| Something I saw tonight...
Posted: 11/23/2006 8:39:26 PM | (Warning....somewhat of a vent ahead, proceed with caution )
...ok, so today was Thanksgiving, spent it by myself mostly. About an hour ago, went to a bar type place to meet a friend...figure I will have a good time, get rid of the holiday blues of being alone.
Get there, have a beer, play a game of pool. (note, I had only been to this place once before, but forgot why I never went there again) Seems like everyone is having a good time, but notice that one woman is quite drunk and making somewhat of a scene.
Continued the game, finished(I won for a change...take a moment to cheer for me...Thanks.)
Sat and talked with my friends for a bit...and the woman's boyfriend(I'm assuming) came in and was apparently upset that she was at the bar drunk....told her to go home....well she didn't, and they started to get a bit rowdy with each other.
They were bar regulars, and the bartender got involved(female)so basically there's a tussle between the three. Guy goes outside, and starts some stuff with a guy coming in. More nonsense....guy's gf came back in, and started a drunken loud rant about her home troubles, etc.
(skipping some details)
NOW I remembered why I never went there again, it just reminds me of everything that is wrong in the world today, this sort of thing goes on everyday, everywhere. Ruined my night(yeah, I know I shouldn't let it) So...my question....seen anything lately that made you lose faith in people? Seeing people stay in situations that aren't good for them and could possibly end in death?
Seeing this everywhere just makes me feel as though I'm not fit for these times, and is a big part of why I don't really want to pursue dating again any time soon.....no one(in my area) seems to have the same type of beliefs or anything even close to mine.....I want to know if anyone else feels this way.
And if you read all this, congrats...you deserve a pat on the back.  | |
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| Something I saw tonight...
Posted: 11/23/2006 8:49:59 PM | First of all Ravager...Happy Thanksgiving 
I guess its difficult seeing something like that on a holiday but...Remember, Thanksgiving is for remembering the GOOD things that happen everyday. I hope you didn't let it ruin your day...
That being said...I guess I can't say I've witnessed anything that would make me wonder about life in general, or maybe I just don't remember. BUT...I am a hairstylist, which is pretty much as close to the profession of bartender as you can get (cept I don't serve alcohol) so you can say I've heard my share of some pretty disturbing things. You know what though? It makes me glad I am the way I am. I only have control of my own actions. I know that each and every day I have to look at myself in the mirror, and I know I want to be happy with what I see. Stand firm in your beliefs, never compromise yourself, continue having the morals you have, and never let anyone sway you....In the end, I believe you will be better for it.Good luck! | |
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| Something I saw tonight...
Posted: 11/23/2006 9:48:32 PM | | Yeah I hear ya, I lost my faith in humanity years ago. As your bible says...Its only going to get worse as the days go by... | |
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| Something I saw tonight...
Posted: 11/23/2006 9:58:53 PM | | I hear you too. It makes me doubt wanting kids, why would anyone want to bring kids up in a society that is going downhill? It seems useless, even if we behave right, everyone else is acting wacked!!! Why even bring up children around so much idiocracy? | |
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| Something I saw tonight...
Posted: 11/23/2006 10:10:36 PM | Just reading it made me cry. what an awful scene you had to experience during the holiday, stay away from there. I spent it alone. I almost let myself get the blues but instead I just spent it like any day, had a quite dinner and some wine. tried fixing some programs in my computer and watched some comedy. Even "Rosanne" was having a bad Thanksging lololo with Jackie and their mother.
there still some decent people out here in the world. "go fish" | |
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| Something I saw tonight...
Posted: 11/23/2006 10:21:02 PM | the worse I see, the more convinced I am that every little thing we do can make a difference in somebody elses day. Kindness spreads as easily as cruelty.
therefore it is so important to live a life of beauty, compassion, kindness and honor. And oh yeah, Gratitude.
the butterfly effect is real and i for one feel honored to be able to emit positive energy out into this world of ours whenever I am in a clear enough place to be able to.
When my daughter was 5 I asked her why she thought we were here in this world, and she said "to help each other and do thanks givings." Mouths of babes...
Happy Thanksgivings  | |
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| Something I saw tonight...
Posted: 11/23/2006 11:02:02 PM | Yeah, I have one.
I went to Ryan's Steakhouse alone to have some Thanksgiving food off their buffet. While I was there there was some confusion among the waitresses about who's supposed to be working my table. So I had one come out, bring me my water and rolls.. then another one was like "Oh.. someone was already here?"
So I hear some debate "Blah blah blah that's *my* table blah blah" then the first waitress comes out and introduces me to a third waitress and says she'll be helping me.. so off and on I hear more 'discussing' going on nearby (read: right behind my back) between the waitresses and each other, and some ****ing to other waitresses... all the while I got 1 refill of water and no more rolls the rest of the time I was there.
So while they were greeding over who was going to get what table, I left feeling even more insignificant and depressed about the holiday than before I went in there. | |
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| Something I saw tonight...
Posted: 11/23/2006 11:19:16 PM | We all make choices in our lives, you chose to go where they serve booze. what did you really expect it wouold mellow out everyone. Man booze just brings out the worst in us because we use it as crutch to help us cope with those things we haven't the courage to face. If you wanted to have a good time on the holiday maybe you should have volunteered to help with a community dinner, or at a homeless shelter. Seeing those people that have less than we are blessed with and how they survive might have shown you your life isn't so bad.
I learned many years ago, thanksgiving isn't about me it's about giving to others, If you have no oney you have time, if you have no time then give encouragement.
