| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 3/30/2005 4:10:25 PM | | Do women really want a nice guy? I am starting to think women are attracted to jerks or are way into looks or material things. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/1/2005 8:53:52 AM | come on fellas ....real nice guys dont go there!...
and sometimes we seem more scared of seemingly nice guys for a reason.....remember ted bundy...and his nice guy persona? | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/3/2005 12:03:45 AM | | Yeah I kind of agree though ... I am a nice guy and a little shy but I see pretty and nice girls all the time that are with the biggest A-holes but I'm still single... It sucks but I guess us nice guys have to just be patient and a little outgoing sometimes ... I have no problem saying what's on my mind and being a little flirtatious with someone I am not really attracted to but when I am talking to someone I like off the bat I don't really know what to say because I don't want to seem like an idiot ... Any input from anyone else? | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/3/2005 12:29:14 PM | I think that most women want excitement and would rather take an exciting serial killer over a nice, boring guy.
(I think I'm a nice, boring guy.) | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/4/2005 10:27:04 PM | | Oh great now I am serial killer. LOL. I don't think so. I am pretty sure most women could beat me in arm wrestling. As far as my point, the girl in next door apartment got in a fight with her boyfriend because he screwed some girl in their bed. I do think women are attracted to the bad boy type. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/5/2005 11:48:23 PM | Darn yuletide .. your a serial killer , i never would have suspected.
Time for my nice guys are sexy speech. Pull up a chair and get cozy.
Nice guys are a major turn on for me. A man who treats a woman with respect and are willing to give of themselves from the heart are deliciously appealing. Nice guys are not self centered , self absorbed morons. Nice guys are tender and romantic. Nice guys are willing to compromise and go out of their way to express kindness. Nice guys who are able to give of themselves and not only think of their own needs are by far amazing in bed. Nice guys will make sure you are satisfied before they take care of themselves. I would rather have a nice guy in my bed over any bad boy any day of the week. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/7/2005 4:19:24 PM | Thanks Dove for cheering me up and restoring my faith in women.:applause
Sometimes I get a little down. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/7/2005 8:33:14 PM | I am glad I was able to lift your spirits and every word of what I said is true. You are a nice guy. Nice guys rock. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/7/2005 10:10:35 PM | Nice men are a pleasure to know, they have a great manners, have a sense of humour, they can express themselves and treat people the way they like to be treated.
I am not on here. like many other women, to find a JERK...there's nothing wrong with a kind, decent, hard working, reliable, articulate, funny man who is caring. loving and wants to work on a relationship with you. Give me a nice guy any day of the week. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/8/2005 10:56:44 AM | | Y'know I dont really know, I'm a nice guy, I'm polite, I'm honest, I'm respectful, I give a damn, but women don't seem to be attracted to me no matter what so I find it difficult to believe that women are truly attracted to kind people from my own personal experiences. Guys know what I mean, it seems like the jerks never want for personal attention yet treat their significant others like sh*t. It doesnt make sense but its how it is. | |
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omaav
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Joined: 7/24/2004
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/8/2005 5:45:24 PM | i believe u cant expect a change when you keep doing the same thing over and over again.i am done being a nice guy and i really need help in learning how to be a jerk cos i have tried it but end up relapsing into my nice kind state which hasnt produced the kinda result i have always expected.
if you guys wanna help need assistance with two urgent mind boggling questions
1.i have a date 2moro with this cutie and i want to know how i can be not nice cos i really dont care anymore
2.what is being a jerk all about
any suggestion would be helpful
thank you people | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/8/2005 6:08:56 PM | Maybe we should start a Jerk Class or something, charge 50 bucks a class, we'd get rich quick. We'd have to hire professional a**holes though cuz I'm way too nice of a guy unfortunately. There are probably plenty of ex Marine Drill Instructors that'd be good at it though. All we need's the capital and we'd have a fortune 500 company in a few years.
For your first question, im not really sure, just consciously concentrate(now thats pretty redundant, oh well) on being a rude, immature jerk and she'll be all over you.
And I dunno what being a jerk's all about, nor why the opposite sex is attracted to them so much. They should be the antithesis of everything women say they want but it never seems to work that way in practice. If you're nice you look weak I guess. Case in point, the nicest guy I ever met was a Special Forces operator in the 160th Special Forces Aviation Regiment, also known as the Nighstalkers. Dude's probably the strongest person mentally and physically I've ever known either, but he has no luck with the ladies because he's a nice person and that gets percieved as weakness.
Thats my hypothesis and ive got no evidence to prove me wrong, though I wish I did. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/10/2005 1:24:57 PM | | im a nice guy that gets called an ***hole, for tellin the girl im with that i dont dance with other women so she shouldnt dance with othr men. but i learned that it was the barbie girls that i dated that were like that not the average lookin ones that wanted just me | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/11/2005 3:13:50 AM | Yes and no.
Women want a guy to have balls and be a little bit of a "bad boy" when they make their first introduction... get their heart goin', adrenaline pumpin', give 'em those butterflies in their stomach from their suave' or whatnot... this is not something that a lot of nice guys can pull off usually only genuine jerkoffs are able to do this convincingly and it's the most important step because the "wooing" part is usually what the women pay the most attention to since they're total and complete slaves to the emotional powers of estrogen.
This is usually enough to get a woman to totally fall head over heels for you and have HER being the one clinging onto YOU not the other way around... but it's only temporary if it's all you've got, which is why women think men have no substance which leads me to the next part...
