| do good guys get the girl?
Posted: 12/6/2006 9:12:51 PM | | Im a nice guy, not a liar. I open doors for women, dont lie, dont steal, respect women and I will do anything they ask of me. If good guys are really what women desire, so goes the urban myth, why cant I, and numerous other genuinely good guys, get a date, let alone a glance, to save our lifes? | |
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| do good guys get the girl?
Posted: 12/6/2006 10:23:26 PM | I MYSELF AM A NICE GUY AND TREAT WOMEN THAT I LOVE WITH ALL,THE RESPECT,ROMANCE,LOVE, AND EVERYTHINHG ELSE INN BETWEEN AND WOULD LIKE TO THINK AT THE END IT WILL ALL BE WORTH IT BUT UNFORTUNETLY NO WE WILL NEVER GET THE GIRL. WOMEN LIKE THE BAD BOY S MOTOR CYCLES,DRUGGIES,PIMPS THAT WILL EVENTUALLY BEAT AND SELL THEM,EVEN RICH POWERFUL ***holeS THAT PROMISE THEM ALL THIS CRAZY SHIT BUT IN THE END THEY ARE JUST ANOTHER FUN BUDDY FOR THE MAN. SERIOUSLY MAN i LOVED MY EX WITH ALL MY HEART AND FINIDING IT VERY DIFFICULT TO LIVE WITHOUT HERE WE HAD A CHILD TOGETHER . I STOOD BY HERE THROUGH ALOT OF ROUGH TIMES,AT ONE POINT EVEN STOPPED TALKING TO EVERYONE I KNEW JUST TO DEFEND HER AND IT WAS HEAVEN JUST TO GET TO HOLD HER ,LOOK IN HER EYES,SMELL HAIR, I TREATED HER LIKE A PRINCESS MY PRINCESS AND IN RETURN SHE WAS GONE WITHOUT ONE HESITATION. I HEAR SHE IS ABOUT 4 OR 5 OTHER GUYS FUN BUDDY AND IS ON MORE DRUGS TO POSSIBLY COUNT. SO IF YOUR A NICE GUY GO FOR THE UGLY SOON TO BE HOTTY GIRL THAT DISERVES A CHANCE BECAUSE THE WOMEN YOU MAY NOT THINK ARE PERFECT ARE USUALLY THE ONES THAT ARE HONEST AND SWEET AND A BETTER TIME INVESTMENT AND I SAY THIS BECAUSE LET'S BE HONEST EVERY TIME WE LOVE SOMEONE WE USE TIME AND TIME CANNOT BE REOBTAINED TRUST ME 4 YEARS OF MY LIFE I HOPED,DREAMED,PRAYED AND IN THE END WE ARE ALL ALONE WITH JUST OURSELVES TO KEEP US COMPANY. | |
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| do good guys get the girl?
Posted: 12/6/2006 10:23:44 PM | ^^ yea, what he said. 
Seriously though, you just have to try a little harder. Sorry that's just the way the females perception is, you have to dress better, act a little jerkier and sit back and wait. When we've been screwed thoroughly by every a-hole in town we'll come crawling to you, it'll take an estimated time of say 25 years. I hope you can hold out that long. If not, I apologize on behalf of my team.  | |
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Posted: 12/7/2006 1:16:43 PM | | yea well females should be more straight forward, and actually have consideration for these good men out there who deserve them, understand why we get desperate, understand why us men are so insecure, it is all because of ur superficiality, and ur "so has to be" criteria, pretty much ur own way, which u women should get out of somewhat, and look outside the box, instead of taking out ur insecurities on good men like me, and reward us for our patients, by giving us what we want, since us men are so willing to always do what u want, return the favor, instead of just leaving us in the dust to suffer, eventually become psychoes, pretty much lose our minds due to not having that security only a woman can offer, because ur perspective is so wrong, going for these punks, meanwhile us good men deserve a chance, not these ***holes that don't deserve anything, and u women should open ur eyes and see it, instead of making the same mistakes u made before. And u know what, my ex told me to have patients, and I did and what did I get, I end up lonely again. And I am sorry that u women have had bad experiences, with these ***holes, but wouldn't that be a sign to maybe go for a guy who will actually take care of u instead of hurting guys who actually deserve to be with a woman???? | |
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Posted: 12/7/2006 4:18:32 PM | | From talking to guys, I think that sometimes the problem is that guys pick the wrong woman to pursue. No matter how good a guy is, the guy has to also be able to discern which woman is worthy of him and would appreciate him, because he still won't be right for everyone, no matter how good he is. There are other factors that play a part too. Perhaps instead of talking about how great you are to everyone, you could figure out how to know which women are right for you, and stop wasting time with those that aren't. This will generally come from experience and maturity. Good Luck. | |
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Posted: 12/7/2006 5:03:41 PM | It's not about being a nice or good guy. women want a confident, self-assured guy.
