| Love you More than a Friend but....
Posted: 11/13/2006 11:51:28 AM | "I love her more than a friend but I'm not in love with her." This sounds like the biggest bunch of crap I've ever heard. I don't even know what it means really. More than a friend? Well what the hell is that??? What? An in between? Anyone care to comment? It irritates me but at the same time it cracks me up. To me, it just sounds ridiculous. | |
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| Love you More than a Friend but....
Posted: 11/13/2006 11:57:15 AM | | ok, you obviously have been jipped on some understanding, i totally understand. You are not "in love" with her just yet, your just enjoying her company more then others right now and thats ok!. that is the first step to love and your on the right track if you think thats what you want. You dont have to LOVE her just yet ynow these things take time and i know that your feelings confuse you sometimes. you just have to remember that its not rediculous unless it feels rediculous. | |
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| Love you More than a Friend but....
Posted: 11/13/2006 12:12:22 PM | A special friend?
Some people put limits on friendship and don't know what to call it when they find a friendship that exceeds those limits.
I don't think there are limits on how much love you can feel for a friend -- without the attraction element even being considered. | |
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| Love you More than a Friend but....
Posted: 11/13/2006 12:21:57 PM | | Interesting. Personally, I love my friends. It's a close bond, you go above and beyond for them. I have a few male friends, however, I am not in love with them. These two have been together for two years in a physical relationship, she is married. I just thought it was very funny when my friend said this to me about her. It made me want to ask him "why are risking so much for someone you are not in love with." He gave me this answer because I asked him if he was. There has been some trouble brewing over the situation, so I was curious as to how serious he was about her. So, the statement ended up just sounding ridiculous to me. After two years, you're either in love, or you're not. | |
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| Love you More than a Friend but....
Posted: 11/13/2006 12:45:09 PM | I get this concept.... It's quite feasible to adore, respect, appreciate and love someone as the special person/friend in your life, and yet not be "in love" with them....
For me, I think it's about having a particular emotional bond/connection with someone that is much like friendship, but a little closer and more intuned..... | |
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| Love you More than a Friend but....
Posted: 11/13/2006 8:31:03 PM |
For me, I think it's about having a particular emotional bond/connection with someone that is much like friendship, but a little closer and more intuned.....
Yea, only the physical attraction is missing. | |
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| Love you More than a Friend but....
Posted: 11/13/2006 11:48:07 PM |
"I love her more than a friend but I'm not in love with her."
The quoted statement above, along with your short explaination of the situation of your friend, leads me to think he wants his cake, and eat it to. He simply doesn't want to commit.
I have no respect for someone who puts themself in that situation. More then one person is going to be hurt in this scenario.  | |
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| Love you More than a Friend but....
Posted: 11/14/2006 12:09:19 AM |
I love her more than a friend but I'm not in love with her
Translated, this means: I have slept with her which makes her 'more than just a friend', however I do not love her and never will.
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| Love you More than a Friend but....
Posted: 11/14/2006 5:39:56 AM | | I love all these responses. LOL To boot, he sleeps with other woman as well. So much for the respect and caring thing. I think he will keep her around for as long as it is convenient and, of course, for as long as they don't get caught. I can't stand the fact that he is even involved in a cheating situation. This woman's husband is a really nice guy and she has a lovely daughter. He and I have gone a few rounds over it. He's lost his very best friend over it (he dated her for 5 years). I'm telling ya, this broad is a pip. She thinks this situation is "forever" and she thinks he is "in love" with her. I know when he tells her he loves her she thinks he means "in love". Guess she'd be disappointed to know he doesn't mean it that way. In some ways, I think they deserve each other, maybe that's why they like each other so much. | |
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| Love you More than a Friend but....
Posted: 11/14/2006 6:23:27 AM | | Means she loves you like a brother, or you are on hold til she is desperate enough and needs the emergency pecker. | |
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| Love you More than a Friend but....
Posted: 11/14/2006 6:32:23 AM | | Well, they are a little more involved than that. They travel together, she stays over at his house, etc. They talk and text constantly when she can't be with him. This pip has no problem walking out on her husband and her kid. She goes to my friend whenever she wants. I wonder sometimes if her husband knows and doesn't care or if he is just that stupid. I just don't see, on his part, how any of this can be "love". Maybe as a friend but I can't for the life of me see how he can put more into than that especially where there are other women involved. | |
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| Love you More than a Friend but....
Posted: 11/14/2006 5:36:01 PM | To me it sounds like defining relationships
no one wants to be taken the wrong way in a relationship, or boundaries crossed because the lines are too fuzzy. When we define a relationship verbally with the other person we are setting up a clear boundary. I would ask this person clearly and directly what the statement means as you value them and don't want to cross any boundaries that will take away from the harmony of the relationship.
such relationships, emotional intimacy without the entanglements can be extraordinary, and hard to draw a line in the sand as they constantly evolve. The space that is held within each for the other can grow bigger then any romantic relationship i've ever been in. If the expectation is that it will end up in a romantic relationship. You may miss out on the time of your life! And something that defies all definition of relationship, define it confine it manipulate it, you will destroy it.
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