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 diabolicalreflection
Joined: 4/16/2006
Msg: 1
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Ok I once dated a girl who told me she thought smoking made her look sexy. I dont mind a girl smoking, never have, and never really thought about it again till the other day when some how out to eat with some friends for atleast the 4th time in my life a girl told me she felt she was sexier when she smoked. She actually went on to say the entire reason she started smoking was because a guy she dated had a smoking fetish and he convinced her to give it a try. There were 8 of us at dinner, 5 girls, all smokers, and 2 others said they picked up the habbit after dating a guy who smoked.

So I looked it up online and apperantly the smoking fetish is a huge deal. They sell videos, and have thousands upon thousands of sites dedicated to this fetish. So I decided so to speak to get the opinion of the general public. Do women really think its sexy when they smoke. Do women have this fetish as well. Do you feel sexier when you smoke? And how do you feel knowing that according to the statistics I found that 6 out of 10 men are secretly watching you when you smoke, most of whom are in the closest about their fetish? Bascially Im just asking, what does everyone think about this concept?
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Ever Heard of a smoking fetish?
Posted: 12/5/2006 7:31:56 AM
Personally I don't care how sexy he thinks it is.. I'm not going to start smoking for any reason.
 Rae Rae
Joined: 9/5/2006
Msg: 3
Ever Heard of a smoking fetish?
Posted: 12/5/2006 7:42:28 AM
Smoking is NOT sexy.....take it from a smoker!.....it's disgusting......and if a mind is weak enough to fall for some crap like that......imagine what other things you could convince her of?.....maybe guys should seek these girls out and they would all be very happy.....until she dies of some horrible disease.......then they could just find another one.........
 mystlw
Joined: 9/19/2005
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Ever Heard of a smoking fetish?
Posted: 12/5/2006 9:25:39 AM

Smoking is NOT sexy.....take it from a smoker!.....it's disgusting......and if a mind is weak enough to fall for some crap like that


I heartily second this. In fact, I think the face a person makes while inhaling is decidely unsexy. I try not to smoke around non-smokers, partly for that reason, partly out of consideration.

That said, I have to admit that it does make me feel kinda butch to walk around with a cigarette in my mouth, no hands holding it. Maybe I have a James Dean fetish.
 SunnyTexas
Joined: 9/28/2006
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Posted: 12/5/2006 9:39:11 AM
I am a smoker, and the one thing I think is the most UNSEXY is how someone looks when they can't smoke and are very stressed and nervous. ****in' people out ain't sexy either, neither is stuffin' candy or gum in your mouth, while ya fidget with a pencil, nervously lookin' around like a bad meth addict waitin' for a fix.


So yep...smokin' is sexy.

But I'm a ladylike smoker. Never ever walk and carry a lit cigarette. Only smoke about 1/3 of one. Never relight one. Always have a pretty cigarette case and lighter. I only sit and smoke, roll the ashes off ~ never tump or flick 'em.

I never EVER light up, while in the saddle...never. I am a Virginia Slim girl, not a Marb. girl.
 SunnyTexas
Joined: 9/28/2006
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Posted: 12/5/2006 12:24:42 PM
Oh I love it....a man tryin' to tell us what to substitute for cigarettes. Can we light the end of it? or even better will YOU light it FOR US ?

Can we carry a pack of 'em in our purse all day?

Can we throw it down on sidewald and stomp on it when we're through with it ?

 newintown503
Joined: 9/7/2005
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Posted: 12/5/2006 12:39:27 PM
Lol, I thought smoking was sexy and I felt sexy doing it...until I started hacking up nasty goop in the mornings. I'm getting the stop smoking shots later this month...wish me luck!!!
 BamaMan123
Joined: 9/5/2006
Msg: 8
Ever Heard of a smoking fetish?
Posted: 12/5/2006 1:22:08 PM
I dont thinking smoking is sexy in any way at all. I have seen some of the prettiest women out there and I glance at them and they sometimes glance back but when I see them light up they might as well forget it.

Smoking is nasty, unhealthy, it makes you stink, makes your clothes smell and when I am in a room with smokers I feel like I am covered in tar until I take a shower. I told my lady that if she ever started smoking it will be outside, she will not smoke in the vehicle and I will not kiss her until she brushes her teeth. She looked at me and said you will never have to worry about me smoking.
 Just_Another_Gurl
Joined: 3/27/2006
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Posted: 12/5/2006 3:42:38 PM
I had a huge fetish for smoking and have had it since I was very young that is why I began smoking when I was nine. I love the way it looked and had cravings for it before I ever lit up. I used to pretend to smoke when playing with friends as a child and thought I looked ever so cool even in the act of pretending. I smoked for twenty years and am happy to say I quit it over a year ago as quick as I had picked it up with relatively no harm at all and it was pretty painless. I wish it were so easy for all people as I used no aids and quit around smokers. People still smoke in my house and in my car and it does not bother me in the least. Too bad I didn't do it sooner, man would I have saved a whole whack of money!!! I will never be able to explain why in the world I liked it so much and will never know how it changed for me but it did and it was no more explainable than someone being attracted to blond hair and blue eyes. Very strange I know but very true too. I truly thought I would smoke till the day I died I liked it so much.
 L.A.1974
Joined: 11/22/2006
Msg: 10
Ever Heard of a smoking fetish?
Posted: 12/5/2006 3:52:08 PM
I slept with a man who had a thing about a woman smoking....