What you call "nice" is interpreted as trying too hard...i.e. you're desperate to seal the deal, which is definitely not confident.
There's nothing wrong with being polite and considerate....but women prefer to feel desired. So, go ahead....hold the door open for her....but then tell her how hot her ass looks from that angle. LoL
-MissBliss | |
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Posted: 12/7/2006 5:41:15 PM | Believe me.. Women get their share of this also. I also treat my guys wonderfully.. and both times ended up with guys that simply treated me horribly. This time I chose a nice guy.. he treats me like a queen.. and I love it.
So dont give up.. and remember.. if u are looking for beauty queens.. they are probably the ones that will treat you like shit. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 11:51:27 PM | | I have come to learn that most men who boast of being 'the nice guy', are often just doing that to get the pity type of attention. A nice guy, is just a nice guy... and he doesn't have to tell people that :) | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 5:21:43 AM | I've come to the realization that being the "nice guy" is nothing but a bad thing. Now I'm sure that you got the completely wrong idea by reading that sentence. Let me explain the reason for my madness. In a way, when you claim to be a nice guy, it says a lot about you "trying" to be nice. Nice isn't something you do, it's something you are that influences how you act. You shouldn't "try" to be nice for anyone, just be yourself around any person you're with, it's the most honest thing you can do. I'm under the impression that women sense that about men and they can feel when someone is trying or when someone is genuine.
Don't let a few rotten apples spoil the bunch. Some women will just take advantage of that 'till they decide to move on, it happens. But it's not the end of the world, you'll find someone eventually or someone will eventually find you. There's no cure for getting rid of heartache and pain instantly, it takes time. Don't give up hope and don't look too hard because that's when you miss the little things in life that matter. | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 11:06:40 AM | Thank you Forgiven sins, now that I finally got an apology from a female I think I can sleep at night now, without having to lie in the fetal position lol. Ah well, yeah I figured that out a while back when I was in high school so I will see you all later, I got a flight to tibet and a red linen robe. 
Lmao
Dave Xiang Xhou
PS lets all try to keep in mind that the nice guy initiating this post is named skull lol | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 1:06:16 PM | | Sometimes I think personally I'm better off alone. But yet I' am still trying to get that one girl, she doesn't have to be perfect I just want a long term relationship I'm tired of the 2 to 3 month relationships, I want the good, bad and ugly. I never had someone there besides my family and friends when I almost died in the hospital bed, when I went to jail, when there was a funeral or wedding, I never had anyone there besides my family and friends when I lost my job, or when I had three surgeries, I want someone there for christmas so I can buy her a nice gift, new years so I can kiss her, valentine days so I can take her out and make sweet love to her, and finally on the birthdays. I don't ask for much but it seems like I'm going to have to have the one night stands or friends with benefits before I meet the girl of my dreams.......or better yet maybe I am better off alone. | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 1:14:37 PM | Is there a good guy out there? I hope so.....I could use one right about now.....
One of you did post the right response....at least in my eyes....."Do good guys get the girl".....?
Here is my opinion......
Relax and be yourself.....
Let me give you a scenario and you be the judge....
You are at a bar.......At one end of the bar is chatty Kathy and she is quite attractive....Talking....laughing....Talking....laughing.....At the other end of the bar is Kathy...or Gloria...or Desmond.....whatever......She is not talking and she is also very attractive.......She is just sitting there, minding her own business, having a drink...alone....
Who do you want to talk to?
Same thing goes for a man sitting at the bar.....At one end is Chatty Mike....He is laughing and talking and laughing....blah...blah....At the other end is Mike....He is just sitting there minding his own business, having a drink, alone..........