I know this may sound unrealistic in todays world , but it has to start somewhere and the longest journey starts with but one step. | |
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| Something I saw tonight...
Posted: 11/23/2006 11:25:29 PM | | I can only surmise that your up bringing wasn't a happy one. having children , even in this crazy world , is the most joyous of lifes wonders. While it is a crazy world we still the impoverished of the world raising children under the worse of condition, yet they still do it. I have been fortunate in having 4 children while not all of them turned out like I would have wanted ( I wasn't there for three of them) I still love them and I hope that someday you will change your mond and embrace having your own children. | |
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| Something I saw tonight...
Posted: 11/23/2006 11:28:39 PM | The most contagious thing in the world is a smile. You cant't share it without it coming back at you even in a mirror.
How we lead our lives usually determines the life we have around us. Many people go to thier grave never knowing what it was like to love and share happiness with strangers | |
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| Something I saw tonight...
Posted: 11/23/2006 11:31:55 PM | | I would agree children are the greatest thing in the world, I have 7 myself, they are my greatest joy, and my deepest sorrow too. My ex took them from me, and I havent seen them since last christmas eve, and although I know that "this too will pass" I must live for today, and little good is the knowledge that at some future point things will get better when your hurting today. As for the remark "there are still plenty of kind and decent people in the world" That maybe, but I dont know of many, perhapss thats why I live in seclusion these days. LOL | |
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| Something I saw tonight...
Posted: 11/23/2006 11:42:10 PM |
(Warning....somewhat of a vent ahead, proceed with caution )
...ok, so today was Thanksgiving, spent it by myself mostly. About an hour ago, went to a bar type place to meet a friend...figure I will have a good time, get rid of the holiday blues of being alone.
Get there, have a beer, play a game of pool. (note, I had only been to this place once before, but forgot why I never went there again) Seems like everyone is having a good time, but notice that one woman is quite drunk and making somewhat of a scene.
Continued the game, finished(I won for a change...take a moment to cheer for me...Thanks.)
Sat and talked with my friends for a bit...and the woman's boyfriend(I'm assuming) came in and was apparently upset that she was at the bar drunk....told her to go home....well she didn't, and they started to get a bit rowdy with each other.
They were bar regulars, and the bartender got involved(female)so basically there's a tussle between the three. Guy goes outside, and starts some stuff with a guy coming in. More nonsense....guy's gf came back in, and started a drunken loud rant about her home troubles, etc.
(skipping some details)
NOW I remembered why I never went there again, it just reminds me of everything that is wrong in the world today, this sort of thing goes on everyday, everywhere. Ruined my night(yeah, I know I shouldn't let it) So...my question....seen anything lately that made you lose faith in people? Seeing people stay in situations that aren't good for them and could possibly end in death?
Seeing this everywhere just makes me feel as though I'm not fit for these times, and is a big part of why I don't really want to pursue dating again any time soon.....no one(in my area) seems to have the same type of beliefs or anything even close to mine.....I want to know if anyone else feels this way.
And if you read all this, congrats...you deserve a pat on the back. I'm watching the CHEATERS tv show right now. The same type situation usually comes up on that show. Often the so called cheater sees nothing wrong with tossing a few back (chicks drink free), while the cheated on spouse or lover is p*ssed about their loose ways. I've been down that road, and if a woman is in a bar (unless she's butt ugly), she's not going home alone. Fortunately, my ex was banned from every bar and liquor store within a mile of my house. Whenever I go out looking for excitement, a bar with a pool table is usually the place to find it. At this point, I would like to remind everyone that there is a war a goin' on.  | |
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| Something I saw tonight...
Posted: 11/23/2006 11:54:59 PM | | Just wanted to thank you all for taking the time to read this and sharing your thoughts with me. I truly appreciate it. | |
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| Something I saw tonight...
Posted: 11/24/2006 12:36:31 AM | Well, Ravager, I'm glad you at least won that game of pool!
This was just another of the many Thanksgivings and other holidays I've spent at home alone. It was fine with me. I was trying to remember the days when I was in my early twenties and feeling out of sync with my environment. I think I felt the holiday blues and loneliness much more acutely then.
Looking at your profile it seems that you have a lot on the ball. You're very handsome, creative, a very good writer. You seem perhaps a little extra-sensitive to have been brought down by the bar drama that you witnessed this Thanksgiving, but I'll bet your holiday blues mood contributed to that.
I solved my similar feelings at a similar time in my life by leaving home and moving to another city. From there I joined the military to see even more of the world until I could figure out what direction I really wanted to go in. (But, realistically, I wouldn't have done that with the great chance of having a one-way trip to Iraq...)
I would hate to see you or any other young person get too discouraged. You may want to consider moving elsewhere if you have an opportunity. Geez, especially if you're living in Arkansas and don't like country music!!!  The older you get and the more obligations you take on, the less you'll be able to see how other people live in other places. Although I came back to my city of birth many years later I think I would've shrivelled up and become quite hopeless and bitter had I only been able to see the same old familiar characters playing out the same old familiar dramas all my life.
Good luck to you. | |
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| Something I saw tonight...
Posted: 11/24/2006 12:39:12 AM | With me; It's not so what I see;it's what I feel!! To be a nice guy,or woman in this society is setting themselves up for heartbreak!! I,m going to try; with help of all fellow nice good hearted persons; to add advice. so us nice people don't feel squashed!! I'll start with one;chime in with added thoughts,ideas;etc. 1:Don't wear your heart on your chest! It tends to make others show that you are weak hearted, and sets you up for prey!! | |
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