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Posted: 12/7/2006 12:45:50 PM | Men and women are supposedly equal in society these days. In my younger days
before the big 40 , yes I did play the fool by letting myself be used for monetary
gain by 1 or 2 " Mr. Wonderfuls" who were about my age. I was fortunate enough to learn
my lesson then. I am now 58 and I will not fall into that trap again. I now consider myself the Queen Bee. My question is .Are any men out there ever had a "Sugar Momma?" . Have any ladies
ever been a "Sugar Momma" ? What were/are your experiences? Would you do it again? | |
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Posted: 12/7/2006 1:19:42 PM | Yes, it happened to me once. It didnt start out that way, but with time , it was the situation I found myself in. And it was not a temporary problem, where he was going to fix it, it was the way he wanted it to stay. I am afraid it was all carefully planned out.
No, I would not do it again.
I would only be with an equal partner now. Where we shared the financial responsibilities equaly.
It is not a very good situation to be in. I was not comfortable with it at all.
It breeds alot of resentment. I do not know how people do this. | |
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Posted: 12/7/2006 2:10:07 PM | Not going to happen with me | |
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Posted: 12/7/2006 2:36:39 PM | It's never happened to me. I had an equal partnership with my late husband. Not just financially( we both worked) but in every other way. I washed, he dried. He cut the grass, I raked. He vacuumed and I ironed.We talked everything over and made decisions together. We were a team, there wasn't a power struggle and we were happy doing things with each other and for each other.
My "Mommie" days with my children are long........over. I'm not looking for a dependent. Rather, a man who stands on his own two feet.
Muskoka ............No Sugar Momma lives here. | |
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Posted: 12/7/2006 4:54:59 PM | | Can't say that I have, but after 35 years of working, I'm willing to give it a try. | |
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Posted: 12/7/2006 5:47:26 PM | ^^^^^  Good Try  I hope it works for you! | |
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Posted: 12/7/2006 10:16:01 PM | Was thinking of putting in my profile somewhere along the lines of "excellant around the house and yard, I can do home restoration and maintenance, painting, trim refinishing, hard wood floor installation and refinishing. Outdoors, lawn care, landscaping and gardening. Can do light construction, plastering and tiling. Back and foot massage, will scrub your back or brush your hair.
Very low maintenence, only needs a 10 year old truck and a 5 year old motorcycle. a place to lay my head and $300 a month for spending money."
But figured I wouldn't get to many offers | |
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Posted: 12/7/2006 10:40:57 PM | I have never had a Sugar Momma.
I have had equal relationships-financially and otherwise.
Sugar Daddy I have been, but no more.
Hey "Queen Bee" do you now expect to be taken care of by a SugarDaddy?? Is that what you mean by using the term "Queen Bee"??
I am beginning to see that there are few "Liberated" women on here and only "suppose" that we are equal today. Many don't understand what equality is. | |
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Posted: 12/8/2006 12:05:33 AM | I could have married for money but that wasn't what I was looking for. What a distasteful motivation for being with someone.
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Posted: 12/8/2006 4:32:30 AM | My name actually means "Queen Bee"!
I have been in that position, but for me it comes from having to support the family including my ex husband who had a number of medical conditions and doesn't work.
It was difficult to break out of the "providing" mindset, but I have done that and am much better for it.
I still need to pay my own way anywhere though. If I am fortunate to be in a healthy relationship, I hope this will die down.
^^BG^^ | |
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Posted: 12/8/2006 5:49:34 AM | | In this economy, does a "sugar" anything still exist? | |
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Posted: 12/8/2006 5:58:39 AM | In one word YES!!!!:
Sugar Canes....come to mind. 'Tis the season.