He got me to smoke while he was going down on me...


I didnt mind, meant i didnt have to light one up afterwards
 __justagirl___
Joined: 12/2/2006
Msg: 11
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Posted: 12/5/2006 4:02:33 PM
I actually had a boyfriend once that liked me to smoke while .... orally pleasuring him... he prefered certain cigarettes and he liked me to play with the smoke, blow it on him, exhale the smoke while he was in my mouth and such...he loved it. I smoke anyways so hey...anything for a fetish....and some nicotine
 Wild Heart
Joined: 4/3/2006
Msg: 12
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Posted: 12/5/2006 5:25:58 PM
Doesn't do a thing for me. There are tons of fetishes out there - none surprise or disgust me - they just work for some people and not for others.
 diabolicalreflection
Joined: 4/16/2006
Msg: 13
Ever Heard of a smoking fetish?
Posted: 12/5/2006 5:44:56 PM
So I have spent alot of time talking to men and women both about this over the last few days and I have decided to make it the topic of a paper I have to write for a Psyhc class on fetishs. These are the trends I am noticing from compiling date from both real life and the internet.

First off most of the women who say smoking looks attractive are non smokers. Most of the women who smoke say its nasty. Fewer girls in general seem to find it sexy then men.

More men then not find it sexy, but deny it until they have the annominity of the internet hide behind and will then tell you right out if asked in real life they will say its nasty to keep from being seen as a freak. 2 of of 5 of these guys seem to be non smokers, and 1 of these 2 always seem to have a fantasy of being forced to smoke by a girl who does. The 2nd biggest fantasy seems to be convincing a girl to smoke.

The number one reason of course Ive found that girls start smoking if of course peer pressure, but very closely followed is a boyfriend convincing them to start, and very often it also seems that the peer pressure comes from the boyfriend. Talking to many of these girls who started, some became very heavy smokers that quit easily after the relationship. Some actually loved it and continued and only seek out men they can smoke during sexual encounters. I notice it seems however that the girls who started for a guy seem to have an easier time quitting no matter how heavily they smoked or for how long.

I found only 2 girls who had a smoking fetish. And on of those only found other women sexy doing it. The other one didnt so much have a fetish as she said she just liked to light up sometimes while recieving oral, or during the act. No girl yet has found a man smoking attractive.

Finally, over 50 percent of the non smoking women I have talked to said if they really cared about someone they would be willing to atleast occasionally smoke to please their mate.

I compiled this info with a partner who Im writing the paper with, and between comparing notes and such, we have talked to almost 350 people. So at this point I would say I see a romeo and juilet syndrom. Reversal of power so to speak. Men in society have always been considered powerful, once upon a time it was considered unladylike for a woman to smoke. Then women picked up the habbit. Orginally it seemed to be constitued with a bad girl image, a good girl who smoke type deal, and was very commonly seen as sexy in the old days. By the 70s and even now of course its viewed as sexy, you have certain brands of cigarettes target towards women where the ads make the woman out to be more sexy because she is smoking. Virginia slims, capris, and a brand called More 120s, oddly enough, these are some of the most popular brands among men. We can easily chalk it up to oral fixation, but it does seem more a reversal of power. The men feel dominant in getting the ladies to smoke, and the women feel dominant over the men in doing so. The romeo and juliet syndrom as I call it, we shall slowly posion ourseleves for each other as symbol of our love. Anyway its kind of a ramble, and I still have a paper to write, but I thought Id share this stuff.
 BethD
Joined: 12/1/2006
Msg: 14
Ever Heard of a smoking fetish?
Posted: 12/5/2006 5:59:26 PM
I use to talk to this guy online till he got to strange, he ask me to cut my hair real short and buy a cam and sit in front of it smoke for him I was like uhhhh excuse me,I dont think so,needless to say he is block
 SunnyTexas
Joined: 9/28/2006
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Posted: 12/5/2006 6:06:10 PM

No girl yet has found a man smoking attractive.


me ! me ! me ! I think it's sexy as hell ! The way they handle it, expecially cigars. Love a man with a cigar ! Even God smokes a fine cigar...I think he does, anyways.

My mother was a trick roper and rider. She could snap the end of a cigar off with a clean razor snipp, circlin' an arena on horseback..... I'm trainin' but heck...nobody wants to help me practice.
 MsFortuneHuntin
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 16
Ever Heard of a smoking fetish?
Posted: 12/5/2006 6:21:34 PM
Yup I have heard of it....

