| | Competition Among WomenPage 1 of 6 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6) | | Through various life experiences and some exchanges on a few forums here, I've noticed more and more back-biting between women. I do, personally, have some very good female friends...but notice a trend in women supporting each other less and working against each other more. Anyone else feel this way? | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 9:42:05 PM | | I have heard more and more women share the experience you speak of, while men tend to not act this way. I am sure there is alsays the odd insecure male who will, but it seems to me more of a trait that unhealthy women have. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 10:08:22 PM | | Don't mess with the Favs & Testimonials...lol...I completely understand! | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 10:35:01 PM | Unfortunately, I have to totally agree. Not sure why but you have alot of women that are competative and will stab each other in the back with a smile. Because of this...for years I've always found better friends in men. I tend to shy away from being friends with women. Excluding one that I meet on here...she's always had my back and comforting words even though we never met and that says alot.
Since I could remember...I've dealt with females befriending me so they could get close to a guy I was with. I've dealt with women claiming to be a friend only to later find out they were saying some nasty things about me. Not sure of the reason..but, I don't have time to try and figure out their reasons...I just remove them from my life and move on. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 10:40:18 PM | You've JUST noticed this??
Hey...here's a thought....
This is the actual quote from the back cover of "He's Just Not That Into You".......
"For ages, women have come together over coffee,****ails, or late night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men"..............
And while all the women shelled out good money to actually BUY this book, most of the men out there already knew that the REAL puzzling behavior, and your own worst enemy was........the woman that you stared across the table drinking coffee with to discuss US. We already knew that most times, the woman you're sitting across from is not so concerned with YOU, as much as she was concerned with what you might have that she doesn't............
Men are not so dumb............We look around and go...."dang...if she can't even be nice to her OWN kind....what snowballs chance in hell do I have??"
Cat fight anybody????? | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 10:49:51 PM | For that reason, I chose to climb trees, swing from treehouses to roof tops, football, baseball, camping, fishing, etc. etc. and actually enjoyed it as a kid...AND... now, as an adult.
While I watched the girls stick those knives in each other's backs, I, being the tomboy, hung out with the guys and was privvy to their 'talk'. Those catty little girls were not the cat's meow to the guys....like they thought they were.
The few girls/women I have gotten close to are quality though.. truly they are and some are right here on POF. Those are the bright stars amongst the dull. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2006 11:29:59 PM | I have to admit, some people on the forums have been downright nasty to me for no reason at all.
It's just easier to ignore them though. | |
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Posted: 11/22/2006 2:00:34 AM | | Competition only occurs becuase of one underlying factor: Jelousy. When a woman is insecure of herself she will compete becuase she wants her strengths to verpower the other ladies that she percieves as a threat. When someone is completely content with who they are they won't feel the need to compete becuase they understand tat everyone has their faults and their strengths. | |
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Posted: 11/22/2006 2:43:18 AM | I would say that's quite accurate. It's also happening among men. That's just my observation though.
I have to admit, some people on the forums have been downright nasty to me for no reason at all.
It's just easier to ignore them though.
Agreed, I've seen it happen to you. We share a similar approach in some situations. Truth is truth. You can polish a turd until the sun sets, but it's still a turd, and you and I just call it like we see it.
I'm tactful sometimes, it all depends on what I think the OP needs after I've analyzed the situation. Some are easy to assist and I show kindness and compassion, some need a firm swift kick in the ass -- the intention in both cases is to give them what you asked for in their first post, which is help/answers/opinions.
Competition only occurs becuase of one underlying factor: Jelousy. When a woman is insecure of herself she will compete becuase she wants her strengths to verpower the other ladies that she percieves as a threat. When someone is completely content with who they are they won't feel the need to compete becuase they understand tat everyone has their faults and their strengths.
I'd say this is pretty accurate. I don't compete with anyone, but then again I'm an arrogant bastard who knows before the competition even begins that I've already won. *snicker*.... *evil*. I'm kidding..........sort of.
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Posted: 11/22/2006 2:48:53 AM | It is something more common in younger women. Like it was said in earlier posts, it must be due to confidence and jealousy.
I too always have more friendships with men than women. | |
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Posted: 11/22/2006 2:53:08 AM | There is a some cases where these people are work against themselves but really don't know it.....fer instance..
A gal who is 22, married and has a child and not working......posting pic's in negligee's screaming how unfair guys are on here...they all think of one thing...