Muskoka | |
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Posted: 12/8/2006 6:59:53 AM | @nite owl;
Sorry if I misled you. By "Queen Bee" I mean that now I take care of myself only, no adult sized little boys need apply. I come first in my life. I would be willing to be in a mutually satisfying relationship, one that is built upon trust and balance. This Queen Bee would love to share her honey with a special "Teddy Bear". Did I clear up any misunderstanding? | |
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Posted: 12/8/2006 7:15:59 AM | | Does anyone automatically think "Elizabeth Taylor" when reading this thread? Just goes to show that you can fall in love with a rich person just as easily as falling in love with a poor person. | |
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Posted: 12/8/2006 7:37:07 AM | OP, I have come across women who let the "stray dog" guy move right in with her early on, because he is broke. These guys always have some kind of heartwrenching story as to why they're destitute and need a place to stay. This ploy, whether the story actually is true or not, blows my mind as to how well it seems to work. It's almost like these women have a mutated bad boy attraction gene. Inevitably these relationships almost always fall apart fairly quickly, probably due to the novelty of "rescue sex" wearing off. So there's a form of sugar mommy for you that perhaps you hadn't thought of?
-Jim | |
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Posted: 12/8/2006 4:37:27 PM | | Not on your life.. No Mr. Moochie in my life. I work too hard for what I have to be taken advantage of. | |
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Posted: 12/8/2006 8:05:16 PM | yes I had a sugar momma, it lasted about 2wks. I wouldn't do it again. That is not to say I wouldn't have a life partner with more money than me. It would have to be based on mutual respect and love not finances. When in the bar if a woman asks me to buy her a drink I tell her I'm light on cash tonight why don't you buy me one. If she does then she is interested in me. and I'll buy the rest of the night. and ask to see her again. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 10:45:12 AM |  I've always thought that " SUGAR MOMMIES " were an urban myth.
It's hard enough to get a woman to give you the time of day much less
$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
ERA--Welcome to equal rights.
You now have the same right as a man to bled dry financially by the opposite sex
I would absolutely love to find a sugar mama but---
SUGAR MOMMIES ARE AN URBAN MYTH
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Posted: 12/18/2006 10:57:43 AM | I use to say that the first time was for "love" and the second would be for "money".....lmao
As I move on with my aging and maturity, I know that what I really mean is that I do want equality in all that can be met. It is seldom 50/50 and there are times it might even be 90/10, but in the long run, the average should be equal........
Life has a way of showing us much and with matuity, financial stability usually follows, and that is what we also want in a partner.......the ability to walk side by side and not be led because one has the money or power and the other not but willing to accept it as long as taken care of.......
I am willing to do my part but I want nothing to do with being a "sugar" anything to or for anyone......
Just my opinion.....   | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 11:44:56 AM | | I would have to downsize considerably to live on what I could bring in the sugarmommy market, maybe even go into debt. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 11:58:17 AM | I was with one once.
It didn't quite start out that way. Yeah, she'd buy me lots of things... but I was mainly just being spoilt...
We still had what was basically a good relationship...
It wasn't until later that it changed... she kept up the gifts and such... but treated me less as a boyfriend, and more like a boytoy.
I didn't appreciate that. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 2:01:31 PM | | Honestly . . . if the person is significantly younger than me and just trying to make his way in the world I have no problem paying for most of our dates. But in return he has to genuinely want to be with me. We have to enjoy some of the same things and have a great friendship . . . with bennies, lol. The couple of times I’ve had this sort of relationship it was short lived and served its purpose and I am still friends with both. Neither of us planned for eternity. I’ve also had one relationship where the guy was closer to my age and I found myself paying for a LOT of stuff, while he went off taking Martial Arts lessons instead of paying child support to his ex wives (plural). Didn’t take long for me to nix that arrangement! | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 2:18:16 PM | | Maybe sorta. The guy I'm dating is 12 years younger than me and has a much lower income. He does other things to even out the money situation though, and I'm sure he cares about me. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 2:19:48 PM | | "just as easily as falling in love with a poor person." We may not decide who we fall in love with but we do decide who we date. Don't date anyone looking for a sugar parent, and you can't fall in love with them. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 7:21:40 PM | .Are any men out there ever had a "Sugar Momma?"
Several times actually and I ran like hell before it got started, every time. Women buy me things and I feel obligated. I don't want all the money in the world if I have to be with someone I don't really love. I'm a hopeless romantic. Did I say a stupid, hopeless romantic? | |
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