"Do women really think its sexy when they smoke?" = probably not it's routine maybe...

"Do women have this fetish as well?" = yea, some probably have...

"Do you feel sexier when you smoke?" = nope I just am a closet ciggie smoker when stressed out ...

"How do I feel knowing that according to the stats 6/10 men are watching me" = yea okay I'm a closet ciggie smoker so probably those that watch are seeing me in my stressed state....

"What does everyone think about this concept?" = I think it's a waste of time and fetishes are fetishes.... so I spent my time and gonna light one up because I'm stressed...

 Wild Heart
Joined: 4/3/2006
Msg: 17
Ever Heard of a smoking fetish?
Posted: 12/5/2006 6:23:50 PM
I do recognize what you are talking about OP - I can recall seeing TV when I was a child where a woman was smoking and her role was one of power.

I can see how it could be a type of role-play. And when you speak about someone lighting up during oral - this could also give the smoker a couple of highs so to speak and if the giver enjoys this fetish, both would win.

I'd be interested to read your paper when you are done. Interesting subject matter.
 diabolicalreflection
Joined: 4/16/2006
Msg: 18
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Posted: 12/6/2006 4:38:16 AM
Well then perhaps I will post the paper when I am done with it and you can see what you think.
 Leeanne
Joined: 10/14/2005
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Posted: 12/6/2006 4:45:17 AM
In the early years of movie making smoking was deemed very sexual and often used as a prelude and follow up to implying a sexual coupling had taken place. There was always the man lighting 2 cigarettes and passing one on to the woman who sensually takes it from her man!! Of course that was then and this is now!! Smoking is certainly not sensual now - but hey they still show this old time behaviour from time to time!!
 LadyLuck_86
Joined: 4/28/2006
Msg: 20
Ever Heard of a smoking fetish?
Posted: 12/6/2006 5:07:50 AM
i once had a bf who smoked...i guess even now i like the smell b.c it reminds me of him,i did pick up the habit from him but then after about a week i was like hmmmm im done being unhealthy it didnt make me feel sexy it was more of a bad ass thing i guess....i think its gross when ppl take pics of a cig in their mouth like its awesome..lol...also when ppl get all irratible b.c they havent had a cig,how weak is that?
 Coastergal
Joined: 7/24/2005
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Posted: 12/6/2006 9:13:53 AM
I've only dated two guys that smoked in my lifetime... Once when I was very young.
I STILL hate bigred gum to this day!!! Because the taste totally changed with his cig's!

The other one.... was when I was much older and he said he smoked once in a while which was NOT correct... He smoked more then a pack a day!

Smoking does not make a woman look sexier... In the end they are going to have lil lines around their mouths that look so sexy now!

I'd never smoke just to please a man.............. Sorry guys!
 Gallivanting1
Joined: 1/28/2005
Msg: 22
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Posted: 12/6/2006 10:25:32 AM
I think it's more an oral fixation than anything else. It's not the smoking of a cigarette that gets guys off but watching her suck on it suggestively. Replace the cigarette with a sucker and you'll get the same reaction. Ditto for watching her eat a banana.
 mostlykitten
Joined: 11/21/2006
Msg: 23
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Posted: 12/6/2006 3:21:08 PM
I just started smoking again 2 weeks ago, they are making me sick, take my energy, I hate them but I'm hooked for now. I've quit 3 times and by quit I mean stayed off them for years, so I know (hope) I can quit again. I find them embarrassing and no I don't think they make me sexier at all, I think they'll make me die and early painful death if I don't quit again soon, or make me have to carry around an oxygen tank by the time I'm 50. They are so addictive, the worse.

I think a girl chewing gum looks worse than a girl smoking though.
 sassyaquarius
Joined: 4/10/2006
Msg: 24
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Posted: 12/6/2006 4:48:41 PM
My ex used to beg me to smoke while we were having sex, he especially wanted me to smoke while he was performing oral sex... it always seemed like such an odd request, but pretty tame as fetishes go. He used to get all worked up just watching me have a cigarette in general, lol.
 diabolicalreflection
Joined: 4/16/2006
Msg: 25
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Posted: 12/7/2006 4:57:18 AM
I actually would have probally chalked it up to the whole oral fetish thing, girl sucking on something long causing them to think about oral sex. However generally what I have found is that guys seem to find a girl exhaling the smoke the most appealing part, and those you can actually get to admit to having the fetish seem to adore a woman to smoke while they are preforming oral. It seems a huge turn on for the fetishers to just find a sexy girl and anticipate the moment they find out the woman smokes. Ive looked on alot of messages boards on the subject and they seem to go nuts when they find out a celebrity they have hoped is a smoker turns out to be one, or or smokes during a movie. They seem to get very dissapointed however if they can tell the girl isnt a real smoker and doesnt inhale. So simply put I have kind of strayed from idea it has to do with oral sex and the thoughts of it.
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