| can you get feelings for someone by talking to them on the phone for a month
Posted: 11/25/2006 5:35:46 AM | | I met this girl off of here she is so sweet i sent her flowers to her house today and she knows there is a suprise but she has no idea what it is she has never had something like that done before i won a cruise and i asked her to go with me we havent met yet but soon we are we were going to meet two weeks after we talked but her car broke down and i do trust her so wethink that was a sign of god telling us to get to know eachother before we meet so it will better in the long run girls only reply thanks has anyone one experienced something like this ? | |
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| can you get feelings for someone by talking to them on the phone for a month
Posted: 11/25/2006 5:53:33 AM | As for your question " can you get feelings for someone by talking to them on the phone for a month", I beleive if both parties are 100% honest, than yes...you can start falling for the person they are...however...having said that, you haven't met yet. I notice your profile doesn't have a photo, do you both know what eachother looks like? Even if you feel a connection emotionally and/or physically doesn't mean that will transfer off the phone into real life.
<div class="quote">i won a cruise and i asked her to go with me
Bad move in my opinion. You guys haven't met yet face to face, I'd say you are jumping the gun.
<div class="quote">wethink that was a sign of god telling us to get to know eachother before we meet so it will better in the long run
I'd say it was a sign that her car needs repairing. OK..seriously tho...
<div class="quote">has anyone one experienced something like this ?
Feel free to message me and I'll share my experience with you.
Overall it's a touchy subject, some will say yes you can develop feelings, others will say you can't. I personally think as long as both parties are honest with eachother, you can learn more talking on the phone for one month than talking face to face for the same period of time. When you aren't face to face, you don't have all of the physical temptations that go with "getting to know" someone, sometimes it's also easier to be more honest...and on the opposite end of the spectrum it's also alot easier to lie. Gotta go with your gut on this one. No one can tell you it's right or wrong. It's your call. | |
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| can you get feelings for someone by talking to them on the phone for a month
Posted: 11/25/2006 8:03:37 AM | | You can fall in love that way like a wonderful dream, but meeting will wake you up sometimes. Being freinds after you meet, even if there isn't one little spark speaks more about you as a person I think. So enjoy your time toghter when you do meet even if there isn't a spark. You might get a wonderful freind out of it. | |
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| can you get feelings for someone by talking to them on the phone for a month
Posted: 11/25/2006 11:22:36 AM | I've had several guys who I have spoken to for long periods over the phone during the past 2 yrs. however...never manage to meet them face to face. something always happens.
I do tend to get a little attached to these guys. but the thing is...you never know how honest a guy is being. & then tend to disappear after awhile.
lots of people tell you what you want to hear.
my advise...take it slow. & try not to invest too much in someone you've only ever spoken to over the phone. | |
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| can you get feelings for someone by talking to them on the phone for a month
Posted: 11/25/2006 2:06:43 PM | yes, I think that it is absolutely possible. I have talked to many guys on here for a while but not really felt much, but more recently, talked, then msn, and have finally met a wonderful guy. I feel like I have known him forever. We are definitely taking it slow (sometimes a little slower than I want, but, being a Christian, I shouldn't complain).
Just take it easy, and see where it goes. Don't put too many expectations on each other and remember that you should go slow when you do meet. | |
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| can you get feelings for someone by talking to them on the phone for a month
Posted: 11/25/2006 2:31:40 PM | | OP, sure you can get feelings for someone...based on what you know about them online. Unfortunately, what you know about them online doesn't always translate to the same thing once you meet them; it can, but after reading many posts on the forum one can also see that there are a lot of times people online aren't really who they're pretending to be. I used to think it was better to talk with someone online and on the phone for a few weeks before meeting them; now I prefer to meet them in a quicker timeframe as you can tell more by actually sitting across from them and talking. That doesn't always mean you can tell if they're being honest; that simply takes time...but you both can tell if you want to see each other again. Too many times people stay in relationships, or fall for someone online that they've never met, because of the dream of 'what could be'; instead they need to see what really *is* in order to see if that's what they really want. | |
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| can you get feelings for someone by talking to them on the phone for a month
Posted: 11/25/2006 2:58:13 PM | Absolutely.
I was crazy in love with a sophmore in HS when I was in eigth grade. He and I would spend countless hours on the phone. I would go somewhere and think of the things I wanted to tell him.
Thinking about it though, it was my first bf...I'm not sure about if that happened now, if I would feel the same. I have fallen in love a lot in my life, though. | |
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| can you get feelings for someone by talking to them on the phone for a month
Posted: 7/8/2007 9:51:37 PM | feelings for sure.. if both parties are honest with one another....
but you have to meet... how do you know if its real until you meet?
You can hope both people are honest... you would think that a person who invests time with someone would be honest but you need to see each other,hold hands,kiss... connect...once that happens then anythings possible...
I sure hope it works out for you....
it has worked for others....
hugs
tell us how it goes... | |
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| can you get feelings for someone by talking to them on the phone for a month
Posted: 7/8/2007 9:55:15 PM | If you have feelings you have them--so clearly the answer is yes.
The question is whether the feelings are based on a "real" foundation...real knowledge of one another, real compatibility, even real attraction. You won't have the answer to that until you have met and spent some "real" time together. I would say that the cruise is a dangerous gamble, but..... who knows?
Best of luck. | |
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| can you get feelings for someone by talking to them on the phone for a month
Posted: 7/8/2007 10:38:34 PM | I think it's entirely possible to have feelings for someone you have yet to meet in person, even real feelings. But I don't think it's possible to really love someone until you meet in person. I actually will not meet a guy in person unless there are some 'feelings' there. Usually it's nothing too strong, just something like 'Wow this guy seems really great, has pretty much all the qualities I look for in a guy. I hope in person there's a spark.' I don't really think it's possible to be 110% totally utterly madly in love before you really get to know someone and I don't see how that can happen just on the phone. Meeting someone in person and seeing how they react to different things (ie: how they treat the waitress, how they react in bad traffic, what they do when a gorgeously hot woman passes by, how they act when something funny but embarassing happens, what will they do for you when something awful happens to you, what do they want you to do when something bad happens to them etc) tells you soooo much about a person and it's not stuff you can get over the phone. You also need to see how they are in terms of affection. Do they always like to touch an be touched or are they more of a hands off person? If one partner is the touchy feely type and the other one isn't it may cause problems.
Yes the car bit could be a red flag, but if she's still willing to meet and follows through, then not such a big deal. Things do come up at the worst possible moments sometimes and they can't always be helped. I would say definitly meet her a few times before taking her on the cruise. If one or two more 'car problems' occur or something else pops up and she has to cancel, I'd think about taking someone else (a best friend maybe?) | |
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