| Evasive womam - opinions
Posted: 11/28/2006 6:08:09 PM | ok guys. a question for you. gal from one of the other singles sites sends me a flirt. says she wants to talk. i check her out. she's cute so i answer her. her messages are always short. she always says will talk soon. thinking of you. This has been going on for about 2 wks. i ask her questions and never get any answers like do you have kids, that short of thing. she describes the kind of relationship she is looking for and we click there but she seems evasive. so she invites me to yahoo im. never catch her online till today. buzzed her, she said hey, i'm on the phone, talk soon, bye for now and goes offline. she says she's shy but I think she is stringing me along but since i don't really know her i don't want to jump to conclusions. Well, what do you think guys. Should i send her a polite email and blow her off, maybe tell her talk soon, thinking of you... or what? | |
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| Evasive womam - opinions
Posted: 11/28/2006 6:10:33 PM | | She's a he -- probably some high school kid. Had it happen to me once. | |
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| Evasive womam - opinions
Posted: 11/28/2006 6:40:19 PM | | Ask to talk with her on the phone. No phone number ... just stop e-mailing/IM her | |
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| Evasive womam - opinions
Posted: 11/28/2006 6:53:27 PM | The fisherman reels in the fish, not the other way around. 
"Ok, I have things to do as well. When you get a chance, get in contact with me. You know where. In the meantime, I'll be checking out some other girls on that site."
Drop it. Would you want to date someone that flaky anyway? | |
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| Evasive womam - opinions
Posted: 11/28/2006 6:57:04 PM | She is fishing. Or "shopping" or whatever you call it. Tjere are several different dudes she is checking out, trying to weigh the options. Hey! We all do it. Admit it. We are talking online with total strangers that we can't even get a look at. It's tough when you're on the receiving end. Someone contacts you, acts like they're interested, then disappears. They've decided on someone else. It's exactly like job interviews: you go to the interview, act like you can't wait for the opportunity to kiss the boss' feet. Then 50 other guys do the same thing and you're out.
It's difficult. I don't know what the solution is, unless people can just be honest and say 'I'm at Stage One: I'm shopping. I'll meet you and several others." That way you don't get your hopes up.
Although it sucks a lot more when you've been seeing the person for like 6 weeks, and you think the vibes are going great, and all of a sudden they're gone. Because you've been seeing this guy on Fridays, meanwhile on Saturdays he's seeing someone else, and he's decided to cut you out.
Boy, this dating thing is brutal. I can't wait to be done with it! | |
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| Evasive womam - opinions
Posted: 11/28/2006 7:31:18 PM | Thats alot of work for someone you have never met.
I don't mind playing the game a little but damn. | |
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| Evasive womam - opinions
Posted: 11/28/2006 8:11:05 PM | | she is being rude. she is not interested but is too chicken to be direct. forget about her. you can do way better! | |
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| Evasive womam - opinions
Posted: 11/28/2006 8:44:08 PM | Its a flakey gay dude stringing you along
best forget it completely | |
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| Evasive womam - opinions
Posted: 11/28/2006 8:54:33 PM | I agree with you 100% greenfeather! Honesty would definitely be appreciated. I'd like it if a guy would say I'm at Stage One: I'm shopping, or conducting interviews. Much better than expressing interest, then disappearing.
Must be why they call it the 'dating game'. Must be why I'm not very good at it. Much better with Scrabble or Monopoly..... | |
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| Evasive womam - opinions
Posted: 11/28/2006 9:21:29 PM | How do you know if you two "click" if she won't talk to you?
Just wondering. :) | |
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e-wok
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Joined: 9/25/2006
Msg: 12 | |
| Evasive womam - opinions
Posted: 11/28/2006 9:29:32 PM | If she sent you a flirt, I'm assuming you responded and it cost you money.
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| Evasive womam - opinions
Posted: 12/1/2006 3:57:25 AM | | We haven't "talked" on the phone. We have exchanged several emails. She said all the right things. | |
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| Evasive womam - opinions
Posted: 12/1/2006 5:13:50 AM | It is possible she's really a man, but I doubt it.
If a man were going to go to all that trouble, he would have corresponded with you more than that. A man would get off on being able to fool you and wouldn't have played so hard to get.
