| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/13/2006 7:27:54 AM | | Hi I was seeing someone last 2 weeks 1st woman I met here.I play guitar and we mostly went to bars cause I jam so I dont drink now 14 yrs and I have NOO problem others having fun I also have fun I just dont need booze have fun.I thought everything going fine yesterday we go to have something to eat she tells me we can just be friends.After a little digging I found out it is cause I dont drink she felt nervous sometimes around me.Does this make people nervous or what is it.I dont judge so why do people make their pre concieved judgements about me when I am just trying to be o better person.What do you think I wont have much of a social life if I stayed away from people. | |
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tj7
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Joined: 11/7/2005
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/13/2006 7:30:40 AM | I was more drawn towards guys that didn't drink or at least drank very little.
My second ex is a major alcoholic and angry individual..........i learned alot from that relationship that I had no clue about - how well he would hide it - or ATTEMPT to hide it. So it was very important to me to meet someone that didn't drink very much or not at all.
Nothing wrong with it at all in my book!!!! | |
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ok.1
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Joined: 9/14/2006
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/13/2006 7:48:40 AM | I also do not drink. I just don't enjoy it at all.
Many just don't understand and say they feel uncomfortable.
My question is why?
Why is it so uncomfortable to be with someone who does not drink?
I don't say you can't, I just choose not to.
So have fun and let each to their own.
K | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/13/2006 8:05:58 AM | I respect anyone who has made a decision to change & better themselves. A good woman will be accepting and other then the awkward "wanna go for a drink-err I mean coffee", she will be cool with it.
Just wanted to say that is very cool choice you made strats4;) | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/13/2006 8:33:43 AM | | OP, in my case I'd say it depends on why someone doesn't drink. If they simply don't like it, that's one thing; if they've had addiction problems with it, that's another thing. I dated a recovering alcoholic before, and after that experience, I prefer not to deal with it again. Not only was I uncomfortable drinking in front of him (though that was a minor thing) but he had a number of other issues that not only led to his drinking, but that he couldn't handle because he wasn't drinking anymore. I'd have thought this was a one-off, but I've been around a number of other people who have alcohol problems and they weren't very different, so it's not something I want in my life. It's a preference, just as not wanting someone who does drugs in my life, or how some other people prefer to not have a smoker in their life. | |
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Sigi
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Joined: 5/26/2005
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/13/2006 8:37:07 AM | | My former boyfriend did not drink alcohol, and I'm a social drinker. It never caused any problems, we respected each other in this, and he always brought/bought me a Heineken and I made sure his favorite drinks were in the fridge! Actually I quite liked it that he was a 'non alcoholic'. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/13/2006 8:47:17 AM | I hear ya OP ... people always think you're "holier than thou" if you don't drink. I can't drink any more due to my anti-rejection medication, but I guarantee I have just as much fun as my drinking friends with the added bonus of no hangover the next day....
I find that drinkers who have a problem with non-drinkers usually drink more than they're willing to admit. Like they NEED the alcohol to have a good time. I doesn't bother me at all to be around people who are drinking. Besides, I can be the DD and make sure my friends get home safely.
Go out and have fun regardless of what others around you may think. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/13/2006 9:29:21 AM | | Not all women are this way ,i am a non drinker and i don't mind dating a social drinker but i sure as heck don't want to date a lady that drinks all the time but that is a choice and we all have choices .I choose not to drink because i do not care for the taste of alcohol but like i said it is all by choice and we need to understand that as adults we do have choices and life is all about choices ,she choose to not be with a non drinker and that is her choice so you have to accept that and move on . | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/13/2006 9:42:15 AM | Msg 9, as I mentioned in my post, I believe it's all in why someone doesn't drink that can make a difference to some people. IMO, not drinking because one doesn't like it or because of interference with other medication they take is one thing; having addiction problems with can be another...especially if the person has anger or other issues on top of it or because of it. I'm not a big drinker at all; if I have a glass of wine with dinner occasionally that's about it, and it's usually many months between those glasses at dinner. But, in addition to the other issues recovering alcoholics can have, I find it uncomfortable to have a drink around someone who can't drink due to addiction...and I find it hard to understand why they'd even want to be around alcohol in the first place...so it does make one uncomfortable at times. I don't feel uncomfortable around people who don't drink for other reasons. I'm sure my negative experience plays a part in my preferences, but so does my seeing too many people around with alcohol addictions that are similar to the person I dated...I simply prefer someone who hasn't had alcohol or drug addiction problems in the present and in the past.
