they are. Of course, you may like those facets but, it's just to point that out. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2009 6:38:54 PM | Be careful with this one.
My ex husband in NZ met a woman in Canada in an online site. She moved to NZ, they got married, for whatever reasons the both went back to Canada, but he couldn't stay. He went back to NZ without her. . .they got divorced.
I think its a wonderful idea, both of you planning to meeting each others family. . .but in cases of overseas relationships, look further ahead at immigration laws. | |
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| Guys....can an overseas internet relationship develop into smoething more than....
Posted: 8/30/2009 7:41:11 PM | Okay, first, there's this:
The situation lately has been getting more of serious nature
The situation has been getting "serious" over the internet/phone?? Though you have met face-to-face, it was only on one occasion for about an hour, so I can't even begin to imagine how that's possible. I concur with the others who have advised you to be very careful, and to keep asking yourself frequently if such a big move is really worth it for a guy you barely know--it's pretty easy to hide things on the internet especially when one lives far away, unfortunately.
And then this little tid-bit really takes the cake:
and he has started talking about either coming back here or me going over there to meet with his family.
Wow, the alarm bells would be going off in my head incessantly if I were in your position. | |
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| Guys....can an overseas internet relationship develop into smoething more than....
Posted: 8/30/2009 8:08:56 PM |
what do you think ?
I think it sounds like the storyline to some of the documentaries I've seen on women forced into the international sex trade.
Leave the country, go to someone you think you trust, but don't know all that well because it was all a bunch of lies and BAM you're a streetwalker in japan in a tight gold lame dress and a white faux fur stole a foot taller than everyone else, then you get forced on crack, put under, and next thing you know you're in Greece doing a live goat show.
That's what I think.
That's why I only date local. I don't look good in lycra. | |
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