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Posted: 11/21/2006 8:44:25 AM | I had been talking to someone for a week on msn, and he got my name wrong. Now when I would message him my name would come up. I also told him my real name. Now we had talked about alot of stuff, and I can understand forgetting some things but a person's name. Well when I brought this up his response was watever [ yes that is how he spelled it] now I asked him why the attitude, he freaked out, now i ask you would you be offended if someone forgot your name if you had been talking to this person for a while.
I see it as a sign of respect. I mean he was important to me as a person to have the decency for me to pay attention to what this person was saying.
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Posted: 11/21/2006 8:46:09 AM | | IMHO It is not only disrespect but disinterest. He is not interested enough to remember... | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 8:51:55 AM | | ok ive forgotten peoples names.. even if ive talked to them for a while, takes me a min to get it.. but once i meet them then it sticks.. i think for me its the i need to see it for it to stay in my head.. and it can get confusing lookin at email address and usernames and keepin people straight.. maybe you dont talk to alot of people but maybe he does.. give hima break.. now if you meet him and dated and he forgot it then be hurt and pissed off. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 8:54:08 AM | | I would be offended however I would also forgive. If it happened again it would raise serious questions. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 8:59:39 AM | People forget names, especially if he is talking to a few people at once. (Yes I know that's a no-no, but it happens.)
The bigger concern for me would be his reaction when prompted on it. That to me tells you more about his attitude than the forgetting. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 9:14:18 AM |
The bigger concern for me would be his reaction when prompted on it.
I agree completely! He should have apologized, not said "watever". | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 9:17:25 AM | Hard to attach a name at times to an electronic entity
This categorically falls into small stuff - don't sweat it.
And as his "Freaking out" is concerned, I'd rather think that maybe it was more out of embarassment on his behalf, than an afront to you. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 9:20:41 AM | | I also find it offensive when someone forgets my name, but I realize most people don't have as good a memory as I have. Usually it just tells me they don't care enough to pay attention. I even know the first names of every person on my favorites list -- even though I've only spoken to most of them a couple of times. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 9:49:55 AM | It is not rare for someone to have 50 contacts. They also might be talking to 10 different people at the same time.
Just my 2 cents. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 10:15:46 AM | "Well when I brought this up his response was watever [ yes that is how he spelled it] now I asked him why the attitude, he freaked out,"
The "watever" combined with the "freaked out" says your one of a number hes talking with and that you have no real importance other than a chat partner.
"now i ask you would you be offended if someone forgot your name if you had been talking to this person for a while." Too some extent yes, however I have hypothyroid and part of that is short term memory loss and for me people names are one of those opps i forgot. I have this happen with family members and long term friends, not to mention past wife/ G/F's whos name I would forget in at the worse possible times.
Well forgetting your name is annoying but you have to place it in context, maybe he doesn't think of your name as important enough to be upset over at this point.
 
FYI spelling.... your either good with it or math.... not both. This is a fact people get over it. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 10:30:57 AM | | i agree w/ most of the ppl on here. forgetting names on msn happens..... heck most of the time i have to ask ppl who they are even though i have talked to them a few times... its the convo i remember myself...... some ppl have alot of contacts and remebering ppl's names before talking to them on the phone or meeting them in real life is difficult. i wouldnt sweat it...... if ppl reacted that way towards me no one would talk to me. instead they just laugh. remember talking to them on the net is different from actually dating them. u cant give them heck for not knowing u. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 10:40:16 AM | Why is this in Sex and Dating? lol...
On Topic: C'mon...this is cyber world. People sometimes have a hard time matching names with screen names and email addresses and msn names...geez it's enough to confuse anybody. I'll admit I have a bad memory, but if I'm interested in somebody on msn, I do usually remember their name. If they forget mine, I don't get all offended and pouty.
People need to relax a little bit more and not become so easily mad or offended. Life is too short to waste time on those feelings when the intentions were not bad in the first place. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 10:46:02 AM | I wouldn't be offended if someone forgot my name. I usually correct them (as you say, it's on the IM). He may have had several IMs running at the same time.. Hence, the 'attitude'.
Doesn't sound like a friend, to me~ There's plenty of fish around~ | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 12:27:39 PM | I wouldnt be too upset at the act of forgetting your name , but his response was out of line . I myself have those lapse of memory lots , heck even called my own kids by the others name . I forget names lots , but can remember numbers with ease , makes me wonder why one and not the other .
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Posted: 11/21/2006 3:45:42 PM | | Its MSN. Its meaningless...let it go. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 3:48:33 PM | | ....................That could happen to anyone, I say give him a break. ............................................................................................................................................... | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 4:01:23 PM | | Yeah... lighten up.... Its possible that the guy has a condition that affects his memory..... you never know... anythings possible... he's not your boyfriend... u arent even really dating the guy... its not a big deal.... | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 4:18:52 PM | | I have forgotten peoples names, sometimes I just think of them as their usernames. But if they're very interesting I remember them. I also always apologize if I forget. Never would I say watever like its nothin, that shows disrespect. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 4:45:18 PM | I know this isn't good, but a few times I have forgotten the name of a woman, while we were out on a date.
I hate it when that happens. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 5:26:43 PM | im terrible with names, i cant remember anyones name unless i know them personaly.
i have to have met them more than once and know them fairly well,
hell sometimes i get my friends names wrong and i have known them since i was little,
imo names are labels for people and are not as important as knowing other things about the people,
whenever my friends talk about someone from back in highschool i cant put a face to the name but as soon as they say "you know the guy who went to grad in the dress" i remember everything about them. its just the names that dont work. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 5:47:59 PM | | thats pretty low. but dont feel bad, when i used to call my ex boyfriend he used to ask who was calling!! | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 7:51:09 PM | I forget peoples names on msn, but this isn't down to disrespect, its down to a bloody poor memory I've got.
Maybe if you had met the person and he forgot your name the next day then I would say that was disrespectful, but otherwise wouldn't say it's anything to worry about.
Remember (ughh) he could be speaking to loads of people at the same time, especially when you get a load of new msn contacts in a short period of time - easy mistake to make....... | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 8:06:51 PM | Hi shy_gal40,
I guess I'm a little like you in that I remember people's names and when I don't, I'm always apologetic about it.... like you bump into a neighbour that has just re-married and you were never introduced to her new husband but you feel bad that you don't remember his name....
I can understand and forgive someone not remembering my name.... after all, we meet all kinds of people in all kinds of circumstances everyday. If, however, I forget someone's name and they are aware of my lapse of memory, there is not a snowy day's chance in the blaze that is the summer solstice that I would say, "Whatever"... and yes I spelled it correctly.
My name was given to me by two parents that loved me. If someone that is supposedly 'close' to me can't "remember" it, then I can't be "bothered" with them.
Hold your head up high.... you're a beautiful woman and you deserve the best.
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Posted: 11/21/2006 8:15:57 PM | He's probably a frenzy-chatter. Or at the least a multi-chatter. I agree with others, it's not disrespect, it's disinterest. I'd move on. No need to bicker with someone who clearly could care less. I think it has happened to us all at one time or another.
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Posted: 11/21/2006 8:18:11 PM | you should have showed him your boobs ? he would have remembered you .  | |
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