NICE guys have the substance, we have enough conversation to talk to you (women) until the end of time, enough love to romance you so much we can redefine its meaning, enough likes and dislikes and core values and morals and personality to last for a lifetime, we're the ones who you can hold onto and never let go of because it never gets old... there's one problem, we can't get passed hello with you because we lack the "woo factor", we aren't suave, we aren't "slick", we don't have any witty come-on lines and we're usually a bit shy to come along and just randomly compliment/flirt it up with you.
The magic combination is to either already be suave and learn how to be nice (learn some friggin morals, have some dignity and stop being a jerk) ... this will never happen, jerks will be jerks until the end of time. (Though there are the fabled "ladies men" who have pulled it off because they actually have the brains to.)
The second option would be for a nice guy to grow some iron cajones and take up some "wooing women" courses (or heavily overpriced books written by jerkoffs that managed to learn how to operate a typewriter) and try to bring the bad boy out for the first 5 minutes of getting to know women.. this is more possible but not too common either because it kinda means we have to put on an act and be someone we don't really feel that we are (society has told us to be nice our whole lives... are we really gonna change in a few days/weeks/even months? unlikely) and even if we do pull it off we might let the 'nice guy' shine through by mistake and women have what seems like built-in radar for this, and as soon as they see you're not a GENUINE badboy/jerkoff they feel the power of having the ball back in their court, which is when they'll flick you away, usually.
What's unfortunate is that every woman, to one degree or another, seems to even openly admit they want a guy who's nice "but is a bad boy too" ... sorry ladies, doesn't exist, maybe the upper 0.001% of "ladies men" can fulfill all that, but for the rest of us we're usually just one or the other... do women like nice guys? Yeah, but they can't meet us, get it? | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/11/2005 3:20:38 AM | | In response to Dovestreasure... women seem so good at networking and sharing information, a lot of the time it seems if you tell one woman something, given a week ALL women EVERYWHERE know it... so why don't you start networking and start telling your lady friends to tell THEIR lady friends and THEIR lady friends (AND their daughters, thank you) that nice guys are amazing in bed? Just spread the word and it could be a revolution! I think the whole problem when a rumor started that bad boys were hot in the sack... but that rumor failed to mention that all that heat in the sack wore out in about 5 minutes; we nice guys can go all night long ;) | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/12/2005 3:14:09 PM | Dude, your first reponse is exactly what I was trying to get at, just a whole lot more eloquently stated.
Its the 100% truth even though im suprised 50 women havent tried to deny it, especially the last part about "but is a bad boy too".
Nice guys like myself and most others ive met have to live with a catch-22 and it sucks, you either gotta act like a prick for 5 minutes to break the ice and then revert to your normal personality and then be cast aside or stick with who you really are and deal with no attention whatsoever.
Solution: there isnt one. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/12/2005 9:45:04 PM | | Yes, that it. I find that the women that I am not interested in are the ones that email me back that they want to go out again. At same time, the women that I am interested in never email me back or want to be just friends after the first date. I think I am too honest. I never use pick-up lines. | |
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Joined: 11/24/2004
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/16/2005 8:08:07 AM | I would have to disagree with this statement. Yes a nice guy could and has broken a women's heart , but nice guys handle a break up with a touch of class and dignity. They go out of the way to make a parting of ways less painful . On the flip side a bad boy does not care at all , because he is going to move on to his next playmate as soon as he can and he will not look back or care about hurting you. So the sting of a bad guy is far more venomous then a nice guys sting.
I want a nice and loving man in my life. | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/16/2005 12:20:10 PM | | I think most women want a nice guy and then there are those that are attracted to that "bad boy" persona. I am the poster boy for being nice to women and it has backfired on me several times. I guess the old scool way of treating a woman needs to be revised. If you are too nice some women view that as a weakness in a man. They want a strong decision maker but at the same time they really want to influence the decision. personally, i am not going to change. for every bad girl out there, there are 15 more good ones. the trouble is treading through the water to find them. if a man is true of heart and he has respect for his woman, she will respond in kind if her feelings are genuine. But if she feels like she is settling for a man for whatever reason then no matter what the man does she will never be pleased or happy and that realtionship is doomed to fail. | |
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Joined: 9/19/2004
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/18/2005 1:05:48 PM | Nice guy, ha ha ha ,,, good one,,doesnt matter if your a nice guy or a bad boy, i am a little of both,,and yet sometimes i still eat the dirt when it comes to dating,,,gotta love the excitement of it all, hmmmmm....... | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/18/2005 3:41:11 PM | Interesting question coming from a man! (and encouraging!) My very sweet, very nice friend (whose boyfriend just dumped her for a married gal who treats him like crap) and I were wondering the same thing about guys. Sometimes it seems like men walk right past the nice ones to take up with the one who is nasty. And it's not always because she's built like a brick you know what......
Why is that?
Yes women want nice men. (and yes, it's nice to have a little bit of "bad boy" thrown in the mix!) But he needs to know the difference between "bad" boy and "mean" boy and always look at me with "that look" in his eyes....... | |
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| Do women really want a nice guy?
Posted: 4/18/2005 4:27:55 PM | | im a nice guy lookin for the nice woman not girl, i have no problem doin the cookin and half of the cleanin and i work 40 a week, plus 1 weekend a month now with my reserve but i seem to find the sexually promiscuous women and not the ones lookin for a real man | |
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