It may be different for others; I'm sure it is; but that doesn't mean anyone's opinion or preference is any less valid than another's; they're simply one's opinions and preferences...and neither are 100% right or wrong; they're just what's right for each person. Not everyone will be comfortable being with someone who can't drink due to addiction, while they may be very comfortable being around someone who simply chooses not to drink for medical, religious, personal preferences, etc. I also doubt many see these people as 'holier than thou' as if one wants to be literal, as far as I remember they mention drinking wine in the Bible;) | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/13/2006 5:09:33 PM | | Kudos to you, strats4. I was married to a violent, abusive drunk for 9 years. Ive been rid of that nightmare for 9 more. I think its great that you dont drink. Guys who drink just socially are alright too. But I will never date someone or even message someone who drinks more than 3 or 4 times a week. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/13/2006 5:24:56 PM | | I was seeing a woman a few years ago, for a very short time, who did not like the fact I don't drink much or smoke weed. I thought that was a bizarre way to look at things. She was always drinking or getting high and wanting me to join in. But I don't drink much and never did. A few beers once in a while is all I have. And I haven't smoked weed since I was in my early 20's. Of course there was no way of continuing that relationship. It's just not for me. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/13/2006 7:11:06 PM | I don't think it should be a problem if you drink or if you don't; that's her issue. I don't drink that often and the last girl I dated drank a bit more than me. It was never an issue - more of a preference; we both respected that and we were both cool with it.
Interesting thing though on diet - I'm now taking this subject WAY off topic but it's all in a roundabout way of saying why not drinking should not be seen as a problem - especially from a health perspective. Everyone makes choices around drinking - call it what you will but all the reasons I've heard why can be summed up with one word: health. The pros for drinking have been fun, which is all good, but i'm focusing this on health.
There are essentially two types of foods you can injest (alkaline and acidic). If I remember correctly...I'm butchering this (look it up on the internet) but the average persons body pH level is about 7.14 - 7.34 (towards Alkalinity). Alcohol is considered acidic content (counter to the body's pH level). What that means is that acidic content can increase body toxicity and can lead to fat storage. Your call on what you think about what I'm sharing but it's essentially what I've been learning.
Anyway, not that I'm suggesting a body d-tox - it's not for everybody but if you're interested in alkaline/acidic foods info (or starting your own research), check out the following site:
http://www.wrc.net/wrcnet_content/dietplans/d-tox_diet_12day.htm
This link talks about the various foods you can look at to improve health, foods to focus on, and foods to focus less on for decreasing body toxicity.
Maybe some interesting info you can share with the girl who see's not drinking as a problem. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/13/2006 7:23:57 PM | I still think one can go out and have a cple of drinks...with food and not be considered a Lush.
It doesnt have to be all the time...but health surveys are agreeing with daily consuming of Beer or Wine...as long as it isn't overboard
And it doesn't mean you wont have a good time if you dont drink...but for some it may loosen the reigns...
cheers | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/13/2006 9:30:22 PM | | All depends if they are looking for a drinking buddy. When I first tried to quit drinking, my friends would push drinks in front of me. In time it only got worse till I had to get rid of my friends for not respecting my choice. But I really wonder now...how much of it was them looking at themselves, and their drinking? Most of them drank much more and way more often than me. Does it make them nervous? Hum, well, maybe only those with a problem and a mirror. | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/14/2006 2:51:46 AM | | Thank you so much for everybody who has responded so far.I started this and had no idea there would be so many people interested.It makes me realize how many nice and beautiful people out there Thanx Larry | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/14/2006 3:00:40 AM | The weak v.s the stong, disciplined...some people just can't deal with strong people that can stay away from emotional altering factors. I don't drink and don't frequent places that cater to them but I dont' feel like I am better than they are..being a chocoholic is worse!!!! | |
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| What do women think of guys who dont drink??
Posted: 11/14/2006 3:44:30 AM | | It may be the answer...is in your comment....that not drinking anything at all, even in a relaxed atmosphere on a "date"....is "trying to be a better person" (which you stated at the end)....Maybe, there is a kind of false superiority in it, or a hang up, ... and women don't feel comfortable around that and find the date unenjoyable because you take that and the justification to a kind of extreme in a way. Maybe, that throws a glass of water on an otherwise good time. I'd have to say I've run into the same attitude and found false superiority works okay for independent people...but is an attitude that can run off dates and relationships. It could be that is what the problem is. | |
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