Who do you want to talk to?
My point: Be yourself....and if someone is attracted to Chatty "Whoever", they will approach you......If your not that type, someone again will want to approach you......
I, myself, would go for the quiet guy........I asked a lot of my girl friends and they say the same thing......
What did you choose?  | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 1:16:40 PM | nyprpapi01.......Relax......She'll come along.....You sound really nice.....Be yourself.... | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 6:07:18 PM | | Thanks Secret plez but see thats the thing I'm always myself I think I'm gonna have to start being a prick and ignore people just to get attention. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2006 12:50:59 AM | No...I disagree....No need to be a pr...........That won't get anyone.......
You sound frustrated...that's all.....Can't blame you....it can get that way.......
They say when you are frustrated, you should take a walk in nature......Not sure if that will help....I know what it's like to want to meet someone and yet, it doesn't happen......
I have three neices that are very pretty.......What age group do you like? Would love to have you just meet one of them online and see where it goes.....Just because I believe in fate.....Maybe I'm suppose to lead them to you....who knows.....
If not, at least I am here to talk with....Frustration is really just that....Frustrating......Do you live in the city? I would say then....Do yourself a favor and get out of there for a couple days........or, just make a change in your life of some sort.....Change can be difficult....We get so use to being in the same place, etc....Obviously, it has to be something that doesn't cost too much money......You are way too young to be frustrated.....Life is so short...... | |
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Posted: 12/20/2006 12:56:05 AM | Everyone should read the poem..."Desiderata"......It's on the internet......There is a message in it for everyone....Maybe not the whole poem...but....part's.....I've posted it before.....Not sure if I can copy and paste...but, I'll try:
No...it didn't work....Look it up...... | |
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Posted: 12/20/2006 3:22:46 AM | I would choose the quiet one. I am quiet like that when i go out somtimes. I am a good guy and I know that. But i am in a wheelchair so do you think that makes it even harder for me?
Because I find it hard somtimes because alot of women only care about marerial things and what is on the outside, of course there must be some attraction. Not who I am as a person.
But I do try hard believe me. just sould like to know what some of you guys think thanks.
Danny | |
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Posted: 12/20/2006 12:15:30 PM | | I' am A Puerto Rican SECRET PLZ........And I do go out to the city but alas nothing if you have nieces that live in the city and who are online than cool.....if not than oh well. I read your profile and I know your not a big fan of hispanics anyway. Doesn't matter. | |
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Posted: 12/22/2006 5:41:42 AM |
do good guys get the girl?
If 37 years have shown me anything it would be a big fat NO to that question... I don't get it any more than you or any other person in the same boat. If that means being alone for another 37 then so be it! I refuse to lower myself to stupid games or acting like something I am not... I speak honestly, openly, & from the heart... and apparently no female I've thought enough of to pursue is interested in what it has to say... :-( ((shrugs)) 
..C'est la vie... | |
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Posted: 12/22/2006 2:45:50 PM | | How come it becomes the womans fault? Have you evaluated the types of women that your asking out, and that your attracted to. I can honestly say that I am a kind and loving woman, but men dont see past the fact that I'm "chubby", to see the person that I really am.... so i had to reeval the types of men that i was searching for.. the other thing.. and this is a little difficult to do.. but when a relationship ends.. I ask them if there was anything that I did, any possible character flaws.. so i can learn from them... just know that there are good women looking for good men.. sometimes you have to look at the inside and find how truly fabulous a woman is... then just maybe her outside will be just as fabulous to you. | |
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Posted: 12/22/2006 3:55:10 PM | The reason why good guys cant get a date is that women have no clue what they want... They want the bad boy and when he beats them or takes there money or rapes there daughter there have a pity party.... And then of course all men are bad so lets not give anyone a chance, so then the good guy has to jump through hoops to get a second look...
so is it really worth it, not in my book....
Dr Classy Blond Male PhD MD
Johns Hopkins grad | |
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Posted: 12/23/2006 7:50:04 AM | | I give you loud applause!!!!!!!!!! Maybe the women that some of these men want are not "good"!!!,they may look "good", but are not truly wholesome women!!! | |
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