Women who act like tarts but just can't seem to get that NICE GUY to notice her...
Women that get extremely defensive when it brought up that it's not a good good thing to sleep with a guy on the first meeting....and wonder why he does not call, email or IM her anymore....
But then in the BROKEN HEARTS THREADS we all seem to pull together and give SOME encouragement to those who are hurting...
works both ways.... | |
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Posted: 11/22/2006 3:13:05 AM | | Woman can be evil. I tend to have way more male friends, than female friends. Girls my age are very jealous and insecure for the most part. | |
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Posted: 11/22/2006 3:42:15 AM | Actually, I've found the reverse to mostly be true. While it may be true a few women are competitive, I've generally experienced more that are warm, supportive and compassionate. I'd be lost without my galpals. Just as the case with men, don't judge the whole by the actions of a few.  | |
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| Competition Among Women
Posted: 11/22/2006 3:51:45 AM | | that happens just because you're pretty. You could be a saint but as long as you'd be young and lovely they would hate you...sad, but that's the way it is. Yes, you do right ignoring them | |
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Posted: 11/22/2006 3:52:14 AM | | I grew up with older brothers, in a neighborhood full of kids. I preferred to hang out with the guys, because they were funnier, and they didn't throw hissy fits if they couldn't play with someone's elses Barbie. In fact, they did quite a few humorous things with the Barbies and G.I. Joes. It just seemed like they didn't talk behind other's backs like the girls did, and if they got in a fight, they got over it quicker, and got back to insulting each other. | |
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Posted: 11/22/2006 4:14:23 AM | Sorry I disagree op! I'll, admit there is a generation gap happening here! Over the years times have changed, opinions have changed, and attitudes have changed. We also have women and men that have contributed to the forum, but have not had many of the experiences that are discussed, therefore they make 'assumptions' when answering threads. Then along come the experienced....and knock em down! That's life! | |
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Posted: 11/22/2006 4:24:13 AM | I've always been fascinated by how many women really don't like other women.
Sometimes they can be down right sexist about it.
It's amazing how much distrust and wariness there is among women.
Is there something going on behind our backs, we men arn't aware of ? | |
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Posted: 11/22/2006 5:06:53 AM | Bah who cares
survival of the fittest
let the blood bath begin | |
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Posted: 11/22/2006 5:21:30 AM | I've noticed the same thing. I do have some close female friends, but I tend to get along better with men. A lot of the women I've known are shallow, tend to be more wrapped up in themselves than anything else, and they go for the jugular when things don't go their way.
I've even had women who were supposed to be friends tear me down for no reason other than "having a bad day" and see nothing wrong with it. I guess if you spend most of your time with other women, you'd better have thick skin. | |
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Posted: 11/22/2006 5:30:41 AM | Thy are competing for a very finite rare resource
Tall Dark Ripped Australian Men
bahahahhaahh
No I dont need help - I am beyond help
okay back into my box I go
zoooooooooooooooooooooooooom roo strikes again | |
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Posted: 11/22/2006 5:36:19 AM | | Good healthy competition it looks like...let the battles begin .. | |
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Posted: 11/22/2006 5:40:21 AM |
Actually, I've found the reverse to mostly be true. While it may be true a few women are competitive, I've generally experienced more that are warm, supportive and compassionate. I'd be lost without my galpals. Just as the case with men, don't judge the whole by the actions of a few.
I would have to agree with the above quote in that I have found some GREAT women here on the site and to be honest a good majority of the people that have me on their fav list are WOMEN which is totally cool with me! I came here to fill my circle again after my divorce, and am very thankful for all the women friends that I have met.
There will be competition between women wherever you go, whether it be on the net or in the real world.......fact of life I suppouse. | |
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Posted: 11/22/2006 5:45:03 AM | More specifically, I see fewer cases of women being able to be happy for another's success whether it be a relationship, career, children's achievements, etc. Also....a lot of women seem to run to their friends when times are tough and completely drop off radar when all is good.
***Obviously not meaning all women in general****** | |
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Posted: 11/22/2006 5:50:53 AM |
More specifically, I see fewer cases of women being able to be happy for another's success whether it be a relationship, career, children's achievements, etc.
That because i can tell you the secret to what every woman wants
every woman wants what she percieves another woman has and believes she has a right to have or is entitled too | |
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