| Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY
Posted: 5/1/2004 12:31:50 PM | | when i was 14 i gave birth to my son and sometimes i wonder if it was too son for him. i do the best i can with him and i love him more than i love any one else. the father of son isn't around. i'm just wondering if i'm a good mom because i'm just 18. if any one wants to give me some advice please do thanks | |
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rjn40
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Joined: 2/15/2004
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| Re: Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY
Posted: 5/3/2004 7:40:28 AM | | Well, being 14 and having a child takes alot from your young life. There is alot of responsiblilty in raising a child. Now that you are 18 and you still have your child says alot. I have seen young girls give there children up or send them to there mom and dad to raise when they are born from a young mother. If your child is healthy, eating right and you provide a nice clean home for your son, then you are a great mother. You had an early start, and I bet that was hard on you. I wish you all the luck in raising your son. :) | |
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| Re: Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY
Posted: 5/4/2004 10:11:44 AM | | it is to young but if baby is already here there is nothing you can do, whoever you already passed the hard part. now you're 18 and is better for you and your son. In certainly times you may feel like you couldn't have any fun because you get your adult life to soon. but now your son is here and main point is do your best and perhaps you will be a better mom that other older women. Best wishes and keep doing good. | |
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| Re: Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY
Posted: 5/4/2004 10:25:08 AM | | Certainly 14 years is too young for a girl to become MOM. It is a fate accomplii situation. You have already become with the 4 year old kid. It is better if you grow him as a good citizen by working hard. By the time he is an young man of 21 years he will realise the efforts his mother has taken to rear him up and will give you good time. You donot have to worry much on the age part of it. There are several such pesons like you on the globe who are victims of the circumstance and feel about the situation they are in. In india at the age of 14 girls are legitimately married and they give birth to children almost of the same age you have done and all of them have by and large have grown up their children nicely. The only difference here in your case is the father is not around, which hardly matters considering the self-confidence that can be built up by girls like you. My grandmother who is now 85 years old, presently in the state of IL, with my brother, has given birth to my father when she was of your age. My father has lost his father, that is to say my grandmother had lost her husband when she was 18 years old. In India, it is a taboo to remarry, my grandmother has brought my father and he is well settled and we are all now doing well and we respect our grandmother more than anyone else on this earth. I had to narrate this story only to reinforce confidence in you to bring up your son as a worthy citizen of the society irrespective of the fact whether the father is around or not. | |
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alura2
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Joined: 3/18/2004
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| Re: Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY
Posted: 6/22/2004 2:53:51 PM | yah almost every single one....hmm very odi ndeed.
i havent looked to se if its anywhere else in another part of the forum. ill check...this is wierd.. | |
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alura2
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Joined: 3/18/2004
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| Re: Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY
Posted: 6/22/2004 3:49:45 PM | | I LOOKED ROUND FOR IT....ITS HERE AND GONE HMMMMM i wonder if admin was weeding through threads and blew this one aprt by accident. Only he can do this much. oh well i guess we start over.. sigh.... | |
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| Re: Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY
Posted: 6/23/2004 11:44:29 AM | Dawson, only time will really answer your question. I mean, biologically, no. But emotionally, only time will tell. When your son is 20, 30, 40 years old THEN you can truly tell how you did and whether you were really able to raise him properly.
You seem like a really caring and sweet person. I would imagine that you always did you best you were capable of doing, made the best choices according to the information you had and the options you were presented with.
Age doesn't have as much to do with your ability to be a good mother as your capacity to love. | |
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| Re: Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY
Posted: 6/23/2004 3:49:03 PM |
Yes 14 is too young to be a mommy. Since you have written that your parents are supporting you in college and in high school, they are the one that raised your baby. Otherwise, you would have forced drop out of school and get a job. You should thank your parents for raising your child and helping you. | |
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alura2
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Joined: 3/18/2004
Msg: 19 | |
| Re: Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY
Posted: 6/23/2004 4:15:18 PM | umm no.. dawson did it all by herself...
her parents dumped her off...and dawson did it all by herself. Shes a hero and good mom i n my eyes. | |
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| Re: Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY
Posted: 6/23/2004 4:22:52 PM | | yuletide you have your facts wrong. everything is like alura said. my folks told me to move out and i'm fine now | |
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| Re: Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY
Posted: 6/23/2004 4:38:34 PM | dawson if you're asking the question and concerned then i'd have to say that YES you are a good mom...
hats off to you it's hard work and only some are cut out to be moms and then there are the phenominal some that are single moms....
pretty soon we'll rule the world...
i've been one since i was 18 - have 3 well balanced kids - surprisingly enough :) - 23, 12 & 8, okay well i'm still working on the 8 yr old he's kinda hard to balance out but he's doing fine and i'll survive...
you go girl and i think your son is very lucky to have a caring and strong mom like you...
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alura2
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Joined: 3/18/2004
Msg: 23 | |
| Re: Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY
Posted: 6/24/2004 11:26:59 AM | we should get more respect and adoration that we get from ppl. We sacrifice so much and give up so many years...that unless you are one of us...you will never know.
all the hubby or ex hear is us bitching about how hard it is..but try it for 2 weks solid...then you'll shut yer damn mouth.
i remeber last week i needed soem new shorts. But..the kids need them first. I bought them both new outfits and zero for me. Thast what it means...you are last. | |
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| Re: Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY
Posted: 6/24/2004 11:36:33 AM | | thats what being a mother is about putting your children before yourself and trying to make them the best people you can | |
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alura2
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Joined: 3/18/2004
Msg: 25 | |
| Re: Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY
Posted: 6/24/2004 1:11:55 PM | exactly...
make sure thier needs are met first. My daughter is 5 and she says when we have more money can you get me this.... or can we go to disneyland?? or can we get this toy or can i have this new bike??
shes too young to know these troubles. BUt shes smart....and knows mommy cant afford evrything. I grew up with if i need something o got it. I never had to worry about money shortage | |
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