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 crys16
Joined: 9/3/2005
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Do any other women experience difficulty cumming? i find that i always have to stop myself can anyone help me on learning just to let loose?
 jo~
Joined: 9/2/2006
Msg: 2
why do i have a hard time cumming?
Posted: 12/4/2006 8:48:45 AM
LOL...........I have just the opposite problem crys16...........Sorry!!!!!I need to concentrate and think how boring it is so I don't explode right away!!!!Hahahahahaha......All I can suggest to you is to have him prolong the foreplay a little bit......maybe a massage or a little role playing always excites things up!!!!!!......Have you tried different positions with your lover?????........Experiment............ have fun and relax........Good luck!!!...jo~
 swanner
Joined: 6/17/2006
Msg: 3
why do i have a hard time cumming?
Posted: 12/4/2006 8:50:47 AM
my current girl had this issue before we got to gether and a little at the start. sounds like you are missing the trust and or the ablity to be confortable(bah spelling) with who you are sexualy. i dont know your current relationship status but sounds like you need a emotional connection not just the phys
 crys16
Joined: 9/3/2005
Msg: 4
why do i have a hard time cumming?
Posted: 12/4/2006 8:51:33 AM
ya we've tried lots of things. i cant even get myself to cum. i come like once every 2 weeks if im lucky it sucks to much and he thinks its him and i try to tell him its me but he just wont belive me. i mean sex feels good but just not the mind blowing
 TwinDaddy
Joined: 4/5/2006
Msg: 5
why do i have a hard time cumming?
Posted: 12/4/2006 8:55:33 AM
Use a vibrator to stimulate your clit while you're having intercourse. I've met a couple women now in my life who use this method to ensure an orgasm.

 Absolutemike
Joined: 1/16/2006
Msg: 6
why do i have a hard time cumming?
Posted: 12/4/2006 8:56:24 AM
Focus and relax, thats what I said to mine. She still takes a while but she does cum (squirts) she told me her problem is that they are so intense she just cant handle it sometimes
 mrRL
Joined: 8/2/2005
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Posted: 12/4/2006 8:56:24 AM
my opinion is that you don't know your body well enough OP. you're only 19. i think the more you masterbate and learn what YOU like to do to yourself, you can share that with a partner. and i don't want to burst your bubble, but according to lots of statistics, a lot of women have a hard time cumming. unlike jo~ up there who apparently is a very envied woman....


...........I have just the opposite problem crys16...........Sorry!!!!!I need to concentrate and think how boring it is so I don't explode right away!!!!


WOW!

try watching lesbian porn too. maybe with your partner so he can pick up a couple pointers on the art of cunnilingus. most women have an easier time with oral than with penetration.

good luck!
 crys16
Joined: 9/3/2005
Msg: 8
why do i have a hard time cumming?
Posted: 12/4/2006 9:01:33 AM
ya when they happen they are very intense. intense to the point where i cant be touched and my body just quivvers
 Absolutemike
Joined: 1/16/2006
Msg: 9
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Posted: 12/4/2006 9:46:43 AM

ya when they happen they are very intense. intense to the point where i cant be touched and my body just quivvers


It seems like you love the orgasm but ur afraid as to whether or not you can handle it, dont hold back...go with it. My g/f will cum then she will be the same way, so sensitive to the slightest touch so she waits a couple of seconds then gets right back it. You were sayin ur b/f feels as tho he is doin something wrong, if you do this he will feel better about himself.
 Leeanne
Joined: 10/14/2005
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Posted: 12/4/2006 10:36:41 AM
Explore your own body - find out what works and share the secret with your man!!!!
 swanner
Joined: 6/17/2006
Msg: 11
why do i have a hard time cumming?
Posted: 12/4/2006 12:14:25 PM
ok you could have him tie ya down and let him go at ya till ya cum

good times good times lol
 TaLuvs2Laugh
Joined: 8/2/2006
Msg: 12
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Posted: 12/4/2006 12:23:00 PM
Firt of all you need to take some of the pressure off. Many, Many, Many women can't cum at all through regular intercourse. If you're only 19 and you can cum from intercouse, even if only sometimes, consider yourself lucky.

The sooner you and your bf learn that it is just naturally harder for us and sex doesn't always do it the better off you'll both be. And remember when you hear other girls bragging and going off about multiples and how hard they came etc. It's probably all talk!!

and just like anythign else, practise, practise, practise!! Toys & Masturbation will help you as well. If you can't do it to yourself, he's not going to be able to.

Good Luck!
 ssgonzo79
Joined: 9/11/2006
Msg: 13
why do i have a hard time cumming?
Posted: 12/4/2006 5:34:00 PM
I agree with taluvs2laugh once I got a hold of a vibrator and figured out what made me feel good I've never had a prob. cumming..

good luck
 Brown_Sugar_PtII
Joined: 9/10/2006
Msg: 14
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Posted: 12/4/2006 5:51:28 PM
One word for ya: Kegels.
Start squeezing, get those muscles in shape... It'll help, believe me...

And get the HELL outta Saskatoon... lol
 Brown_Sugar_PtII
Joined: 9/10/2006
Msg: 15
why do i have a hard time cumming?
Posted: 12/4/2006 5:51:55 PM
One word for ya: Kegels.
Start squeezing, get those muscles in shape... It'll help, believe me...

And get the HELL outta Saskatoon... lol
 Rae Rae
Joined: 9/5/2006
Msg: 16
why do i have a hard time cumming?
Posted: 12/4/2006 6:50:29 PM
Cold water before sex.........lol...I know it sounds stupid, because it apparently has the opposite effect on men....but, a swim in a frigid lake, or sit in a cold bath before sex will help you cumm....call me crazy but it's fact for women! ....and yes Brown Sugar knows a few things too!
 crys16
Joined: 9/3/2005
Msg: 17
why do i have a hard time cumming?
Posted: 12/5/2006 9:30:27 AM
well thanks for all your comments i'll try and few things i appricate it.
 Looking_in_Ottawa
Joined: 5/12/2005
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Posted: 12/5/2006 9:50:23 AM
One thing I would like to add ... its obvious you are very concerned about it. That extra added stress might also be contributing to it.

Try not to focus on it so much. Yes, its amazing to have both you and your partner climax every session. Who DOESNT want that? But I find people (myself included) focus too much on having that orgasm and not enjoying the session as a whole.

Just relax and try not to focus so much on it. As you get more comfortable with your bf, things will get easier.

And like it has been suggested, explore and try new things.
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