I know women who are like that in person.
They are too chicken to actually do anything with you but they don't want to lose you either.
I often wonder if they realize what a frustration they are to other people.
I suggest not trying to contact her anymore.
Don't worry she'll probably contact you.
She want's everything on her own terms.
If you want to play along with that game under those rules then, OK.
If you would like a little more sanity in your love life, you'll know when to get out. | |
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| Evasive womam - opinions
Posted: 12/1/2006 7:05:34 AM | Don't think it's a dude but it's either a lady:
a. shopping
b. married and hiding stuff from the hubby
Either way, pass on it. | |
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| Evasive woman - opinions
Posted: 12/1/2006 7:20:57 AM | Men will get that from me, and to be honest, it's because I have no romantic interest. If I don't I won't want to discuss anything personal on his end or mine. General discussions about things we both are interested in is fine, but what I like or do or what he likes or does is a pointless discussion.
If they don't ask much about you, it's probably because it really doesn't matter to them. Same as if someone does ask a lot about you, it's because they are interested.
Only with a mutual interest will both ask about each other personally, at least most of the time. | |
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Joined: 10/3/2006
Msg: 18 | |
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| Evasive womam - opinions
Posted: 12/5/2006 5:47:37 PM | Hmmm, Mr. Anderson, you have no picture up. Is it possible that you're married, and that's your wife trying to catch you in the act?
-Jim | |
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| Evasive womam - opinions
Posted: 12/5/2006 5:51:25 PM | "She said all the right things." Well it's either a guy playing with you or a woman looking for money. Sounds like a snake oil salesman/woman.  | |
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| Evasive womam - opinions
Posted: 12/5/2006 6:49:09 PM | ok guys. a question for you. gal from one of the other singles sites sends me a flirt. says she wants to talk. i check her out. she's cute so i answer her. her messages are always short. she always says will talk soon. thinking of you. This has been going on for about 2 wks. i ask her questions and never get any answers like do you have kids, that short of thing. she describes the kind of relationship she is looking for and we click there but she seems evasive. so she invites me to yahoo im. never catch her online till today. buzzed her, she said hey, i'm on the phone, talk soon, bye for now and goes offline. she says she's shy but I think she is stringing me along but since i don't really know her i don't want to jump to conclusions. Well, what do you think guys. Should i send her a polite email and blow her off, maybe tell her talk soon, thinking of you... or what?
she is intentionally stringing you along. "I don't want to jump to conclusions" - are you kidding me? Why is this nut worth so much value to you? Is she THE last single woman on the planet?
YOU ARE BEING STRUNG ALONG WAKE UP DUDE!
If you had a choice of 5-6 women to talk with a day, how much of this crap from her would you really put up with? Don't send her any email, delete her IM name, delete all her emails, you owe her nothing! She was on the phone with another guy most likely when you IM'ed her, that means she is having a conversation on the phone with some guy while you are delegated to the role of IM chat. She probably strings multiple guys along and whichever chode spends the most money on her gets the booty. Is this the type of girl you really want?
This is classic gold-digger behavior. Try this, download a picture of some guy standing next to his $250,000+ car and send her the picture and ask her if she wants to go for a ride tonight. Watch how fast she tries to get a hold of you! | |
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| Evasive womam - opinions
Posted: 12/9/2006 1:07:36 PM | | My advise is to stop wasting your time on this one, if she had any real interest then she'd be talking a lot more. I would also be suspicious about how she wouldnt even tell you if she had kids etc..... something wrong there. Just forget her and go find someone else. | |
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| Evasive womam - opinions
Posted: 12/9/2006 2:09:16 PM | Remember we all are here for a reason.
Mostly second time around or more.
So think about communications issues - inability to commit, fear of intimacy, terminally irresolute does not want to say no, things like that.
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shrug, and move on. | |
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| Evasive womam - opinions
Posted: 12/9/2006 5:14:53 PM | It could be many of the above situations, but the bulk of the posts are right,
let it go and move on.
She has some issues, and she is projecting them onto you, like she is fishing, getting
you to bite on the hook, and then she is pulling and setting the hook.
Once the hook is set, she just sits back and plays you in and out, and with total
lack of regard to your emotional wefare. | |
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